Feisty Fabulous Forty somethings - part 2

panashe you have time for 2 more kids. Remember fifi came on the other day and told us she had one child at 42 and one at 46 - it's do-able

Thanks for the up-date I will remember you now - promise!

I want one that's 10 years younger . Not really DH .

Just watched Monday's Episode of Episodes. Matt LeBlanc is aging well

Love you too Jolly - not sure what I did to be a breath of fresh air but am always grateful for a bit of love

Message to little Jolly - It's only shoes, you'll be ok, be good for Mummy! There that's that sorted.

BB Just wanna tell you that jolls is sooo stalking you. Wow moving to London, a big decision. Whereabouts would you go? - or do you wanna keep it a secret. I'm trying to move to a less busy area and you're doing the opposite. Keep us posted.

well its either that or have twins

it's ok panashe they're on BOGOF at Waitrose at the mo...

Just to remind you hippy I have four dc from previous relationship when I was in my twenties.

I am now 41, had 1 mc. Yes have new man which is exciting ( especially as he ten years younger ;) )the flip side is he would like us to have two children

XP BB.

Sorry to hear DH unhappy. Funny, DP hates commuting to London, and is so much happier at the moment as on unpaid leave for a few months to get the house renovations completed. But we would never move to London, even when we both worked up there. How long have you been in sunny B?

Am shoe shopping in your neck of the woods shortly and will prob go to your local park for a bit of a respite!

I love you hippy, even when you're under the weather you're still a breath of fresh air...:)

Well it's CD28 in the Jollsterhouse. No spotting now for 4 days. Will test on Friday if it stays the same. Trying not to get excited that it might be a BFP as even if it is it's such a long and difficult road ahead. BUT of course I hope it is.

Off to get DS feet measured and I expect new shoes. Last time was awful and he had a terrible tantrum. Have been talking to him about it over the last few days to prepare him, therefore am so hoping this is less painful!!!

Back later xx

Hi all. jolls I am getting very excited on your behalf - have you resisted tested?

Very impressed with your swi hippy! I'm only cd8 and still showing low on the monitor, but will start the smep tonight. dh has already primed me for it! (after we've shredded of course).

dh was speaking about how miserable he was in his job last night, (and it really does make him low and negative), so we have decided that he will phone a recruitment consultant today about jobs in London. if he goes for that we will have to decide if we move back to London or not (I commute there already, and can't see how we both can). It's quite scary really, but I love London and would be happy to live back there, but still schools, houses, friends eek!

Anyway, better get some work done now I suppose.

panashe please don't blame yourself for the MC - I'm sure drinking in the lead up to Xmas didn't do anything. It's just unfortunate that some pregnancies don't work out. Sorry you're feeling crap ((()))

Took me so long to write my essay that i crossed with two of you - sorry. lou I am having a as well - thinking of you - mwah mwah.

lol I agree with Lou - you've otta be in it to win it and you're in it lovie!

Laughed at the term statistic headfuck - so right jolly. I was told one in 4 chance when i was preg at 43 but now am thinking 50/50 - cos it's probably more realistic - BUT that means that there is just as much chance of it working out as it not working out so we must not forget that.

I think statistics are all well and good but we are real people and each embryo is different. I don't think you'll need progesterone lol - 1) it needs to be started earlier than you are and 2) IF you were to MC it would almost defo be down to a dodgy embryo (basing this on your age and the fact that you've had 3 successful pregnancies). My lovely GP is always saying to me that my body knows what to do and it's done it before and the only reason I lost the 2 pregnancies was chromosonal problems with the embryos - so NOTHING could have been done to change that. I honestly do believe that. Hang on in there, one day at a time.

Well I got the on an OPK yesterday (freaky just how in-synch me and diege are!!) I felt rough and he felt rough too but we are dedicated to our cause and managed a surprisingly successful SWI .

I usually get ov pains 2 days after the positive so will try again today and tomorrow - even though i feel like shit [dedicated martyr face].

I have worked out that if I ovulate when i think i will I will defo be in line for a 11.11.11 baby - how cool is that. I know that Georgie was 10.10.10 lou so I hope all this inane banter about dates isn't upsetting you (sorry if it is).

nicole sorry to hear you're emotionally drained and tired - get some sleep and then pop back for a .

Just a quick note to the new people - there are so many of you, I'm getting confused . I know lol is the preggers one and panache had an MC recently and is with a new man (sounds exciting). But I am confused about some of the others. Next time you post can you do a quick resume of how many kids you have and if you've had any losses (unless it makes you too sad to discuss, of course) and if you can bare to do it can you add your age please. Then I can study up and remember you all. I hate to look rude and only talk to the old timers like that bloody jolls

muchlove how are you, my dear?

I was in an oxfam shop recently and saw little home made knitted hats for prem babies. I was laughing cos I had boys with big heads (ouch) and they would never have fitted those hats on. Anyway, by the power of cyber space I have virtually bought one and virtually sent it to lunatic's little lad. Speaking of that, someone else must be coming up for a 20 week scan (she who can not be named). How are you ??

Morning everyone :)

Congratulations lolfactor , hope you slept well

I was thinking what are peoples stance on drinking ? I have been reading too much as well and am now convinced I had mc because of drinking in lead up to Christmas and before I found out I was pregnant. There is a thread on here about going to dentist and 2ww and it does feel like you put your life on hold two weeks of each month.

Fed up today, 3 weeks today since mc but feel a bit bloated and pmtish

How are things with you jolls ?

x

Bloody hell!!!! You lot certainly know how to chat!!!!!

It s a shame that not everyone is entitled to the Nuchal scan.We have it here in our trust.I didn t have it with Georgie as knew with my age it would be an increased risk and i wouldn t be terminating anyway.I wont be having it next time either.

Hi BB no way do i want a 11/11/11 baby .Georgie was born on 10/10/10 i m not taking any risks again.Good luck with ems plan.

Lolfactor STEP away from the internet.Yes, there are risks but aren t there with everything worthwhile? You have to be in to win it!!!!X

Diege don t worry you ve still got a chance.I bet you re knackered with all your extra marking.X

Jolls mmm....sounding hopeful? X

Nicole hope you feel perkier!!!! X

Hi all Italian,Hippy ,Much and Gum hope you re all "hard "at it!!!!!

Welcome Tina XXX

More swi here last night,Smiley face gone yesterday so as someone rightly said cb detected lh surge for 2 days running.Night off tonight then last swi tomorrow night.Big fingers crossed.

Have a nice day all.Been to the gym off to do some ironing now.XXX oh and have a

You star. Thanks Jolls night x

lol details of when and how much - actually it's now £180, but if you read about the FMC it's a non profit generator so that's still ok in my book.

Thanks so much nicole333. Going to have some hot milk (whisky being out of the q) and think positive thoughts. Night all x

You're both right, you're both right (cherie blair...breathe...cherie blair) I'm going to stop right now and never look at them again.

BTW, jolls what is the FMC? Sounds like a good idea. And when is the best time?

Thanks guys - feeling calmer x ;)

Muchos cross postings!

Hi lolfactor I can only imagine how your feeling, but please try and relax! I felt like that around xmas time when I was dithering. I kept looking at all the statistics and it was driving me insane. I couldn't make the decision to go for it and felt like I was mourning the children I would never have because I was scaring myself silly.

I don't know anything about procedures yet, but I should imagine all checks around our age should be offered on the NHS as standard procedure. It's amazing that you have a little life happening inside you right now, truly amazing!!

I'm sure I'll be having all the same thoughts as you when it happens for me. I'm trying to coach myself into thinking how I will cope if I lose out to MC. God, it's bloody scarey!

Hang in there! Stop researching the bad stuff and stick with the sensible stuff about looking after yourself. Maybe try some relaxation? I could be talking out of my arse as I havn't been there. I'm sure someone will offer more constructive advice soon.

I'm wrecked, crap sleep last night and mentally and emotionally drained. Hey ho, tomorrows a new day

ooops interrupted post so XP with Italian and Diege - hug for you both.

lol statistics are the work of the devil. Even if they're massively in your favour? So try to stay away from any statistical headfcuk. In terms of nuchal testing, it varies massively from NHS area to area. If I get pg again I will go to the FMC in London, it's about £150 and they are renowned for being the experts; you also get all the results on the same day, whereas locally here now you have the scan and then have to wait for bloods through the post!. No, that's wrong.

I know it's very easy to say but worrying will not help you. Try to relax and enjoy being pregnant. Chant Cherie Blair... x

Welcome tina - hope your stay is short and sweet.

Love to all. CD 27 for me, and spot free now for 3 days. Testing on Friday if still in.

TinaO99 welcome.

Hello ladies.

Hope all is well.

Stop reading negative stuff lol!!!! There is as much, if not more of a chance that you will have a healthy and uneventful pregancy. I know where you are coming from, but please don't sweat it now, it's really not worth it.
Try to relax and enjoy xx
Oh and nuchal fold, supposed to be rolled out across NHS in 2005 but very much depends where you live.More offer in South than in North where I am. Oh and AQA gets to us all eventually

I swore I'd never do that marking, but I can see myself having to next year. Just been reading some very scary threads from mumsnet past - so many mcs over 40. hippy I even found your old pregnancy thread - so so sorry.

I thought my chances were 1 in 4. The last thread I read said 50/50. Anyone know? I'm gutted. I know I shouldn't be reading this stuff.

Any there was lots of talk about nuchal cans. Are they standard on the NHS?

Sorry to be so self-pitying. I switch from being excited to feeling sick with worry.

Yes, you're right Lol, theoretically the swimmers are there, but from past form I see to have best luck when dtd on the day of the opk. Anyway, will just have to suck it up so to speak and be philosophical about yet another month wasted .
I'm a sociology/social policy lecturer at uni' - overworked and def underpaid. The marking I'm doing at present is for AQA (A level sociology) for extra dosh and it's driving me mad!