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Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 15)

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meliesmummy · 25/03/2011 16:50

Hello! If you have recently miscarried and are thinking of or actively trying again come and join us! We offer plenty of cake, tea and wine if needed! Come in and laugh, cry and rant as needed, and don't be afraid of asking whatever questions you need answers to and we'll try our best to answer them.

Add yourself to the stats list whenever you are ready.

wtcc = waiting to try to conceive
ucl = usual cycle length
wtf cycle = the time after your mc when you have no idea whats going on with your normal cycle

Lets hope this is a lucky thread and we all get our bfps!

part 14 of the thread

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cep · 04/04/2011 20:22

evening ladies,

bump it feels like forever ago, Grin he used to sleep really well, never really late but woke up just before our alarms went off, then he started waking really early say between 4-5 then it got to all times of night, sometimes he goes back to sleep sometimes stays awake like last night. is typical he sleeps "well" while i've been signed off then starts off waking early again just before i go back to work.
I'm going to stop giving him his multi vit, i think he may be getting too much vit b's (worth a bloody try anyway) but his cereals have had it added as well and apparently it's good for giving extra energy.

thanks for all the good wishes. sorry if i've missed anything, i'm off for a bath and yes you guessed it an early night....again.....hope it's worth it. he didn't even have a nap today was just pure energy i don't know how he does it. anyway night night ladies.

Blackkat · 04/04/2011 20:04

Just playing catch up

Chloe so pleased you are being referred somewhere better, so pleased you are getting proper monitoring, sometimes a cycle off in between doses can put the mind and body at rest. So hope you get some good news soon (((hugs)))

Bump so sorry your DH was so unsympathetic earlier on, echo all the comments by the other ladies. Men do have a different way of dealing with things. The website Collie sent you, really helped me, and I sent it to some friends, my MIL and some close colleauges, the section on things not to say were really useful for all of them. HOpe you have a better day tomorrow Smile

Collie so, so pleased you got to see the HB, how lovely. Grin, Grin

Cep good luck for tomorrow FX, and really hope you get a decent sleep.

Minnie74 · 04/04/2011 19:26

collie so pleased for you. It must be so reassuring to see the little heartbeat.

loving your philosophy bump hope it works on crisps too. Hope you're feeling a bit more cheerful.

really oils hope you're both feeling better too

Got a strange pain in my side today which is like the one I had with the mc. Probably af on it's way but can't help reading all sorts into it!

Reallyusefulengine · 04/04/2011 18:25

Bump Thank you for the lovely advice! I love your philosioy too - brilliant! Sorry to hear you're a crying mess, I send you tissues and some of that chocolate Grin

meliesmummy · 04/04/2011 18:00

Bump loving the philosophy that stress cancels out calories! Will it work on the croissants that dh over stocked on for mothers day that I can't avoid eating?!

Thanks for the offer Collie but cleaning my own house is more than enough for me...this morning I used oven cleaner on the oven for the first time since it was fitted 3 years ago, I've always just used general cleaning spray before now and I was disgusted at the colour of the water when I rinsed it...

Any luck with the HV Cep? good luck for tonight x

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Bumpwanted · 04/04/2011 17:51

Collie thanks so much for that. It was really good for me to read too. I sent it to him and he said he is sorry for what he said in the heat of the moment and he does understand/will try to more and loves me. So that's something!!

Cep I hope you have a lovely night off when you go away. I honestly don't know what to suggest as you sound like you are doing such a good job trying lots of different things. I think I might have missed your original post on this - when did it start? Did he used to sleep well?

Really I am so sorry you are feeling down. I was feeling loads better two weeks ago and this past week have been a crying mess. It is PMT for me and I think when our hormones go up and down at different times it is bound to affect how we all cope when something really traumatic and upsetting has happened. Don't be too down on yourself. I am sure you will feel a little better soon and until then eat lots of chocolate...don't worry about calories as upset = stress = burning calories so really it just balances it all out.

Olismum sorry you are having a rubbish day too. I def think your moods can change at different times of the month...at least I like to think that is what happens to me and I am not "emotionally unstable" as my DH claims!

Sorry if I've missed anyone off - I am a bit rubbish once I can't scroll up and see the posts as I get everyone confused!

xx

Reallyusefulengine · 04/04/2011 17:31

Collie Thank you for the advice, so touched you wrote inbetween all the appointments!

olismum23 · 04/04/2011 15:48

Hi everyone
just a quick one my mood is all over the place today, does anyone else get mood swings around ovulation? I have never had them before but i tell you its been an awful day currently in bed while the wee one has a nap just feel dire!

cep · 04/04/2011 15:36

mel collie* we tried that, he doesn't give up he screamed for the rest of the night at the gate for a week, bangs his toys on it and basically caused one hell of a noise.

chloe my parents offered to have him, but if mum stayed here ironically i'd worry about him waking her up, Confused and we can't afford to pay for a week nursery without him actually going. dh and i have a night away on 17/4 and ds is staying at the parents for the night, we're planning on having a long lie in. who wants to start the betting now that i'll wake early. Smile

Collie2 · 04/04/2011 14:56

Cep sorry to here ds has had another bad night. Maybe a gate would be a good idea? I remember a while back 2 colleagues were discussion how they?d had to be tough and had to leave their dc crying in the bedroom at night, rather than going in. I remember it was really hard for them, but like you they were being kept up at all hours. I think it took a few nights, but it worked in the end. I know I sounds cruel though?.

chole So glad you are being re-referred. About time. If they have such a sh*t reputation why did they you refer you there in the first place though?? How come you are thinking about not taking the clomid next month? Just thinking you?ll take a month off while waiting for referral? It?s a good sign that you don?t know where you are up to in your cycle. It means you have other positive things going on which have distracted you. Really glad you are enjoying the vet work, you sound so happy. Although ((Big Hugs)) for you too, as your mc story was so sad and touching. I?m sorry you have had to go through it all.

bump I am so sorry about your oh ((hugs)) but what everyone else has said already is right, they just don?t understand in the same way. My dh was very upset at our mc himself but he got over it much much quicker than I did. He just wanted things to be fixed, and would forget about things I had said, or little key dates, that to me were very important and for a while I just didn?t feel I could talk to him as he didn?t get it. But its important to keep talking, and to try and get him to understand. blackkat shared a link with us a while back. It was quite a bit after my mc and it took dh a while to read it (which of course made me Angry ) but he did say it was helpful and he wished he?d had it closer to the mc. Maybe it will help your oh understand a bit more? have a look and navigate the pages on the left.

really I am so sorry you are feeling so low. As I said to bump I did the same thing, shutting my dh out after my mc. It took me about 6 weeks to really open up but when I did it really helped. He understood better and I stopped feeling angry at him. Somehow it also helped me move to the next stage of my grief, maybe it was talking about it properly. Until then I don?t think I?d really accepted it. I think chloe and yrmotb have given great advice already. Just don?t be too hard on yourself honey. To everyone else it was ages ago, but to you its still so raw, so don?t feel rushed into feeling ok - I?ve been there and it really only makes it harder. Just allow yourself to be sad and wollow if you need to (but not forever mind Smile ). Anyone who has been through it understands how hard it is. (((hugs)))

oils you sound like you are in a much happier place I am so pleased for you, although very Sad for your dh. I always felt bad for my dh during the mc as everyone ? even his mum ? would always me checking on me, but not him. I think its so hard for them as they thing they need to be strong for us. I think its good for him to let it out.

yrmotb baby sheep sound soooooo cute!!!

mels do you want to come around an clean my sh*t hole house?? Grin

Right, really gotta get going to the dentist!

olismum23 · 04/04/2011 14:37

yey for Collie :)

Bumpwanted · 04/04/2011 14:32

Congrats Collie Grin Grin AMAZING news. So glad you could see the heartbeat too!

Youremindmeofthebabe · 04/04/2011 14:31

Hurrah collie Smile

laylasmummy09 · 04/04/2011 14:25

woohoo Grin soo pleased for you collie lovely news
catch up with everyone properly later x

Collie2 · 04/04/2011 14:23

Grin Grin Thanks everyone. Chips and gravy were yummmy!! Clearly NOT going to get any work done, mind way to preoccupied! Will have to do it later instead as needs doing before tomorrow.

Just going to catch up instead Smile

meliesmummy · 04/04/2011 14:18

collie that's fab news, so pleased for you! x

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Reallyusefulengine · 04/04/2011 14:18

That is lovely news Collie Grin. Congratulations!

Chloe55 · 04/04/2011 14:13

Fab news collie Grin

Collie2 · 04/04/2011 14:09

Hi everyone, Good news Grin all ok (Phew) colliepup Grin is fine. Measuring 6+1 (2 days behind mine on fertility friend, so hope thats ok). Little blob was flashing so saw heartbeat, which was amazing. Couldn't get over how ickle it was at 4.9mm. All in the right places too and nothing else they could see was wrong so i'm going to have to accept that the pains are 'normal' Hmm

Very relieved. DH thrilled too. Will catch up properly later - was there over 3 hours so REALLY need to do some work as have Dentist apapointment in an hour!

Thank you all SOOOOOOO much for being so lovely and holding my hand. Truely don't know what i'd have done without you! xxxx

cep · 04/04/2011 13:49

afternoon all,

chloe that's great news, thank goodness the gp listened to you. fx it'll be a wuick referral.

bump sorry he's being a bit insensitive, as chloe said you're going to be all over the place emotionally for a bit. (and i'd jump straight back on the bandwagon)

hv didn't answer so left another message, have started noting down how many times i leave a message, and also will try and remember to note names if i ever actually speak to anyone.

Blackkat · 04/04/2011 13:27

Quick post - catch up properly later lurking for Colliepup news

meliesmummy · 04/04/2011 13:13

And collie, still lurking for you x

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Reallyusefulengine · 04/04/2011 13:11

Chloe and YRMOTB Thank you, will try and calm down and climb out of this panic. LOL re. baby lambs, I thought you meant you were going to slap her for holding a lamb whilst DTD! Have finally got what you meant !Grin.

Chloe, thank you for that. That helped alot. Shame we can't all be on holiday and having facials, would be nice! Vet nursing must be v. interesting and I imagine really rewarding. It sounds like you were very proactive in helping yourself.

Lurking for Collie too.

meliesmummy · 04/04/2011 13:11

Hi everyone...Ive been busy cleaning, thought that I had finished, then dd spilled alcohol gel (that she had taken out of my bag, I dont generally let her play with it!) all over the sofa and the inside of my bag! So now the sofa cover and bag are in the wash and the living room smells like a distillery!

chloe its a huge cave that you can visit, the one near here (dan yr ogof) is one of the biggest in the country, there's also a little farm, dinosaur park and indoor play area there. I'm glad that your GP is on the case, how long will you have to wait to be seen? Do you have to join the back of the queue?

Bump I'm sorry that your DH is not dealing with it very well. Do you think that he is reluctant to try because he is frightened that it will happen again, or is he just not keen on the idea? You must be Angry that the painting is up. I'm glad that your mum is close by for support.

Hi Olis, good luck with the 2WW!

Reallyuseful that sounds tough, give yourself the time that you need to feel a bit better. I hope that you manage to get some enjoyment out of your birthday x I'm dreading my dd too, it's the 30th August, not helped by someone at work having the same one! I also can't help thinking that my 20 week scan should have been next week.

Porp that does sound strange. Have you had your hcg results yet? I've had a 19 day cycle since the mc so maybe its just that your hormones are all over the place too? Although fx for the possibility of a new, healthy pg!

Hi YRMOTB, lambs are so cute indeed!

Phew...that took ages to write! I was disturbed though - people selling Jesus at the door (which really winds me up, this is my home, if I wanted their advice I would ask for it!) then dd woke up because she heard the door! Grrrr....

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Youremindmeofthebabe · 04/04/2011 12:50

I was laughing at my lack of wasting words! I'm so bloody short sometimesGrin

I know, I was thinking that about those lambs, I figured since I was only day 8 and approx a week before ov it would be ok. Showing my complete lack of comprehension about Toxoplasmosis (sp?)Grin