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37 and starting to my myself freak out

29 replies

Karbea · 24/02/2011 20:15

Ok I need someone to tell me straight!

I'm 37, i'll be 38 in Dec, I've never had a baby or fallen pregnant. OH has never made anyone pregnant.

OH and I have been trying alot (we pretty much have s every day for the last three months (i know this isn't a long time). I feel it in my bones that we will have trouble falling pregnant (my mum had me in her 20's and then tried for 8 years before falling for my little brother in her 30s).

I've just been looking at IVF on the NHS website and it says it works for 16% of people over 38 (which I will be if we try that route) - 16%!!!!

Also I always wanted a big family 3 or 4, I'm pretty sure that's not going to happen, but I'd love at least 2...

I sort of feel like i'm living in a dream world and i'm never going to be a mummy. I feel really really emotional tonight, I'm only DPO3 so not hormonal Hmm

Here is my chart for the last month and this cycle in case that's helpful Sad

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Blackkat · 24/02/2011 20:39

Hi - my gp would test me for bloods etc after 12 months (I was 33), she said we needed to have been trying for 3 years before she could refer us any further, so I told her we had been trying for nearly 3 years! She was cool about the referral after that.

Oh and Marilyn Glenville's book is spot on, she has a website too, google her.

Good luck Wink x

drivingmisscrazy · 24/02/2011 20:34

yes, it's a book. It's very good at putting the information on the line - and you could get him to read the male fertility chapter.

I'm not in the UK, but I think you could stretch a point about how long you've been trying and say it's 6 months, and then they should do them for you. But perhaps others with better info on how GPs handle this will come along in a mo.

Good luck!

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Karbea · 24/02/2011 20:28

Hello,

Will the GP just do those if I ask?

We are both on Vitabiotics Pregnacare his and hers conception, hers has Vit B1, B2, B3, B6 & B12.

I have a pretty clean lifestyle, but OH drinks quite a bit (due to his job - lots of socialising).
Is "Marilyn Glenville's Getting Pregnant Faster" a book? I think I need to get something like that to drum the alcohol issue into OH!

Thank you driving

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drivingmisscrazy · 24/02/2011 20:22

first of all, stop panicking! But I would suggest a couple of things:
first, go to your GP and get some basic bloods done (LH, FSH, day 21 progesterone etc) then you'll know a bit more where you stand.

Second, look into taking some supplements - your luteal phase (the bit between ovulation and your period) is a little on the short side - ideally it would be 12-14 days - B vitamins in particular are very good for regulating this.

Third, clean up your lifestyle (and that includes OH!): Marilyn Glenville's Getting Pregnant Faster is good - and gives information about supplements. You need to stop drinking, cut out sugar and processed foods, cut down on red meat etc etc. It's really tedious, but it does help (and you will lose weight!)

HTH. I hope you get what you want - but at 37 you might have to help things along in a way that you wouldn't at 25 (I know, I've been there!)