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Freak out room for those newly updiffed after mc - Part VI

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CollieandPup · 15/05/2011 10:32

Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage and too nervous to move over the to pregnancy boards? Freaking out about spotting, cramping, symptoms (or lack there of) and nervously awaiting your first scan? Here is a lovely place for lot's of support, hand holding and problem sharing.

Courtesy of owlbooty here are the Ten Commandments of the Freak Out Room.

  1. Thou shalt check thy knickers to the point of insanity until the baby actually arrives.
  2. Thou shalt also check the loo roll post-wipeage (sorry, gross, I know)
  3. Thou shalt bore thy physician and midwife to tears with the mentalling.
  4. And thy husband/boyfriend/family/neighbour's cat.
  5. Thou shalt obsess over the absence of symptoms.
  6. And the presence of symptoms.
  7. And the fluctuation of symptoms.
  8. Thou shalt pee on a vast number of sticks and keep ClearBlue and First Response in business.
  9. The day before any scan extreme mentalling is permitted without recourse to the Haddock.
10. Self-diagnosis with Dr Google is Forbidden.

The Haddock will be applied liberally to all transgressors.

See here for the old thread.

OP posts:
appleblossoms · 19/05/2011 08:41

Thinking of you this morning dachs...Hope you had a better night's sleep and today brings you some good news at last. Can't believe the way Bupa have treated you!

cep · 19/05/2011 07:31

morning ladies,

dach i hope you get somewhere today with Bupa. Hope everything is ok with you all.

Ninunina · 19/05/2011 07:17

Poking my head in to wish everyone a good day (especially dachs)
Went to watch pricilla queen of the desert last night and feeling like I should add some sparkle to everyone's day.....so....glittery lipstick and false eye lashes for everyone.

Got my first tummy rub yesterday...I was a bit taken a back. It was more of a tummy wobble actually, maybe it won't be so bad once it's a bit bigger (and hopefully harder)

Dachs Hope you had an uneventful and restful night.

Hadrian I'm sure you can blame Brian for your accident. He's stolen my usually very good sense of direction.

Blackkat · 19/05/2011 06:48

Dachs hope you've had some rest last night, sending all good wishes for a better day today to you, Mr Dachs, Alexander and Felicia

lucky Emoo good luck for today's scans

Blackkat · 19/05/2011 06:44

Updated list - Thursday 19th May:

have updated yesterday's scanners and moved Onions to the grads list - I didn't add a day for you bcs I think you said you'd gained one on the list Smile hope I got it right.

Tiggersreturn (TTT) 21+2 EDD 26/09/11
mamapower 21+1 EDD 28/9/11
Emoo 19+6 EDD 7/10/11 next scan 19/5/11
Lovemysleep 19+2 EDD 11/10/11
Tunnocksteacake 17+4 EDD 24/10/11
IreneHeron 17+2 EDD 23/10/11 next scan 3/6/11
CEP 15+5 EDD 5/11/11 - 20 wk scan 22/6/11
Hils74 15+1 EDD 8/11/11
Katherine2008 15+0 EDD 10/11/11 next scan 23/6/11
Haffertee 14+5 EDD 14/11/11
Ninunina: 14+2 EDD 15/11/11
delilahbelle 14+0 EDD 22/11/11
Mattsmama 14+0 EDD 17/11/11
Collie 13+4 EDD 20/11/11
wombatinwaiting: 13+0 EDD 24/11/11 next scan 8/6/11
Banana87: 13+0 EDD 24/11/11 NT
LaraMi 12+6 EDD 25/11/11 Next scan - 20/07/11
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy 12+3 EDD 26/11/11
Blackkat 11+3 EDD 5/12/11
Jigglebum 11+0 EDD 8/12/11
Lucky 9+2 Next scan - 19/5/11
Hadrian 8+0 Next scan - 13/06/11
Updiffed 6+5
Hairylights 5+3
Pigletmania 4+4

On the grads thread too:
Nickster 28+5 EDD 7/8/11
Orange 24+5 EDD 4/9/11
Wombat33 23+5 EDD 10/09/11 next scan 25/5/11
Daisybell 23+0 EDD 14/09/11
Pinkfondantfancy 21+4 EDD 25/09/11
DoubleDiffedDachs 20+1 EDD 5/10/11
Onions 17+3 EDD 24/10/11 Next Scan 07/06/11
Velvetcu 17+2 EDD 25/10/11 next scan 22/06/11
MummyAbroad 15+6 EDD 4/11/11

Thinking of.... ladybee; digi; A&R; barbie; harassed; MumTum; Knitter, Kat2504

wombatinwaiting · 19/05/2011 05:23

Oooops hadrian! Probably not that funny at the time but glad you can smile about it now. While I'm all for women's equality and all that, sometimes it's damn handy having a male type around!

Great news on the scan minnie.

Hoping you had a trouble-free night dachs and you get some good news from the hospital and insurance company today.

Bacon butties for all (other than the veggies and anyone feeling sick!)

hadrian · 18/05/2011 22:44

Ah your post made me smile pink. I have to say it was quite funny in retrospect. I was trying to reverse out of my drive, went into first by mistake, hit the accelerator and drove straight down the steps to my neighbour's basement flat. What an idiot. DH not best pleased...he had to go and forage some planks to put under the wheels and jack the car back up. Still all fixed now Grin

I know the 'it won't work for me now' feeling is irrational but can't help myself...must remember the Poisson distribution...

Magic8ballhastheanswers · 18/05/2011 22:29

Dachs I am sorry the op didn't work and I am keeping everything crossed for you x

Blackkat · 18/05/2011 22:01

Dachs truly shocked at the insurance company, do hope common sense prevails. They must surely be in breach of their contract with you and DH if they are unwilling to take Consultant advice on what constitutes as emergency. Wishing a restful night to you and to the twins. (((hugs)))

Minnie so pleased all went well with your scan Smile

Hadrian glad you're ok, hope DH manages to retrieve the car?

Lily best to book in soon, I didn't and consequently am not seeing the midwife for the first time until 12+1 madness and stressful. I know it's scary, but better than missing or having a late appt, believe me!

Hairy your restraint made me chuckle

hairylights · 18/05/2011 21:45

I've only peed on four sticks this pregnancy. I've gone all minimalist Grin

nickstermum · 18/05/2011 21:33

Dachs great news to hear the pups are still hanging in there. Every day they stay in is a good sign. Great on the fluid too.. Can the Docs give you drugs to stop your cervix opening? Another lady on another thread is on bed rest with bulging membrane and opening cervixamd the Docs are just trying to get her to 28 weeks and filling her with drugs. Hope there is something they can do for you too x shitty bupa, set dh onto them and avoid any stress xxx everything crossed that they stay put for a good while longer my lovexx

PinkFondantFancy · 18/05/2011 21:32

hadrian what on earth happened??? Shock Glad you're not injured but you're going to have to explain what happened!! Big hugs for you - I know exactly how you're feeling about your friend being pregnant. I had exactly the same thought when I found out that SIL is pregnant - the first thing that went through my head was "marvellous, it's not going to work out for me now then". I know it's not rational and doesn't actually make any sense, but then again let's face it, none of this mentalling does really......

dachs sleep tight tonight, sending you and the pups sticky vibes

hadrian · 18/05/2011 21:26

What a nightmare dachs but agree with everyone about the power of the NHS in a crisis. Am thinking of you and DHdachs and cheering on Alexander and Felicia.

Am feeling a bit low today. Just drove my car down half a flight of steps and feel like a total idiot. Noone injured but DH is spending the whole evening trying to get it out Blush

And just heard from a friend that she is pg. She's one of two women who used to work for me and the three of us are still friends. One had a baby a couple of weeks ago and now the other is pg...I just can't believe it will happen for me too.

Sorry, glum post. Maybe tomorrow will be a better day. Here's hoping for great news for dachs and her pups

PinkFondantFancy · 18/05/2011 20:55

lily good work on getting wheels in motion. I would go ahead and book in with the MW in the meantime, fingers crossed nothing will go wrong this time, but you really shouldn't worry about looking silly, I promise no-one in the world will think that of you.

PinkFondantFancy · 18/05/2011 20:54

dachs that sucks :( How about getting DH to call BUPA tomorrow and telling them that his next phone call is going to be to the national newspapers..... My MIL claims to know a journalist at one of them - I can find out if a) he actually exists (no promises) and b) he wants a story if you like?? Is there any way for DH to escalate the case higher than the standard claims assessor at BUPA? Can they send DH their criteria for what counts as an emergency? They must have something prescriptive set out....

hairy good work on restraining yourself, it was the right decision!! Grin

Freezingmyarseoff · 18/05/2011 20:19

Dachs so sorry to hear that the op didn't work as planned and insurance company are being little shits. My heart just goes out to you, and your DH
You do have two little fighters on your hands though. And I love the names.

Thinking of you and sending lots of prayers

Great news from all the scanners.

lily06 · 18/05/2011 20:11

Dachs I can't believe the insurance company, hope you manage to get things sorted and stay where you are.

Hairy good on you. Better than me then. I had one in the cupboard that I was saving for fmu this morning (just to see if the weeks had increased) and somehow used it at 1am instead..... So now considering buying another for Fridaythe weekend.

Banana what rubbish service from the hospital, I too would be fuming.

Collie glad you're scan went well, and also that your kitty is ok.

Minnie that's lovely, hope it keeps the mentalling at bay.

I bit the bullet today and called my GP and both consultants, so have started the wheels in motion and just waiting for appt to see consultant. Secretary seems to think they won't scan til about 8 weeks. Eeeeeeek. Not sure whether or not to book in with midwife. Keep thinking I will just look stupid when if things go wrong.

hairylights · 18/05/2011 20:03

Big hug dachs

I have valiantly resisted a clear blue digital! Stared at it in tesco for about ten
Mins but walked away . I dont need the stress!

IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy · 18/05/2011 19:35

Oh and banana I would complain too. I paid for my NT tests and they took the blood tests an hour before the scan, then those results were back by the time I went in for the scan. The consultant spent ages showing us head, heartbeat, stomach, arms, legs, right down to collarbones and jawbones and number of fingers! Then he ran the measurements through the computer with the blood results while we were there and gave us the results straight away. I did grumble slightly to dh about paying £200 for it but thinking about it, it was definitely worth it.

The good news is of course that 1.7mm is spot on normal so the results are likely to be fine, but it would have been nice to know that! Can't believe the "service" you got!

IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy · 18/05/2011 19:30

dachs I'm sorry the op didn't go as planned and that you're having this extra stress - you really don't need this Sad. Sometimes I'm amazed at how callous these businesses can be - would Mr Claims Assessor still think it wasn't an emergency if it was his babies at risk?! Ridiculous.

Having said that - and I can fully understand you not wanting to move and you really shouldn't have to - don't despair if you do end up under NHS care. I know we all moan about it - usually with good reason - but the NHS is often at its best in a real crisis and if (heaven forbid) the babies do arrive early there are the most amazing special care baby units in the big NHS hospitals. However, obviously I hope it doesn't come to that and that you get to stay where you feel comfortable.

Thinking of you, dh and the babies and sending big (((hugs))) xxx

Congrats to all scanees who've been back to report good news - are we still waiting for anyone?

katherine2008 · 18/05/2011 19:28

Have been in London all day at meetings so just catching up on everyone's news. Dachs you poor thing - like you need that crap on top of everything else. But they are still sticking and I fully intend to be entirely correct in my prediction of their total stickiness. Please try to rest and take good care of yourself.

yay to all the scanners - what a great day for you all. BlackKat is right - I had to wait 10 days for my NT results (on the NHS). banana your scan sounds rubbish - I would also complain.

I hope everyone has a good night's sleep and catch up in the morning.

Dachs we'll see you tomorrow and look after little Alexander and Felicia.

x

DoubleDiffedDachs · 18/05/2011 19:06

Consultant has already spoken to them and yelled at them and they are still being difficult...

PinkFondantFancy · 18/05/2011 18:38

dacha so sorry you've got this extra stress. I second what the others have said, if you can beg a letter of your consultant that says moving you will be detrimental, surely they have to listen to that? Xx

Minnie74 · 18/05/2011 18:36

dachs so sorry Sad- how can they possibly say it's not an emergency? Thinking of you x

banana I'd definitely complain- sounds a bit pointless paying extra for nothing.

Today's scan went really well- saw little arm buds waving and everything. Even heard the heartbeat! I guess the bleeding can't be anything serious which is reassuring. Smile Give it a couple of days and I'm sure the mentalling will be back!

mousebacon · 18/05/2011 18:33

Forgot to say; Angry on your behalf banana definitely demand a refund x

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