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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Over 40 & TTC?

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Dodsey · 11/11/2005 21:32

Anyone out there over 40 & ttc?
Had 2 DS's at 35 & 38.Now I'm 41 & have been trying for 15mths. should I just give all my baby stuff to the nearest charity shop?

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Arabica · 22/11/2005 12:18

Absolutely! I keep getting what am sure are period pains, but then there's nothing. I am sure period will start at any moment but if nothing happens, then am going to test at the weekend. Thanks for your support.

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Dodsey · 21/11/2005 22:06

Holding my breath Arabica & keeping everything crossed for you.

You dread going to the loo at this time don't you.

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Arabica · 21/11/2005 10:06

Woops, got calculations wrong. Period is due today not yesterday. Am convinced am not pregnant but would be a wonderful surprise if the period didn't come!

BellaLasagne · 21/11/2005 07:44

Aaaarghhh Arabica - how are you feeling?

Fingers crossed!

Arabica · 20/11/2005 23:29

My period was due today...and it hasn't arrived...

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Dodsey · 20/11/2005 17:25

Mog you are my heroine!!

KristinaM that's my plan too once I get my BFP!!

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Mog · 20/11/2005 14:10

I had my dd at 37, ds1 at 39 and a home birth with ds2 at 41. Good luck to you all.

KristinaM · 20/11/2005 13:17

Dodsey - I am 39 weeks pregnant!!!How can you ask that!!! I never even plan to Bd again EVER EVER

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Dodsey · 20/11/2005 10:42

You're right jane313, it's easy to isolate yourself in a cloud of negativity about your age. [especially if you're surrounded by alot of young Mums]

But when you do fall pregnant (& you will)
it's these Mums that will make you feel young as you swap baby tales with them.

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jane313 · 20/11/2005 07:51

Its nice to see all the over 40s success stories. And all the ones about getting pregnant after 6 momths plus. Its very easy to feel bleak about it all.

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Dodsey · 19/11/2005 20:03

Good luck BellaLasagne & Arabica!

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Dodsey · 19/11/2005 20:01

KristinaM do you think you'll have another one after this?

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BellaLasagne · 19/11/2005 18:52

Hi girls - just popping in to say hello.

I'm 40, dh 42, and we're ttc #3. We have 1ds and 1dd so another would be icing on the cake!

Have been ttc 'low-key' for 15 months, i.e. not actively charting, using OPKs or temping, just letting nature take her course.

BL

KristinaM · 19/11/2005 18:28

Dodsey - not "All the oldies are either in bed or are out partying cos they were sensible & had their kids young".

I am 43 and have a 5yo DD, an 18 month DS and I'm also 39 weeks pregnant So definitely NOT out partying

Arabica · 19/11/2005 17:30

Thanks HC! Hope to see you soon (when I am over my cold and sprained ankle)

hoxtonchick · 19/11/2005 16:54

good luck arabica

Arabica · 19/11/2005 16:52

Hi, as PrettyBird mentioned, I am 44 and TTCthis is first month we have gone for it after a miscarriage in Feb. Period is due on Monday. I actually think I am very fertilegot pregnant instantly when trying for DS, and the pregnancy I miscarried. I don't feel 44 at all, and am definitely very immature(!) BTW I also gave most of my maternity and baby stuff away but that was mainly because I had friends who really needed it and I know there will be others who'll supply me if I need it (I hope).

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Dodsey · 18/11/2005 22:24

Hey snufflepuss you know what happens now the baby stuff's away!!

The due in July 06 thread is going strong. I keep reading it in the hope i can come out of the closet & join it

Too late now, wouldn't it be nice to be starting the Due In Aug. 06 thread? How about it all you over 40 ttc'ers!

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snufflepuss · 18/11/2005 20:24

Dodsey, I've been having the most horrendous ovulation pains today - I'm sure I've only felt them once or twice before in the past.

I'm 42 and gave birth to dd2 in Feb this year. Dd1 is 3. Usual story, fell pregnant with dd1 instantly and it took 6 months to conceive dd2. As you say, I thought my fertility had come to an end and tired every method to help with my fertility. I used Persona to determine when I was ovulating and also had weekly accupuncture sessions to help. I also had an appointment booked with a Gynaecologist and actually found I was pregnant a week before the appointment was due.

Hang in there, don't give up hope and good luck to all 40+'s ttc. I have given away all maternity/baby stuff and am

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Dodsey · 18/11/2005 18:32

Thanks Tabitha.

I'm such a wimp about going to the doctors so I just sit & worry instead. Thank God for MN's.

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tabitha · 18/11/2005 18:28

Dodsey,

I had ovulation pains regularly before I concieved dd3. Hope this reassures you.

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Dodsey · 18/11/2005 18:15

God I've had some terrible ovulation pains, they were so sharp they took my breath away for about twenty mins.

This has all happened in the last year, with a slight old blood bleed each time. I've read this is normal for women in their forties who are heading towards the end of their fertility!!!

Can anyone enlighten/reassure me?

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Dodsey · 18/11/2005 18:07

they're putty in our hands.

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Dodsey · 18/11/2005 18:07

they're putty in our hands.

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jabberwocky · 18/11/2005 02:25

Saw the Ob today and am tentatively moving forward with dh. I can tell he is weakening...

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