Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 15)

Ok my strategy is...

DTD and taking a pre pregnancy vitamin supplement. That is pretty much it. I am trying to avoid anything to do with temperatures or OPKs at this stage as if my obsessiveness with POAS once I thought I was pregnant is anything to go by, I will be spending £££ and it will take over my every waking thought.

ALso don't want DH or me really to feel like its a chore or we're only doing it because I want a baby so have decided nice undies, massages and that kind of thing are def in order 'cos lets face it, when I was pregnant before I was too scared to DTD early on as I had such bad pains and later I think I'll be tired and will probably want to go to bed in sweatpants! SO I figured to try and keep the stress levels low its better to DTD as much as possible, for it to be fun and to make the most of this time.

Hmm I'd better get a spray tan if I am even considering putting on anything remotely lacey and flimsy otherwise DH will be put off.....

Just sent that and saw I missed lots:

Freelance Glad you got your BFN too. Have I missed any new BFN achievers? I feel the same as you. I don't feel very strong. I might go back to the gym next week, again, feel the physical aftermath is alot to deal with.

Bump Sounds like a gentle way of dealing with the first month. I don't even remember what contraceptions there are out there anymore! I think I will do the same. Glad you have made up with DH, good that he tried to cheer you up with cuddles.

and Angela Sorry for the UTI, you poor thing.

Melies Hope you didn't fancy Mr Bloom. I even like the gardening gear. .

Melies Can you just start the OPKs today or tomorrow and FX you haven't missed it? You might not have. Day 5 would be v early to ovulate anyway wouldn't it? I reckon if this is day 10 you should be fine, surely? Did you ovulate early pre MC? If not, I reckon you'll be fine. Can I ask what chart you referred to?

Harassed Bloody hell, that's crazy about the friend on FB. Am taking a break from FB at the moment in case I read something that upsets me. The whole world is pregnant (even ones where DH has had the snip, WTF?) Will you use OPKs this month do you think?

Ladies, those of you ttc, may I ask what your strategy is? Are you doing opks? Do any of you do temps and fertility friend? Are you taking special supplements?

Sending lots of Friday and

Hi girls

Ihave never used OPKs so I can't really add anything helpful on that sorry.

Harassed she sounds like she is being an idiot. Has she ever had a miscarriage? Until she does she can't comment in my view. I think you are perfectly right to say she is insensitive.

Really we haven't tried this month and am waiting for AF. I say "tried" in that we used contraception when I thought I was most fertile (think egg whites TIM!!?!) and then once that passed we didn't use anything and just thought it would be unlikely to result in me getting pregnant.

Angela glad you got your negative result but sorry about your UTI - what a pain!

Melies I have no idea sorry! Has the bleeding totally stopped again now?

I am still waiting for my period. I get the odd niggle and think its coming and then nothing. Hope it comes this weekend as I want to go on the TTC list!

For those of you who read all about yesterday's upset with my DH...well we are speaking again but he got home too late to discuss it. We've kind of gone back to everything being normal. I guess I told him how I felt in the email and he said it was a joke so he probably thinks that's it. I personally think he should have apologised as he upset me so much - even if it was unintentional but he is not good with the apologies. He did want to be all cuddly last night and kept squeezing me so I suppose that was his sorry in his own way! Men eh!

Really that did make me laugh. My hormones made me feel a bit rampant too - mind you they did when I was pg as well - fancying random strangers in the street! :) I remember seeing one guy look at me and feeling eternally grateful that although I was pg someone still fancied me. Not that I looked pg, I just felt bloated and not very attractive.

Hello Harassed, Melies and everyone. I am not really sure Melies about whether it is too late or not this month but it can't hurt to have a go anyway...?

Angela and Really, Harassed and all the new BFN* achievers, I too had a BFN this morning! I was so scared to do the test, got some cheapo ones from boots and took a deep breath. I had a bit of an emotional moment afterwards as now it really is all over but I guess I am ok to ttc again. I might wait for my first AF though as I still feel a bit tired and weird sometimes. Not just because of ttc but in general, I want my pre-pg strong, energetic body back! So frustrating having been pregnant and now not but still dealing with the physical aftermath.

Keep me on the WTTC list for now...

Really I'm not going to actively try this month, but not going to stop it. Same as last time, I really can't be arsed sorting out contraception for one month. Also, I have to have 3 consecutive mc's before I can get an tests and dh only wants to have one more go, but if I mc again then I'll get tests and hope to persuade dh to have another go........

Another friend has just announced on fb that she's prg, despite her dh having the snip. Tis def a true one too.

Hello all,

Cep Thank you for explaining about the deadline.. sorry, I had to go and do all sorts of RL nonsense. Will be thinking of you on Tuesday. I hope you slept better last night?

Big waves to everyone else and hello to minnie and Olis (I hope I didn't forget anyone)

Angela and Harassed I stopped bleeding (FX it doesn't start again) and I got a -ve yesterday too. Feel relieved. Are you going to wait for an AF or start trying this month? I am going to stay on WTTC list for now.

Have had the weirdest, weirdest thing for the last couple of days. Feel quite in the mood for DTD AND am fancying everyone. Which is entirely inappropriate considering my current predicament (you know, mc and all). My DS was watching Mr Bloom's nursery today and I quite fancied Mr Bloom! Arrghhh. Wrong! Surely?!

Am assuming this is my evil hormones

Hi Angela I got mine yesterday so in the same boat. Sorry to hear about uti.

mel I going to start opk's today and boobs are a bit sore.

I've been arguing with stupid sil on FB. She put up a pathetic i'm prg status, and then thought it was funny. When I pointed out it was insensitive to joke, I've been told that I can't have a laugh......

Hi guys, hope all is well with you.
Just so you know i took a test and got the -ve i was after, so am officially ttc again....or i would be if i didn't have a bloody UTI! My stupid body is never ready when i am!
Amazing news for you Blackkat. Really happy for you! xxx

Morning!

Mel I watch Diy sos too and sobbed!! Mind you any excuse at the moment, and not actually sure it was the tv making me sob! I'm just trying to carry on as normal this time, all the bleeding stopped over the weekend so physically I'm fine. I had 2 days off last week, Wed was my day off anyway and took Thurs too as that was the nasty day and couldn't have coped at work! Have you been checked for an infection?? Have they taken swabs? My gp did that after my mmc when I was having pains, and gave me ab's.

Olis my diet isn't going well either!!! Is it one of the CB monitors you have? I was looking at them but thought I wouldn't use it tbh. Nice to see you back.

Minnie was thinking the same about my feet this morning! Need sorting before I get the flip flops out...

Really looking forward to the weekend although we don't have any plans. Dh might be working tomorrow, but hoping not!! Will be moving in a couple of months, so gradually working through the house sorting and packing.

to everyone
Just popping in after long day at work.

Whoop whoop blackkat that's fantastic news! All the bfp's on here make me feel a bit more positive that it could happen for me again too

mel the reflexology sounds really interesting. I had it once before just for relaxation and it was great. Wouldn't mind trying it again if it might help a bit. (Think I would need to see a chiropodist first as my feet are like sandpaper-as my dp tells me on a regular basis )

Hi all,
Still lurking could not get to grips with the monitor thing keep forgetting to pee on the sticks :)
Thanks for asking after me Ninu hows the pg going all well i hope!
Huge congrats to mumtum and blackkat!!!! AMAZING NEWS!

I would like to rejoin the thread if you will have me feel in a better place now, Diet is not going to plan but i don't care lol, feel a lot more relaxed about trying now DTD every night untill the 4th this is supposed to be my fertile period according to my ovulation calculator so i will give it a go!

Good evening ladies, I haven't posted on the new thread yet, but have been occasionally lurking. Just popped in to say a huge congratulations to Mumtum and Blackkat :o :o :o :o

I'm so pleased for you both...Blackkat because I know it took you so long to conceive last time round mumtum because I know this was your last month trying before the wedding. Looks like you'll have a honeymoon baby after all (quite literally).

Mumtum, come and join us in the Freak out thread...you already know lots of us there, and the other ladies are so lovely.

Blackkat so glad you joined us already.

Melies & Chloe fx that you'll be joining us v soon (and everyone else)

Has anyone heard from Olismum? I wonder how she's doing.

x posts , thanks chloe glad the bleeding seems to have subsided for you fx your gp appointment goes well for you x

welcome porp sorry that you find yourself here and that your cycle seems still wtf. Cannt say that i had the same or offer any advice really but i think a visit to your GP should help at least then you will feel like you are doing something pro active. The worst bit IMO is not knowing and feeling so out of control IYSWIM?

bump im much like you prefer to out things into words rather than snivel away incoherently as i tend too with snot and tears ..... glad that your OH had only meant it as a joke but i have to say that is an odd sense of humour

porp not sure about the 3 cycles thing, i know that for me i think realistically i has 2.....

collie FX for a good scan for you on Monday hun x

cep will be thinking of you next tues when you go for your scan to x

melies bump blackkat [scared emoticon] twins are very prominent in my famaily, cousins, aunts, uncles and grandparents are all sets of twins they dont seem to skip a generation in my family like i was led to beleive, and as ive just turned 33 apparantly the chances of having twins when your over 30 significantly increases ..... OMG .... but on the flip side my first pregnancy i found very early and had symptoms early , and that was only one bean, and the second one which i mc, i found out at 10 DPO and again that was an early test as i was already then suffering with ms and heartburn... so maybe not......im so can you beleive im also freaking out that much that i thought i might not be earlier.... despite the tiredness and sick already i convinced myself i must just be poorly..... have 1 more cb digi upstairs but wanted to try to wait to use it until at least next week when my af was due in the hope that it goes up to 2-3 weeks,,,,,, i really should i think go investgate the freak out room.... sorry for the me me me .....

hope everyone is having a good evening here is plenty of for those that can and [brew[ for those that cant....

Hiya ladies,

I am so sorry, is gonna have to be a quick one again as just got home and got loads to do before dh walks through the door.

Just had to say WOOOOOOOOOOHOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!! For blackkat and both you and mumtum have no need to apologise for either me me me posts or fearing upsetting some of us with your BFPs. Of course, we all get a tinge of when we see them and if we are having a low day then it might make us feel it's not us but if ever we were allowed a me me me post it's when we get a BFP

For those of you who asked my gp appointment is on Monday, I am working at the vets for the next week (they have asked me for another 2 weeks on top but I have said I will think about it, don't think it's a good idea when I start taking Clomid again considering it takes me down for a few days) andyway, all going well so far. No more bleeding, few achey pains that's it to report. Can't wait til monday when I can have a proper catch up and name check everone!

wow i've missed loads over the last few hours.

bump serious sense of humour failure. how would anyone find that funny. like someone said (sorry can't remember who) could he have been testing the waters and is now backtracking quickly?

rue basically the dh decided last july we had until my next birthday to get pg, then he spent 2 months not filling his part of the bargain if you get my meaning so i put the date back to sept.

collie i have no idea what my temps are now, i think i took them once since bfp. (i'm sorry i may be being dumb but i couldn't figure out what the mist was meant to be) i'm sorry you're worrying. I was getting aches in my stomach till about 6-7 weeks. not nice.

juicee i wouldn't worry about the odd ciggie. i knew someone who was advised that to give up would have been more detrimental due to the stress. having 1 isn't going to cause damage.

hihp glad you've been discharged. Hoping everything goes well with the blood tests.

mel i hope the reflexology starts doing something to help.

sorry if i've missed anyone.

Hello, more apologies from me for not being around. A combination of being very busy and feeling like crap!!! Poor dh, he really must be sick of me in tears and/or miserable by now. He never moans though........

On a positive note, sort of, I got a bfn this morning so the epu have discharged me. Would have been nice if they could have got my notes right though, as they have me down as having medical managment this time!! Seeing the doc next Thursday to go through my blood tests, so that will be interesting. I felt they only did them to fob me off tbh.

Blackkat and Mumtum - huge huge congratulations from me!! So pleased for you both. Scary time though, try not to stress too much.

Collie stop worrying lovely, everyone & every prg is different. PMA!!

Mels glad the reflexology was good, sounds very positive. I agree with Collie that you should start opk poas, I hope you've got lots!! I thought I might do the same now I've stopped bleeding and got a bfn.

to everyone else, will catch up properly when dh is out later and I have some peace and quiet!!

good luck with the GP porp let us know how you get on.

Glad you're getting things sorted with DH bump although tell him to work on his sense of humour, men!

I haven't been doing OPKs but my CBFM has shown high for two days so hoping a peak is round the corner and we can do lots of SWI (am sure DH hoping too for totally different reasons!)

Juicee Don't beat yourself up, I doubt 1 today did any harm today (apart from doing your head in). Can you throw the rest of the packet away? I started smoking again after miscarriage 3 weeks ago and know it is a temporary but effective comfort. I want to stop, like you did after the bleeding stops. So sorry you had an argument this morning - not a good time to be feeling extra distress.

Melie Thank you for explaining the situation. My gosh, no wonder you are confused. Fingers crossed the reflexology helped today, it sounds promising that they diagnosed a problem and then sorted it out! And, it helped Blakkat get her bfp and I swear it helped conceive DD after after over a year of trying.

Colllie I hope you can stop worrying so much, thinking of you.

Porp Hello and welcome, am sorry for your loss. I am still having original mc bleed so I don't have any wisdom to impart.

And waves at everyone else!