Does the old pillow under bum trick actually work?

Fisil, I didn't like the sound of it either but I've changed enough nappies so I thought I ought to be up to it. Turned out that DP came twice within 5 minutes last night (very loudly the second time, so make sure your windows are closed) and I must have had about another half an hour of being fully "plugged" after that whilst he snored gently. And I do mean fully. Actually I'm feeling very hopeful about this, has anyone else tried it ? So thanks, Sue. (Worth it even if you don't get pg in my book)

Sue, don't fancy that much.

It might not help me to conceive, but it did wonders for my relationship last night when dp asked why I hadn't put my legs in the air and I just made a few contented noises in return.

Except that of course what I meant was "mmmm sleep", but I'll leave him to believe that I meant "mmm, great shag"

for what it is worth, i used to lie on my back and assume the 'air cycling' position,,,,you know where you lift your hips with your hands so that your bottom is off the bed...does that make any sense?

Not really sure I have anything particularly useful to add, but I just wanted to send some (((hugs))). I was really touched by your message and remember all to well the agony of ttc. The decision is out of my hands for me, for now.

Anyway, I used the bum in the air thing with dd on the second month of trying and got pg. It's got to be worth trying, really.

Best wishes, and keep on posting if it helps.

ooh, i'm not sure i wanted to read all that!
You're not shy Sue

hmm, have been thinking along the same lines popsycal

a bizarre, slightly surreal first post for sue...

My god, if I could get DH to stay awake for more than 10 minutes after I'd be lucky, hat off to you.

Do have to say that I did big big cushion under bum for 15 mins each time and it seemed to do the trick.

are you for real Sue?!

sue-hmmmm

Oh my life. I think after all that we'd both pass out.

Bum on pillow is a step in the right direction but I have a little variation that seems to ensure success. Immediately after DP comes tease him with the tip of your index finger. The important thing is to make sure he stays inside and stays erect. I've found that inserting just the tip of my finger by no more than a quarter of an inch or so into his bottom and using a very slow circular motion will almost always guarantee that he does ! If I combine this with a few well-timed vaginal squeezes (it comes easier with practice!) then inevitably DP will come a second time very quickly. Now the technique is to hold him in for at least a further 10 minutes (use that index finger again!). Only very rarely will he come for a third time but more importantly the "sperm plugging" effect (if that's the correct expression) has always seemed to work for me. Don't be sqeamish about that finger, it's in a very good cause after all. Have a good wee first though...

Hi - bum on pillow is good. a=Although dp insists that I do not use his pillow!!!!! Also a good one I think is 'doing it' last thing at night. Have a wee before, do the business and then lie back and fall asleep with your hips raised. Sperm dead happy then. Much better than a shag in the morning and then jump up and into the bath.

i reckon that it does....

Hi girls, just to say bum on pillow worked for me first time. Big fat fingers crossed to everyone.xxx

If you have a retroverted uterus, like me, you are advised to do this if you are ttc. So it must work!

Not about pillows but fyi, we were trying for over a yr before approaching dr. Consultant tried spream counts & blood test (me for hormones) & laproscopy before trying clomid. So took a long while to get there. Anyway, got p in 3 months, unfortunatly lost baby later. Second time went to dr after about 5 months and straight onto clomid. This time took 4 months, so not instant in my case. Good news was I think my hormone balance changed after delivery and managed to get p again (unepectedly) 2 months after stopping b/f!

Clomid is only suitable if its certian hormone deficeicenies. At time Dr was reluctant as prolonged use was thought to give higher risk of (ovarian I think) cancer. But now study has shown that that was cos patients perscribed clomid were those having problems conceiving and therefore more prone than ave persons to having these types of cancer anyway.

Don't know how long you've been trying, but dont rush into drs (on other hand dont leave it too long as it can take a long while to get refered etc)(sorry that's not much help, just trying to say there are a lot of pros & cons with treatments - good luck)

I put my legs up on the wall - and it's worked both times! I have polycystic ovaries so thought my chances of conceiving were slim so I am sure every little encouragement to get the sperm and egg together helps. By the way, I fell pregnant the first time about a week after my consultant agreed to put me on Clomid. Sure once the pressure was off that's what helped (I read somewhere once about thoughts becoming a biocghemical reality and affecting your body). Hope it's the same for you Jemma and you'll be pg very soon.

took me a year to get pregnant first time and six months second time. Both times I did fall pregnant I had fallen asleep after sex and therefore not got up to go to the loo or anything for at least six hours (very rare which is why I found it so interesting that these were both the times I conceived). Not a coincidence I am sure

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