TTC after a miscarriage - Jingle Beans, Jingle Beans, Beanies all the way!!

Its also a shame that we hear of these babies being left but hardly ever hear the good news that they are ok or found their mother and reunited etc...

I hope they do fix it, but surely she could have taken them in the hosp and left them instead of out in the cold where they may have been missed. Its just not right

Hiya Slink hun great to see you.

Exactly Mygarland. No mum is in her right mind when they do that and 9 times out of 10, when they're found and reunited with their babies, they've totally regretted what they did and also had severe pnd.
I was soooooooo lucky with ds2. Never even got a sniff of it (I dreaded being pg because of this).

i think mothers need more care in the early days after having a baby, especially a first baby, when i had my ds i was in shock, and then depressed, didn't have many friends at the time and only a really shite dp.
i think the women who dump there babies must be very ill, with no support.

Well I've washed the kitchen (top to bottom) by hand (including floor and now my back is killing after scuttling around wiping on my knees lol) so now I'm recovering . I'll be round in about 2 hrs to do yours too hun.

with dd2 i was the same xack and was only 18 tho if i did give her up it would've been to ss not dumped, i knew i couldn't go thru with it.
she prob is very young altho they're not always

After my eldest, i had such awful pnd. It bordered on post natal psychosis. For a split second I considered handing him back to the hospital as i did'nt think I'd ever be worthy of being called mum by him (I was only 17 at the time).It was literally a split second and I'm not sure how a mum could do it unless she was totally messed up mentally or possibly a very young mum, scared, pg kept secret and did this so no one would know. Hope they find her quickly and give her the help and care she needs to be then reuntied with her babbas.

diddle - yeah heard about htat the poor women must be very scared
mxw posted on aug 4u

Back and forth here (as per).
Hiya JD hun!!
Oh god i did'nt hear that! Poor cow. Makes you wonder what kind of mental state she'd be in to even contemplate such a thing. Makes you shudder when you think of "What if?".

stupid woman I can't believe that!

MG - How did you find your stay at Shrews? Is it as bad as they make out?

Yes I heard the news too diddle....boy and girl... terrible they were so cold bless em and I heard once they had warmed up in the incubator they began acting as they should.

no mxw was living up north when i had mc. had dd3 at shrews tho, well was nearly turned away.

Mygarland - We've decided to go to wrexham today as I've heard horror stories from my best mate who had hers there. Her BF was sent home within 1/2 hour of her giving birth "cos it wasn't visiting hours" wrexham has more relaxed visiting times and the option of private rooms at a little cost. So we're doing that instead.

Did you go shrews when you had your mc?

Here here! me too...

on a different subject but still on insensitive went shopping last night and nice lady on till been working there 4 days, supervisor picks her up on an error she had done in front of us shoppers and she came with a colleague to it was like she had been ganged up on..... only on my way out supervisor was gossiping to other staff about her error.....thats just out of order I felt for the lady....that made me

Sorry to digress.....back to the prev. point, you would have thought these womens hospitals would have realised something by now considering how many people they must see day in day out.

think i would've ended up punching her i'm v impatient and it doesn't take much to get me wound up for smacking insensitive ppl!

I know what you mean, when I was in shrews they were pure evil gits.

I'd booked int he night before the D&C and the nurse was telling me stuff I had to eat to help the baby. I got annoyed but instead of shouting at her or at least telling her she was being stupid, I cried. Then I got up and went out for a fag (I started smoking again as soon as I heard about the mc) she came out a couple of minutes later with a nurse friend and I could hear her muttering about how some women don't know how to help they're child get through anything.!!!

i wanted to kill her there and then but luckily DF stopped me. lol

i really think someting needs to be done about putting epu and women mc'ing/having/had stillbirth and post natal loses so close to ante natal and around live babies. when i had dd1 there was a lady who'd had a prem and she was no a ward with 3 babies waking her up thru the night - couldn't've been good for her and her baby lived so i can't imagine other ladies' nightmares. our epu was literally opposite the ante and they walked me thru the waiting/exam rooms to get me a scan, the ladies working there weren't particularly nice either

well if it comes in 3's maybe a lotto win

Its about time everything started to go good. Lol

Last year, i'd had my mc (oct), got a really crappy neighbour downstairs, out of a job (boss was a git about the mc) and my (well mum's) dog died. So It's like all my xmas' have come at once.

Hi Slinkn how are you,

Mums thats great news what a xmas time you are having