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Yeeehaaaa!

I'm glad it worked out for you Spuddy

I'm gagging for it! if I get pregnant this month, it will be a bloody miracle. We did it the day my period ended, then four days after that. Then I was away for five days, and we did it the next two nights. NOTHING since MONDAY! Technically I should be ovulating sometime this week, but god only knows if any swimmers were in the right place at the right time.

Now, he's invited friends to stay over tonight which means that baba will be in our room in her cot tonight. And it's actually our anniversary - I NEED TO GER LAID!

Phew. Glad that's off my chest .

Cheers harmony i doubt i'll fit in it again after dc's, so i best get the use out of it while i can

BTW LOVE the underwear Spuddy only wish I had the figure for those types of things

Hey Everyone!

Sorry to hear about your DP Spuddy but sounds like things are on the up :)

Minipie DS1 is 8 years old and DS2 is 10 months. I left a large gap between DS1 and DS2 as I was only 15 when I had DS1. This time round and with a new partner I want to have them as close together as possible so that they can play together etc... As I feel that although DS1 loves his little brother they are never really going to be proper playmates :(

Don't want DS2 to be another "only child". Which is how I think of DS1 really!

Well AF has stopped so I'm now going to start OPK testing. Have been doing a bit of SW/OI but looking forward to TTC this month. It's weird I find that my partner is much more into sex than me. I am 2 years younger and only 23 but to be honest I'm not all that fussed. Rather have a cuddle, but when we do have sex it is FANTASTIC

Hi All - quick update. DP txted me on his way home last night and asked if he could take me out for dinner (he could tell the frostiness in the morning i think) i was all ready to be angry but when i saw him it dissolved (bloody hormones!).

We went out for a nice dinner and a couple of drinks and spoke about stuff. I lightheartedly brought up that his worries 'about dead sperm' were unfounded - he'd got it into his head that if the sperm wasn't good the baby might have disabilities .

Anyway i said anything over 4 days was okay but as we were doing it every other day this month 'sorting himself out' was totally unnecessary and selfish. He agreed.

So woke up this morning all cuddly and now spending a lovely day together and a romantic night in (he has bought me the most beautiful agent provocateur undies)

www.agentprovocateur.com/new-in/info/thora-waspie~grey--red

Hi all,

Wow, this bus has been busy since I posted yesterday!

Sorry to hear about your DH problem spuddy. I would have been really annoyed too! Especially as you are probably doing all the other TTC nonsense that we put ourselves through. DH only has to do one thing! Don't want to add fuel to the fire though, so I will move on!

We are doing fairly well with swi at the mo, managing every 2-3 days. We are coming up to the frantic every day Ov window though! I reckon we should do it sun-wed for good measure, but it is difficult to muster the enthusiasm after 3 days straight!

Good luck to all!!!

Thanks guys i feel better now. I want sex everyday and my DP would be happy with once a week. He is 4 years younger than me so i thought he'd want it more :(
If i come on to him he often accuses me of bullying him into sex - when all i've done is kissed him or squeezed his bum.

We plan sex in advance (because of this disparity) otherwise i would go crazy not knowing when it was going to be, or waiting for his instigation. And then he knows not to wank (usually) and to not act annoyed if i suggest bed.

Times of day are also bad as neither of us are night people (just too knackered when we go to bed) and the mornings are too rushed (and he cant concentrate if he feels pressured) as we have a 2 hour commute each way to work. So the afternoons are the best, but that just means weekends :(

He is a real prima-donna about sex and it has caused many arguments in the 2 years we have been together. it always seems like hard work.

I just have never met a man like him who doesn't like a quick spontaneous shag!

Spuddy I've had a bit of a google and it does appear that there is some truth in the idea that if a man doesn't ejaculate for too long, the sperm are of less good quality.

though still think the appropriate way to "use up" the sperm he had would be to SWI rather than wank...

Hahahaha...trouble with me is I'm interested pretty much any time of day. I'd spend all day every day jumping on him - I think some days he just feels like a sex object - everytime I walk past him I have to have some kind of grope LOL! :o

Oh I forgot to add - I also want sex more than my dp and mine is 8 years younger, so as you say thought he would be able to keep up!! Problem with us is when he is interested it is usually in the mornings (which mainly means the weekend) and my interest is usually of the evening :(

Hi Spuddy I would be annoyed, as you say more about the timing than anything else. I think I did read somewhere about sperm degrading after a period of time being left, I think it was 3-4 days and should be replaced with a fresh supply. Tues - Thurs should have been fine though but men don't always think ahead and probably did not consider it may be problem later on. Typical bloke but annoying to say the least.

So it's not just me that wants sex waaaaaaay more than my partner then? How is it that men have this reputation as studs when I know so many women who want it much more than their partners? I can't help feeling as mine is 14 years younger than me, he should be able to keep up with me!

I've got to wait until next Saturday night before I get any again, cos he's away from tomorrow morning. Mind you, given how sick I feel at the minute, I don't think I'd risk anything too...errr...bouncy! :o

I totally sympathise Spuddy, my DP is really touchy about sex for some reason (although then gets all moody and says "it's only sex" when I complain I can't do some mad acrobatic reverse cowgirl headstand manoeuvre)!

I want it waaaay more than he does (not just because we are TTC) most of the time, but can't ask for it, and can't sort myself out (there and then) or he gets in a huff. Bloody men!!!

He keeps telling me to stop worrying about it all and "if it happens, it happens". Well that's alright for HIM to say - he's already got a kid! And he's not got a sell by date . Sometimes I just want to slap him.

Id better get some tonight or I'll be very grumpy!

Don't call him a liar, just have a google and find something contradictory to show him, all innocent like, so he "doesn't have to worry about it next time" ;)

well we did it this morning so tonight will be a no go. But we have arranged a romantic meal tomo (he's cooking it - well marks & spencer are perparing it but he will re-heat it and plate it nicely!) and we have planned to dress up and have all our fave toys out.

i suppose the reason i don't want to have the conversation is we have already argued about this before - and he doesn't get it. It will mean i will have to call him a lier by saying the 'research' he said he did was bollox. And i just don't want to ruin the prospect of sex tomo.

Spuddy I'd feel the same. But men can just be thoughtless at times without realising quite how important things are to the women in their lives. Go home and shag him tonight instead. Send him filthy texts for the rest of the afternoon...remember the end game xx

i just feel really deflated and like i can't be bothered to even look at him or have the conversation. i just don't want to go hom tonight. and i know we have to shag tomo as well and i am so not in the mood now.

Not if you're absolutely clear about the fact that it was the timing that pissed you off. Nobody's saying he can't have a wank, just don't do it in the ttc window. It's selfish. If he has issues with it being too mechanical, he need to discuss those with you, not just say "well I've sorted myself out"! Gosh men do have a delightful turn of phrase sometimes, and the tact of a flying JCB!

He'll think i'm annoyed about the wanking and not the timing tho.

Wow. I'd be unspeakably mad.

You totally can and should bring this back up spuddy, or it'll happen again. And if I'm honest, I'd be asking him if he was on the same page as me, baby-wise. And if so, to get with the programme!

See wanking is fine, and can be a spectator sport (ok, just me on that one then? ) except when ttc, when he should be shagging YOU and not choking the chicken!

Though it is a bit difficult to put an embargo on someone having a bit of a shuftie if they fancy one...

minipie well i suppose wanking and sex are two different things so he's see's them as seperate. i get that. everyone i know does both activities and they are quite compatible. As long as i'm not going without.

The scheduling thing is quite normal for us even without swi. We often plan what days inthe week we will have sex and then send saucy texts etc to build up to it.

The thing is he said that to me this morning and i just didn't want a row so i got ready for work and left. So now i dont really know what to say to him. I feel as tho i cant say anything now as the moment has passed.

spuddy I'd have been well annoyed too, hope you're ok!

Hi everyone!

I got my a/f yesterday so went out and bought a lovely bottle of which did a brilliant job on consoling me!

In a much more positive mood today so was hoping I could join your bus please?!

Millyv (29) TTC#1, CD2 AF due 12th Sept.

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