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Freak out room for those newly updiffed after mc - Part VI

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CollieandPup · 15/05/2011 10:32

Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage and too nervous to move over the to pregnancy boards? Freaking out about spotting, cramping, symptoms (or lack there of) and nervously awaiting your first scan? Here is a lovely place for lot's of support, hand holding and problem sharing.

Courtesy of owlbooty here are the Ten Commandments of the Freak Out Room.

  1. Thou shalt check thy knickers to the point of insanity until the baby actually arrives.
  2. Thou shalt also check the loo roll post-wipeage (sorry, gross, I know)
  3. Thou shalt bore thy physician and midwife to tears with the mentalling.
  4. And thy husband/boyfriend/family/neighbour's cat.
  5. Thou shalt obsess over the absence of symptoms.
  6. And the presence of symptoms.
  7. And the fluctuation of symptoms.
  8. Thou shalt pee on a vast number of sticks and keep ClearBlue and First Response in business.
  9. The day before any scan extreme mentalling is permitted without recourse to the Haddock.
10. Self-diagnosis with Dr Google is Forbidden.

The Haddock will be applied liberally to all transgressors.

See here for the old thread.

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dooscooby · 03/06/2011 13:53

Welcome milky way. I've not puked once and I'm 11weeks now. I think it partly depends on whether you're a puker in every day life if you know what I mean! I very rarely puke, has to be the worst food poisoning or something but I can feel incredibly nauseous and like I really want to be sick, but nothing. My sickness feeling disappeared at 10 wks but then came back with a vengeance 4 or 5 days later-although I think that might be because I've been really tired as our neighbours have been really noisy this week.

Good luck with the NT scan blackkat

Blackkat · 03/06/2011 13:05

milkyway felt rough a lot, but I was only sick 4/5 times. Generally to do with toothpaste.....eeeuggghh.

lily so pleased that the scan was eventually ok, I was a bit behind at 7 weeks but remember measurements at this early stage are +/- 5 days. I was spot on at 11.

Collie sounds to me like you'd not eaten enough this am before heading to the pool.

Think Minnie, Mouse and Daisy were keen on northern meet up...

Irene can't wait to hear the flavour, and Happy Anniversary, hope you can celebrate this eve.

Off for nuchal scan this pm fx

to everyone, my thoughts are still with Dachs and DH

milkyway07 · 03/06/2011 12:48

Wow this thread moves pretty fast! Thanks for the welcomes everyone!

blackkat if there was a bat in my room I think I would have done the exact same thing! That must have been pretty scary!

Hope you're feeling better now collie

lara I would have been pretty angry if they made me repeat blood tests, as I hate needles.
The worse thing that I have ever heard happened to my friend - she was given someone else's blood test results in early pregnancy, and was told she had syphyllis Shock. She was absolutely mortified and even questioned her husband about it, which caused a few problems. Then a week later she was phoned up by her midwife and told that she had been given the wrong results! She was not happy, and changed surgery.

Nothing much happening here - I've been pretty moody and feeling a few cramps and twinges since yesterday which are scaring me a bit so have gone into knicker checking overdrive. Still worried about lack of morning sickness.
Is there anyone else here who hasn't had any vomiting in this pregnancy? I get bouts of nausea and retching, but don't actually vomit.

Hope you're all well and are enjoying the brilliant weather!

dooscooby · 03/06/2011 12:37

Yes, good luck irene x

dooscooby · 03/06/2011 12:36

Hi everyone
Glad to hear about the good scans for lucky and lily.
Sorry to hear about your experience this morn collie, I hope that you're feeling better now. Do you think you had eaten enough, the amount I have to put away at the moment to keep even basic energy levels up is scary. Although as the others have said, I have read about people fainting a lot particularly in 2/3rd trimesters and the doctors not really being concerned about it at all! Good choice to head home and rest.

Can I ask a couple of basic questions? These bump bandeau things, are they just stretchy Lycra that you put over your existing trousers to keep them up? Some of them say they they connect to your buttons but I wondered how that worked and if other people liked them?

Second question is whether people tell their travel insurance people that they are preg before traveling? I've checked the policy and it doesn't say that pregnant women are or aren't covered, it's not listed in the exclusions so I guess I would be covered if I need treatment (god forbid!).

Your boss sounds an idiot Lara' poor you. I haven't told mine yet as it's too early, but I'll have to do it in another month I reckon and I'm not sure how he'll take it either. When I told him I was getting married he said with a serious face 'i seriously don't know why anyone would want to get married'- he's divorced twice so I supposed that's affected his views, but still!

hairy hope that you're feeling a bit better than at the start of the week? I am, although had to have another cry on DH this morn. He made laugh, said I was like a weather front these days and when the storm was coming he knew he needed to ride it out and then feel the fresh calm weather afterwards! So true.

Finally, just wanted to say that we'll continue to think of you in the days and weeks to come dachs x

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CollieandPup · 03/06/2011 11:46

Thanks for the reassurances everyone. I'm actually reall tired but other than that i feel ok so i'm not overly worried - not enough to ring mw. I'm seeing her on weds anyway so i'll just double check then. Think if i didn't have the doppler i might have rang for reassurance though. Glad to hear that dizziness and fainting is not uncommon (although not gald to hear you've felt that way obv).

lucky no we didn't get the +2, I'm going from a diddy 2 seater so its a big enough jump size wise for now. I like the fact that in size its somewhere between a normal family car and a proper 4x4.

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CollieandPup · 03/06/2011 11:42

Good luck irene today

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CollieandPup · 03/06/2011 11:42

Just adding my next scan too, and just a bit of updating.

Friday 3rd June

ALovelyBunchOfCoconuts 22+6 EDD 01/10/11
Lovemysleep 21+3 EDD 11/10/11
Tunnocksteacake 19+5 EDD 24/10/11
IreneHeron 19+3 EDD 23/10/11 next scan 3/6/11
CEP 17+6 EDD 5/11/11 - 20 wk scan 22/6/11
Hils74 17+2 EDD 8/11/11
Katherine2008 17+1 EDD 10/11/11 next scan 23/6/11
Haffertee 16+6 EDD 14/11/11
Ninunina: 16+3 EDD 15/11/11
delilahbelle 16+1 EDD 22/11/11
Mattsmama 16+1 EDD 17/11/11
CollieandPup 15+5 EDD 20/11/11 next scan 06/20/11
Banana87 15+3 EDD 22/11/11
wombatinwaiting: 15+1 EDD 24/11/11 next scan 8/6/11
LaraMi 15+0 EDD 25/11/11 Next scan 20/07/11
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy 14+4 EDD 26/11/11
Blackkat 13+4 EDD 5/12/11
Jigglebum 13+1 EDD 8/12/11
Lucky 11+4
Dooscooby 11+1 EDD 22/12/11 next scan 9/6/11
Harassed 10+4 EDD 26/12/11 next scan 10/6/11
Hadrian 10+1 Next scan - 13/06/11
Updiffed 8+6 Next scan - 8/06/11
Bump 7+6
Hairylights 7+4
Lily06 7+0
Pigletmania 6+5
Laylasmummy09 6+5

On the grads thread too:

Nickster 30+6 EDD 7/8/11
Orange 26+6 EDD 4/9/11
Wombat33 25+6 EDD 10/09/11
Daisybell 25+1 EDD 14/09/11
Pinkfondantfancy 23+5 EDD 25/09/11
Tiggersreturn (TTT) 23+3 EDD 26/09/11
mamapower 23+2 EDD 28/9/11
Emoo 22+1 EDD 7/10/11
Onions 19+4 EDD 24/10/11 Next Scan 07/06/11
Velvetcu 19+3 EDD 25/10/11 next scan 22/06/11
MummyAbroad 18+0 EDD 4/11/11

In our thoughts and prayers
Dachs whose beautiful little babies Alexander & Felicia left this world sleeping

Thinking of.... ladybee; digi; A&R; barbie; MumTum; Knitter, Kat2504

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harassedinherpants · 03/06/2011 11:27

Just adding in my scan date:

Friday 3rd June

ALovelyBunchOfCoconuts 22+6 EDD 01/10/11
Lovemysleep 21+3 EDD 11/10/11
Tunnocksteacake 19+5 EDD 24/10/11
IreneHeron 19+3 EDD 23/10/11 next scan 3/6/11
CEP 17+6 EDD 5/11/11 - 20 wk scan 22/6/11
Hils74 17+2 EDD 8/11/11
Katherine2008 17+1 EDD 10/11/11 next scan 23/6/11
Haffertee 16+6 EDD 14/11/11
Ninunina: 16+3 EDD 15/11/11
delilahbelle 16+1 EDD 22/11/11
Mattsmama 16+1 EDD 17/11/11
Collie 15+5 EDD 20/11/11
Banana87 15+3 EDD 22/11/11
wombatinwaiting: 15+1 EDD 24/11/11 next scan 8/6/11
LaraMi 15+0 EDD 25/11/11 Next scan 20/07/11
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy 14+4 EDD 26/11/11
Blackkat 13+4 EDD 5/12/11
Jigglebum 13+1 EDD 8/12/11
Lucky 11+4
Dooscooby 11+1 EDD 22/12/11 next scan 9/6/11
Harassed 10+4 EDD 26/12/11 next scan 10/6/11
Hadrian 10+1 Next scan - 13/06/11
Updiffed 8+6 Next scan - 8/06/11
Bump 7+6
Hairylights 7+4
Lily06 7+0 Next scan - 02/06/11
Pigletmania 6+5
Laylasmummy09 6+5

On the grads thread too:

Nickster 30+6 EDD 7/8/11
Orange 26+6 EDD 4/9/11
Wombat33 25+6 EDD 10/09/11
Daisybell 25+1 EDD 14/09/11
Pinkfondantfancy 23+5 EDD 25/09/11
Tiggersreturn (TTT) 23+3 EDD 26/09/11
mamapower 23+2 EDD 28/9/11
Emoo 22+1 EDD 7/10/11
Onions 19+4 EDD 24/10/11 Next Scan 07/06/11
Velvetcu 19+3 EDD 25/10/11 next scan 22/06/11
MummyAbroad 18+0 EDD 4/11/11

In our thoughts and prayers
Dachs whose beautiful little babies Alexander & Felicia left this world sleeping

Thinking of.... ladybee; digi; A&R; barbie; MumTum; Knitter, Kat2504

starkadder · 03/06/2011 11:19

Dachs - absolutely beautiful reading. I think I will be thinking of your babies too when I see those things.

LaraMi · 03/06/2011 10:46

Friday 3rd June

ALovelyBunchOfCoconuts 22+6 EDD 01/10/11
Lovemysleep 21+3 EDD 11/10/11
Tunnocksteacake 19+5 EDD 24/10/11
IreneHeron 19+3 EDD 23/10/11 next scan 3/6/11
CEP 17+6 EDD 5/11/11 - 20 wk scan 22/6/11
Hils74 17+2 EDD 8/11/11
Katherine2008 17+1 EDD 10/11/11 next scan 23/6/11
Haffertee 16+6 EDD 14/11/11
Ninunina: 16+3 EDD 15/11/11
delilahbelle 16+1 EDD 22/11/11
Mattsmama 16+1 EDD 17/11/11
Collie 15+5 EDD 20/11/11
Banana87 15+3 EDD 22/11/11
wombatinwaiting: 15+1 EDD 24/11/11 next scan 8/6/11
LaraMi 15+0 EDD 25/11/11 Next scan 20/07/11
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy 14+4 EDD 26/11/11
Blackkat 13+4 EDD 5/12/11
Jigglebum 13+1 EDD 8/12/11
Lucky 11+4
Dooscooby 11+1 EDD 22/12/11 next scan 9/6/11
Harassed 10+4 EDD 26/12/11
Hadrian 10+1 Next scan - 13/06/11
Updiffed 8+6 Next scan - 8/06/11
Bump 7+6
Hairylights 7+4
Lily06 7+0 Next scan - 02/06/11
Pigletmania 6+5
Laylasmummy09 6+5

On the grads thread too:

Nickster 30+6 EDD 7/8/11
Orange 26+6 EDD 4/9/11
Wombat33 25+6 EDD 10/09/11
Daisybell 25+1 EDD 14/09/11
Pinkfondantfancy 23+5 EDD 25/09/11
Tiggersreturn (TTT) 23+3 EDD 26/09/11
mamapower 23+2 EDD 28/9/11
Emoo 22+1 EDD 7/10/11
Onions 19+4 EDD 24/10/11 Next Scan 07/06/11
Velvetcu 19+3 EDD 25/10/11 next scan 22/06/11
MummyAbroad 18+0 EDD 4/11/11

In our thoughts and prayers
Dachs whose beautiful little babies Alexander & Felicia left this world sleeping

Thinking of.... ladybee; digi; A&R; barbie; MumTum; Knitter, Kat2504

luckyfor2 · 03/06/2011 09:56

Dachs your song choices and reading were so beautiful and perfect xx

Collie I think you're definately better off at home for today but I think fainting in pregnancy at any stage is quite normal. I know I had quite a few dizzy spells with DD1 and DD2 - feels strange though doesn't it and totally knocks you off track. I agree with Harrassed if you're worried at all ring your mw. Hope you feel better soon. Did you get the qashqai or the qashqui +2 - we got the +2 as but mainly use it with the back seats up at the moment.

harassedinherpants · 03/06/2011 09:44

Dachs The reading and music are beautiful. You have been constantly in my thoughts x

Velvet mine was spd and that was bad enough, can't imagine what pgp is like! Please do consider seeing a chiro, it's made such a difference to me over the years..... and rest lots. I'm assuming the do's & don'ts are very similar to spd.

Lucky great news on your scan!

Collie hope you're feeling a bit better now. Maybe you just did a bit too much or it was warmer than normal in this lovely weather. If it sets your mind at rest though, then give your mw a ring. That's what she's there for. I def agree with the gym and dh.... you're in the best place today. Btw I fainted with both ds's...... in the middle of town. That was very embarassing!!!

All fine here, just feeling very sick today again. I'm ok first thing in the morning, and then it hits about 45mins after I get out of bed!

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CollieandPup · 03/06/2011 09:18

velvet i also meant to post about your hip. I do remember you mentioning it and thought it sounded terrible. I can't believe the list of don'ts you've been given. As you say, thats just living. I understand your feeling of wanting to stay independent and not wanting to be one of those pg women who can't lift a finger, but you really should take it easy - i think a full day of cleaning and tyding might be pushing the boundaries of what is good for you. I completely understand how frustrating it must be, but you have got a lot more weeks ahead of you yet, and i suspect the more you push yourself now, the worse it will become later.

Can't say i like the idea of a walking stick, but perhaps the belt might help and is more discrete? Have you thougt about seeing a chiropractor for a second opinion/to see if they can help? My DH has had a bad back for years and on the recommendation of a colleague has been seeing one now twice a week for about 6 weeks and feels like a new man.

Take care sweet.

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CollieandPup · 03/06/2011 09:03

Dachs thinking of you still x

lily Poor you, your experience sounds awful and terribly stressful, but YAY for great outcome at the end. How are you feeling today?

lucky yay for the great scan for you too. by the way it was me with the qashqai, glad to hear you love yours!

blackkat your bat ordeal made me giggle, especially the midnight dash to mums and dads Smile Think i'd have reacted exactly the same though - probably would have locked myself in the spare room - bean or no bean!

yrmotb how are you feeling today?

wiw glad you're happy with your decision to go with horrid experience hospital, lets hope this time its only happy memories.

V jealous of Dubai meet up - Do the rest of you Northerners want re-ignite the northern meet up idea? Or are blackkat and i flogging a dead horse?? Grin

Well I've had an interesting morning. On a training day today that starts a bit later than normal so took myself off to the gym for a pre-wrok swim. Ended up having a dizzy spell and nearly fainting. They wouldn't let me drive home so DH had to collect me, who then wouldn't let me get the train to work. So i'm at home on the sofa, feeling rather Blush about it all. Still do feel a little hot a flustered. Had the doppler out and hb seems fine - does everyone think i should be fine? Need checking out?

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wombatinwaiting · 03/06/2011 08:09

Thanks for the tips on ob/gyn choices ladies - I think I'm going to go with her temp recommendation even though it's at the horrid experience hospital as 3 lots of friends really endorse her despite the hospital. The other recommendation I had was for an awful Russian woman ob/gyn who was extremely rough when inserting my IUS and cut the strings way too short which meant extraction was that much more difficult - definitely won't be going with her!

Lara - thanks for offer of bringing stuff over - I'm actually heading back to the UK myself mid July so will pick up some bits and pieces then. Would love to catch up though, so let's PM!

wombatinwaiting · 03/06/2011 08:06

What beautiful choices dachs. I do hope that you and Mrdachs found comfort in what must have been a heartwrenching day - still thinking of you lots.

mamarara · 02/06/2011 23:06

Oh dachs xxx

pigletmania · 02/06/2011 20:53

Oh dachs I just don't know what to say, heartbreaking. You all in my thoughts and prayers. The pieces sound really beautiful and the reading too. Are you going on the holiday like you planned, it sounds nice to get away for a bit.

lily phew that was lucky, very stressful for you but a good outcome.

hairylights · 02/06/2011 20:50

(((((Dachs))))))

SadlyNoLongerDiffedDachs · 02/06/2011 20:47

Thanks for the support today

Details: The reading I have copied below. The music was the Aled Jones version of You Raise Me Up, the Glenn Close and Phil Collins version of You'll Be In My Heart, the love theme from the ballet of Romeo and Juliet and the Moonlight Sonata

Do not stand at our grave and weep
We are not there. We do not sleep.
We are a thousand winds that blow.
We are the diamond glints on snow.
We are the sunlight on ripened grain.
We are the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush
We are the swift uplifting rush.
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
We are the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at our grave and cry;
We are not there. We did not die.

The ceremony was beautiful. The coffins were tiny and heartbreaking but the service was beautiful.

starkadder · 02/06/2011 20:41

Hi there - just came on to say to Dachs that I was thinking of you, your husband and your two babies today.

luckyfor2 · 02/06/2011 17:30

Hello everyone, I haven't been on her for a couple of weeks. Sickness and tiredness starting to pass and its been freaking me out big style but thankfully went for a scan today and everything was fine measuring 12 weeks so I guess its the time for symptoms to reduce. (but for what its worth I think they can start to reduce at around 9 weeks when placenta takes over)

I've been trying to keep reading the thread and to keep up but it really is just so fast on here. I can not believe the Bat IN YOUR HOUSE blackat that would totally freak me out and would definately have to move out until the area had been checked thoroughly (did bring a smile to my face though!)

Velvet I wish I had the urge to clean and tidy everything I used to be like that but since my mcs standards in our house have dropped and the ironing definately needs a good looking at! Sorry about your hips though that sounds nasty.

Don't know who was talking about the car but I have a qashqai and its fabulous good move.

Well done to everyone who have had good scans Smile

I will definately try better to keep up with the thread.

Velvetcu · 02/06/2011 17:30

lily I'm glad the scan was good eventually but I'm sorry it was so stressful. My pre-12 week ones were all fanjocam too.

harasssed it isnt spd because that's only at the front it's now called pgp but essentially its the same and yes that's what I have. Physio was concerned that I have it this bad this early but also just told me to buy suppport belt, use crutches, do exercises etc. She also gave me a long list of things I'm not allowed to do - reach up, reach down, stand, sit, lay down, walk. I don't know how I'm supposed to live. I feel so pathetic but it really hurts! I didn't want to be one of those weak and feeble pg women :(

Irene very exciting about scan tomorrow - good luck :) I'm a bit annoyed that mine isnt til 22 weeks but nevermind. Happy anniversary for tomorrow too.

IreneHeron · 02/06/2011 17:16

Dachs and MrDachs you've been in my thoughts today.

Lily good news on the scan and little heart-beating bean. Hope your head feels better soon.

Blackkat that happened to me once when I was a teenager. I felt what I thought was a big moth brush over my face when I was in bed. Put the light on to find a bat on my pillow. I quite like bats though so I didn't really mind. Me and my Mum shooed it out by waving it to one side of the house and opening all the windows on that side and closing the doors to our rooms. It must have got out.

I'm on a countdown to my anomaly scan tomorrow. Hopefully all will be ok and we'll also find out the sex Grin. I'm feeling kicks quite regularly now. I hope it is all ok because it is our 5 yr wedding anniversary tomorrow and I want to be able to remember it for good reasons.

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