Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your leathers, black nail polish, air guitar and jump in the mosh pit for some serious metalling. All welcome! (Part 17)

Thank goodness, Marathon, what a relief!

Oh, IQ as for 'weeks' I'm a mere 3 weeks and 5 days today! Incredibly early. Oh, how the days are gonna draaaaaaag! Although by LMP I'm 4+4. I reckon I won't mention that I O'd six days later than 'average' so that I get my viability scan earlier... they dont do them until about 8 weeks anyway here so everything should WILL be visible and I'll know in my head it'll be perfect to be measuring six days 'behind'

great news marathon xx

excellent news marathon

You're in my thoughts marathon

Morning everyone!

marathon masses of good luck for today

missg your DD is adorable, i love reading your updates about her, am loving her googling to see whether you are PG or not

eve at me saying DD - of course it is your DS! Did he have a good day?

pebs huge fingers crossed for your GP appt. I dont know if this is the same thing but my MIL used to be a MW and Practice Nurse, she said to me that she used to give hormone injections to women who had multiple MCs pretty much as soon as they get their next BFP. Wondering if you will get something similar. What car did you get? I remember it was something distinctly non baby friendly (way to go! - i looked into booking a ski holiday before i got PG with DS!)

Waves to everyone - hope you are all having a good Wednesday

Good luck today marathon, thinking of you! xx

Good luck today Marathon - will also be checking regularly for updates x

Will catch up properly later but just wanted to say two important things:

• massive congratulations to Manda.......your news has made me smile on a bloody busy and awful week. Hope the news is settling in and hope this is a nice and sticky one!!! How many weeks does this make you?
• best of luck to marathon......waiting to hear your good news later today and will be checking until I see an update!!!

Morning to the rest of you lovely ladies and wishing you all a very good wednesday!!! Xxxx

Evening all

Just a quick one as I have scanned through. Firstly Manada so excited for you. all these bfp it is encouraging. How many do we have now ? Cuttle, marathon, IQ, miss G and you? Anyone I have missed, I am sure I have my notes are upstairs?? I am sure by the end of the year the rest of us will catch up.

Baby - It does get easier, sometimes it is like it never happened, sometimes you want to punch people in the face. Our time will come.

Yes DS start school today - I was in pieces last night - all the usual thoughts that I should of been on my way to a very nice bump by now and had new baby to focus on too. He went of happily and I think had a good afternoon. Long my it last.

DP has gone away with work this week. I should be ovulating wed - sun so not banking on getting my bfp this month either :-(

Work is really busy this week - I planned lots of visits to keep my mind of the school thing - Disneyland Paris Thurs next week can't wait. It will be great to just be us for a few days.

Marathon - will be thinking of you tomorrow.

Will hopefully catch up in more detail tomorrow. Hope everyone is ok, I know it isn't always easy but we will get there we have to hang on to that thought.

ps congrat manda

baby i think everyone on here must feel pissed off when you see babies and pg women sometimes. it's only natural. i hate it when people announce pregnancies on facebook when they are about 1 minute pregnant. i know they don't think anything will go wrong but i feel like telling them the bad side - never do though they would think i am mad!

i agree with summer that when i see friends babies i don't want them i just want one of my own. maybe it's worth trying to visit the baby and see how you feel. just make sure you can escape if things don't feel right for you.

iq love your post. am sure we can all relate to your feelings.

picked my car up today, it's really cool!!

got doctors appointment lined up for monday and hopefully will be able to start ttc once i get my results later this month for why mc has happened to me twice. i am going on holiday next week so can't wait for that!!

feeling pretty good at the moment. hope it lasts! i am usually walking around under a black cloud thinking about mc, ttc and all the crap that goes with it.

Sounds like a plan Summer!
Yep, I had some of my best high heels out for the occasion Summer . And there is definitely something (desperate housewife-style) satisfying about opening the blinds after daytime SWI
Oh, I told my DD. Turns out she had been raking about putting something in my en suite bin and had already seen the tests, but wasn't sure if the lines needed to be crosses or just lines, and had been searching on tinterweb for clues! Feel terrible. Anyway, she is obviously delighted. I told her not to tell anyone, but I know for a fact she will have told her BF. (but that's ok, as I can't blame her for being excited)

yep missg the (.)(.)s are out and PMA all the way. I got a friend request from her on FB and have accepted, i can always block her if it gets too much. I want to crack on with this now though. We SWI last night (CD10) and he is out tonight so will go for it tomorrow and Thursday - i am out Friday so we can do Saturday.

I am after all channeling missgs foxy housewife style of last month, you is inspirational sista! oo and yes please i shall snaffle a bit of carrot cake, and pass me the fully alcoholic i will start on it after DS is in bed

oo yes eve is it DDs first week at school? tell all!

And IQ, is your scan Friday?

There's been a distinct lack of and this past 2 days.

What a mixture of highs and lows over the past few days, eh?! A few of you have said it already, but this thread has been a life-saver. Baby you said you didn't want to share with your DH how you were feeling? I can understand that. I did, but he made me feel worse . Then I came on here, ranted, knew I had been listened to, and understood, got some reassurance that I hadn't become the She Devil overnight, and felt like a massive weight had been lifted. Invaluable, you lot are Cheers ladies! (it's shloer obviously)

Pebs your post made me chortle, but also panic at the same time, as it brought back memories of my teenage visits to the FP clinic. I started sleeping with DDs Dad when we were only 15 . I felt so grown up - I so wasn't. But to think that my DD is now that age!!! God, it doesn't bear thinking about! Am so glad she doesn't have a boyfriend

Awe Summer what unfortunate timing. Hope you're ok. Chin up, @@ out! PMA! PMA!

Pie managed CDs 11,12,14,17 (DH just managed that one ) & 19 but have no idea when I ovulate. I too would have been a bookend bridesmaid at my BFs wedding had that pg not been ectopic . Sloshed just about describes it! I'm sure you will have a great time, and that your healthy living and PMA approach will pay dividends

And yes, my estimated due date seems to be 8th May, so very close to Mandas. (still very excited about this piece of news today!)

Marathon very much looking forward to hearing good news from you tomorrow

Eve did you say your little one starts school this week?

Hi to all the other metallers Blue Shimmery Zebra

Am away to order make dinner

backatcha homie

i am ok really i-think it was just a bit of a jolt

summer big big hugs to you, that must be horrible. xxx have a big fat bozie from me xx

Hi Peeps, so much to catch up on and not sure where to start so will randomly jump in! :)

manda congratulations! That is really really great news, I am for you! Have your cycles been totally haywire then since you mc until now? Looking at my charts i've ov'd on CD17, CD12 and CD19 since the mc! I haven't a scooby what's going on :( It's most fustrating!

missg how are you feeling today? You and manda must have nearby due dates for these bubbas?

(missg and manda do you mind if I ask when you SWI this month and think you ov'd? My body is playing up so much at the moment!!)

IQ ditto what summer said about your story, thanks so much for sharing it. I deffo had a lump in my throat when I read it xx When is your 12w scan?

baby i've offloaded on this thread so many times! I really don't know what I would do without all of you lovely ladies to talk to and offer support and advice. I'd probably be in the looney bin or several bottles of gin down. A lot of my friends seem to be announcing pregnancies at the moment and whilst yes, I am happy for them I am definitely not happy for me! It's like a stab through the heart and I am envious of their pregnancy innocence. Miscarriage really does take that away from you.

marathon will be thinking of you and your scan tomorrow (?) and waiting here to hear from you! xx

summer my DS only says a few words really and doesn't string any together yet (he's 20 months) PMA for a June babba!

Off to acupuncture tonight, think that must be my 4th session now. Not sure how long i'll keep going but it is relaxing me which is all part of it. I started another thread a while ago on this conception board asking if people did anything differently with a pregnancy after a mc and there was an interesting link put up by a poster regarding vitamins, stress, exercise etc etc. I have increased my vitamin C intake however as i'm pretty sure i've got low progesterone and according to their research it can help. At least it won't do any harm?

My best friend is getting married soon and i'm a bridesmaid. I have such a vivid memory of us trying on bridesmaid dresses and I had just had my bfp. I was dying to tell her as we would have to get a suitable frock to fit over the bump which would be 6 months by then :( :( Oh well, I will just have to get utterly sloshed instead!!

Sending oodles and oodles of PMA to us all, big massive bozies with an american style ye-haw chant, WE CAN DO IT and fist bumps (can't remember who did that earlier but am loving it!!)

Sorry for everybody i've missed out, I keep having to hide this thread when people walk past and it says the thread heading at the bottom of my screen! Leaving work in 10 mins but am thinking of us all! xx

oh gosh one of my colleagues at work has just left today to go on maternity leave and i have said goodbye to her.

she is due the same day i would have been

PMA PMA PMA PMA PMA.......

i am mega busy at work but just jumped on quickly, and what a rollercoaster we have here!

first of all baby PMA PMA PMA all the way. i am going to make a bizarre suggestion, but i wonder if you should visit your cousin and the new baby? the reason i say this is; on Saturday i held a newborn and was worried i would be a bit choked. well. i wasnt. all i kept thinking was - i am not hankering after this baby - i want my own baby. i felt no attachment or emotions at all. i know it is so soon after your MC and it is going to be a struggle but maybe little Freddie can give you some comfort? i wonder why the birth was traumatic, it sounds like they have been through the mill too

oh - and your diabetic nurse(?) was bloody insensitive - how rude of her to question the timing of your TTC

IQ thank you so much for sharing your story. i had no idea when i was bullying encouraging you all those weeks ago that you had so much on your mind. i am sitting at work with a tear in my eye, i must refer back to your post when i am having a day. thank you again xx

manda what an amazing interlude to the thread!!!!!!! so many congratulations and wonderfulness! i will be thinking of you on Monday. Mine will be 10 October so am pondering as to whether i will get a BFP before then

Right i have to go back to work but will try and catch up tonight as DH is out. But sending bucketloads of PMA to you all

Yeah, I've been consumed by the thought of monday and now... it seems far away and dreamlike. Odd.

And, also, I didn't mean to sound all 'just be positive and it'll happen' in my last post. THat's not what I meant at all and god knows I've had some major wobbles on here/the complete opposite of PMA. It took FIVE cycles for my body to sort itself out

BIG admiration, not 'bit' - doh!

Zebra I think we are very much in the same place in many ways. While I am generally quite positive, I do feel as I am set back on the long and difficult journey too, and its not a nice place to be!

MissGiraffe I got a pic from my cousin earlier on and my initial reaction, and I am not proud to say this, was 'urgh, he's all squashed' followed by 'well, it just looks like a baby, they all look the same' said (in my head) in an agressively dismissive way. And then I started to cry. Deep down, what I really mean is that I am jealous and resentful as well as a little bit angry and frustrated but I obviously can't let on. I don't even want to to my DH, to be honest. I don't think he fully understands. A very good friend of mine, who also had a MC (an early one, about 5 weeks, but she had a D&C the next day as she was due to fly back from holiday) said that her DH said 'we can just make another one' - she said he meant well, but couldn't quite get his head around how she was feeling. She apparently snapped at him that she wanted to have a cry / come to terms with 'this one' first and he didn't really know what to do with himself. Incidently, they got pg again on the first try two months later - PMA!

New baby excitement is NOT what I want at all right now! I wouldn't want them to know that though, I think people feeling as if they have to tiptoe around me while also feeling sorry for me would make things ten times worse. Like you ladies, I have managed to make all the right enthusiastic noises and while I do mean them to a certain extent, I still can't help the and Bit admiration for you who had the new baby thing days after ERPC's too - that must have been really fucking tough!

Onto brighter things - Manda whooopeee! I know it doesn't remove the gloom of the miscarriage but I hope it helps you feel more positive and able to look forward.

Oh sorry, also should have said I hope Monday isn't too tough a day for you. I hope this bpf and the positivity it will bring will help you through x