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Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 15)

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meliesmummy · 25/03/2011 16:50

Hello! If you have recently miscarried and are thinking of or actively trying again come and join us! We offer plenty of cake, tea and wine if needed! Come in and laugh, cry and rant as needed, and don't be afraid of asking whatever questions you need answers to and we'll try our best to answer them.

Add yourself to the stats list whenever you are ready.

wtcc = waiting to try to conceive
ucl = usual cycle length
wtf cycle = the time after your mc when you have no idea whats going on with your normal cycle

Lets hope this is a lucky thread and we all get our bfps!

part 14 of the thread

stats to follow

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shorty100 · 16/04/2011 18:47

Hello everyone not been on for a while, been trying to not think about thing. Too much. Really happy for everyones bfps and hello to everyone new, its not nice to have to be hear but everyone is lovely.

Well, my af is due tomorrow, has everyone on their second af after mc found that their cycle went back to normal? I'm so stressed at the moment, waiting to hear whether ds has got into the school we want and waiting for af. X

Collie2 · 16/04/2011 15:13

Hi all. Just checking in on those on the 2ww! olis fx for you. No news from anyone else?

stich sorry to hear you don't have much support in RL being so far from home. Dh and I were so close to selling and moving to Oz 2 years ago after planning it for years,bbut in the end a combination of promotions and being without a social network put us off. It must be v hard for you and oh. We're always here if you need us though.

chloe how are you sweet? No AF still?

harassed how are you hun? I hope you're doing better?

mels hope you're felling better?

cep how was last night?

blackkat v Envy at your sunny day. I'm pretty much boarder line yorkshire/north west and v cloudy today! Grin

Blackkat · 16/04/2011 14:35

Keeping my FX for you oli x

to everyone else and leaves yummy lollies for a sunny day, get them before they melt!

olismum23 · 16/04/2011 13:15

No AF today but BFN yesterday, not hopeful will just have to wait and see :)

Hope all is well with everyone and they are having a great sat

hopeful1 · 15/04/2011 20:53

Knitter I am so sorry to hear your very sad news, what an incredibly difficult decision to make. Look after yourself honey

Loup sorry the cheapie gave you a bfn, but it is still very early!!

Cep sorry abot your dh

Hello to everyone else on here

I have had extremely bad period pain that kept me awake all night last night. I was convinced yesterday I was pregnant but it is now very unlikely because of the bad pain. If I had known it would be more difficult the second time round I def would have started ttc earlier :(

stitchinline · 15/04/2011 16:27

knitter so sorry to hear your news

melies glad things are settled down a bit

sorry for the BFN chloe

thumb sounds a bit like something my DH would say, just have to remind myself he is so clueless about all this stuff. I bought him this book to read which has helped a little.....www.amazon.co.uk/Man-Pram-Conception-Birth-Blokes/dp/0733625053, bought at myer if you have one nearby.

cep Angry at DH, i hate the turning the phone off

Well I had a good appointment this morning, although the usual waiting around for ages. Apparently the registrars were all at a training day so it was only the consultant seeing people. She said that if I have another mc she will refer me to the rmc consultant. Hopefully it doesn't come to that but nice to know I don't have to chase around and hassle people. Still on the injections but that I don't mind although last nights was major ouch, sometimes they don't hurt at all and sometimes I'm doubled over in agony Confused, thankfully usuallly the former.

Off to add grapefruit juice and brazil nuts to grocery order - and so it starts again!

Hope you all have lovely weekends.

Original poster
meliesmummy · 15/04/2011 15:01

I just came across this on the mc support forum
humrep.oxfordjournals.org/content/18/8/1724.full
for those of you who had a missed mc like me its very reassuring - it basically says that random genetic abnormalities are the main cause of mmcs rather than a physical problem that would reoccur again. It's made me feel A LOT better.

I was actually crying as a i watched that mums behaving badly program when the first 'lady' who was 26 weeks pg lit up on the sofa next to her 3 yo. Then she stopped the filming rather than take the midwife's advice. My blood was boiling!

Enjoy your weekend Cep

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cep · 15/04/2011 13:37

afternoon ladies,

mel glad it seems more under control just make sure you have enough rest.

chloe sorry for the bfn's hon. hoping it changes to p soon.

well no call for a cancellation, which i'm a little bit pleased about, this weekend is the first night dh and i have actually gotten to be alone since ds was born. So although i will obviously be a little worried still at least it's not a definate bad news.

Original poster
meliesmummy · 15/04/2011 13:36

I was so sorry to hear your news knitter, what an awful position to be put in, I'll be thinking of you and your oh today x

I'm going to do the ironing and watch the mums behaving badly programme that was on last night, I may be back to rant afterwards....

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Loup23 · 15/04/2011 13:24

Sorry to hear your news knitter wishing you and your dh the very best.

cep how insensitive of H, have you resolved things? Let us know how the epu appointment goes.

I am having an awful stressful day at work and cannot wait to go home, did another internet cheapie BFN and really not feeling pg this month and if that's the case hope AF gets on and shows her face.

Hello to all others, well done bump, hope you feel better soon mels and hope you have a restful weekend collie

Any news hopeful? xx

angela85 · 15/04/2011 12:50

knitter So very sorry to hear your news. Really feel for you to have had to make such a tough decision.
cep Can't believe your dh (or should that just be h, as he's being so insensitive) said that! Have you spoken to him since? is he being more understanding now? Really hope things go well at the EPU.
mellies glad things are getting better.
sorry bout AF lily
Hope you feel better soon collie
Waves to everyone else. xxxx

Collie2 · 15/04/2011 11:59

Lily sorry about AF

Chloe sorry you're left hanging by AF and wondering. my fx are crossed for you just in case.

cep i'm so sorry your dh is being a bit of a pig! He does sounds a bit very insensitive, but i think like chloe said, men don't understand the worry and obssession the same. My DH is the same, although he is supportive of me having a private scan, i don't think he really sees the point and i think if we couldn't afford it he might have a different view.

mels glad your AF is easing but sorry you're still so tired and drained. Heres to hoping your cycle sorts itself out this month though!

Sorry for not name checking everyone else, i'm at home slunk on the sofa feeling ill, just totally beat.

Will catch up properly soon x

thumbwitch · 15/04/2011 11:35

Knitter, that's so sad, so sorry for you. We discussed this possibility for ourselves, if things had got that far and DH was of the opinion that termination was a must - I was and am ambivalent about it but won't know unless and until I am in that position - I really feel for you, having to make that decision. :(
I don't know if it's the done thing or not on this thread but have a ((hug)) anyway. Better luck next time.

lil, sorry that you missed out this time - better luck next time for you too.

Go Bump!

Chloe55 · 15/04/2011 10:35

Grin bump

Bumpwanted · 15/04/2011 10:31

Morning ladies

Knitter I am so sorry, you poor love. Thinking of you and your other half. Make sure you look after yourself and each other xx

Cep blimey your DH is being a bit unfair. Men. I'll say it again. Men. What is wrong with them sometimes???

Melies so glad you are feeling a bit better. Was getting a bit worried about you. Hope you feel even better over the weekend.

Thumb Shock I think I would have def thrown my shoe at your DH if he'd said that to me.

Oli well done for holding out on testing. You never know though its not over til the red lady sings!

Lil sorry the red lady got you Sad

Loup how did the POAS go this morning?

Hi to everyone else!

My news this morning....well in the words of Kylie

Wink

xx

harassedinherpants · 15/04/2011 10:01

Knitter I'm so sorry, I'd already seen your news on the updiffed thread as lurk occasionally to see how everyone's doing. Left a message on your thread. Take care of yourself lovely, and be kind to yourself. Much love xx

Chloe55 · 15/04/2011 09:56

Oh my God Knitter Sad I am so so sorry, what awful news. God knows what you are going through right now. Take care my love and stay strong xxx

KnitterNotTwitter · 15/04/2011 09:48

Hey ladies

Just taking myself off the BFP stats as we have discovered that my bean has Downs Syndrome and have made the incredibly difficult to terminate.

Hopefully I'll be able to join the WTTC list again soon...

FRIDAYS LIST

TTC

HidingInTheUndergrowth TTC#1, cycle 5 UCL 28 CD42
laylasmummy09 ttc#2 mc#2 28/28days cycle 1 CD36
Chloe55 TTC #2, cycle 7 post MC#2 UCLrandom CD35
Minnie74 ttc#1 cycle 4, ucl28 CD33
Olismum TTC#2 cycle 2, UCL 31 CD30
Shorty ttc#2 cycle 2, ucl 30 CD27
Hadrian TTC#1, MC#1 Dec 2010, cycle 2, UCL35-40,CD27
Loola2shu TTC#3 Cycle 8 UCL35-38,CD35 postMC#2 UCL26-32, CD26
harassedinherpants TTC#4, MC#3, UCL 28 or 31, WTF cycle, CD24
tokyotwist TTC#2 MC#1 Feb2011 CD23
vegasmum ttc#3 wttc ucl28-30 CD23
Youremindmeofthebabe TTC#2, Cycle 8 UCL33 CD20
Brooke ttc#1? wttc ucl? CD12
wellieboots ttc #1, cycle 3, UCL 33-35 CD7
ochaye ttc #3, MC#2 Apr 11, WTF cycle, UCL 31, CD7
IfAtFirstUDontSucceed: TTC no1, MC no2, Jan 2011, UCL 28/29 CD7
Meliesmummy TTC #2 cycle 3 CD5
lily06 TTC#1 EP Jan 10, MC May 10, UCL 25-? CD2
Skitoo TTC#1, WTF CD?
Angela85 ttc#2 cycle 1 ucl ?
hopeful1 ttc#2 IUI with clomid
Stitchinline TTC#1, Cycle 1, UCL 33, CD

WTTC
ZamMummyInGabs TTC#3 cycle 3
Choccybick TTC#1 (post mc1) cycle 6 UCL 27
Mousebacon TTC#2 MC#2
MaybeBaby TTC#1 MC#1
babypops
WildSheepChase TTC#2 MC#6 Jan 2011, UCL 33-36
LadyBee TTC#2, UCL27
Milkyway2007 ttc#? wttc ucl? WTF
jkklpu wtc ucl? WTF
securegal, TTC#1 MC#1 March 2011, WTF, UCL 28
Reallyusefulengine TTC#3 MC#Mar 2011, UCL 26-28 days
Freelancegirl ttc#2 WTF cycle ucl 28-38
Gimmegimmegimme ttc #3 mmc mar 11 ucl 28-32

MIA
BrownB TTC#1 cycle 1 (post MC2) UCL 24-26
Getawiggleon TTC#2, Cycle7 UCL28-32 (Lurking)

RECENT BFP's
Tigger15 TTC#2 cycle 22 UCL24-9 CD30 BFP 16 Jan 2011
Lemonsherbert BFP 18 Jan 2011
HongKongBaby#2, cycle 5 (post mc1), UCL 37, CD31 BFP 18 Jan 2011
MamaPower TTC#1, cycle 5 (post MC#2) UCL 25- 27 CD29
Lovebeingadaddysgirl TTC#? WTC cycle
GetDownYouWillFall TTC#2
Velvetcu TTC #1 Cycle 6 UCL 30-33, 18/2/11
MummyAbroad TTC #2, cycle 2 (Post AS Op)) BFP 23/02/11
Cep TTC#2 Cycle 2 UCL24-28 BFP 24/2/11
Hils74 TTC#1 MC#1 Jan 2011 BFP 28/2/11
Ochaye TTC#3 cycle 1 UCL 31 bfp 02/3/11
Ninunina TTC#1, MC#1, WTF cycle, bfp 09/03/11
Collie TTC#1 MC#1 Cycle 1 UCL 40 BFP 17/03/2011
Banana87, TTC#2, MC#3, UCL35-37 bfp 17/3/2011
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC#3 cycle 8 UCL 24-30 BFP 18/03/2011
Iggly TTC#2, UCL 29-31 bfp 18/3/11
Blackkat TTC#1, MC#1 Jan 2011, Cycle 1, UCLrandom CD32, BFP 30/3/2011

RECENT GRADUATES

Owlbooty BFP
Nickstermum BFP
DachshundsRule BFP
Wombat33 BFP
Pinkfondantfancy BFP
Emoo BFP 30/1/11

Thinking of?

Digitalgirl, Hairytriangle, AandRm, Mumtum, Stitch, Knitter

Chloe55 · 15/04/2011 09:19

FRIDAYS LIST

TTC

HidingInTheUndergrowth TTC#1, cycle 5 UCL 28 CD42
laylasmummy09 ttc#2 mc#2 28/28days cycle 1 CD36
Chloe55 TTC #2, cycle 7 post MC#2 UCLrandom CD35
Minnie74 ttc#1 cycle 4, ucl28 CD33
Olismum TTC#2 cycle 2, UCL 31 CD30
Shorty ttc#2 cycle 2, ucl 30 CD27
Hadrian TTC#1, MC#1 Dec 2010, cycle 2, UCL35-40,CD27
Loola2shu TTC#3 Cycle 8 UCL35-38,CD35 postMC#2 UCL26-32, CD26
harassedinherpants TTC#4, MC#3, UCL 28 or 31, WTF cycle, CD24
tokyotwist TTC#2 MC#1 Feb2011 CD23
vegasmum ttc#3 wttc ucl28-30 CD23
Youremindmeofthebabe TTC#2, Cycle 8 UCL33 CD20
Brooke ttc#1? wttc ucl? CD12
wellieboots ttc #1, cycle 3, UCL 33-35 CD7
ochaye ttc #3, MC#2 Apr 11, WTF cycle, UCL 31, CD7
IfAtFirstUDontSucceed: TTC no1, MC no2, Jan 2011, UCL 28/29 CD7
Meliesmummy TTC #2 cycle 3 CD5
lily06 TTC#1 EP Jan 10, MC May 10, UCL 25-? CD2
Skitoo TTC#1, WTF CD?
Angela85 ttc#2 cycle 1 ucl ?
hopeful1 ttc#2 IUI with clomid
Stitchinline TTC#1, Cycle 1, UCL 33, CD

WTTC
ZamMummyInGabs TTC#3 cycle 3
Choccybick TTC#1 (post mc1) cycle 6 UCL 27
Mousebacon TTC#2 MC#2
MaybeBaby TTC#1 MC#1
babypops
WildSheepChase TTC#2 MC#6 Jan 2011, UCL 33-36
LadyBee TTC#2, UCL27
Milkyway2007 ttc#? wttc ucl? WTF
jkklpu wtc ucl? WTF
securegal, TTC#1 MC#1 March 2011, WTF, UCL 28
Reallyusefulengine TTC#3 MC#Mar 2011, UCL 26-28 days
Freelancegirl ttc#2 WTF cycle ucl 28-38
Gimmegimmegimme ttc #3 mmc mar 11 ucl 28-32

MIA
BrownB TTC#1 cycle 1 (post MC2) UCL 24-26
Getawiggleon TTC#2, Cycle7 UCL28-32 (Lurking)

RECENT BFP's
Tigger15 TTC#2 cycle 22 UCL24-9 CD30 BFP 16 Jan 2011
Lemonsherbert BFP 18 Jan 2011
HongKongBaby#2, cycle 5 (post mc1), UCL 37, CD31 BFP 18 Jan 2011
MamaPower TTC#1, cycle 5 (post MC#2) UCL 25- 27 CD29
Lovebeingadaddysgirl TTC#? WTC cycle
GetDownYouWillFall TTC#2
KnitterNotTwitter TTC#2, MC#2, cycle 6 UCL 25-30 CD29 BFP 7/2/2011
Velvetcu TTC #1 Cycle 6 UCL 30-33, 18/2/11
MummyAbroad TTC #2, cycle 2 (Post AS Op)) BFP 23/02/11
Cep TTC#2 Cycle 2 UCL24-28 BFP 24/2/11
Hils74 TTC#1 MC#1 Jan 2011 BFP 28/2/11
Ochaye TTC#3 cycle 1 UCL 31 bfp 02/3/11
Ninunina TTC#1, MC#1, WTF cycle, bfp 09/03/11
Collie TTC#1 MC#1 Cycle 1 UCL 40 BFP 17/03/2011
Banana87, TTC#2, MC#3, UCL35-37 bfp 17/3/2011
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC#3 cycle 8 UCL 24-30 BFP 18/03/2011
Iggly TTC#2, UCL 29-31 bfp 18/3/11
Blackkat TTC#1, MC#1 Jan 2011, Cycle 1, UCLrandom CD32, BFP 30/3/2011

RECENT GRADUATES

Owlbooty BFP
Nickstermum BFP
DachshundsRule BFP
Wombat33 BFP
Pinkfondantfancy BFP
Emoo BFP 30/1/11

Thinking of?

Digitalgirl, Hairytriangle, AandRm, Mumtum and Stitch xx

I may have got the above wrong as it hasn't been done for a few days so please check you are where you want to be.

Well, still no AF and did actually nearly throw up on the school run Shock I have a feeling it's lack of sleep that's caused that though as didn't get to sleep til 2am last night as was waiting for dh to get in from work's do then we got chatting. All my cheapy internet tests are still definite BFNs and I never did get a positive OPK this months o am still thinking I just didn't ovulate hence the late period but now am starting to wonder whether the tests are just crap??? Confused

cep and thumb I have no idea how you managed to hold it together with your OHs after those comments Angry

Original poster
meliesmummy · 15/04/2011 09:18

Here not hear! Oops!

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Original poster
meliesmummy · 15/04/2011 09:17

Sorry af got you lily :(

Good work at the gym olis

Cep and thumb, I'm sorry that your ohs aren't being supportive I'm :( for you both, come on hear and moan all you want to us. Good luck with the epu Cep.

I'm not going to bother going to the gp because it's slowed down loads this morning, and I'm feeling a bit better, think I'll just carry on with the spatone even though it's quite expensive and a pain to get hold of (sainsburys have stopped selling it Angry. I'm also a bit Angry with dh, I found out this morning that at some point in the last few weeks, he doesn't know when, he stopped taking 2 vit c tablets (they are 500mg ones) and is taking 1 instead. He didn't do it deliberately, he seems to be a bit confused as to why. Men!

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cep · 15/04/2011 07:38

i didn't finish that.

mel i hope the bleeding is settling down, have you contacted the dr yet?

cep · 15/04/2011 07:38

lily sorry af here

oli well done for the gym.

mel

thumb Shock that's awful, i'm suprised you didn't brain him. mine on the way to the scan the other week said "you realise if it's bad news you won't get another 2 weeks off" we hadn't even entered the building. apparently as i've already had 1 mc if i have another i should be more used to it!!! I also hate the fact that he convinces himself of things he'll say things over again like, i never let him do what he wants and then he convinces himself of it. i never complain he's in the garage all the time. i never stop him going on bike rides unless we have guests coming round. All i say is that if he's spending a day going bike riding it'll be nice to spend a few hours the next day doing family stuff, and he objects to that. he's selfish and admits it, doesn't seem to think there's anything wrong in that.

I'm half hoping they can fit me in today but half scared. i'm away for the weekend don't know how i'll be if bad news.

thumbwitch · 14/04/2011 23:43

cep, so sorry that your DH is being such a knob. Mine came out with a classic "unsupportive in the extreme" comment when I got back from the hospital with my scan under my arm (different system here) and hepicked me up from the station. He asked how it had gone, I told him and he said
"So you were never really pregnant then?"
Shock
I find it difficult to be anything approaching civil at times like that and employ heavy sarcasm because otherwise I'd probably brain him.

olismum23 · 14/04/2011 20:50

cep Im so sorry your DH is being a d**k head big ((hugs)) hope you get through it sometimes men dont think before they speak.

mellies sorry your bleeding is so awful i am anemic so i have to take three iron tablets a day or i feel like death.

loup FX for testing!

lily06 sorry AF got you

chloe, bump , and everyone else hope you are well.

I burnt another 400kcl today at the gym but now my legs are killing me! I am also having cramps but AF is due Sat/Sun dont see the point in testing untill i am late so will wait till next week i am extremely doubtful after having the BFN yesterday.