Over 40 & TTC?

Dodsey, tell me about it - I am at least 5 years older than most other mums of 2 year olds I know! They all (pretend?) to be shocked when I say so, of course...

Good luck!

I am 41 next year and ttc no. 2 (ds is 4.2). Never thought we'd still be here now, but it's over 9 years now since starting to try for #1.

Unfortunately we were stuck for ages with an unsympathetic GP who thought that taking 18 months to conceive the first time (but losing that one at 6 weeks) was proof absolute that there was no problem, so we couldn't get a referal although it took over two and a half years after that before conceiving ds, and almost another 3 years next time (ending up in a m/c at 11 weeks). Finally ran out of patience after that and self refered ourselves to a consultant, which is costing a fortune, and so far no sign of treatments working, but at least is better than still being told that everything is "obviously" fine!

well, just 42 and trying for no 3. Had a mc in March and still no luck (well, I'm 2 days late but I'm NOT going to test just yet, I'm NOT going to be obsessed.........)

Weeellll....not me personally. I TTC'd for years and years, with miscarriages but no baby...turned out to be combination of immune issues and POF. At 43 I finally had my gorgeous DD, via IVF using donated eggs - and couldn't be happier. BUT more to the point...my best friend is 43 and just had her second dd, her first when she was 40 - with nothing more than a bit of progesterone support in the early weeks. And another close friend had her first at 41 and her second at 43 (naturally). AND my sister's oldest friend had twins at 49.....had two grown up girls, married a younger man, thought she'd gone into menopause as her periods stopped, saw an OB/GYN who told her she was pregnant, and...now has two healthy toddlers!

So yes, its all still very possible - good luck, ladies.

xxC

it could happen anytime!! i had 1st babe at 36,then on deciding to ttc 2nd it took me 2years and 3months to be precise! i had 2nd at 41 so it could happen.

Am 40 now, will be 41 in March. Am still working on dh to try for number 2 and have an appt. with ObGyn on Thursday to check things out.

I should be ovulating in the next few days. Have found myself obsessing over cm and wringing hands that I may stop ovulating before dh comes on board.

I went to the drs after 4 months but lied that it was 6 months. Have now been refered to hospital so am glad I started the process early. As I will most likely be 40 when I get the appointment

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My DS is 4 and was an IVF baby - I am now 41 and would love another.
Have wanted another since DS turned 1 but DH not keen and then we moved countries. Now although I have seen a doc here I keep putting it off. But hoping to try in Jan.

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Am 39 and have been ttc no2 for 5 months. Have started having gp tests. My progesterone level was low and have to be restested. (got +ves on ov sticks though). Dh had test and was fine, Have to ahve 21 day test redone. I can't seem to stay at all positive though.

I feel a bit the same Dodsey. The first miscarriage (2 years ago) really knocked me for 6 - but this time I feel much stronger.

At least it now means I won't be 5 and 1/2 months pregnant when we go skiing in Febraury! We were still going to be going, as ds started learning to ski last year and we wanted to keep the momentum going - but it owuld have severely contsrained what I could do. Evne if, by some miracle, I were to fall preganant again really quickly, that would be OK, as I was skiing when I was 10-11 weeks pregnant with ds (with the blessing of my GP friends, who were with us)

Dodsey - I'm not sure - I know they measure the luteinising hormone (LH) surge, but not sure if they actually confirm that an egg has been released.

I never did manage to get dh to give a sample - but my GP was prepared to refer me on the basis that I had had ds and a misacarriage, so dh can't be firing blanks, and fortunately the consultant at the fertility clinic didn't push it.

Tabitha - I'm OK at the moment (might not beif dh decides he doesn't want to try again) - but this is supposed to be a positive thread about ttc!

Like Arabica (the other 44 year old on Mumsnet who I know is ttc), I don't feel or look look 44. But both dh andI are making positive efforts to keep oursleves fit. Hopefully we will be like my parents who at 69 and 65 are currently away cycling in Urugay!

Prettybird,
sorry to hear your sad news
Good luck to you too with ttc.

Hi Dodsey,
I had dd3 at 41. When I was pregnant with her, I found this site which you might find useful. Look at the messageboard too - at least it will make you realise that there are others out there who are 40 + and ttc.
Hope this helps. Good luck.

You need to see your GP and he will then do a Day 21 test as the first step towards a hopsital referral.

A Day 21 test is a blood test taken on the 21st day of your cycle (if you have a 28 day cycle) (laterally, I had a 24 or 25 day cycle, so my test was on Day 17 or 18) and will establish if you ovulated that month. The only problem is that as you get older you don't necessarily ovulate every month.

Once you've had the day 21 test, your GP will probably also want to test your dh/dp.