Freak out room for those newly updiffed after mc - Part V

Oops - sorry, forgot the "thinking of section" at the bottom. Sorry Ladies... See, told you I am new to this! Thanks for adding Izzy.

You have nothing to worry about, am sure, Izzy - at least you will be closer to 12 weeks when you have your scan whereas anything could have happened to my bean in the meantime.

Just re-posting as we'd lost the "thinking of" section

lara I agree, we need some more people to add themselves, it's scary being so near the bottom.

Btw if it helps I'm kind of feeling the opposite about scans - why haven't I had one already instead of being so restrained and waiting for 8 weeks?! What if I've spent all this time thinking I'm diffed and then I go next Tuesday and there's nothing there?!

FRIDAY'S LIST

Nickster 23+5 EDD 7/8/11
Orange 19+5 EDD 4/9/11 next scan 20/4/11
Wombat33 18+6 EDD 10/09/11 next scan 27/4/11
Daisybell 18+1 EDD 14/09/11
Pinkfondantfancy 16+4 EDD 25/09/11
Tiggersreturn (TTT) 16+3 EDD 26/09/11 next scan 10/5/11
mamapower 16+2 EDD 28/9/11
DoubleDiffedDachs 15+2 EDD 5/10/11 next scan 18/5/11
Emoo 15+0 EDD 7/10/11 next scan 19/5/11
Lovemysleep 14+3 EDD 11/10/11
Tunnocksteacake 12+4 EDD 24/10/11 next scan 20/04/11
Onions 12+1 EDD 27/10/11 First Scan 20/04/11!
Velvetcu 12+0 EDD 30/10/11
IreneHeron 11+4 EDD 26/10/11
MummyAbroad 11+0 EDD 4/11/11
CEP 10+6 EDD 5/11/11
Hils74 10+2 EDD 8/11/11
Katherine2008 10+0 EDD 11/11/11 next scan 3/5/11
Haffertee 9+5 EDD 14/11/11
delilahbelle 9+1 EDD 22/11/11
Mattsmama 9+1 EDD 17/11/11
Ninunina: 8+4 EDD 21/11/11 next scan 12/5/2011
wombatinwaiting: 8+1 EDD 26/11/11 first scan on 17/04/11
Collie 8+0 EDD 25/11/11
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy 7+6 EDD 26/11/11 first scan 19/4/11
LaraMi 7+0 EDD 2/12/11 Next scan - 18/05/11

Thinking of.... hairy; ladybee; digi; A&R; barbie; harassed; MumTum; Knitter

Thought I'd better pull my weight and do this today... I hope there aren't any inaccuracies... Kat - when are you putting yourself on there - I need to move up this list!

FRIDAY'S LIST

Nickster 23+5 EDD 7/8/11
Orange 19+5 EDD 4/9/11 next scan 20/4/11
Wombat33 18+6 EDD 10/09/11 next scan 27/4/11
Daisybell 18+1 EDD 14/09/11
Pinkfondantfancy 16+4 EDD 25/09/11
Tiggersreturn (TTT) 16+3 EDD 26/09/11 next scan 10/5/11
mamapower 16+2 EDD 28/9/11
DoubleDiffedDachs 15+2 EDD 5/10/11 next scan 18/5/11
Emoo 15+0 EDD 7/10/11 next scan 19/5/11
Lovemysleep 14+3 EDD 11/10/11
Tunnocksteacake 12+4 EDD 24/10/11 next scan 20/04/11
Onions 12+1 EDD 27/10/11 First Scan 20/04/11!
Velvetcu 12+0 EDD 30/10/11
IreneHeron 11+4 EDD 26/10/11
MummyAbroad 11+0 EDD 4/11/11
CEP 10+6 EDD 5/11/11
Hils74 10+2 EDD 8/11/11
Katherine2008 10+0 EDD 11/11/11 next scan 3/5/11
Haffertee 9+5 EDD 14/11/11
delilahbelle 9+1 EDD 22/11/11
Mattsmama 9+1 EDD 17/11/11
Ninunina: 8+4 EDD 21/11/11 next scan 12/5/2011
wombatinwaiting: 8+1 EDD 26/11/11 first scan on 17/04/11
Collie 8+0 EDD 25/11/11
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy 7+6 EDD 26/11/11 first scan 19/4/11
LaraMi 7+0 EDD 2/12/11 Next scan - 18/05/11

knitter i second what all these other lovely ladies have said after the journey you have had what a sad and unfair ending for you. I agree that given the same position i too would choose as you have done. I realise this is not much comfort but thoughts are with you ((((hugs))))

be kind to yourself hun x

Morning all. Absolutely knackered and feeling under the weather so I'm afraid I haven't read back but I though it might brighten your mornings to know that Brian was in spectacular form at my house this morning: I just went to the loo at work to find I have my trousers on backwards

Kat - to clarify, I haven't BEEN sick, just felt pukey, before and after eating all day yesterday and this morning. For the past couple of weeks though my loud, erm, burping has been getting steadily worse (of course I don't let rip in the office!!) I too am super worried that I should be feeling worse. Am 7 weeks today BTW. I have been wondering if I am only feeling sick because I am concentrating on whether I feel sick - i.e. if I forgot about it and went off and did stuff for a few hours, would I feel as pukey as I think I've been feeling (if you know what I mean)? Aside from that I am super tired, but again wonder as per the above - if I wasn't concentrating on feeling knackered, would I feel so tired?

All very confusing and I remain as neurotic as hell wishing I hadn't had my scan at 6 weeks but instead at 8 weeks. But then again I had to capture the moment while DH complied - had I left it another couple of weeks he might have changed his mind and then I'd not have had any scan at all!

Wowsas Dachs - that buggy really is the mother of all buggies. Almost Ferrari-like... I love the phrases they use on these sites (custom-built etc). Definitely trying to appeal to blokes. I have stipulated that when the time comes, money will be no object when it comes to buying the buggy as depending on which buggy you choose, every single journey outside the house will either be pure pleasure or sheer pain. Don't wait any longer Dachs - just buy it... you'll be cursing otherwise if you miss this batch of stock.

kat Prob non identical - they have their own sacs and placentas and given the difference in size they were when they started off it's highly likely that they are non id but there's a 0.1-0.5% chance that they could be identical.

I'm pretty sure at least one of them is a girl because although we couldn't get a really clear picture it did look to me like the 'hamburger' way they describe a girl looking, but the doc said that given that it wasn't clear all we could tell was that it wasn't definitely a boy, as it could just be too early to tell

So fingers crossed for next time!

We've decided to go for a side by side pram rather than the 'one on top of the other' option that lots of twin prams have these days. The Bugaboo Donkey, which is the one we're going to go for, is small enough as a side by side that it will fit through our front door and you get much better visibility of the babies than you do in the other type of pram. We played with loads of prams for ages yesterday before we made up our minds! Although we now have a dilemma because it's obviously far too early to order one as I'm only 15 weeks but given that they are a new model and selling out fast, I don't want to miss out on our opportunity to get one before the babies arrive and there was some talk on the internet that when the current supply runs out there won't be any more until September...

velvet everything crossed for you today

and yrmotb if i see a stork I'll grab it, put it in a box and make sure it gets couriered over to you asap...

dachs choosing pram sounds exciting, a twin pram must involve all sorts of complicated options. Hopefully next time you'll see the flavour. Do you know if they are identical or not? I'm assuming that they probably can't be if they are ivf babies. So there's an evens chance of one of each. I think that would be sooo nice. Although obviously whatever flavour doesn't matter one jot once they are here safe and sound.

Lara is this the first day you've had ms? I think you are two days ahead of me so there's hope for me yet! Hopefully you are just feeling pukey and not actually being sick!

Aw. Thanks guys. I really wish I was over here too. And I am being very patient

What I really came by for was to say good luck to velvet! 12 weeks. I can't believe it... Best of luck my lovely.

mamap I know I can't believe it's 12 weeks already!

I third the wish for yrmotb please please please

blackkat i hope everything goes well for you and you Dad today.

Lara glad you are pleased with your ms.

Pink have a good nap, try not to worry too much about upcoming scans. Does it ever end?

mamap Both babies are still there but being uncooperative about showing what flavour they are. Went to see my doc yesterday and he did a quick scan (they're getting so big now, they were all curled up and one of them looked like it was sucking its thumb... v. cute). V v tired, but prob not as tired as you! Your place looks great.

We made a momentous decision yesterday - we chose the pram we are going to get. Assuming everything goes ok.

I still have no bump, I just look like an enormous elephant. I wake up in the morning with a little but definite bump and by the time I've got up and brushed my teeth and left the hosue, the bump has disappeared! It's very annoying.

pink Hope you start feeling a bit better soon :)

yrmotb I am also making sure that no-one nicks your reserved bean bag, and we have special snacks saved for when you arrive.

Good luck to all scanners, and blackkat I hope it all goes ok today.

Morning Ladies - hope you're all well. A general feeling of pukiness kicked in yesterday and is prevailing this morning. Hoping it's MS as much as it makes me miserable to feel like this at work.

Good luck to scanners today.

Hope all's well with your Dad today Blackkat. Have you gone to the EPU yet? Wishing you lots of good news.

I second that wish for yrmotb - I'm still looking after her VIP beanbag here and it would be lovely to have her actually sat on it

velvet how quickly has your scan come round missus... Good luck

pink gorgeous twin been missing you buddy, hope you're ok??

dachs tigger how are you and you double trouble bundles?

Waves to the usual suspects mummy izzy owl nix wombat orange Emoo* love teacake onions and anyone I've missed!

Also, if the stork is listening I'd really like it if you could bless our pal yrmotb with a bean please, she's been v patient and it must be her turn by now?! Thank you

That makes sense wiw

How are you doing? Are you off work at the minute? Hope everythings going ok x

x-post pink - enjoy your dream-free (hopefully!) snooze

Thanks cep - keep us posted on what happens today - here's hoping you get a great scan today and can relax over the weekend.... did I just say relax? As if....! My scan is 10am my time / 7am your time - 47 hours away - not that I"m counting or anything

Sorry izzy - didn't make myself very clear - yes, I will def have the NT and bloods here to get the risk factor and then decide if we need to get on a plane or not. DH and I are still to decide what we consider a low enough risk to stay..... this is of course assuming all goes well at Sunday's 8 week-ish scan - feels like aaaaaages til 11 weeks.......

I need to learn your trick of waking myself up before the weirdness really kicks in....

hello all I've been lurking but too knackered to post :(

Good luck today velvet!

Best wishes to your dad today blackkat, glad the pink goo had buggered off.

CEP sorry things are still stressful :(

WIW weird dreams here too-think I've started worrying about the 20 week scan coming in a few weeks now....

Waves and hugs to all, I'm back off to bed now

wombatinwaiting your plan sounds a good one but wouldn't you have the NT and bloods in Dubai and only head to the uk if it was high risk? After all, if it comes back as a 1:10000 chance you surely wouldn't bother with cvs?

I can't help with the mad dreams as I usually have pretty mad dreams anyway so no change here! The one good thing is that I usually know it's a dream at the time and (rather bizarrely) I can usually wake myself up if I'm getting too freaked out!

ninu difficult decision re the NT scan; dh and I do have an agreed cut-off point for how far we would go with the testing route but I do believe that until you're in the position of having to make that decision you don't know how you will feel or what you will want to do. Very difficult if you think you may not agree on where to stop/what to do - maybe you need to sit down and talk this through a bit more before you make any decisions?

velvet good luck for today x

blackkat best wishes for your dad for today too x

blackkat hope everything goes well today keeping fx.

wiw she's booked me in for tuesday, but if there's a cancellation today she'll call me, but she won't know till 8:30. If it's today i'll have to go on my own as dh won't get there in time. I'm keeping fx for sunday for you, what time is your scan? I'm away sunday so unlikely to be able to get on and check till monday but will be thinking of you.

tunnocks hope you had a lovely evening.

Thinking of you today blackkat - hope you managed a good night's sleep and that you and the family are as prepared as you can be for today.

Hugs for cep - the stress and worry that come with a previous mc is very hard to ignore. When will you know when your next scan is?

mummya - I can fully understand your worries and your concern about getting the truth of the NT measurements from the docs is a valid one. Here in Dubai, they will do the bloods combined with the NT scan to get your risk factor and I know there are one or two places that do CVS. Termination is also illegal here so if we did the CVS here and it's not good news, we would be on a plane.... I am planning to see how Sunday's scan goes (should be 8+3) and if all is well, I will ask my ob/gyn about next steps and CVS. DH and I have already decided that if there is a hint that the CVS is not an oft-performed op here then we will head on a plane at 11 weeks to the UK to do the CVS wherever has the lowest risk for mc and then at least if it is bad news, we are also in a place where we could terminate if that's what we chose to do (and we think it is).... I don't know if this helps at all....

How did the honeymoon album go down with DH tunnocks? Hope you had a lovely evening and that he had some bubbles for the both of you!

Oh and in the latest installment of my weird dreams, last night's dream was about a big faffing around exercise to actually get the scan done (although I had snuck in early and performed dildocam by myself ) and then when the "proper" results came through, my ob/gyn wasn't available to talk me through them and it ended up being the MD and CFO at work and their wives talking me through them...! They were being all factual and couldn't understand at all why I was still upset that there was a 10% chance of mc and thought I was completely over-reacting.... it was weird!

Blackkat I hope you are feeling better now, good luck for your Dad for tomorrow.

blackkat sounds like you've had a hell of a day, hope you're getting some rest and an early night. Hope everythings calmed down tomorrow and that your dad's all right xx

Typing on bberry so excuse typos and incorrect formatting. Blackkat - do me a favour and get yourself an earrly night. You've had a stressful enough day and need to relax. Nothing will be as bad after a good sleep. Thinking of u and hope ur dad's ok. Xx

Sorry for my selfish posts earlier on, home in the green countryside and consequently feel much calmer ( I don't know how I lived in london for 6 years or how pregnant women manage it every day, I am in awe of all you city-dwellers ) ( thought I can see some benefits, 24hour walk in EPU!) No more pink goo, just back to (TMI, sorry) creamy eeugh

Thanks to you all for advice and support, really must try not to mental so much, and think will need to confide in boss as have several of these trips to do before I'm at 12 weeks and don't think I'll cope so well. So may have to plead to be let off.

(((hugs))) to all those feeling unsettled and wibbly today (so that's everyone) but particularly lara, mummya, Izzy and Cep

Good luck for your scan tomorrow velvet

mattsmama hope you're feeling better soon

Ninu let us know what you decide, I've not told anyone yet, apart from the dentist who tried to Xray me!

Off to parents in a bit to stay over as Dad has to be in hospital early doors, they still don't know and I'm having awful thoughts that I should've told them incase something terrible happens tomorrow.