Sixth Form Common Room part IV - ttc and pregnancy post mc

Scan went well, baby measures 9+1 (1 or 2 days out but Mr S thinks that's fine). Heard the heartbeat which was 176bpm - amazing to hear it this early! And baby wriggling lots. So pleased. Mr S thinks getting past the 9 week stage lowers the mc risk significantly so he felt very positive.

Oh I'll make a start on the new list this afternoon..will stalk for dates etc.

Hope you have a lovely time in Scotland Freezing and that all the washing, packing and travelling goes smoothly.

We're currently having gale-force winds most days so am too scared to put my washing out on the line in case my smalls end up blown across the neighbourhood! Weather sure is weather here!

Where did you go YRMOTB? anywhere nice? And whoop whoop for viability. I've heard that post-viability is when pg post mc might start to feel a bit more certain, I hope that you are relaxing into it? I'm going to have to start having words with my brother about language - he doesn't seem to hear himself swearing at all. He has a son a little older than DS, but my DN's language is a little delayed so I guess they haven't had to deal with him picking up on it, whereas DS is like super-sponge at the moment and will pick up on something with just one hearing of it.

MissTina I wish I could say something sensible about the mid-cycle bleeding but I've never had it. Never had an implantation bleed either. I suspect my clotting thing means it's all or nothing for me. Good luck for this cycle though. Are you feeling any better now that you're past the pressure of being pg when you due date went by? I hope so.

yrmotb hooray for viability!

AandR I too had loads of discharge of various types. Sometimes watery, sometimes clumpy. I don't think it's anything to worry about.

itsabear the bursting into tears at random things sounds pretty normal. That happened to me a lot for the first 6 weeks or so post-mc. It does get easier, I promise.

Well, still no AF for me, but I'm feeling crampy this evening so fx the witch will arrive shortly and put me out of my misery. I'm not concerned about not being pg, but I'd really like the PMT to eff right off now. I never get PMT this bad, or for this long.

digi sounds like you should be ok with your first choice school but I would definitely list as many choices as you can - there's no harm in doing so and if you don't you might get caught out. When we applied for dd our choices were (1) ds's school, about 10 min walk away (ds was in year 1 there at time of application); (2) obviously closest school, 5 min walk away; (3) school in next village (2.5 miles away but village less densely populated so safe choice). You would think we would have been ok with either (1) or (2) but no, dd was allocated school (3). If we hadn't put a third choice then she would have been allocated the really rubbish primary in a nearby housing estate - lots of people relied on getting their first choice and ended up with this one. (and for those whose allocations don't go to plan, we ended up moving ds and while it wasn't our first choice we all love the school now)

aandr sympathise with the wait to 12 weeks - it is horrid. Keeping everything crossed for you, lovely x

Aandr I completely understand what you mean about wanting time to be frozen until the 12wk scan. All fingers crossed for you at the hospital tomorrow.

Schools are something we haven't had to think about yet (DD is 2 next week) but I'm sure it will come soon enough. We have 2 schools that I would happily send DD to but then 1 which would not be ideal (it actually has an outstanding ofsted but is huge and a few friends have had bad experiences with their kids there). My DH is a primary school teacher and he's not worried at all though.

Hi all

I can't keep up so a list would be great for me! It's so fantastic to see all this bfps and positive scan results. I can't quite imagine a scan going well at the moment so knowing it can and does happen is very reassuring.

I keep thinking I'm ok and then something happens to show me I'm not. I managed to lose my daughter's koala bear toy that her godmother in Australia gave her at Christmas which led to me actually crying in H&M. Certainly got me some funny looks. DD barely noticed it was missing but I was inconsolable!

I'm toying with the idea of ttc as soon as I have a post-mc negative test. At the hospital I was given mixed advice - the dr said to try as soon as we felt ready but the sister said to wait for at least one cycle. Is being able to date the pregnancy the only reason for this? I don't really want to waste any time.

Was away over the weekend with no internet so will catch up on all the thread now.

Big waves to all x

Ok No colour - so fx it is just normal.

freezing good luck with the trek LadyM makes sense with her route planning, as for grumpy tots - I would recommend keeping to your bedtime routine including changing them into pjs , trip to loo for teeth brushing, stories etc It fills time and means they are generally calmer. Sticker books and more snacks than you ever imagined requiring are also essential!

I completely understand the school trauma - if we hadn't been given a place at our local school we would have a huge trek across a train crossing which is always down. Check the council sites to see whether a place in nursery is one of the prioritisations for the school. If it isn't on there then you are fine. I have an August baby as well and I can't believe she will be starting school a year after her sister despite the 21 months between them!

I just wish I could be put in suspended animation and unfrozen in about 8 weeks time with a happy scan picture to blithely wave at people. Other than dh and you, none knows - so unlike me but I just can't ask anyone to go through this again.

Big whoop for YRMOTB - such wonderful news. I am waiting on a birth announcement from a friend who is having a c today.

Waves to all ...

Yes, DS starts full-time next September. He's next in line on the waiting list for a pre-school place there (we applied last year) - they have 16 morning places and 16 afternoon places, we're so close to the school but siblings get priority so he didn't get a place. He's in another pre-school which is a little further away, but it'll do for now. I just wanted to get him used to being a in big group of similar aged children, hopefully prep him for next year.

It's 3 form entry so they have 90 places in reception so I think we'll be fine getting him in to reception. We're very lucky to only live 133m from the school, so only 2 minutes walk. Last year's catchment was 380m. The other good schools that would be sort of walking distance (maybe 30 mins) in this area have much smaller catchments. The situation in our area is ridiculous. The prices of houses in these tiny catchment areas have shot up because there's a real lack of schools, so even though you're not paying for private education you're still paying for it. We're in a tiny two-bed house, which I'm hoping we can extend into the loft to squeeze a third bedroom out. If we can't then am thinking DS and this little DC (fingers crossed) will be sharing a single bedroom till they're off to uni (or whatever is left of the higher education system then).

Oh look, I've started ranting!

I should add that her name is on the waiting list for reception at both schools just in case, but if it came to it I think I'd drive her to a further away school rather than send her to the catchment school

digi is he due to start full time next September? It might work differently to here, but dd isn't going to our catchment school, the one we chose is still walking distance, and we just preferred the 'feel' of the place. (The catchment school is brand new but big and not as friendly, and we'd heard bad things about it despite it's good official reputation). Legally in Wales as in England children are entitled to a half day place in the term after their 3rd birthday, but around here the schools only take children in September (we could have fought for an Easter place but decided it really wasn't worth risking being offered a place in a bad school or p**sing off the head!) We got a place in our preferred school for this year but we aren't guaranteed a reception place, the school have advised us that it's unlikely we won't get one (I'll be stressed come application time none the less!). Here we apply to the school for the nursery place, then the council for the reception place. If you decide not to send ds to the playschool it shouldn't affect your application to reception, but I would imagine if you came to appeal it would help if you had iyswim?

AandR I also had loads of CM leading to damp knickers in the first week after my BFP. Is there any colour to it or is it just clear?

yay for yrmotb's viability! And thank you for the advice on the swearing. I think if it gets worse (or if the Childminder mentions it) then we'll have 'the talk'. But at the moment it's quite sporadic - and never when it's just me and DH.

thanks for the link battery - hope you're ok today.

Good luck with big school tomorrow misstina!

Primary school is amazing. I love it. Which is a good thing as it's one of the only two schools that we're in the catchment area for. I'm hoping to send him to their pre-school class in the summer. They only have afternoon spaces at the moment, but he's an August baby so afternoons would be a bit too much for him at the moment. I don't want to apply anywhere else. Would I be taking a massive risk if I don't? The think is I don't want him to go to the other school we're in the catchment for and all the other good schools in our area are also massively oversubscribed. It's unlikely he wouldn't get in, but if he didn't and I hadn't applied anywhere else he could end up in Tottenham, which would be a horribly long commute across London to a terrible school. Sorry - probably not the thread for this issue. But can't face starting one in the scary part of MN where I'd no doubt get flamed for not wanting my son to go to school in Tottenham.

AandR don't panic. I had loads and loads of cm when I was pregnant, it could be just a normal pregnancy thing x

Having a quiet panic - am leaking watery discharge - reasonably small but scared it means my lining is pulling away . Have an appointment at Kingston Hospital tomorrow morning so hopefully will get progesterone and blood tests.

Sorry for me me me post

Yay yrmotb for viability!!

Will catch up soon when I drag my achy arse out of bed!

Morning all!

Big WHOOP for yrmotb for viability! , I hope you are able to relax a bit now. I see you've also been enjoying some free crisps , I posted our verdict yesterday and I'll be stocking up when I go to Sainsburys later

Freezing I also think that a taxi might be less stressful, and maybe mean that dd is a bit less tired so you might have an easier time? Would it be an option financially?

Hope the primary school looks good for ds digital. It's dd's last morning at nursery this morning before school tomorrow, my baby is growing up

I like the idea of a new list ladym. I'm day 17 today, ucl 28ish, sorry no idea what cycle after mc, I've lost count . I've had lots of ovulation pain since last night and tonnes of ewcm this month so I'm hoping that'll lead to something. I'm not sure whether to be a bit worried about some blood streaks yesterday and today though, I've had tiny spots around ovulation before but not normally so much. Dr Google suggests it's either oestrogen withdrawal, or blood loss from the follicle as it bursts (which would explain the ov pain (it irritates the abdomen apparently). Or maybe it's just my cervical erosion being irritated by all the activity ? I certainly haven't diagnosed myself with endometriosis

Hello!I'm back!Have been pc-less for what seems like forever, but in actualk fact has probably been less than 10 days.. I can't even bear to try and keep up on the iPhone, as it's a bloody nightmare and scrolling backl is impossible! So, I'm starting from here, what have I missed?!

Aandr is that a BFP I see before me?? Many hooge congratulations! So lovely to hear.

All other differs ok? ladym? All sounds good, if horrible symptom wise. I had 7 weeks of feeling horrific with this pg, versus nothing with the first. Got my fingers crossed for you.

digi when we had swearing episodes with DS we ignored it for as long as we could, but actually he didn't get bored and stop saying it, so we had to sit him down and explain about naughty words and how their use could upset a lot of people, Granny, great grandma, teaches, nursery workers. That worked. His trouble is that he has always been surrounded by a lot of adults, he is the first born out of all of our friends, and their language hasn't been tempered well enough. So now me, ds or dp bring their attention to it if it's in front of DS!

In other news I am 24 weeks on Thursday. Can I get a whoop for viability please!

freezing have a lovely holiday. Don't forget the midge repellent though!

ma do you need a collective "good luck"? Don't forget the cold hard cash as a back-up! ;-) x

Common room list good for stalking. Reinstatement sounds good. Right, best go do some work!

aandr how did it go with the dr?

ladymb hope things are going ok, I agree denial works well for a start...those early days are hard, aren't they? I also think would be quite nice to reinstate list for stalking cheerleading purposes, good idea

digi good luck on the school tour, ask lots of questions and trust your gut instinct.

freezing sounds like a bit of an expedition - good luck!

mummya is it your driving test this week? If so, hope all goes well x

It's good advice Freezing and not as if I don't have lots of boxes tasks to be getting on with still. It's a weird double-bluffing going on. On the one hand trying to stick fingers in my ears and go lalalala nothing to see here, and on the other heading off to a blood test for another HCG count this morning, trying to deal with nausea and sticking myself with needles every evening.

Re the cross-London travel, in some circumstances, for the sake of stress-free living I would go for sacrificing either time or money. Either look for a route that involves no changes - and no stairs. If you can find an underground line that goes direct and has lifts, then use it. Otherwise go for a bus even if it takes an age. Failing that, throw money at the problem and use a taxi. Far better to sit looking out the window pootling across London ignoring the meter than sweating and struggling up and down stairs with your hands full. Just think of it as part of the holiday expenses.

AandR how did you get on?

Would any one mind if I re-instated the 6th form list? On a separate thread? I've lost track of where the TTCers are, which is no good for stalking cheerleading, Itsabear is still recovering I think, and I know the preggos are probably on a list somewhere else but it's nice to see a bit of success to inspire.
If you're happy to be go on it, how about just putting your stats in a message and I'll collect them up. Now that jollster is taking a break I'll have a go at keeping it up to date.

Digi oh I know the steroid staying up late trick. It's so bloody annoying. Things sound pretty hectic for you right now, hope you get to put your feet up somewhere in there. Good luck for your next scan.

battery thanks for the link. How are you doing chook?

tomboy glad you got the result that suited right now.

lady The first bit is so hard, I don't really know what to say other than you're allowed to have down days. Can you try to ignore the fact you have a bfp? That sounds daft now it's written down. Denial & displacement therapy is a good plan plus you do sound like you have much better care out there compared to UK. Hand holding here for you.

AandR good luck with the gp. & progesterone.

Am properly knackered today & I have masses of things to do - we're off for a week in Scotland on wed & I haven't really thought of the washing & packing needed yet. Or the logistics of getting a preschooler, her new trunki & a pram across London on my own on time for catching the sleeper train. How to avoid a complete meltdown given we can't board the sleeper until 8.30pm is going to be interesting.

Anyway, might not post very much in the next week (not much of a change there) but will lurk, signal permitting.

Waves to mouse, Loup, YRMOTB, Collie, Tina, itsabear, Dachs, mummyA, louise, velvet, edwardcullen, tigger , blackkat and everyone else.

Gosh it's quiet in here!

I am just her to post a little link. I saw this and am thinking of going. Its a fertility roadshow in London in November. There are lots of seminars to attend and lots of exhibitors. There are sessions on recurrent miscarriage etc. Thought some of you might be interested too xx

www.fertilityshow.co.uk/where-and-when.html

No pumped up muscles here AandR just a wild eyed stare, moonface and an inability to fall asleep before midnight.

Today we had lunch with friends in south London, got stuck in awful traffic trying to cross the river when they'd shut several bridges for the Thames Festival. Then bath and bedtime for an overtired (but insisting he wasn't) ds. Then baked a cake for my dad's birthday tomorrow. Then had a row with dh because ds swears under his breath just like him (today he said fucking bugger - again. He only ever does it in front of other people never with just family, I think he thinks it makes him look grown up even though no one ever acknowledges him saying it. Haven't got the foggiest what else to do about it. It's really not that often and it's always timed for maximum embarrassment.)
Tomorrow morning I have a school tour for the local primary we want to send ds to next year. Then my dad's surprise birthday dinner in the evening. I have another scan on weds but this time with my private consultant. Plus a really busy week at work. I'm hoping next week won't be quite so mental.

lady I hope that the next 2 weeks pass by uneventfully and quickly for you, it's good that ds is keeping you busy x

What tv programme are you being filmed for AandR? I seem to have missed that piece of news!

For the one and only time I'm glad it's a bfn tomboy, good luck for the new job

No news from me, still no temp rise. Met up with some uni friends yesterday, some of whom I hadn't seen for years, which was lovely, until I got back to the car and there was a parking ticket on the windscreen! I think I can get out of it though - one end of the road doesnt have the necessary sign - they changed the traffic flow but not the restricted parking zone sign but emoticon!

My GP back in the UK gave me an NHS prescription after getting the OK from my consultant - but I expect it depends entirely on the whim of the consultant. Best of luck AandR and I really hope that this does work out, if only in the interest of making exciting deadlines for tv houses.

Well, Tomboy sorry it wasn't BFP but you're right, it will be better timing after a little while of being in the new job.

After a stunningly beautiful spring day here yesterday, today has been one of those days where the only thing sensible is to huddle under rugs, watch as DS empties box after box of toys onto the floor and attempt to view some catch up trash tv. Along with dashing rain, there was a tornado a few suburbs over from us, but apparently noone hurt just lots of tiles off roofs and some tree branches and powerlines down.

Had a bit of a down day, my symptoms are getting worse - nausea and overwhelming tiredness mainly - but I can't shake the memories that this is just what has happened every other time, 2 weeks of feeling like utter crap, for nothing. I'm trying to hold on to the knowledge that I managed to have DS without any meds, and this time I've got everything covered that I can. But the prospect of the next 2 weeks is, frankly, scaring the shit out of me.