Sixth Form Common Room part IV - ttc and pregnancy post mc

slightly worried I've killed the conversation

Thanks to both of you for your warm welcome and for the advice! :) I'm sorry that you have also gone through mcs. It?s just so horrible and unfair.

AandR - I hope you get pregnant again very soon.

Digi - just looked at thread above - congratulations! That certainly gives me hope.

I feel like I am in quite a lonely place at the moment, particularly as practically all my friends are pregnant, including 2 of my best friends who are due at the same time I was. I think I'm bringing people down and spreading misery...

What feels so scary is thinking that it's not a 'trial and error and maybe I'll get pregnant' thing - it's a 'if this goes wrong again I'll have another miscarriage'. I realise there's not that much I can do but I'm a control freak planner by nature. I'm going to get myself some vit d3 to take as well as my Pregnacare and Omega 3 as well a looking into the asprin. I assume I shouldn't take asprin while I'm still bleeding from the mc.

I've actually compiled some studies and articles for my GP to look at so she can advise further. I'm fortunate enough to have a very understanding female GP of a similar age to me who is being supportive. Going to google Mr Shehata now. We don?t have a lot of spare cash at the moment as I?ve gone PT since returning from mat leave and we?re trying to do up our house. However, like you say, it?s money well spent if there?s a chance it will help. I feel like I?ve been pregnant/miscarrying for nearly all of 2011. Will look up that book too. Thanks.

Right, I?m heading for bed now. Goodnight!

Welcome itsabear
So sorry for what you've been through and still going through. It sounds like you're looking into all the right areas (although I don't know much about 'unfussy uterus'. If you want to look into another area you could read Dr Alan Beer's Is Your Body Baby Friendly. It's quite an intense book (v sciencey), but it does look into immunology which Lesley Regan hasn't covered in her book (nhs are still running trials).
I too had a seemingly easy pregnancy with my ds born in 08 and have since had 4 miscarriages. I had all the recurrent miscarriage tests on the nhs after mc#3 and then when I went onto mc again (I took aspirin in that pg, but turned out to be chromosomally abnormal) I decided to pay for private immunological tests. I was found to have high levels of natural killer cells and have taken steroids during this pregnancy in order to suppress my immune system from rejecting the embryo. So far it seems to be working.

I know not everyone can afford to have private testing (the consultant I saw, Mr Shehata, does take nhs referrals but it's a longer waiting list), but the way I rationalised it was that we'd be spending less on having a baby than we did on our car. It was the best thing I ever did - really helped me feel like I was taking control.

Chances are your two miscarriages were genuinely bad luck and you'll go onto have a successful pregnancy next time, I'm in a very small minority of women who have had three or more mc's. Trying again is very scary, anything you can do that helps you feel that little bit more in control is a good thing. My consultant, even without a diagnosis, recommends taking Pregnacare plus (with omega 3), 25micg vit d3 and 75mg of aspirin 8 weeks prior to ttc and then to continue till week 12. I found the vit d3 to be especially helpful in lifting my moods. Aspirin made me bruise easily so I stopped for a while till I got my bfp. HTH!

Hi itsa I am so sorry you are going through all of this but this thread is a good place to be. I have been around far too long. I have had a mmc in Sep last year, a chemical pg in Dec and a natural mc in April - nothing particular wrong other than quite a high level of stress in my life!! I have two DDs and the general medical assessment seems to be bad luck and just try again. What I would say, having been here a while plenty of ladies I started with have had their babies now or are at various stages of being healthily pregnant - the most likely outcome is that you will have a happy bean at the end of all this - doesn't make this stage anymore easy to endure though. Be kind to yourself - let yourself grieve. Almost a year later I finally seem to have let go of my need to control it all and have finally sobbed uncontrollably mourned.

Hello, can I join you? I've been lurking for a day or two in the hope of getting some positive baby-post-mc news to cheer me up and give me hope after my second mmc. I have never before posted on MN (gulps) so I'm a little nervous!

So, here's my history. Have 1 DD b. Sept 2009. Textbook pregnancy, no problems. Found out I was pregnant again in February, 12wk scan in April showed mmc at 6wks. Had to wait a week for rescan which confirmed mmc. Opted for medical management as too much of a wuss for ERPC. Bleeding lasted for almost 5 weeks then readmitted for scan as retained products. Told most probably 'bad luck'. Pregnant again at the end of July, booked in for private 'reassurance scan' at 8wks which turned out to be anything but. Rescanned 12 days later and confirmed second mmc. Opted again (like a fool) for medical management which happened last Wednesday.

I thought I was fully prepared for the horror again but it's turning out to be even more difficult second time round. I'm still bleeding a lot and passing quite large clots and bits of tissue (sorry for TMI). EPU keep saying it sounds normal...(!) I just can't wait for it to be over.

Anyway, I'm keen to move onwards and upwards and try and do as much as I possibly can to ensure that next time I have a healthy little baby. I honestly don't think I can handle a third mc...My DH is finding it a lot harder this time too.

We want to put this behind us as soon as physically possible (I will be demanding a rescan at the EPU then charting for a month - which I have never done before - and TTC after the first AF). I'm trying to be sensible and proactive (which is hard when I feel completely insane!). My PCT will not send me for tests unless I have a third mc, particularly as have healthy DD. I am only 31, DH is 34 - we're fit and healthy, non-smokers etc etc so theoretically this is just bad luck...times two. I've read the study on unfussy uterus and I think this might apply to me as I have got pregnant on first attempt all three times, no matter whether I thought I would be fertile at that time. Maybe my body is accepting embryos it shouldn't? I've been researching everything I possibly can and I wondered if I should ask my GP about the the following: taking asprin, using charting to only TTC at the optimum time, taking omega 3 as well as Pregnacare. I've ordered Taking Charge of your Fertility and the Lesley Regan book as well as a thousand Ovulation tests......I just want someone to tell me what to do to make it work next time! I'm so scared of it happening again.

Sorry for the hugely long post - I tried to be as concise as possible!

Thanks xxxx 'waves'

Digi hooray for 8+3! Here's to an uneventful next few weeks, and an uneventful few months after that!

Yay Digi congrats

Yay Digi that's brill news.

And here's another for dachs just because....

Sorry tomboy I knew I would forget someone

Loup I'm 22 weeks.

Waves to all

Hi everyone

Excellent news for Digi and Dachs - all the best to you both, so pleased for you!

Hope everyone else is doing ok with work/school and stuff

D I G I 8+3 = Brillliant!!!! (and good luck with pre-school) xxxxx

Brilliant news digi - so pleased for you!

LadyM when do you brave a scan?

Loup23 I bet the dh didn't realise there would be a point where he would call enough! I love the idea of a call to the help line - I have images of a conversation along the lines of 'I've broken him ...'

Waves to all..

Yay for dachs and yay for digi great news all round - now can we have some bfps to top the thread off please?

CD20 for me, still no peak on my monitor but 11 days of high so far DH losing the will to live! Have phoned the monitor helpline to see if they can help but in the meantime am trying to get DH to SWI every other day at least

Waves to freezing how far are you now?

Waves to all others and sorry for not name checking - oh good luck on the 2ww tina x

Baby measures 8+3, with a strong heartbeat! Phew! This is the furthest I've got, just need to get through the next month.

Now to do ds's first afternoon at pre-school...

Good luck for today digi, what time is the scan? X

Hoorah! Just a quick stop in to check on dachs and so pleased it was better news.
Hoping for positive news from Digi too, fingers crossed for you.

Dachs so relieved for you.

Phew phew phew - oh what an incredible relief - this one is definitely going to have a streak of the dramatic about them!! You have a heartbeat - ooooo Mini-Dachs you better behave yourself for the next 8 months and give your DM some space to breathe!! LOL at gas burner (well once it was turned off)

Just stopping by to hope all going well for mouse at work and to check on news from digi? Do hope all ok. Dachs have posted on t'other thread, but still worth a here too!!

to all

Dachs just checked the thread for the first time in a couple of days, and incredibly at what you've been through! So so sorry about all the stress, but excellent news that the most recent doc thinks all is okay. And that you didn't burn your house down.

at everyone else. I'm so behind on everything! It doesn't help that I have what seems like a proper case of PMT. I'm due on round about now (actually I'm a couple of days late, but I don't feel pg at all), and nobody better say or do anything I don't like lest I get out the flame thrower.

Dachs phew, phew phew. As Mouse says good day all round what with preventing a burnt down house as well.

Lady I'm very behind with news but I like your new name very much. Good news on the HCG concentrations. And I know what you mean about senso-nipples and the cold. I took DD swimming last week and was just paddling about in the toddler pool with her. Thank goodness for my new swimming cossie with padded boob protectors

Mouse how is back to school? Good luck for tomorrow when the kids arrive. Is your boss being ok? Good news that your joint doctor is being so proactive. Do you mind me asking more about your joints? I"m just being nosey but only because I have joint problems too (I have RA). My rheumy is very proactive as well although.

Izzy how was your holiday? sorry I'm SO behind on news you probably said already

Tina have fun this week

Digital you have a scan this week right? when is it? I'll be thinking of you. And well done on the party. DD was 3 on Sunday and we did a little party but rather a big Peppa Pig cake which took both DH and I flipping hours to make in the end but it was pretty cool (even if I do say so myself). She loved it too!

Welcome to Louise sorry you're here. Also a very belated welcome to EdwardCullen, I'm sorry I don't think I said hello last time. I don't mean to be so rude.

YRMOTB how are you? And glad the meet-up went well. I would quite like to go to one, but it's taken me a while to pluck up the courage to even consider it until now.

AandR I'm pee'd off on your behalf for the crap comments at work. And sorry about the cock up with the referral too. It's all so frustrating.

Velvet how did the NCT classes go? Hope work is okay.

Waves to Loup, Tigger, MummyA and anyone else

phew phew phew Dach Dont feel silly for all the worrying, its always better to get yourself thoroughly checked out if something like that is suspected. So glad you have had good news though. xxx

for dachs, both for a non ectopic and intact house