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TTC- DH performance problems, common or not?

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LauraSmurf · 14/02/2011 23:17

I was just wondering if anyone else's DH is having trouble producing the goods, on an alternate day schedule? We are trying to concieve and so having sex every other day from day 10 to day 20. The first 2 or 3 times he is ok but after that he finds it impossible to ejaculate. Is this normal?

A bit if background to give context. We are married but due to a mixture of no sex before marriage, endometriosis making sex painful until a laser surgery in July removed lots of cysts and adhesions, we have only really had a sex life since august.

My DH also has one undescended testicle. Could this be part of the problem?

I know lots of this is probably a bit graphic, but youare the only ones I can turn too for answers. Help please!!

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thumbdabwitch · 15/02/2011 07:24

yes, it is normal - DH has had a few problems in this department but we know that pressure is the root cause of it so both just say "hey, it happens sometimes, no problems, next time it will be fine" and so far it has been.

Still no baby mind, but DH is ok at performing his duty 90% of the time.

PatientGriselda · 15/02/2011 07:16

Candleshoe - how did you do that, if you don't mind the question? How did you broach it with your partner? And did he mind/think you were mad and obsessive?

candleshoe · 15/02/2011 07:00

You can take the pressure completely off by using a 'one off the wrist' + kitchen syringe combination. Careful though - I had twins!!!!

Bexamundo · 15/02/2011 06:40

Totally normal! He's under a lot of pressure, I can't get Dh to do it that often and we don't have your history. Taking vitamin E seems to put lead in Dh's pencil in our case. I would try dome relaxation techniques. Bear in mind making a baby hinges on him ejaculating hence the pressure. I'm sure others will come up with great ideas but I would try massages etc to get him in the mood but feel more relaxed!

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