Freak out room for those newly updiffed after mc - Part V

scooby I'm pretty much the same, I should be really happy and excited after trying for ages to get pregnant. But I alternate between scared and denial. I think it is a defence mechanism. It's natural to be worried about having another mc, but remember the odds are vastly in your favour

teacake so pleased to hear your lovely scan news!

I'm starting to freak out here. 3 days till my early scan. Feels like a ticking timebomb at the moment. Boobs not sore, no being sick, although have felt a bit crap at times. Also have booking in tomorrow. On nicer news did the house move yesterday so that is one thing sorted!

Brilliant stuff tunnocks - well done!

dooscooby - I think we all react to our BFP in very different ways. After a mmc in December I have been worried the whole way though and have already had two scans to settle my nerves! Best advice - try to enjoy it all but don't beat yourself up if you feel a little scared. Everyone is here to help and there are always lots of cake and the occasional breakfast treat on offer! congrats on your bfp and welcome to the thread!

So ladies, I was hoping some of you could share how you approached things for me in the early stages after BFP.

I'm 5 wks today, after a m/c last year and a mmc in Jan. I feel very lucky to have got pregant again pretty quickly and also as I was fortunate enough to get tested after the 2nd and they found a blood disorder, for which I'm now on aspirin. Despite this, I don't seem to be able to feel fortunate or happy or excited, which I hate. I know it's probably a defence mechanism but I'd be interested to hear how you all decided to approach things mentally in those early few weeks.

My current thinking is - basically try to deny i'm pregnant (apart from avoiding booze and all the usual things) and hope it all goes ok until atleast my 1st scan in 2 wks (which I'm dreading). Or, should I immerse myself in the joys of being pregnant, try to recapture that joy of the first time, the naivety and everything and just be happy for now, as whatever will be, will be. I think I want to do the second as I know that even if I do, it's not going to make a jot of difference to the outcome, so I may aswell be happy today. However, I'm really scared that if it goes pear-shaped then I'll have to read about how happy I was and feel like a complete idiot for running before I could walk!

Anyway, sorry for the babbling but I feel really confused today. It's really great to see a flurry of good scan results any happy news - congratulations to you all.

Welcome flori and minnie - it's definitely a stressful time but everyone will make you very welcome and hit you with various fish at times of extreme mentalling. yay for orange and good luck onions and tunnocks. Thanks for the sweeties BlackKat although I ate a whole bag of Haribo yesterday so I'm not sure I really should...!

Hoping everyone with ms is feeling ok today and that dachs bottom is continuing to heal!

just popping on to say whoop whoop to IzWhiz, lovely news.

and happiness and healthy vibes to all the thriving beans - inspirational :)

Morning, sorry I've been so absent, I've spent the week quietly freaking out, today my 20 week scan and old due date :( and didn't want to add to anyone's worry. But all was good and miniorange was jumping around and kicking the sonographer :)

Good luck to the other scanners, I'll try and catch up tonight :)

tunnocks hehe my phone could indeed do with being deposed, but I am too tight to replace it so it has been sellotaped together.... It looks very very classy, no need for I promise! No insurance banana - it's out of the contract now so I guess I was on borrowed time with it anyway... Oh well! Sorry you're feeling grim at the moment. Days out with DH sounds like a fab idea though.

Thanks for the tip-off collie, I can't decide whether it's worth the hassle though as I've had it almost two years and it's generally starting to pack up now anyway - the volume control doesn't work and the battery lasts about 1/2 a day...

Hi minnie pull up a beanbag and make yourself comfy. As the others say, it's really stressful when you start getting the same symptoms that signalled the start of the MC last time, but it doesn't necessarily mean doom. Fingers crossed for you that it's just implantation and that you've got a nice sticky bean.

nix you are definitely a girl after my own heart. After seeing your bookface status yesterday I have been soooooo hungry for chocolate fingers - they have been promoted to the top of my shopping list for today, need need need!!!

izz fab news about the scan! Also well done on tracking down a fab consultant - glad someone from the medical profession understands!!!

daisy HUGS it's frustrating how people say such stupid platitudes. Try not to worry about the doubts about your DP thing - there was a thread on the pregnancy board about this a couple of weeks ago, and I think that the upshot is that pregnancy hormones make you start to question everything about your life, it doesn't mean that you don't want to be with DP.

velvet that is such rubbish that you can't get enough protein without meat!!!! I think mummya is vegetarian and I'm sure she's got some good ideas of how you can get lots of protein without needing chicken. I would have thought with beans, pulses, eggs and cheese you can get loads?? Plus if you don't fancy it, like you say, your body knows best.

Urgh I am soooooo tired today. DH has been absolutely snoring his head off - he starts snoring about 2 minutes after his head hits the pillow so I don't get a chance to fall asleep before he starts! It was so loud that earplugs made no difference and I had to decamp to the spare room :(

Hi there freak out room..
have made it to 6 wks today.. post 3 mc (9, 6 & 5 wks) so am feeling more positive. EDD 15th dec.. but it seems a bit soon to consider that.
scan next thursday. fingers and everything else crossed.

Velvetcu I can't face meat either.. esp red meat! rich food in general makes me feel sick atm.

good luck to all!

good luck scanners today

I learnt my first pg lesson yesterday - don't listen to what everyone keeps telling you to do, listen to your body! I said before that I'm off meat but everyone keeps telling me I must eat it otherwise bean wont have enough protein etc etc. So yesterday I had chicken casserole. And spent the night honking my guts up

oooh - and good luck to onions, tunnocks and orange today - thinking of you.

Wonderful news on the jumping cepbean! And what a relief to have got past the bad news dates for you - I'm so pleased for you cep.

And izzy - fab news! It really made me smile as my scan was exactly the same - 8+3, spot on with dates and 175bpm .

I have now booked my 12 week nuchal and bloods for 12th may and found out that it's 1.5 hour appointment and you get all the results at the end of it. I was quite to read that you have to wait so long irene - really hope it's not making you mental too much. Sending lots of positive and patient thoughts your way.

How's your dad and the rest of your family doing blackkat? Hope the recovery is continuing to go well.

Hugs for daisy (good news re: the part time thumbs up) and banana - hope you are feeling a wee bit better today - your DH sounds lovely.

Minnie - welcome and I really hope this is a sticky one for you.

BBB - I was prescribed 1 x 400mg progesterone supp plus 1 x 75mg asprin but it is all private healthcare here. I really hope you manage to get some. And congrats on your BFP

morning all, good luck for all scanners today.

Good luck to orange tunnocks and onions for scans today - thinking of you all x

Quick message from my blackberry before bed..

Izzy - a big congrats. Hope you sleep soundly tonight! Wish I'd waited til 8weeks too now. Huge respect!

Blackkat - so you're my almost twin...? In that case I'll direct some (or all) of my rants to your inbox to check you're going through the same thing and we can mental together.. Do you still have sickness? Mine has kind of gone. Get it sometimes but then it goes when I, erm, have a good burp!

Hugs to you all. Blackberry hard to type on so will send more msgs tmrw xx

Oh and hello velvet sorry xpost! hope you get a good nights rest

Izzy and Cep so pleased for you both that you got waves from the scans earlier on, so, so chuffed. Izzy love your consultant, so hope the mw take his advice!

BB Congratulations on the BFP, lovely, lovely news.

Minnie Hello from other thread, hope that the brown slows down and it's just implantation ((hugs))

Lara I'm getting awful cramps too, they come and go, sometimes it feels like wind (ahem, wallpaper stripping!) and it hurts like hell if I sneeze. I'm regarding it all as bloody good signs. I think we're close in dates, I'm 7+2 but also a chicken so won't go on the list yet.

Banana Really hope having DH home for the week helps you through this difficult stage. Thinking of you xx

Daisy ((hugs)) - I agree with mummya, being pregnant is a total whirl of emotions, and ought to come with a health warning "Don't operate heavy machinery or worry about life changing decisions", sadly it doesn't and when you're in the midst of it most people seem to think, very bizarrely IMO, that it's ok to peddle platitudes bcs they know best.

Collie so glad you're ok hun, just seems wierd being here and you not being around (don't tell DH I said that!)

Onions so pleased you had a great holiday

to tunnocks, pink, owl, ninu, mattsmama, irene, and katherine

Leaves a ginormous bag of "penny dreadful" (my mum's name and I love it) sweets for everyone...but snaffles the refreshers!

yippeee for cep and izzys scan news.

Daisy and banana sorry you are feeling low, I know exactly what you mean. I am really fighting not to go back on anti-depressents but mabe I need to for a bit.

tunnocks your response earlier made me cry lady! I hope things get better when I can feel it. Maybe we all know too much about what can go wrong because we know each others stories.

I found out a friend of mine is 7 weeks pg yesterday. It's her first too but she is stressing because of my mmc!

Anyway I'm off to bed (again) can't get enough sleep atm. DH keeps telling me I ought to start blooming soon.

Running in quickly to say YAY to cep and izzy for the wonderful scan news.

minnie hopefully the brown stuff is just implantation bleeding. I had some spotting just this weekend and was told it was implantation bleeding, so it really can happen at any point in the 1st trimester, contrary to what I had originally thought.

Thank you Mummy and Teacake. Hugs to Banana too, you will get through this, I promise!

Time for a group-hug-love-in

(((hugs))) to banana and daisy - sorry you're feeling so low xx

Woo hoo for the fab scanees and beans today

Short mememe update I'm afraid - went to see Occupational Health Advisor today. She was very nice, and supports my Dr's view that I should aim to go back to work but only part time (which suits me).

We got all the way though the interview and she did really well until the end when she said "if you strip away all the other stress, then you can just focus on you, your partner, you'll have a baby, and be a little family". ARGH!!!!! Did she not listen to anything I said about just seeing the future as a black hole of negativity, and just not picturable????

She's also got me doubting my feelings for my partner by asking me if I was madly in love with him, and my gut reaction was to give Prince Charles' response "whatever love is".

Oh hell, hell, hell, doubts about my relationship can't be at the bottom of this, can they?????????

Fab news Izz.....made up for you toots!!