Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 15)

AF here, will update the list later, on phone just now so daren't risk it as I'll probably lose half of it or something .

melie I know someone mentioned making sure your iron levels are up at the mo to combat the exhaustion but have you tried Spatone? I found they really helped me last month.

cep your dh is being a prat, however, I often think that sometimes the men have no idea how worried and anxious we get in those first stages of pg. They don't feel every ache or witness every bleed so it doesn't enter their heads all the time like it does us - I bet he is just thinking about the pennies and to him it makes no odds having a scan this week as apposed to the 5th, it won't change the outcome so to speak. I am not agreeing with him, just trying to see his pov - he was twatty about how he dealt with it though.

loup cause he's an ass. i called the hosp to ask about my scan cause hoping would be sooner rather than later. when told 5/5 had a little meltdown cause still worried about bleed from last week, and was holding it together thinking would be scanned at 12 weeks, i would be nearer 14 weeks by 5/5. anyway was saying to dh i wanted to book a private scan cause i didn't think i could wait, and i didn't feel comfortable going to dr's again to beg for a scan and he was saying we can't afford it etc etc. so i said why didn't he pay his mate (who gave him a loan to buy some machinery) half this month so we could afford it, i got a text back saying "do what the fuck you want, you do anyway, i don't give a shit anymore, i've had enough" and he's turned his phone off. that was at 3:30 and it's still off. I haven't been able to get through to him to tell him i've got an appt at epu for tuesday. (or tomorrow if cancellation) and to be honest am getting really annoyed at the lack of support. he said he understood where i was coming from so why get so stroppy.

well done for avoiding boots. good luck for tomorrow.

bump laughing at your shoe comment, it suddenly seems the whole world is pregnant to me!

cep why locking dh out? What has he (or hasn't he done?). I have a work party tonight and DH has told me to be sensible and only have the one if i must drink..... think I'm getting PMT as told him it was easy for him to say - poor DH he can't win....

Anyway, I stayed away from Boots and I shall merrily POAS tomorrow and swiftly place the stick under natural sunlight, a torch and a microscope in the hope I see a faint faint line.....

Have a good evening all x

bump nevermind the shoe, throw the whole shoe rack. i'm thinking of locking dh out of the house later.

mels you'd think they'd be a bit more careful with the lo's wouldn't you. But i'm glad the mc didn't count, it doesn't for us either, i get 7 days and like you anything pg related doesn't count, that's why i alwayus tell them straight away.

That's ridiculous *Melies". Wow how unsympathetic can they be.

Am irritated and in a bad mood. Someone else I know has just announced they are pregnant and they are so smug about it. I am close to throwing a shoe!

Angela you poor love it must be so fristrating. Well done for trying to hang on with the testing. I hope you get a BFP soon.

Melies glad you are going back to the docs. Wow your work policy is strict. Mind you, if they interviewed you I think you have a pretty good reason for being off given you've had a MC. I do understand though that employers are not always as sympathetic as we'd hope.

Loup resist the boots urge!

My OV sticks have arrived. Am hanging on until 3pm to test and I am busting for the loo. Seriously, had a small drink of grapefruit juice (thank you Cep) at lunch with my food and I really need to go!!!!!

mel glad you've decided to go back to the drs.

stitch i'm sorry you're feeling so low at the moment, is only natural, and don't worry about having mememe moments on here, we all do it.

bump yay for dtd.

angela sorry for bfn, hopefully was just to early.

fx for all 2 weeks waiters.

Thanks bump angela loup and thumbwitch, it does help knowing you are all thinking of me.

Sorry about the me rant before, it is quite good to actually write it all down and just get it off my chest. I am OK but just a bit down at the moment - coming back from holidays always makes you a bit flat and this just added to things.

Hi guys. Sorry its been so long again! I've been lurking, but never get the time to actually sit down and write something.

stitch I'm so sorry to hear your news, must make it twice as hard when life is hectic and you're so far from family. I know its not the same, but you always have us guys. Really really hope things start getting better for you soon (huge hugs) xx

mellies how are you now? hope you're feeling better. I know how you feel about the doctors, i live in a small town where its nearly impossible to get tests, and the nearest hospital that'll do them and scans is over an hour away. But if this carries on please get yourself checked out, you can't carry on feeling this rough!

Huge congrats minnie on the BFP.

bump yay for DTD!

harrassed good luck with the house.

Sorry for everyone i've missed, hope all is well with you.
As for me...Still feeling sick every morning, but did a test on Sun morn and BFN :( not sure if its just too early to detect, or if the symptoms are all in my head! Not sure when AF is due because of MC but i've locked the sticks away and am trying my hardest not to test again for at least another week!

Opposite to me then Stitch! Perhaps I should send you to my Dad and I'll go visit your mum and we can trade hugs?

I'm hoping to get back to the UK in May though - just trying to persuade DH to come with us this time, he's not keen (he's Aussie) but we'll miss his birthday if he doesn't come. :(
I have a gynae appt on June 7th and can't miss it - it took 4m to get that one!

Well yes bump i see i've made progress! I've been fine up until today, for some reason I am overly obsessed today and not really sure when AF due as on cd31 already but didn't ovulate until cd22/23 - anyway shall probably continue peeing on internet cheapies to satisfy my urge! Must stay away from Boots at lunchtime......

Good luck hihp, the internet cheapies didnt give me a BFP until dpo14 last time however see that I do not take my own advice in any way...... For once this weekend will be a slow one I suspect!

I just can't switch off the symptom spotting no matter how hard I try! I've weaned myself off ov stick and stopped poas stupidly early so that at least is progress .

Loup I'm going to test on Monday. It'll be cd27 of a usual 28 day cycle, but I'm seeing my kinesiologist in the afternoon so will be good to know if I can. I have one internet cheapie!!

Ah Loup I remember the days of our ridiculous 5DPO testing!!!! I think you have done very well to get to 8...fingers crossed for the next few days.

Awh stich hun I'm so sorry you are so far away from family and your DH is busy. Bad things always seem to happen at the worst time. I had my MC and my husband was then away on business for 3 weeks (left the day it happened) and it was so hard. I actually got a bit stronger when he was away but when he got back I seemed to go back a step and was crying a lot. Its only natural for you to be feeling really emotional - don't think you are not coping because you are - this is a really sad and upsetting time and your feelings are perfectly natural.

Do you think it might be worthwhile going to the doctor and asking if you can speak to someone about what has happened? Might help to talk to a third party and just get it all out. I seriously considered it as I felt so low just before my AF but things seem to have gotten a lot better now so I think it just take time.

Sending you a virtual hug!

Morning all, stitch i hope a chat with DH does the trick and you work out what's best for you, not sure where home is for you but I know after mc (which I haven't told my mum about) I would have loved to just go back to her house and hideaway. Big hugs for you.

Yay bump for DTD, fingers crossed for the next couple of weeks.

harrassed i know what you mean about symptom spotting. I am now comparing every day to the month I did get my BFP when I spotted on and off for 14 days before a BFP - this time no spotting so change my mind between thinking that's a good thing to thinking i'm obviously not pg. Promised dh I wouldnt do ridiculously early tests and found myself with my head pressed against the window this morning trying to see an imaginary line on an internet cheapie well I made it to 8dpo rather than last time's ridiculous 5!! When will you test harrassed? and hopeful1 how are you?

Waves to all xx

thumbwitch - I'm in the UK and home is Australia, I love living here but just wish it wasn't so far away at times like this.

Stitch - where are you now and where is home? Agree that being the other side of the world from your family is rough - am in the same position with my Dad etc. - it's hard!

Bump - yay for DTD!

Harassed - symptom spotting is difficult to switch off, isn't it.

Thanks for your lovely messages, it is so great to know other people understand what i?m going through as haven't told anyone in RL here.

I would love to have my mum for cuddles but being on the other side of the world it?s a bit difficult so DH has to do the job.

Did break down a bit last night and DH has agreed that we are going to have a 'chat' about our future at the beginning of next month. He is crazy busy at work and going back home for a wedding at the end of the month so now is not the best time. I don?t really have the support in RL that I need over here at the moment and I don?t think I'm coping very well emotionally with the losses.

Kind of feel like I?m just going through the motions and waiting for life to happen, financially it makes much more sense to have a baby here and get all my work maternity benefits etc... But then I also don?t think it?s good for me to let it be the sole focus of my life and as we have been talking about a move maybe we just need to get on and do it now. Would love to move back home but likewise happy to settle for something just a bit closer than a 24 hour flight.

I do agree that the early tests are not good for the heartache they can cause when this happens but the doctor has stressed that I do need to test on the first day of my missed period and that was when I got the BFP. I need to know asap so that they can get the drugs right to prevent miscarriage. With no treatment I have a 1 in 10 chance of a live birth, that gets better with the drugs but they do have to get the dose right.

Go bump with the DTD action

Morning ladies

Stich I am so so sorry hun. You have been amazingly strong and I am glad you have your Mum and DH for some cuddles at this time. The more I hear of stories like this the more I think those early tests really shouldn't have been created as it is so disappointing and upsetting.

Mel hun if you are going to wait to go to the docs at least take some iron supplements. You sound totally drained. I know you are super busy but could you call in sick - sounds like you need to rest for a day or two.

Minnie do you do zumba usually? if so and you are used to it they usually say it is ok provided it doesn't put a strain on your tummy. I know yoga teachers won't teach pregnant people for the first 12 weeks unless you are really used to it and know your body so I guess it depends on whether you do it regularly.

Harassed very exciting about the house. Where abouts are you looking?

Morning Cep Loup Collie Chloe Thumb and anyone else I've left off.

News from Bump today...we finally DTD !!

Morning,

Stitch I'm so very sorry to hear your news, and you've been so brave. I think these early testing preg tests make it a lot harder on all of us. Huge ((()))'s.

Chloe did you do anything about seeing a kinesiologist?? Just that my af/cycle changed so much for the better after starting to see mine. Going again on Monday when I'll be cd27 after latest mc, so she can check all my levels.

Minnie I don't think zumba would do any harm, but I think you'd use it as a stick to beat yourself with if, god forbid, anything should go wrong. I 've been wondering if the running the week before my bfp caused my latest mc. In my head I know it didn't, but then hormones don't really make you rational!!

Mel I think you should get checked out lovely.

I'm stupildy symptom spotting. On one hand I want a bfp, but on the other I'm absolutely flipping terrifed!!

Ooh and hopefully tonight we're going to view a house! Fingers x'd it's lovely as it's the area I want.