Still not up the duff

I don't think anyone who has been trying for as long as some of us on here would be competitive about it Katielou. It's just that sometimes it's difficult to hear people saying they feel empty, sad, angry etc at the start of TTC. It's completely real to feel these things at any time of course but like a few others have pointed out it never gets easier with time.

We've just got to hope. That's all.

wow you ladies are being rather harsh. It's not some kind of competition about who has been trying the longest. jeez!

I didn't mean to offend anyone and I didn't come on here to argue

In that case I retract my kind-of apology itsohsoquiet

A bit of empathy goes a long way I think. And don't say "Well, show some yourself then" because long term TTCers have been at the three month mark and know for a fact that it's not in the same league as one year or three years or seven years.

I sympathise with those of you who have been trying a long time but my feelings are not any less valid than yours. I have been waiting to try for a baby for 8 1/2 years. My mother took 8 years to conceive my younger brother and I am being tested for the same hereditary blood disorder that my mum and grandmother have that may mean it is difficult for me to carry a baby to full term. So if I won't apologise for being upset.

itsohsoquiet, dont be so bloody precious. of course you can offload here. the op and some others are moaning about ttc for 3 months, that its forever.

it isnt. you were told to get a grip.

then you said that ttc for 3 months hurts as much as ttc for years, which quite frankly is bollocks and pretty offensive to those of us who have been ttc for years. at 3 months you have hope, and its exciting. at 6 years you feel like you die every month. so you were pulled up on it. if you cant handle that and you want people to say, "poor baby, a whole 12 weeks, how tough for you" maybe you should find somewhere else to offload.

some of you have awfully strange attitudes. I came on here to offload because I can't speak to anyone about it in rl but i'm made to feel like I can't post because I haven't been trying at least 12 months. wtf??? think i'll go elsewhere.

Of course it's not 'as upsetting' to have been trying for 3 month as to betrying for years and years, don't be so bloody ridiculous.

itsohsoquiet ?

Wed 06-Jul-11 19:09:06

Doesn't mean we want it any less or it is any less upsetting just because we haven't been trying as long

I'm really sorry, but I have to disagree. Noone is saying that you shouldn't be upset, just that 3 months is nothing considering most women take year. But the pain of ttc for a couple of months is nothing compared to ttc for years. It just isn't.

I hope you all get a bfp and baby soon.

Doesn't mean we want it any less or it is any less upsetting just because we haven't been trying as long

You're right of course ElmMum and the others. Unfortunately TTC for yonks turns you into a horrible lunatic at times . Sorry.

And obviously good luck to those who've been trying for ages too

Come on ladies. Of course it's worse to have been trying for 7 years but the disappointment each month is still horrible and it's the not knowing that is hard. Three months still feels like an age. Good luck to the newly TTC. I hope you don't have to try for too long :)

Feel your pain. I think it's because in this day and age people don't take the 'wait and see if it happens' relaxed kind of approach, we plan life to the 'n'th degree so when we decide to try for a baby it's Because we want that baby now.

I've had another friend announce today and she is the last person in the world I expected the news from, I literally sat at my work desk and sobbed, for about an hr. Then pulled myself together and emailed her back to say congrats. I am over the moon for her because she said she had been trying since last august so I'm sure has stressed about it a few times.

Don't know where I'm going with this but I think it stings like hell how ever long you've been trying and sometimes it helps to just have a good cry when AF arrives then get excited for all the shagging that then needs to be done :)

Look, it's not a competition. You are entitled to feel glum no matter how long you've been trying. All the best for next month, chaps.

Dont apologise LW - you can be sad, if thats how you feel you cant change it but the other ladies are right, it hasnt been long for us yet. I like the going out and getting smashed idea (think thats how it happened last time:)). x

3 months

There are people on here who have been TTC for 7 years!

I agree. At 3 months you are worrying over nothing. Don't do it to yourselves.

What Lissie and Bugger said.

what buggerlugs said. been ttc for 6 years. stop it.