Feisty Fabulous Forty somethings - part 2

Morning all

TMI alert; terrible trapped wind here meant no SWI last night which was going to be my finale for the month. Then this morning heaps of EWCM. Today is day 16, SWI 8, 10, 11, 13, which by my usual cycle length would/should be enough to catch it. Do you think I should bother tonight? (DP was up at 3am this morning to finish underfloor heating before screed arrived at 7am so not sure he'll exactly be "in the mood"). Maybe supersperm will survive... oh well, it's not as if EVERY MONTH MATTERS OR ANYTHING...

Anyway hippy you could always borrow a cat from me for the weekend (if you're ever cross with DH ); we have 5 and 4 of them look the same, so we'd never notice... :)

Would love to get a dog when we "escape to the country". Would also like a rabbit or 2, maybe some ducks. Like the idea of chickens, but not sure if I could cope with their feet.

Wave to all.

Diege Congratulations, wow.

Muchlove you will be missed.

*Lol you are not the oldest, I am, I am 46!

Panashe I would love to be your wedding planner!

Lou sorry about your cat. How is everything else going?

JugglingMamaand Isaboo*, welcome.

Hippy I?ve got two words for you ? stick insects. [stick] [stick] (use your imagination!). No fur, very little food and you don?t need to worry about them slithering out of the tank and appearing in your bed in the night (sorry to anyone who does have a snake!).
Our hamster won a prize the other day. DD is so proud. (I mean he was in a competition and he won second prize in his category, I don?t mean he phoned up Richard and Judy and guessed a word!).
Sorry Tina, Lia, Gum, Nicole, OooohShiny, * Curley, BB, Jolls too tired to name check all! Love and baby dust to all.

BeattieBow - 40: 5 children - 2 sons (12 and 2) 3 daughters (10,8,6,). Wanted one more to make it up to 6, mmc Feb 10. 3 cps since then, but nothing since Sept.

Curlylox - 43 (44 in May): 1 DS 21, 1 DD 6, ttc since Dec 2009 got a BFP Jan 2010 then mc 10 weeks 6 Feb 2010.

Diege - 40: 3 daughters (9,8,5) 1 son (20 months). Have been trying this time for 10 months (mc at 7 weeks October 2010).

Hippychick - 44: 2 sons aged 7 & 10. Decided to try for a cheeky last baby about aug 09. One MMC in Feb 2010 and 1 MC in June 2010. (8 months since last MC - longest trying time for me).

Hopefulgum - 44 (45 in Nov): 5 DC: ranging 19yrs to 2 years, ttc since May 2010, mmc 10 weeks Dec 2010.

Isaboo - 42 (43 in July): 2 sons 7 & 10 trying to squeeze a last one in from July 2010 one MC at 10 weeks Oct 2010

Italiangreyhound ? 46, waiting for donor eggs. TTC number 2 for 5 and a half years. 1 DD (aged 6) 1 MMC (5 years ago)
Jollster - 43 (a few days ago so still in mourning grin): one DS 2y9m. TTC#2 since June 09, 3 MMC all around 11-13 weeks. Recurrent MC tests all clear, now TTC again, on month 5 (longest I've tried without a BFP).

Lolfactor - 44 (45 in march :-/): 3 teenagers, ttc since Jan 2010 - 3 cps so far.

louisesh - 40: no living children, Georgie stillborn at 41 weeks 10th October 2010. Ttc since January 2008. MMC October 2008, MC September 2009, CP December 2009 and CP December 2011.

OooohShiny - 39 (40 in Oct ) no children (1 MC almost 4 years ago). Decided to start TTC in April 10 when my last DEPO was due and didn't go ahead with it but then had no AF until Jan this year

panashe - 41 2ds 19,12 2dd 15,13 tcc (with new dp) since sept 2010. mc 8 weeks 2011.

TinaO99 - 42: 1 daughter (19) TTC since December 2010, one MC/CP in Sept 10

Just off to bed but wanted to just say to nicole that I'm not sure what that bleed could be - the only thing I could think would be inplantation but I am wary of getting your hopes up my love. Anyone else got any ideas???

diege get your hands off those boobs - they're mine

about the rabbit - I was only kidding - honest!

Thanks Curly! I have a cockatiel called Harvey who is a bloody PITA - his screecking is unbeliecveable and I swear he picks his moments.I line the idea of a dog but I am too lazy to walk it twice a day!
Nicole the timing of your bleed could be implantation which I know can resemble a light period. By not like af do you mean colour etc?
Boobs are now tender again, and if I think back they do tend to get more tender as the day progresses. I also have mouthfuls of metallic-tasting saliva (sorry) which is a typical early preg sign for me that I didn't have with the mc pregnancy. Oh I hope I'm not geting my hopes up just for them to be dashed..Anyway, one day at a time!

Evening all!

Sorry, dashing in and out again. So tired after some early starts and poor sleep since the weekend.

I have a question, that strangely I wouldn't ask on any other thread or start a thread with. But, this afternoon when I came home from work I had a wee and saw fresh blood dripping. I investigated and it was definetly coming from 'down there'!!

Now, since charting for 3 months I have a LP of 14 days. My chart says I did ovulate which means today is 8DPO. It's not spotting, it's thin, fresh, and drippy. Not like AF at all.

What do you think could be going on?

P.S. Sorry it's all about me.

That reminds me of a friend I had when a youngster, her pet rabbit died and they ate it !!!

Does anyone else have NO pets???? We did have 2 fish but they erm....died - (and they were very tasty - haha )

I think you're right Panashe, we obsess when we have the symptoms, obsess when they're gone
And yes your wedding! Did you decide on December after all?
Hi Lou! I hope that last test of yours was the last one you took . Lol at Hippy pointing out that your dog seems to suffer from the opposite of you wee-sample wise We are thinking of getting another cat as ours sadly died last year. However, I do get very stressed out when they go missing, and I know the girls would also worry so just wonder whether it's worth it? A kitten would be nice though.
Nearly finished here then off for the train. I have just reaslied that I need to leave the house at 6.30am tomorrow - I feel like crying!

Panashe i was still having a couple of glasees of wine a week until i got my bfp.You got to live life i think most things in moderation are ok.

Isaboo good to hear about your mum's cat.I think Scottie has got a good few years left in him.X

Tina our 2 cats only tolerate each other.We got Cleo 3 months after Scottie 10 years ago so he'd have some company unfortunately they've never been bessy mates but she did miss him yesterday.

Arh bb your poor cat XXXXXX It's heartbreaking.

Collected Scottie diet food from the vets and his bp test had gone up from £49 to £59......I said how come receptionist " the vet apologises he quoted you wrong yesterday!!!!"

Nice try must starting try that myself!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Can I ask a question ? I like to have a glass of wine and I think perhaps I should give it up or cut down after reading about it affecting fertility. Does anyone have any views on it or have you cut it out/down ? :)

hi Diege, maybe its because you were looking for symptoms but now you know you are pregnant the opposite happens and we start to think we don't have any symptoms

I have just got back from a sainsburys shop, big mistake when starving hungry. Just wanted to buy everything. Think dp and I have been doing a bit of comfort eating, lots of cream cakes and the like and its amazing in just a couple of weeks I can see my waist line thickening and not for the right reasons Anywat was very good and my only treat was blackberry jam and of course crusty brown bread to put it on, want tomorrows breakfast now !!

Just going to go with the flow this month, I know roughly when I will ovulate. I have never succombed (sp?) to opk and hesitant to. As many have said the tcc takes over and becomes your focus, I am really trying hard for that not to happen, and I guess I have a wedding to think about

Hello! Just off to teach but wanted to pop in and say hi . Thanks again for all your good wishes. I managed not to test again this morning but I am getting a teeny bit concerned about fading breast tenderness Nothing I can do, will just have to wait and get throguh it if the worst happens! Oh to be 30 and fearless again!

thanks hippy lou yes he is none the worse for wear and our other cat Lola was very pleased to see him, she even stopped trying to beat him up (temporarily)

Diege another rubbish grey day improved no end with more fantastic news congratulations. I am with you on the no more test thing I hate them anyway ...one too many BFN I suppose I get sweaty palms just getting the bloody thing out of the packet ...in fact I managed to waste a ovulation thingy this morning by being in such a fluster that I hadn't realised I didn't need to pee enough which is a joke at my age.
Hippy I have always in the past got a bit of spotting on and off 2 or 3 days before my AF ( I always saw it as a nice friendly warning of what was coming so I didn't get caught out...but those were the days before I was suspicious of every move made by my reproductive organs ) and I got preg virtually every time in the first month now after the MC I'm not getting it so much and nothings happening so for me it wasn't sinister
Lou sorry about your cat ..if its any help my Mums cat had renal problems and is still going strong at 15 years old ...
Still no temp rise for me so maybe no chance this month ...well at least I will save time not scouring the internet for every single imagined symptom or maybe I am so crackers now I still will anyway just need to work out how persuade DH to have another crack at it ......
for everybody who feels they need to give it up I can really understand that i need to stop and get off the bus too and resume normal life ..think I will have to be pushed off though.

must go now dog needs picking up from the hairdressers

hello everyone :)

Was sat on the loo last night on phone trying to catch up on this thread and was so thrilled to see your news diege It was like wanting to read last page of a book but I read through all posts first. Congratulations xx

And to you too lou, glad you got good blood test results. Just wanted to say that it gives me great pleasure to read the good news and doesn't ever never ever offend. I remember joining this thread and felt insensitive for wanting a baby when I already had 4 dc, but right here, right now we all want same end result, a baby in our arms and am just so delighted that the ball has started rolling.

Italian your posts are lovely, maybe you can be my wedding planner ??

Still having up and down days, af lasted full week but last night we dtd so gearing ourselves up for more swi

beattie I nearly moved to London when I split with ex dh as I have family down there and the logistics of schools, colleges was a nightmare and the fact my 2 dd were point blank refusing and were planning which friends house they would go and live with !! Just decided to see stay put and glad I did or I would never have met my lovely dp

Hope you ok hippy Just to let you know we have ten year old black lab, oh and two goldfish !!

oh lou my cat is on her last legs. it is very sad. she is 17 this year though so v old, but is going senile. The vet says we just have to wait.

She has a sister the same age who seems fine, but I think she will pine dreadfully when her sister dies.

hippy I have the same. and my progesterone is apparently ok. But I do worry. I had spotting on 8dpo this time and cramping since. Just waiting for af to turn up. I think it is worrying actually, but have been told there is nothing wrong with me.

I'm not a super woman! I don't actually do any of those things - just think about them! I just wonder whether I should have something else to focus on in my life that isn't work or children or ttc. having said that, i don't really have the time or am too tired anyway. I just fill my time otherwise with having more children or moving house/job/town and maybe being fulfilled in other areas would be enough. I have always been like this though - need change or a project to keep me happy.

Feckin Hell i keep X posting with everyone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Right off to get dressed now ...moi????? "doley type!!!!" Only 2 weeks of freedom left.Let me try these: They re for you Hippy XXXX

Ha Ha lmao!!!!!!!!!!!! Hippy yes, you re quite right Scottie is obviously not mine!!!!!

With regards to YOU i just have a "feeling" ooohhhh spooky XXX LOVE come dine with me...what the hell get it on and have a marathon session!!!!! Sod the world.

As my post took so long i x posts with everyone!!!!

Tina hope your cat is ok? They are a worry animals aren t they? We all know every time we go the vets its going to be a £200 jobbie.But, i love them we ve got 2 : Scottie 11 and Cleo 10 they are so loving..

ps. the feckin' daffs are meant to cheer me up - they're not working, sorry I keep swearing!

I think I'm the only person on here without a pet - even italian has a new hamster! DH is very allergic to fur so we would have to get a snake or something. DS2 has seen a completely hairless dog who needs sunscreen in the summer and a coat in the winter -

tina that flippin' ticking clock noise is a pain in the arse isn't it! It's hard to chill out with that noise in your head - take care, honey.

ahhh thanks jolls I needed that!

sorry to hear about your cat louise mine went missing for 2 days over the weekend (stupid thing got stuck in someones garage for the second time in his short life) luckily they found him, don't suppose he'll be clever enough not to do it again though lol

lou sorry i took ages to type my message and crossed with a few people. Just wanted to say sorry to hear about your poor cat and also that it's all getting a bit much for ant. Men find it so much harder to admit when stuff is getting on top of them. he must be as stressed as you and as worried about this pregnancy as you, I know he really wants this baby sooooo much. Thinking of you both. I did laugh at your cat refusing a urine test - the same cannot be said for you, Mrs!

Thank you for saying that you think I will get a BFP as diege did too. Sometimes I agree with you as I did get preg twice at the ripe old age of 43 but then those didn't go so well did they

What kind of feeling so you get is it a spooky feeling like a premanition (sp?) or just a hope??

off for some toast and

BB you sound like bloody superwoman Arn't the kids and the job enough to knacker you out completely? I get what you're all saying though. I think I might give up TTC when we move (to the IOW jolls keep up!). I would hate to start my new life there with a BFP followed by another MC. I thought about getting another Mirena coil put in just before we leave but, as has been said before, the thought of that is so bloody final.

AF still hasn't arrived. 3 days of very light spotting. I had that last month before AF finally arrived as well. It gives me an LP of about 13 days but is the 3 days of spotting a worry???(literally just when I wipe) anyone know.

Well done on not testing again diege. As you say there is nothing you can do now but sit tight. All the best bezzer. Yes, I think the thing is RL is ok now. I shouldn't have big conversations with people when progesterone is leaving my body - I'm just not up for it. Thanks for your concerns and thanks for all the support from everyone.

much Not sure what to say to you, you know what is best for you I guess. How fucking annoying that you popped an egg and hubbie couldn't do his bit . All I can say is what I constantly repeat to myself. Enjoy the children you have and never ever forget how much they mean to you and how much they have changed your life. XXX

Have just got back from dropping DH at work and boys at school. Feel like I wanna leave the world out there and me in here and never mix the two again. House is a mess but I might just sit and watch a few episodes of come dine with me before I begin clearing up...