Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 15)

morning ladies.

thumbwitch welcome, i'm so sorry for your losses.

lily some good nights some bad, he slept through last night. (without a nappy dh forgot to put one on, thankfully he managed a dry night)

Just trepidatiously joining in here. Just had my 2nd MC, just been given the all clear (HCG levels dropped, empty uterus) and ready to go again. Feeling a lot more devastated this time around than last time - the test positive was much stronger, things felt better and then it all stopped again and.. well you know.

Am ready to try again asap (have to really as am 43 already) but can't see the consultant gynae until 7th June so won't be able to start Clomid until then (if she agrees). Fingers crossed I won't need to but you never know (I really don't want a multiple pg).

So - I have one DS who was conceived very easily when I was 39, had him when I was 40 - he is now 3.4. Been trying since he was 9mo to have a second but it's not gone well - got pg in late 2009 but MC at 8w on 19th Dec; not even sure when exactly I fell pg this time around, possibly 24th Jan, and MC 30th March. Was due to have dating scan this week but it turned into ?complete MC scan instead :(.

Bonuses = I can have a glass of fizz again; no need for D&C; am still ovulating (although no idea how regularly).

Morning ladies,

I'm back and feeling a bit more positive again - thank you everyone that posted kind words after my last post, it means a lot, and I know a lot of you are going through exactly the same thing. I went to see a new consultant yesterday and he's extended the Clomid to 6 months instead of 3, and also prescribed bromocriptine as my prolactin levels are really high (anyone else any experience of this?). He was really positive about everything which helped enormously.

Now, fish at the ready everyone, how early is too early to test? I did one on Wed afternoon (CD22 - BFN) because I knew I was going to see the consultant. My cycles seem to be back to a regular 28 days....but now I've got indigestion and sore boobs. Worth a try?

Sorry for the long post and the mememe, promise I'll be on more often again now, and hopefully offer some support rather than being on the receiving end from you lovely ladies.

Wellie sorry to hear your body is messing you about, hope your doctor is some use.

Cep hope you are doing ok, I think its only natural that you are going to worry every step of the way but I'm sure that doesn't make it any easier! I do think EPU could be more understanding though. How is your DS sleeping now?

Collie how did your appt go? Hope all is well.

Chloe wow your job sounds exhausting and your glass of fizzy well deserved I say. How are your Clomid symptoms this time around? When do you go to see the new consultant? My new one is much better and actually took some blood to check progesterone levels to make sure its working - good start I thought!

Blackkat how are you doing? Hope you are ok and your dad too x

More BFNs here :(

FMU this morning - CD36 of a usual 29/30, although that was pre mc - gave me BFN on a cheapie and I even cracked out a CB digi because I am getting so sick of it!

Going to doctor next week - apparently they are better here at listening and taking you seriously (probably because you have to pay a bit...hate to be cynical)

cep try not to stress as hard as it is! brown is really normally so remain positive hun!!!

goodluck for you today harassed hope all goes well.

Yes please melies move me up and then fingers crossed you can move me on to the BFP next month ;) the onlyyy way iss upppppp lol im in a good mood! sun is shinning :)
xx

afternoon ladies, Thanks on all the positive vibes, i haven't had any more bloody cm, am just getting really frustrated with it all now. work made me laugh apparently there's nothing to worry about it i bleed cause it rarely leads to anything. this was apparently the advice he was given.

laylas sorry you're going through all that uncertainty at the moment. some times the hormones can just take a little while to be detected. last time it was a few days after my af had been due that i got a positive.

harassed hope dr's goes well.

angela sorry your dd is misbehaving as well, it's scary to me just how much he's changed over the last few months.

oli sorry you're feeling unwell. i had that last time as well. i saw the hb a few days before it died and i hardly had any blood at all until after the bad news scan.

bump we don't have any walk in ones and you have to be referred by the dr which is what happened last time.

sorry if i've missed anyone.

If you are able to get any First response Laylas i would try one of those in the morning with FMU. By 14dpo i had a faint, but clear, ine with those, whereas with my internet cheapies it was a very very faint shadow. Good luck hun.

15 DPO*

it was suresign i think but im not sure how sensitive they are, im on cd 28 and 14 dpo, i had heared opks pick up hcg thats what made me try it because id run out of hpt's no sign of af though x

Afternoon Ladies,

God i feel awful today, roasting hot, neauses, and dizzy but i must have a bug ov calander said i would have ov on the 3rd so only 4dpo..:(

laylas sorry your going through this it awful i had faint lines last month then nothing i think it was the crap tests i was using saying that CB digi is known for not being as sensitive as others so maybe try predictor early result or FR?

Cep If it is only brown i would not worry I was one of the unlucky few to see a heartbeat and the baby went but it was bright blood not brown and i was only 6+2 supposed to be (8+2). babys growth being spot on etc i would not worry im sure all is well internal exams can cause old blood pooled at the cervix to come out.

hope your doc listens to you harrassed

to all i have missed

laylas how many dpo are you? and what cycle day?

i say this with caution as i don't want to get your hopes up given the circumstances but opks can pick up hcg levels whoch could also lead to a line. CB digis are not very senstitive so it could be that its early? what stick did you use when you got your first line?
sorry you having to go through this x

hi ladies cep sorry your having such a rough time i hope it get easier on you soon
a tested this morning with cb digi and it was negative but got a really posive opk yet ff has put ov day as day 13, no sign of af yet im soo confused
hope everyone is enjoying the sunshine x

HI ladies....sorry its been so long, been working evenings and my DD has turned into a monster these last couple of days so just haven't been able to get on!

Really hope everyone is ok, this thread moves way too quick for me, and within a couple of days not being here, i have no idea whats going on!!!

cep I really hope everything goes ok....i'm going to jump on the 'try not to worry' bandwagon, which i know is much easier said than done!... If the bleeding got any worse could you go to A&E? surely they could scan you there? with regards to your DS, i know exactly how you feel...my DD is being a nightmare at the moment, i simply can't control her! She shouts at me, calls me stupid constantly, runs away from me when we're out, and has started this awful growling..which sounds comical, but believe me if you could see the anger in her face when she does it, its quite scary! no idea whats causing it, so i'm putting it down to her age for the time being.

as for me. i've no idea what my body is doing at the moment. have started bleeding, but only very light and only when i wipe. on top of that got crazy pg symptoms, horrible mood swings, sickness the last 4 mornings and sore breasts. thought maybe af was coming, but not sure when to expect it as only 3 weeks after erpc. just not sure, i'll keep you updated.

Hi to everyone else, i'll try to get on here more often, so i know how everone's doing. xxxx

Oh forgot to update about me haha.

I have docs tonight to get blood test results and try to persuade her to send me for more tests after "only" two consecutive mc's. Dh is coming too thank goodness, am a bit worried I'm going to fall apart .

Think I'm ov'ing though......

Morning,

Cep sorry you're going through this again, seems particularly cruel after the reassurance of a scan. Bumps is a good idea though. I also agree re ds's behaviour. It's a phase and it's not your fault! Dd pushes the boundaries sometimes and we have a discipline clamp down, I find it's the only way.

really glad you got through your birthday x

Collie good luck with mw. I was lurking on the updiffed thread, and kids toothpaste is my top tip for all you toothpaste boak-ers! I swear toothpaste sets me off the minute there's a speck of hcg in my blood, and this is my way round it.

Awh Cep hun so sorry to hear that. I agree though the chances of MC are so low and brown blood is fine so long as its not the scary red stuff (and even then the baby can still be fine).

Do you know (or can you look on the net) of any hospitals that have a walk in scan clinic. I know we have them at hospitals in London and you don't even have to tell your GP or midwife you are going. You can self refer. You have to go really early in the morning usually and tick a sheet to say e.g. brown CM or pains or you are worried, and then ask you no questions just scan you. Where are you based? I'll have a look at some hospitals near you to see if they do it if that would help.

Really glad you managed to get through your birthday. I actually had a glass of bubbles for you last night in the end (upgrade from the vino!)

Hi to everyone else! xxx

Cep Thinking of you - I agree with Collie2, the chances of a m/c now are very low. Agree that an internal scan may have caused the brown bleed. Can you call your midwife and see if they can see you earlier?

Collie Good luck with the MW - will lurk to hear news

Wellie Did you test?
Laylas Did you test again?

Thank you for the birthday wishes yesterday, am relieved to have got that out of the way, was finding the prospect of birthday without pregnancy unbearable.

Waves at everyone else xx

it's what happened this time when they called to book the appt on tuesday they said not within 2 weeks. can't afford a private one, i'm just going to have to wait and try not to stress. Wondering if itis because i'm getting too stressed, ds was awake for a couple of hours during the night again, and with last night....can stress cause it?

cep ((hugs)) I'm so sorry, but you know brown can be ok. And your scan the other day was just perfect. Chances of NOT mc after seeing a healthy heartbeat at bean at 8 wks are 98% and at 10wks 99.4% see here so you would be somewhere inbetween with GREAT odds in your favour. Try not to worry sweet, 2 weeks is a long time to wait if you're stressing. It will all be fine. Xx

morning ladies. hope you're all ok.

wellie did you test?

collie goodluck with midwife.

laylas did you test again?

ok i'm back to doom and gloom again, big blob of brown bloody cm this morning. wouldn't be able to get a scan again if i wanted to as they don't do it within 2 weeks at which case i'll be nearly 12 weeks and might as well wait for that one. but thinking not good again now.

I'm sorry i keep moaning on here lately and nothing to do with ttc

Hi everyone, missed a lot over past day or so, so just catching up.

Happy birthday really even though your not celebrating I thought you?d appreciate this

((Hugs)) for harassed I hope you?re feeling a bit better. Its understandable that it will take time to get over. I can imagine it just bring ups all those sad raw feelings from your first mc, as well as having to deal with this one too. Hope you are being nice to yourself and are getting lots of love and hugs at home ? Remind DH its our prerogative to moan about our weight and then stuff our faces with chocolate ? without being questioned or judged, especially after what we?ve all been though!

mels try not to lose hope for this month. Your cycle last month was really odd so it could be that you might be earlier in your cycle than you think. Are you dtd regularly anyway?

Big squishy (((hugs))) for mumtum if you?re lurking. I am so so sorry for you. Hope you?re doing ok. Xx

brooke glad you sorted things out with your friend and I am glad (this once) that AF has arrived. Its helps to move on and focus on he future doesn?t it?

Hi wellie sorry you wasted a test yesterday?.. did you poas this morning????? FX

stitch congratulations on the bfp. Fab news just before your birthday. Enjoy your trip to New York, you lucky lucky lady!

laylas Try not to worry about the line. How many dpo are you? If your testing early its very likely to be the tests. Try again tomorrow with a reliable brand.

bump sorry your still not sure how oh feels. Do you think you?ll broach it again? If he was as happy as you say before your mc, I am sure he would be very happy if you fell pg again.

Lovely to hear from you chole and glad you are doing well steering clear of the sticks! Fx AF stays away at the weekend, I?m keeping my eye on your beanbag in the freak out room, making sure noone nabs it!

cep I am really sorry about your ds. You shouldn?t be so hard on yourself. My SIL is having the same thing with my dn. She?s getting really cheeky and apparently her new word is ?whatever?. She?s not even 3 and just 2 months ago butter wouldn?t have melted in her mouth. melslooks like my dn is having her terrible 2?s a year late lol