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Has anyone gotten pregnant after this long TTC (without IVF)?

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PinkCustard · 21/08/2011 07:39

Hi,

This is our 20th month of TTC Sad and we haven't had any hint of a pregnancy in that time. We have a 3 year old DS together and have had lots of tests which show no problems, but it's just not happening. This is my 3rd month on Clomid, started on 50mg but doc prescribed 100mg this month to try and bring ovulation forward (didn't ov til day 21 last month) and it seemed to do the trick as ov-ed day 16 this month.

I'd told myself I'd try until the end of this year, which would make it 2 years of trying, and so have started trying to prepare myself for life as a one-child family, but was wondering whether anyone out there got pregnant after such a long wait? I imagine that the longer TTC has unsuccessfully gone on for, the less chance of it happening without assistance...?

I know I'm incredibly lucky to have DS already, and my heart goes out to people TTC for their first baby without luck, and sometimes I think that because I've been so lucky to have him already then I shouldn't expect a second baby anyway - but I'm still desperate for one.

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AttilaTheMeerkat · 21/08/2011 07:49

PC,

Am very sorry to read about your ttc problems. Secondary subfertility as this type of situation is often termed is more common than many people realise but that does not make it any easier.

Who prescribed the clomid and just as importantly why was it prescribed?. Was this explained to you properly?. How do you know you actually ovulated on day 16 this month, that is a very precise day.

Clomid's main and only job is to work the ovaries harder. It should only be prescribed if there is evidence that ovulation is not happening.

If you have been ttc for this length of time you as a couple need to be under the care of a subfertility unit in hospital. What do you think of the care you have received to date; it is okay to seek a second opinion if you want to and the GP is the person to re-refer you if you think necessary.

What tests have been done on both of you to date?. Any tests done over six months ago should be discounted; you both need up to date test results. Sometimes tests can get missed out and couples end up not being adequately investigated as a result.

You will need to be persistant, both of you need to be persistant, in order to get answers. Do not be fobbed off.