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Freak out room for those newly updiffed after MC to hold hands and support each other...

987 replies

YourFriendBrian · 18/02/2011 08:35

Hello!

Newly updiffed and freaking out about spotting, cramping, the wait until your first scan and each little twinge? Settle in for lots of hand holding and supprt until you're ready to move to grads.

Lots of love
Brian x

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cep · 24/02/2011 15:59

thanks dachs Grin definately need to wait until af date passes.

OrangeGloss · 24/02/2011 15:56

Cep oh congratulations! :) Mummya I wanted to congratulate you more but it seemed inappropriate at the time, sorry but I am so pleased for you both

I'm back from my course and already feel happier at the thought of sleeping in my own bed tonight :)
Note to self: tuck in dangly necklace when being sick - eww!

DH has relented and let me book a private scan at the place Mamap kindly recommended for next Friday. Now I'm thinking I've jinxed it, and rather not know, but that's silly. No such thing as jinxing and better to know sooner than later. Plus just opened a tax rebate which pretty much covers the cost to the £

DoubleDiffedDachs · 24/02/2011 15:13

welcome cep :)

cep · 24/02/2011 14:17

Nosing in through window at the moment. bfp this morning, but af is due this weekend so waiting to see what happens.

bee so sorry about your news.

dachs good luck at the dr's.

Wombat33 · 24/02/2011 13:44

Good luck for this afternoon Dachs I hope the doc can put your mind at rest and the bleeding stops xxx

OrangeGloss · 24/02/2011 13:40

Velvet when I was getting my brown goo a lot came when I went to the loo as you describe, I think it's the muscle actions that are close by that do it. The only pattern I noticed was I'd get more first thing, and assumed it was because I had been lying down. Good plan to wait, a scan now might worry you unnecessarily. Why does the waiting have to be so tough though?! Your DH needs to remember your hormones are all over the place, and apart from that it's only natural to be so worried/upset

Oh Dachs I'm sorry this is happening, it may just be implantation blood that has been dislodged by your pups growing. I hope your dr either refers you or puts your mind at ease. It is not judgment for yesterday, you're pg - your emotions and sanity are all over the place - mine are!

nickstermum · 24/02/2011 13:39

Pink... You work long hours are you overtiredand ratty as well?

nickstermum · 24/02/2011 13:37

Gah,,,, no it's not insensitive! To those having personality disorders I am with you! Cried at master chef last night and the news this morning!
To those cramping, hope and am sure they are just stretches:)

Dachs I'm so sorry you arebleeding, nothing to do with yesterday xx hope you can get your feet up and let us know what the doctor says xx

Velvet it's normal to get it when you poop! :) good idea making a note though xx

Bee... You have been in my thoughts all day my love. I hope you are having lots of Ds snuggles and being looked after in rl xxx

Velvetcu · 24/02/2011 13:29

Big hugs dachs I hope everything is ok

mamapower · 24/02/2011 13:00

Dachs let us know how it goes at the doc's, hope all is well (((hugs)))

PinkFondantFancy · 24/02/2011 12:45

Just a quickie dacha you poor thing that must be really stressful :( of course it's not judgement though, don't think like that. Fingers crossed all still ok.

Thanks for being so lovely everyone-I've bumped mondays scan to tomorrow and I think that must have been what I was worrying about as feel so much better now.

Back to namecheck later xxxx

DoubleDiffedDachs · 24/02/2011 12:39

red bleeding this morning and cramps all day so far. seeing doc this afternoon :( maybe it's a judgment for freaking out yesterday when there was nothing to really worry about

pink hope you feel better later

wombat FX for your scan tomorrow

sorry - I know I've forgotten lots of you - I'm being crap at the moment. Brain overload.

notsobarrenmorebrokenbrook · 24/02/2011 11:54

bee my darling, I have just popped over as picked up on your news from the 6th form thread, I am so, so sorry, life is so cruel and unfair. I hope you and your DH are as OK as you can be. My stomach lurched when I read your news. Please don't hide away, stay with us and we will all help you through. Love and hugs xxx

Wombat33 · 24/02/2011 11:49

Velvet - mine seems to be a bit radom. Generally more when I'm active and in the mornings and evenings. Not sure there's too much of an identifiable patter really (other than every time I relax and think everything's going okay it starts again!!). Maybe I should follow your lead and keep a note.

Emoo · 24/02/2011 11:44

Pink - bless you, not insensitive at all. I'm sure Ladybee understands that the rest of us are still just as liable to freak out as ever, and will still be looking for comfort from the lovely ladies on this thread as well - and hopefully we have enough comforting words to go round all of us. About your guy at work - maybe if you feel in retrospect you were unreasonably snappy, a brief apology and explanation that you are going through some personal stuff at the moment and have a short fuse, and it's not anything personal?

Mamap - sorry about the cramps - I'm getting them too - fingers crossed it's nothing.

Digi - I think as we learn more and more about MC, the early scans get less and less reassuring? I did go and wail at the GP yesterday, but she very nicely and reassuringly pointed out that I'd had a scan less than a week ago, and my spotting was very minor, so I didn't get my EPU re-referral Sad. Instead, she told me to go and book a MW appointment, which I've done for Monday . At least if I'm still spotting and cramping by Monday, I can wail at the midwife to refer to EPU again. I agree, the days equivalent to the time of a previous MC are very very difficult.

Wombat - have had the gurgly tummy before, but not (yet) while pregnant! Sending my very best good luck for your scan tomorrow.

Velvet - you WILL get through the next few weeks. Somehow. If DH is being a numpty and laughing at you crying, come and cry here instead. I can't promise you will remain sane the next few weeks, but you WILL be able to pick yourself up and return to sanity somehow, whatever happens. About the brown goo, I personally am getting very little (but that is failing to reassure me because that was like last time), not enough to need panty liner anyway. I wonder if we should pop to the grad thread and ask the established updiffed people what their experiences were?

Ladybee - hope you are doing okay today. xx

Velvetcu · 24/02/2011 11:40

Fellow brown gooers - how much are you getting? I have started writing down when and how much I get (giving me some sense of control) and I always get a blob when I have a poo (TMI!)(which I seem to be doing a lot more often than normal!!) and then another blob before I go to bed. Apart from that, just a few smudges throughout the day.

It's too early for me to have a scan I think. I will wait til 7 weeks since that is my mmc milestone. Only 2 more weeks of mentalling to get through. I didnt even test til 7 weeks last time!

Wombat33 · 24/02/2011 11:36

Mamap it's like my insides are having a conversation with each other. Weird at home, bad work and mortifying on the silent commuter train to London this morning Blush

mamapower · 24/02/2011 11:21

we're a right bunch aren't we hey?!

Thanks orange I am clininging onto that Smile

Velvet crying is an a-typical symptom, you'll get there, if it helps, go get yourself scanned, do whatever it takes to keep yourself sane!

digi try and think positive hon, getting passed previous mc milestones is always a nerve racking time.

wombat abdomen gurgling made me chuckle Grin I am sure that's all to do with the changes going on in there Smile

Velvetcu · 24/02/2011 10:48

I'm in freakout mode too today! I cried this morning and DH laughed and said I always like to make a meal out of everything! I don't see how I can get through the next few weeks feeling like this I am going to crack up completely!

Wombat33 · 24/02/2011 10:46

Hugs to all those freaking out and also to Bee. I hope you're doing okay this morning xxx

No symptoms here either (apart from bleeding and really loud gurgling in my abdomen Blush - anyone had that??). counting the minutes until my scan tomorrow.

digitalgirl · 24/02/2011 10:30

Am also 3 days away (in cycle days) from when my last mc started. I guess I'll find out tomorrow if its going to be imminent. I have absolutely no symptoms today.

OrangeGloss · 24/02/2011 10:27

Pink I felt like that last night but a couple of things I needed to say as didn't want to seem rude! You're not insensitive, we're here specially for your freak outs! I agree it sounds like the hormones, it makes us out of control and tests our sanity. Does he know you're pg? He would understand if he knew but realise you might not want to go public yet

Mamap sounds like stretching to me x

digitalgirl · 24/02/2011 10:22

In light of recent events I have become very very scared about my scan tomorrow. Even though I'd thought I'd prepared myself for the worst, I really don't think I have. I should be 6+6 tomorrow, same as ladybee when she saw her HB...so even if all is well I'm clearly nowhere near out of the woods.

mamapower · 24/02/2011 10:18

pink firstly, it's not insensitive, that's what this thread/we're all here for Smile IMHO it's the hormones love, between week 8 and 12 they are increasing exponentially which is why some women get ms... too much for their bodies to take! It's normal sweets... 'tis a good sign Smile

I had cramps last night and this morning, not as bad as my memory of mc cramps and they aren't lasting too long, perhaps it's just a bit more uterus stretching! Hummm!

PinkFondantFancy · 24/02/2011 10:12

Ladies, I feel a bit insensitive posting about this after lady 's sad news but need a sanity check as I'm worried I'm losing my grip on reality... Has anyone else here turned into an emotional psycho? I had rage at work yesterday and must have taken it out on one guy in particular as he came over today to ask if he's done anything to upset me Blush. Today, i can't stop crying-have to keep going to the toilets for a little freak out before going back to work. I am shitting myself but no more particularly than normal, I didn't think. Maybe not having a scan this week was a bad idea afterall-am stuggling to keep the faith....

lady I'm thinking of you today. Xx

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