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Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 15)

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meliesmummy · 25/03/2011 16:50

Hello! If you have recently miscarried and are thinking of or actively trying again come and join us! We offer plenty of cake, tea and wine if needed! Come in and laugh, cry and rant as needed, and don't be afraid of asking whatever questions you need answers to and we'll try our best to answer them.

Add yourself to the stats list whenever you are ready.

wtcc = waiting to try to conceive
ucl = usual cycle length
wtf cycle = the time after your mc when you have no idea whats going on with your normal cycle

Lets hope this is a lucky thread and we all get our bfps!

part 14 of the thread

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Chloe55 · 13/04/2011 08:16

I know I said I would be going quiet but I can't resist lurking....then posting Grin

Congratulations minnie that's fab news.

flg It does sound like an awfully long time to wait for all us TTC (prob not to 'normal' people though Wink) I hope she has got the dates wrong but like melie says if the odds are that different I really would wait. Mcing has ruined my life really - I know that sounds dramatic but have never suffered depression before and have never been sEnvy of people before.

Turns out I wasn't on CD1 yesterday - just my usual odd bleed when wiping Confused Am pretty sure I can't have ovulated this month though as HPT still saying negative and AF is now late Sad

freelancegirl · 12/04/2011 22:41

Hi ochaye.

I forgot to write the damn day down when I felt I was ovulating but I think it was pretty soon after bleeding had stopped. Bleeding seemed to stop 2 weeks to the day I started spotting (which led into full on bleed and contractions and eventual natural mc). On that two week mark I also did a pg test and it was negative. I think around 2-3 days after that I ovulated. So that would be 17ish days after spotting started and 12 days after passed the sac (not sure if sac day passing is relevant).

Are you planning to start again right away?

Am 36, turn 37 at the end of July. I will definitely get serious with the midwife when she gets back. Am in full-on, proactive, obsessive research mode and want to get the ball rolling!

olismum23 · 12/04/2011 21:15

congratulations Minnie!! :)

meliesmummy · 12/04/2011 21:11

Congratulations Minnie !!!! Grin! Don't worry about pains, they are probably just your bean settling in and getting comfy!

Im with you on the quorn sausages harrassed Wink (no I'm not stalking you!)

Nice to hear from you blackkat.

Waves to everyone else!

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lily06 · 12/04/2011 21:08

Evening ladies,

Blackkat nice to see you on here, how's things? Hope you are ok, and your dad too x

Minnie congrats, that's great news!!

Chloe that all sounds very sensible. Have to say i've not temped at all this month and other than the folic acid haven't taken any supplements, and have had more than the odd glass or too as well. Sounds like just what you need.

Freelance that does sound like a long list, fx she's got it wrong.

Mellies hope AF slows down a bit for you, doesn't sound like much fun. I have the opposite problem, with 1/2 a day max and only need a thin pantyliner (sadly poor AF = poor lining I think) - your's must be brilliant, if that makes you feel any better!

Cep poor you, hope ds has a better night tonight. Any more spotting/mucus or is everything ok today?

Collie sorry you're feeling so pooly, hope the ms subsides a little and makes you feel more comfortable.

No news here, few cramps but nothing else so far. Last cycle (1st on clomid) was a perfect 28 days, but prior to that they've been anything from 25-50 days, so not getting my hopes up. Not going to test again until Fri, since I'm just wasting more sticks and I refuse to buy them cheap in bulk because I would just waste even more of them!!!

ochaye · 12/04/2011 20:57

Oh cep that must have been really tough last night. But 30 minutes is really, really good! It can only get better from here. I hope you're ok after your appointment today, you sound like you are. It's very early to hear anything with the doppler so really nothing to worry about.

thumb/harassed - we won't wait for a full cycle before trying again either. I'm pretty realistic that it's unlikely to happen before af, but I feel better if I'm doing something.

Saying that, good for you Chloe for taking a break. Enjoy yourself!! You deserve it.

How quickly did you ovulate freelance? Straight after your mc? On the subject of the conversation with the midwife, I know she's away for a while, but when she gets back I'd be open with her about how long you feel you can wait and see what she suggests. How old are you (sorry for the direct question)?

Sorry you're in so much pain mellies - that sounds like a lot of bleeding. If I were you I'd transfer to pads until it settles a bit?

Lovely news Minnies! Warm congrats from Scotland x

Blackkat · 12/04/2011 20:25

sorry ladies, I'm struggling to keep up with threads at the moment

Mel so sorry to hear that you are having a heavy and painful AF, I really hope it settles down for you ((hugs))

Minnie Grin, Grin congratulations, brilliant news!

olis I've got FX for you for the end of the week x

Cep sorry you didn't get the doppler fix I know you wanted and that DS still isn't sleeping

Laylas hope you are ok?

Chloe think you are making a good decision to give the Clomid a miss this month, hope you get to enjoy yourself and have some fun Smile

lily how's it going?

ochaye, so sorry Sad to hear your news, hope you are getting some good support in RL

freelancegirl · 12/04/2011 19:27

Gosh it's so exciting to see people get BFPs in almost real time!! Am relatively new to mn so haven't seen many. Good on you Minnie, really exciting stuff :) Hope it all goes well this time.

Cep I will indeed double check. She has gone away for a couple of weeks now and am still waiting for af (am kinda hoping it is later rather than sooner now as it would mean I wouldn't have planned to do anything anyway!) and will see what she says when she gets back.

cep · 12/04/2011 19:03

minnie that's great news congratulations. Grin so pleased for you.

flg i'd definately double check with them that it is 4-6 months.

Minnie74 · 12/04/2011 18:52

Hi everyone

sunshine welcome and sorry for your loss-everyone is great on here though.

freelance that sounds really frustrating. 4-6 months for private-nightmare. I guess you know how you'd cope with either option- do what feels right i guess.

Just wanted to let you know that I finally caved in and tested. It's a BFP!!!!!Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin

I so can't believe it Shock and am more than a little bit terrified. Have had weird pains all day, one in my side which is just like one i had with the mc in nov. No bleeding though which i hope is a good sign. Just hoping to get past 6 weeks and then can work on bigger milestones.
It's a bit hard sharing the news when I know how full of mixed emotions it is-we're not telling anyone in rl till later this time (though their and your support after the mc was fantastic).

fx for lots more good luck xxx

freelancegirl · 12/04/2011 17:58

She was quite hurried in the second email when she mentioned this (she wrote quite a bit but i am deducing that from the writing) but in this email she did say that the 4-6 months waiting list WAS the private list!! It's for Mr Shehata. Am wondering if she got this wrong as she was in a hurry...?

meliesmummy · 12/04/2011 17:47

freelance could you go private and get seen quicker? To be honest I would do anything to reduce the risk of another mc, I just couldn't stand the thought of going through this emotional and physical stress ever again, so if it was me I would wait, but I can see where you are coming from and I understand your frustration. You know what you can cope with though, what does your oh think?

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freelancegirl · 12/04/2011 17:41

Collie I love the idea of having to nip off at work for a secret mn and secret vom! Well, obviously it isn't much fun but the thought did make me chuckle. And it is all for a good reason. I remember that first stage as being realyly hard though and I imagine it will be a lot harder with the worry post-mc.

Thanks for all the comments on the scan cep, harassed, bump, Loup, thumb, YRMOTB, Melies and anyone I have missed.

Melies Sounds to me that that is the last of the pg lining too. They told me today that the next period would be heavier. Hopefully mine will get here soon too, I feel really bloated and today wanted to consume entire contents of fridge in one door-opening. My PMS can tend to go on for weeks at the best of times though!

Something else has cropped up. I had an email conversation with a midwife at one of the testing centres have been referred to and she said please, please (twice!) don't ttc until you have started to see us as you will need to be on steroids to have a good chance of addressing the thyroid antibodies. Waiting lists are between 4-6 months!!!! Not sure what to do. Had made the decicision earlier to risk a mc and ttc again after af but they seem to really think I shouldn't Confused

Choices are: Wait as they say, get treatment and trust that their 85% success rates hold for me too. But get frustrated from waiting, worried about age, worry about not using that supposed post-mc fertility boost and also worried I will next time find it harder to conceive.

Don't wait and risk another mc as am not being treated properly and have 50% chance of one.

I guess there are some pros of waiting: Get to drink and go out and not feel sick and tired, get to feel a bit more positive that next time it might work, get to not panic about another mc for a few months...

So confusing. I really wanted to join you on the ttc list! It's not all about the list I know, but you know what I mean.

meliesmummy · 12/04/2011 17:06

I'm day 2. Yesterday was ok, I managed with green always but since I got up at 2 ive soaked 3 tampons (orange) and 3 towels. I have had awful periods before but this is worse. Im assuming it's the last of my pg lining. I've sent dh out to take dd to her swimming lesson because I'm scared to leave the house, thank goodness I'm not working tonight!

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Bumpwanted · 12/04/2011 16:35

Melies what day of AF are you on? If its day 1 and you are like me then I can't use tampons for the first couple of days. Def couldn't have for first AF post MC.

xx

hopeful1 · 12/04/2011 15:59

olies dont know how I got rust from use

hopeful1 · 12/04/2011 15:58

Melies sorry to hear about painful af I hope it doesnt last too long

Olis I wouldnt rust any cheap hpt, only the best for us girls

Loup obssessing would be an understatment. I also dont feel pregnant but every twinge is a symptom. How can 2 weeks go so slowly. I promised my acupuncturist I wouldnt test until day 14 next wednesday (if I can make i that long) how about you??

Collie hope you start to feel a little better soon

Hello to everyone else

olismum23 · 12/04/2011 15:38

Stupid pound shop test bringing up lines that disappear!!! They are evaps im sure i dont even feel pregnant this month at all!

I will test Sunday when period is overdue with CB digital chloe you are my kindred spirit I am drinking going on the sunbeds and dying my hair next month and no supplements nothing!!!! my head needs a break!!!

meliesmummy · 12/04/2011 15:36

Sorry Cep, meant to say naughty bean for hiding! Don't worry though, it's very hard to pick up so early.

Is it normal to soak sn orange tampon in less than an hour?!

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Bumpwanted · 12/04/2011 15:31

Cep sorry the test couldn't provide any reassurance. I am sure though that you will have a fab scan when the time comes. I don't know what the protocol is at this stage for POAS - is it worth while to see if it says a higher number of weeks - might make you feel better?

Collie sorry to hear the symptoms are making you feel so rough. Never thought I would be jealous of someone with morning sickness but I am!! Wink

Loup good luck on your 2ww!

Melies yes I think it sounds like the system is getting a good clean out so you will be ready to go next time! Sorry you are feeling so tired. Can you put your feet up now?

Freelance I think you are right to get it checked out after AF but it all sounds pretty positive!

Hi everyone else! I can't wait for work to be over today. I just want to go home and sleep. I feel so tired today! xx

meliesmummy · 12/04/2011 15:06

Cep sorry your ds isn't sleeping properly, good luck for tonight!

freelance I was told similar (although not the ovulation part) so fx.

collie yay to symptoms! Sorry they make you feel so awful, sorry can't help with the secret vomming at work thing, maybe nappy sacks?

Fx for lily

How are you laylas?

Have a lovely chill out month Chloe, you deserve it x

harrassed hopefully cramps are a sign that things are getting back to normal.

well done on the school yrmotb, we had similar for dd, we've got a nursery place for sept but unfortunately that doesn't guarantee us a school place for next year - our first choice school is in a different catchment area, t
Although still walking distance (just).

Good luck holding out loupe

Hello to bump olis sunshine hopeful and everyone else x

This af is awful! Really painful and heavy, I'm guessing it's been building up for a while! Im hoping it'll lead to a good clear out. Work was awful, no morning break so I'm so so tired!

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cep · 12/04/2011 14:46

afternoon all.

yrmotb glad visit went well.

chloe sorry about af, enjoy your break. Smile

mel hope you're ok.

flg glad epu were supportive, hope retained tissue does go with af.

well mw tried with the doppler but bean wasn't playing along. so will just have to wait for scan. Hopefully will get scan before parents come down beginning of may but i doubt it.

Loup23 · 12/04/2011 13:15

hi hopeful1 glad I hve some company on the 2ww - really not feeling pg and trying so hard not to obsess and remember that I'm only on 6 or 7dpo! When are you testing? I was hoping to hold out until AF due but as this is my first month after mc i'm not really sure when that is! Maybe I'll wait until this weekend.......

olismum hope your bfp shows up soon, which tests are you using?

freelance hope AF comes soon so you can move to the ttc list

cep sorry to hear about DS, hope that passes and you get to have a peaceful night soon.

good luck with DTD this week bump

Waves and throws baby dust to all x

Collie2 · 12/04/2011 10:17

Welcome sunshine so sorry for your loss. It's a lovely thread so make yourself at home. If you flick back a page I posted yesterday about supplements that I and dh took.

lily fx AF is a no show for you today .
chloe sorry about AF. Good for you having a break. Enjoy it! ...but please pop in on us!

ochaye yes I thought I recognised you from a few months back but you went quiet. I'm updiffed Smile and on the nov thread, I noticed your posts there. Early days for me still.

((hugs)) for harassed for being on cd 21 already. Fx for you again though. Sorry you feel dh has forgotten but I think cep could be right, maybe be he just doesn't want to bring it up. Men deal with these things so differently too. After my mc, dh seemed fine after a few weeks and I thought he'd forgotten. He hadn't, it was just he way of dealing with it.

mels hope work went quickly. How is the reflexology going?

cep good luck today. Sorry the gate didn't go to plan last night, it sounds so hard. Feel for you. X

yrmotb well done for not getting too upset after visiting SIL and new baby. Yay for ds getting first choice school too! How are things with you? Made any wedding or holiday plans?

good luck at epu freelance

I'm just hiding out in the staff room for 10 mins trying not to barf! Ms lasted all day and night yesterday, even had to get out of bed to throw up last night! Yuk! I'm soooooo tired, just want my bed!

Youremindmeofthebabe · 12/04/2011 10:11

I used to temp, hihp but now only do 1 ov stick a day. I ov anytime between day 16 and 24, so find it quite useful! I have a freaky body..