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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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isn't it annoying?

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Bexamundo · 15/04/2011 22:26

There's only one question on my mind: Am I pregnant? Did it happen this time? But no-one can tell me! Am only 5dpo so def no way of telling. Sitting symptom spotting and troughing down mini eggs thinking, could be pg/likely to be pms. Not even like I expect anyone to be able to give any advice or look into crystal balls...just wanted to say on here, I find it quite annoying. Roll on next week...

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Bexamundo · 14/05/2011 17:18

Oh was trying to be clever and subtle but it didn't work!
Wink

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Bexamundo · 14/05/2011 17:17

[Wink]

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Bexamundo · 14/05/2011 17:17

;) :-)

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Bexamundo · 14/05/2011 15:00

He's agreed to have a bath together too :)

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eurochick · 14/05/2011 13:39

That sounds like a good tactic!

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Bexamundo · 14/05/2011 11:19

Sometimes me initiating makes him more anxious, he avoids me it acts like he doesn't realise it's what I'm doing..I.feel rejected and it makes me not want to.
Have decided I am going to go out tonight and buy a bottle of rose sparkling wine, put on nice undies and make it up to him ;)

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eurochick · 14/05/2011 11:13

How rubbish!

My hubby has a lowish libido but is almost always up for it as long as I initiate.

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Bexamundo · 14/05/2011 10:48

Got a letter through saying he's on a waiting list but it's v long cos he's been referred for psycho-sexual counselling :s. Been a couple of months so far...

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eurochick · 14/05/2011 10:40

Oh that sounds awful, Bex. It must make TTC so much more stressful. When will his counselling start?

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Bexamundo · 14/05/2011 10:04

Oops so he woke up and we had the same row we have most months about ttc/having enough sex and concluded we have no idea how to change things other than wait for his counselling.
Big apologies this morning. Never imagined ttc/?infertility would create this much strain.:(
Ah well, decorating the nursery spare room today so we'll pull together for that. He was a man on mission first thing!

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Bexamundo · 13/05/2011 22:53

Remember short cycles means more af!
No sex tonight here Dh has git pissed and fallen asleep in from of tv. Am pissed off! Just a typical Friday night in our house. I think sex has become such an issue there's an element of choice to his decision....suggested at start watching a film at 9. I said "you'll fall asleep before the end" bit he went ahead!
I find it so hard not to think it's about him not wanting me...his words say no bit sometimes his actions say otherwise...roll on his counselling to get to the root of the problem so he'll stop hiding behind the booze. Sorry am rambling and emotional have run out of magnesium my hormones are all over the shop! Think I need to go to bed. Enjoy your weekend with dp back home :)

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PatientGriselda · 13/05/2011 22:16

I am so envious of your cycles! I am probably still working up to ovulation!

DP home now. Sadly, I cooked such a huge welcome home dinner that the thought of sex is making me feel ill!

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Bexamundo · 13/05/2011 19:22

Ow my boobs are sore. Still working with reverse psychology. Had all the symptoms before so still telling my body I don't believe it. This time I'm not testing until I'm late, I'm cynical about FF too! Figure if I'm right, it's no false hope. If I do by some miracle get a bfp, I will be surprised but happy!

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Bexamundo · 12/05/2011 18:11

Dh not too bad tonight. We talked about the elephant in room (his performance issues) so it doesn't linger on for ages. No dtd since though!
Gained 8lb on holiday :s thinking about going to fat club tonight. Feel rubbish. Went back to gym tonight cos cold is on it's way out.

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PatientGriselda · 12/05/2011 10:54

DP home tomorrow! Am trying robitussin this cycle, starting this morning. Tastes rank, but never mind. I shall see if it has any noticeable effect on my cm at all! How is your DH, Bex? Is he still really stressed?

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Bexamundo · 11/05/2011 18:44

Much like your 'just before meeting specialist' ironic bfp. Excellent, I like it! Dizzy what about you?

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PatientGriselda · 11/05/2011 17:59

Well that sounds to me exactly like the sort of cycle for an unexpected bfp! You know, the "oh we only did it once that month as I had flu so didn't expect it at all" sort of thing.

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Bexamundo · 11/05/2011 17:53

Feeling very cynical tonight. Only dtd 4 times between af and ??ovulation. Didn't do it before, did it on the day and the day after. Suspect that's too late. If I did even ovulate. Consequently am mardy with Dh for only performing 4 times not every other day as promised. Know I am being unreasonable- not easy for him, best he could manage and we were on holiday but still. Words of encouragement please?!

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Bexamundo · 10/05/2011 23:21

Sorry rant over. He tried v hard when he got home to be positive and proactive. No swi though! Think my fertile phase is over anyway. Trying not to carried away this time...

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Bexamundo · 10/05/2011 17:08

Ah booo! I spoke to him before he left work, complaining about aching all over.
His depression is so linked to his work, I think whenever he's at work he won't want to have sex. So unless I ovulate on a weekend, no babies!!

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PatientGriselda · 10/05/2011 16:54

Oh no! Hope he is feeling less stressed now, at any rate (even if you didn't get your shag).

I've gone mad and bought some robitussin, to see what effect it might have on my cm! Am going to start taking it tomorrow, three days before DP gets back.

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Bexamundo · 09/05/2011 22:35

Hmm not like you can surprise him.with a saucy visit then, is it?
Lured Dh to bed but he is stressed so we ended up just talking.

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PatientGriselda · 09/05/2011 13:23

Yes, in Scotland till Friday (we live in London). So fed up about it. But I haven't seen any actual ewcm myself yet, so hopefully we're not missing anything!

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Bexamundo · 09/05/2011 12:47

Yes tis already confused cos now I've started with ewcm! Gone from definite to spotted line. Will lure Dh to bed tonight anyway!
Is dp far any from home?

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PatientGriselda · 09/05/2011 06:46

Eek! But I'm sure it will change its mind again tomorrow!

Chatted to DP by phone last night and really had to struggle to have a normal conversation and not spend the whole time howling "I want a baby! I want one! Come back from your work trip and have sex with me right now, just in case!".