Sixth Form Common Room part IV - ttc and pregnancy post mc

how lovely to hear from you! I'm so so sorry to hear about your little girl, it's so cruel to be hit with bad news at the end of the first trimester when you're just starting to think about relaxing, and such an awful decision you had to make yet with no real element of choice . Big (((hugs))) coming your way xxx

But what lovely news to hear about your bfp . I can only imagine what a roller coaster you've been on (and are still on at the minute!). I'll be keeping everything crossed for you and miniwiggle and hope you get the easy and uneventful eight months that you deserve xx

Hello again lovely ladies, mind if I pop my head back in here again? It looks like this has turned into another lucky thread, it's so lovely to see all these new BFPs especially those that have suffered the horrors of rmc. Too many new diffders so I don't want to list everyone for fear of missing anyone out but brilliant, brilliant news!! Congratulations to all

I lurked in here for a while after my bfp but didn't join the freak out room as I wasn't really freaking out, yet I was hanging out until 12 weeks before I braved the grads thread. I would have been 27 weeks now but sadly we didn't make it past our 12 week scan back in July. After getting through the first trimester we thought we were out of the woods but when the sonographer turned to another doctor for a second opinion I sensed that something was not right. We were told that the baby had acrania (anencephaly), a lethal neural tube defect which means that the forebrain hadn't developed. The cranium then remains open and the brain exposed. Babies with this condition usually carry to term and, if they do survive childbirth, they only live for a couple of minutes, hours at the most. The condition is described as 'incompatible with life'

We were devastated, obviously (the chances of it occurring are 1 in 1000) and so sadly we terminated at 13 weeks, it was heartbreaking. We have since found out that it was a little girl we lost, we have already have a DD which, in some ways, made it even harder (apparently the condition is twice as common in female foetuses) all the other chromosomes were fine, so in fact was the rest of her - we saw 10 knuckles, 10 toes, the vertebrae etc.

I've been put on industrial strength Folic Acid (5mg per day, which is 10 times the usual dose) to try and prevent it from happening again and the hospital will scan me at 10-11 weeks to try and rule it out in future pregnancies?.

?which brings me to the good news...

I had two periods after the operation and we were very lucky to get a bfp just two weeks ago. I'm now 5+1 and BRICKING it! I just feel numb, like I can't even begin to think I am pregnant until I get past the 10 weeks scan. And I haven't told a soul this time. I just can't bring myself to.

The clinic that monitored the pg last time haven't recommended progesterone or prednisolone this time as they say everything looks ok so far. They want to give me an early scan this weds though to check that everything is in the right place. So, I guess we just take it from here, or there, or however far we get this time! Here we go again?!

Sorry to bring sad news to the thread. I took a self-imposed break from mn after it all happened and also I didn't want to scare anyone until I had some better news to share. So, if you'll allow me back in, I'd love to rejoin you. I do remember saying to mouse that I wasn't leaving this thread until everyone had a bfp (and I'd like to turn the lights off in here by the end of the year please!)

Oh lord, just realised that this is one epic post Will try and keep posts shorter and more regular in future x

ZamMummy congratulations!!!, fantastic news. Am I remembering rightly that you got diagnosed with a clotting factor? Best of luck with this and have everything crossed that it all goes very smoothly. And where are you? Did you end up moving?

YRMOTB, well done on the dissertation - I bet the cock up isn't as obvious as you think - do you get a chance to defend it? Children's lit sounds great - is it a historical survey or are they looking at particular themes?

Knitter, if you get a scan I hope it shows that all is well. That must have been quite an adrenaline surge dealing with it. Was DS ok after it all or very upset? I keep meaning to get my DS back into swimming - there's a pool quite close to me, but so far have been too lazy/disorganised to actually do it. But that reminds me to try to find that 'drowning doesn't look like drowning' website that mummyA once linked to. Might dust the cobwebs off my facebook account and link to it there - summer's nearly here in NZ and drowning is a huge issue here.
Symptoms do fluctuate, as I'm sure you know. But the scan is the only thing that will reassure so hope you got it.

This thread had dropped off my threads I'm on, so I guess I must have been lurking - didn't feel like it was so long though I'm going quietly mental waiting for the dating/nuchal scan this Thursday and hoping that nothing has gone wrong in the 2 weeks since my last one. We had a lovely distracting weekend with friends to stay and a big BBQ before watching the semifinal where NZ got through - thank goodness. I think the country would have been in a state of mourning if they hadn't made it. I felt very sorry for Wales though, they deserved to win IMHO.

Congrats for the new BFPs! So many I'm having trouble keeping up! It's been such a lucky couple of weeks round here.

Knitter having to fish your DS out of that pool sounds properly not fun at all. As others have said, it's pretty hard to hurt the bean in the early weeks. I hope you're able to put your mind at ease soon.

YRMOTB congrats on handing in your dissertation!

No news from me. Still no AF, I'm not even sure what CD I'm up to now (lots anyway), I feel like I've had PMT for a fortnight, but I haven't tested again. Two BFNs this cycle is plenty I think.

congrats zam thats awsome!!

Thank you for the warm welcome back, i have been naughty and never went into college today i am feeling very guilty feel like im 15 again just really wanted to spend the day with my family :)

Thanks again guys. I guess what is freaking me out mostly is the total absence of pregnancy symptoms since Friday. I spent most of last week with an increasing nausea throughout the day. Since friday nothing... Mind you it was jolly handy for the weekend as DH was away and I was on DS duty by myself!

Congrats zam and congrats smiley - fantastic news!!!!

ecow sorry af arrived

Welcome back falcons

knitter wow that must have been really scary. As others have said, bean is well cushioned and I'm sure is fine...but obviously that won't stop the mentalling so if I were you I would try and get that scan asap to put your mind at rest. Skip out of work thing if you can, dh will get over it (sorry mrknitter !) and you won't be able to concentrate anyway if you're worrying about things x

thanks digi

Was investigating times etc when my first meeting tomorrow morning was cancelled - think I'm going to sneak off and get one at St Georges without telling DH... bad I know....

knitter quick google turned this up. But there seems to be a few places.

Thanks digi...

Actually there is a chance I could creep out of work conference on Wed evening - anyone know anywhere in Coventry that would do an evening scan... DH would be cross to not be there but I think I need to know....

Fantastic news zam!

welcome back falcons

knitter oh god, that sounds very scary. I'm pretty sure that bean will have been well protected. Are you bruised at all? If not, then bean is definitely ok. If you did injure yourself then you should probably get yourself checked out as well as the baby. Is there no way you could pop out in the evening to get a private scan somewhere nearby or are you abroad at the mo? Hopefully you'll start to get some reassuring symptoms soon.

Zam great news

Falcon and edward and twitt nice to have you back :)

Feeling a big down about the pg at the moment. Bascially had a nasty shock on Friday when I had to pretty much leap into the swimming pool during DS's swimming lesson when he lost hold of the bar at the side of the pool and started properly drowning - was very scary. It's one of those pools which are standing on the floor and all the parents watch standing by the side - so you're kind of at the same height as your child in the water. I had to leap up onto the the side of the pool and lean in to grab DS. Obviously this meant basically having all my weight pivoting on the side of the pool which was pressed into my womb area. Since then I've had no pg feelings at all.

I'm away for work Tues to Fri and then in a board meeting Friday so can't get a scan. I think they're open Saturday but that feels a long time away. DH thinks I'm being a bit melodramatic about it but I guess I'm just preparing for the worst case scenario... again...

Sorry to be so down folks

Hi ladies! Sorry I've been away for so long - looks like I've missed loads!
I've tried to catch up, but by the time I get tp the bottom I forget what's happening with everyone

I had an extremely obsessive understatement of the year month last month; was convinced I was pg but then got AF So I've been keeping calm this month (which is why I haven't been here I'm afraid, just trying to keep pg thoughts out of my head!) AF due this week and I'm feeling like it too so will be trying again next month I think!

Anyway, hope all is well with everyone, and congrats to the bumps and BFPs that have come up since I was here last

Does anyone have any nice plans for half term?

Congratulations zam and smiley- it's a hive of happy BFP activity around here recently- so lovely to hear it all.

velvet how's it going? Enjoying the maternity leave?

All well over here, just busy busy. Handed in my dissertation and after 24 hours realised that I had made a monumental cock up. God only knows how I didn't realise it at the time, but hey-ho. Starting children's literature now. Week 29 is beckoning, and I can no longer reach my toes very well. I seem to have exploded in the last week. Boo.

welcome back falcons. Glad to hear you're in a happier place. I really feel post due date you go a bit easier on yourself.

mouse did you decide to keep schtum with evil boss?

Waves to all. [hsmile]

Whooo Congratulations zam fantastic news!!!!

(thanks for the tip off *tina) x

for zam! Where will you be living when you're due?

for the return of some familiar faces

Huge congrats Zam!!!

Congrats zam and welcome back!

Sorry to gatecrash after such a long absence but BFP!!!!! OMG.
Will be back later x

Thanks Ladies - not feeling super confident, DH and I had a horrible argument this weekend which has all been a bit stressful, I have been trying to stay super calm and relaxed, i just want this bean so so so badly to be okay and to be super sticky and strong. We just let everythign get to us i think. i love him so much but i just wish we hadn't argued. I just want little bean to be okay.

Welcome Falcon .. great that you feel happy to try again.. sending you lots of positive vibes

Well done Knitter on booking your cvs

Best of luck velvet

best of luck Tina with the 2ww.. hope the more intense means a super strong bfp for you

hi to everyone else and sending lots of positive vibes everyones way (including at me!) trying to be a positive girl tonight!

Thanks for letting me join back im doing well, started college doing cookery so a whole new change of direction finally getting my drivers license too! I feel ready to try again.

I feel i may have missed things tried to catch up i know some of you have had bad news since and my heart goes out to you all.

lilly tina mouse and all i have missed you!

tina stayed where i am things got sorted and my dogs are happy with their new families could not take them back off happy kids etc. I kept jake and he got so stressed i had to get another dog to keep him company so a little bittersweet. I get regular updates from the families so its good. :)

Hi falcon, it's lovely to see you! How is everything? Did you find somewhere new to live and have you managed to get your dogs back?

twitwoo I'm sure it's fine, in France they still eat blue cheese and Camembert during pregnancy, my mil thought it was really odd that I wouldn't! And my mum used to work in a public health lab and they once tested all the different unpasteurised cheeses in the local Morrison's and none had any listeria in...I would just avoid it from now on, but if you're worried pop to the gp and see if they'll test you for it x

Waves to everyone x

Hi everyone, I haven't been on for a while as still trying to pretend I'm not really pregnant at the moment!

Congratulations Smiley, and Digi - great news about the scan. Lady, I'm pleased things seem to be okay after your worries.

Any news Tomboy?

How long until your scan mouse? I'm thinking of booking in for a private scan next week sometime for when I'm around 9 weeks. I won't get an early one on the NHS despite 2 previous miscarriages so it might help, but I'm still very worried about tempting fate so I may just leave it!

I did a silly thing the other day - I ate homemade mayo, well ailoi, in a restaurant and only realised the next day that I shouldn't have! Do you ladies think I have anything to worry about? I've done a bit of reading up on it and it seems that listeria can show no symptoms, so I'm mentalling about having done some kind of harm and not knowing it!! There's always something to worry about ..

I hope everyone is doing okay, and good luck to velvet! x

Lovely to see you on here again Falcon, hope you're doing ok