Page 35 | Freak out room for those newly updiffed after mc - Part V

MummyAbroad · 2011-04-13T12:29:42+00:00

Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage? There is plenty of support, hand holding and problem-shared-problem-halved going on over here. All welcome to join in.

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MummyAbroad · 16/04/2011 13:37

SATURDAY'S LIST

Nickster 23+6 EDD 7/8/11
Orange 19+6 EDD 4/9/11 next scan 20/4/11
Wombat33 19+0 EDD 10/09/11 next scan 27/4/11
Daisybell 18+2 EDD 14/09/11
Pinkfondantfancy 16+5 EDD 25/09/11
Tiggersreturn (TTT) 16+4 EDD 26/09/11 next scan 10/5/11
mamapower 16+3 EDD 28/9/11
DoubleDiffedDachs 15+3 EDD 5/10/11 next scan 18/5/11
Emoo 15+1 EDD 7/10/11 next scan 19/5/11
Lovemysleep 14+4 EDD 11/10/11
Tunnocksteacake 12+5 EDD 24/10/11 next scan 20/04/11
Onions 12+2 EDD 27/10/11 First Scan 20/04/11!
Velvetcu 12+1 EDD 30/10/11
IreneHeron 11+5 EDD 26/10/11
MummyAbroad 11+1 EDD 4/11/11 nuchal 25/4/11
CEP 11+0 EDD 5/11/11
Hils74 10+3 EDD 8/11/11
Katherine2008 10+1 EDD 11/11/11 next scan 3/5/11
Haffertee 9+6 EDD 14/11/11
delilahbelle 9+2 EDD 22/11/11
Mattsmama 9+2 EDD 17/11/11
Ninunina: 8+5 EDD 21/11/11 next scan 12/5/2011
wombatinwaiting: 8+2 EDD 26/11/11 first scan on 17/04/11
Collie 8+1 EDD 25/11/11
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy 8+0 EDD 26/11/11 first scan 19/4/11
Banana87 7+4 EDD 29/11/11
LaraMi 7+1 EDD 2/12/11 Next scan - 18/05/11

Thinking of.... hairy; ladybee; digi; A&R; barbie; harassed; MumTum; Knitter

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MummyAbroad · 16/04/2011 13:32

Velvet at jinx pixicide. Love it!
Sorry for more birth talk but..

WIW home birth is illegal here! I looked into it last time and did find a private midwife who delivers at home and then takes you to the hospital and says the baby arrived on the way! Very scary option, and not one I would do this time. I have found a doctor who loves doing natural vaginal deliveries with low intervention rates - a miracle over here, but I am also trying to line up another one who normally does cesarians in case my pregnancy goes the high risk route (at the mo we dont know). In the private hospitals there cesarian rate is 90%! In the public hospitals (wouldnt dream of it, DH was ill in one for a long time and they are horrific) you are not allowed an epidural so most women go private if they can afford it and simply request a cesarian. I think my pregnancy will dictate vaginal/cesarian. If the placental attachment looks dodgey in any way then I wouldnt want to risk retained placenta again with vaginal deliver (as much as I am a fan!)

By the way, anyone considering home birth/labouring at home as long as poss, I really recommend reading Ina May Gaskin's book called Guide to childbirth. Its a bit hippy in places, but the best thing for psyching you into the whole idea and removing fear. (It might make you fear hospitals a bit more though!)

teacake can I ask what make your doppler is? Just curious hope those pains disappear sharpish.

I have discovered that nowhere in Costa Rica does CVS or even the bloods Going to have my nuchal after easter and hope that there is a really low definitive looking number, meanwhile I am going to check out places in Miami, but so far all I can find online are information about abortion clinics

I am having nightmares every night now, and last night was sort of mc related. I guess there must be a lot of unprocessed trauma buried in my subconscious that wants to sort itself out!

hope the sun is shining for you over there, love
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nickstermum · 16/04/2011 12:08

YEY for the doppler fix teacake. I am getting booted all day every day now... thankfully not just nocturnal :)

Re pillows i have the cheesewedge, the full body size and the breastfeeding pillow and its just not enough... i need one to stop me sleeping on my back... keep waking up flat on back i really need another full body size one, but its storing them thats the problem.

owls i so hope you get your homebirth x i am going to try and stay at home hypnobirthing for much longer this time, and hope i dont get the jammed cervix like last time.. DS paved the way, so hopefully this one should be easier.

Gorgeous weather today, hope everyone is enjoying it x

mattsmama · 16/04/2011 11:59

tunnocks that doppler is worth it's weight in gold already then eh? I keep having bad dreams too - wish they'd bugger off!

As for coincidences with dates etc my EDD is 17/11/11 which is the date of my first MC - strange or what?

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owlbooty · 16/04/2011 11:22

Dachs sounds like a fab idea; now is the time to treat yourself :) I'm having a pregnancy massage next week as a treat as I have knackered myself gardening and working and suchlike.

Cep my 12 week scan was on my due date from the mc. Which obviously made me think it was all going to be bad news BUT - I think if you can flip that over in your head and look at it as a chance to lay that particular bad memory to rest by replacing it with the good memory that you are going to get of seeing the bean dancing around in there, it can actually be a good thing if you see what I mean.

Nix I'm about 8 minutes' drive on blue lights from a regional teaching hospital full of super medical experts which is a lovely position to be in re. homebirth - poor you with DS though, that must have been terrifying. No wonder you're not chancing it. If I think there's even a hint something might be not going to plan I'll be in the hospital like a shot.

Velvetcu · 16/04/2011 10:04

Blackkat I'm glad you at least managed to get lots of sleep yesterday and that your dads op went well. Your relatives are really out of order! Get yourself on the list too - it is scary but it's lovely to see the days/weeks passing by.

Dachs yay for haircut - I get mine cut whenever I feel really miserable!

cep of course you will be mentalling over the scan, all the more so because of the date it falls on but I have sprayed jinx pixicide everywhere and I think I've killed all the little buggers so they wont be bothering you

You lots are scaring me with all this talk of births!! I'm only just beginning to believe I'm actually pg let alone that I'm going to be squeezing it out in 6 months!

mattmama I haven't looked at any baby stuff either. DH asked yesterday when we are "allowed" to start buying stuff. Made be chuckle but also a little bit sad.

I'm off to my sisters in a bit to get her V shaped pillows - my back, hips and knees are killing me! I thought that was just a late pg thing. Have a good Saturday all.

DoubleDiffedDachs · 16/04/2011 08:29

nina I now have visions of the streets of Richmond being completely filled with mums pushing Bugaboos! The pram shopping wasn't really that brave, I just thought it was going to be a very long time consuming decision so wanted to start a lot earlier than I thought I 'needed' to. Turns out the decision was comparatively easy and now I have a whole different dilemma. Although I think we're going to order one today to make sure we get one.

Am off out to the hairdressers this morning to have my hair cut for the fits time since the mc last year. My hair is now totally scruffy and very out of control and I'm ridiculously happy that I'm having it cut again at last. After the mc was so obsessed with getting pg again and all the IVF stuff there didn't seem to be any time or reason to do stuff for me and getting my hair done seemed v low on the priority list.

mattsmama · 16/04/2011 08:23

velvet great scan news - lovely and reassuring

blackkat your relatives really do take the biscuit don't they?! However it's good to read your dad's op went well

I now have a craving for Double Deckers - haven't had one of them for ages!

Wombat the John Lewis baby list is a great idea. Didn't know they did that. However I am nowhere near even LOOKING at baby things. Even though I have had two good scans there is something inside my head which is making me sort of step back a bit (IFYKWIM). Can't explain it - definitely some sort of defence mechanism ticking away somewhere in there.

Hello everyone else and have a great weekend

Ninunina · 16/04/2011 08:17

velvet great to hear your scan went well. It must be such a relief.

cep I'm sure everything will be fine on Tuesday Fx. Is ds not sleeping again?

blackkat glad to here your dad's op went well. Hope he's on the road to recovery.

dachs I think I want twins just to have a donkey. You'll be the centre of attention pushing 2 bouncing babies in a stylish pram like that. Even though every mum in Richmond has a bugaboo, I still think they're the nicest prams around. I can't wait to be brave enough to start shopping for a pram.

izzy you're right about DH and I needing to agree with when to stop testing. I think we'll do scan and bloods, but will only test further if risk is really high. I would rather know so we could prepare ourselves. I have a big support network back home, so if we got the news that it was ds, I know we could handle it.

I'm so scared though. I really admire knitter for thinking about this so logically. I'm pleased she knows she made the right choice for her. Now I just want life to be kind to her.

wombatinwaiting · 16/04/2011 07:06

Wonderful news velvet - sounds like you have a right wriggler there!

Sorry that your scan didn't happen yesterday cep and that Tuesday's date is a worrying one for you..... as you say pure coincidence and remember that we don't have jinx pixies on this thread.

No such thing as homebirth here unfortunately so at least I don't have that conundrum. What about you mummya?

blackkat - glad to hear things are going well for your dad. Grrrr at your relatives - hope you can put that to the back of your mind for the moment and not let it spoil things for you (I can see how it could though)

How are my triplet due daters collie and izzy getting on? 24 hours til my scan - eeeek!

cep · 15/04/2011 21:48

oh and advance warning, i think i'll be mentaling before my scan on tuesday as i was 11+3 last time when i found out the bad news and i'll be 11+3 on tuesday for this scan. keep chanting

cep · 15/04/2011 21:44

yay for velvet great news.

blackkat so glad it went well with your dad and no more pink goo.

nickstermum · 15/04/2011 20:24

YEY for velvet.

Hmm homebirth.... i would love to be that brave. Hope you all get what you wish for :)

Not wishing to put a neggy slant on anything at all, please give huuuuuge consideration to long distances from hospital, and what could potentially happen in the event of complication, ie needing to get to hospital quickly. My first birth was pretty horrific, i fall into 'that statistic' of epidural & assisted delivery/interventions..but not for the reasons you would think. Had we not been at hospital for the delivery, DS wouldnt have survived as he needed immediate medical intervention and 7 day intensive care, he was born at 40+6 with a collapsed lung. I stayed at home for as long as i could throughout the labour, but to this day i am so grateful to have been in hospital.

I would love to have a home birth, but given that experience, i just couldnt, and DH wouldnt allow it anyway

You will hear about good and bad birthing experiences, home and hospital, and it is your own choice what you do...and for those of you having a home birth i sincerely hope you get everything you wish for and those beans pop out as easily as can be

I for one am going to try hypnobirthing this time.... but if its like my first labour i wont hesitate to go for an epidural

Blackkat · 15/04/2011 20:23

Evening ladies

Velvet fantastic news, so pleased that the scan went well

cep so sorry you're having such a tough time - have my FX for you on Tuesday

banana collie tunnocks sorry you feel so rotten

dachs I agree, order the pram and JL are good at hanging onto things until you really need them

owl PMSL at your storkpunching and fried egg planning antics, you really help me keep perspective!!

wombat was it your trousers that were back to front? That really made me chuckle!!

Lara glad you felt awful today, if the MS symptoms make it all feel real.

I really should think about adding myself to the list to make you and izz feel less lonesome there, but am a bit nervous as I haven't even plucked up the courage to ask for a scan or call the MW yet. Think I needed to get today out of the way first. Though I have absolutely the same fear as izzy that this is all in my mind. Fuckwit relative update too; Mum challenged them this week and they denied all and stupid, so even more nervous about ringing midwifery team.

Just home from the hospital, Dad's op went well and if the consultant is happy he can come home next week. So that's one hurdle done hopefully, and only the ongoing drugs and chemo to keep going back for.

Spent most of the day asleep at parents house and came close to telling my Mum, but figured she had enough on. Didn't go to EPU because as we went into the reception of the hospital first thing this morning I bumped into the nurse who had dealt with my miscarrige going into the EPU ward (Dad's ward is round the corner, nice!) and I couldn't bring myself then to go back. Pink goo only once and very little within cream goo today and have reassured myself that it's happened over the last two days bcs it's when I would've ovulated if I'd not been diffed. Early night tonight. Thanks all for your support and thoughts today. Very much appreciated. I am not normally such a mentalist, honest. xx Really want a glass of wine tonight!

Sorry for not namechecking everyone

katherine2008 · 15/04/2011 19:22

Just dashed on to say great news velvet xxxx

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MummyAbroad · 15/04/2011 17:29

Hello everyone, had a power cut here yesterday, and it looks like I have missed looooads... so much I want to catch up with. didnt get to do any doctor/test type research yesterday

Velvet hoooray!!! and thanks for mentioning what your doc said about very low nuchal result. I hope the same happens to me, nice to know that that alone can be enough to make a doctor relax about other tests.
re: protein, healthiest way is combining grains and beans (e.g kidney beans and rice or cuscus and chickpeas) Yummies way is with dairy products, cheese, milk, eggs, yoghurt etc.

sick club members wow there is so much sickness, hope you are all ok. I wont say "at least its reassuring" because you've been told that a million times already and probably just want to feel reassured AND not sick. Hope it eases as soon for you guys as it did for me (9 and half weeks)

dach well done on pram choice! I think that is the hardest bit of all and you have done it! We spent longer choosing prams than we did our car with DS! You wont regret buying a bugaboo either, they are fab. As has been said, jinx pixies dont exist and god forbid if you ever had to, you could sell it at the drop of a hat on ebay.

YRMOTB cant wait to have you over here as well. The whole freak out room will have a party in your honour when you come and join us officially. With lots of cake.

mamap go for the home birth! I wish I had done it, I went to a midwife led unit at 10cms dilated, would have been better if I had stayed home because there were no midwives there, only labour ward nurses and doctors. I got the nice room with a pool, but not a "midwife" birth, couldnt use pool, wanted me to labour on my back etc, kept pushing epidurals, wanted to give me episiotomy etc. With a home birth you get a proper midwife and much less chance of interventions.

right not got time to catch up as much as I would like, have a lovely Friday ladies! xxx

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owlbooty · 15/04/2011 17:22

Too much violence? I'll have you know that stork punching is the national sport of Belgium and I am just practicing for my hols in a couple of weeks' time.

Ace news velvet :)

I was actually planning on having a pool at my home for the homebirth. The cat will probably either a: puncture it b: sleep in it c:vomit on it or d: do all three so I won't be able to use it on the day. I should point out that I will probably be giving birth in front of a team of builders as we are trying to get a bunch of stuff sorted out and failing dismally. Oh and I am going to buy a pram as soon as bloody debenhams extra sort out their craptastic website.

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Youremindmeofthebabe · 15/04/2011 17:03

Huzzah velvet!

Loving the Stork punching

Wombat33 · 15/04/2011 16:41

Yey! Congrats on the scan Velvet!!

IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy · 15/04/2011 16:26

Hurray velvet !!! Great news!!

nickstermum · 15/04/2011 16:10

owl.........

DoubleDiffedDachs · 15/04/2011 16:02

velvet Yay for scan! :) Glad the little wriggler was so active

Nice to ahve some good news on here

larami I'll prob be having a planned cs with the twins, so it should hopefully be reasonably easy to organise the kennels around it. Not sure how we'd handle the dog situation if we had no idea of when the babies were going to arrive! :) The joys of being a dog owner... I wouldn't be without them though. I love my doggies.

LaraMi · 15/04/2011 15:52

Well done on scan, Velvet!