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Freak out room for those newly updiffed after MC to hold hands and support each other...

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DachshundsWantPuppies · 30/01/2011 08:37

Hello!

Newly updiffed and freaking out about spotting, cramping, the wait until your first scan and each little twinge? Settle in for lots of hand holding and supprt until you're ready to move to grads

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Wombat33 · 16/02/2011 08:44

Gah my zen up and left me in the night and I'm in a total panic this morning. Sod 13 days, am going to try and arrange an earlier scan. May as well know sooner than later.

OrangeGloss · 16/02/2011 06:46

Thanks for all the birthday messages Grin my first sober birthday :) was just a nice meal in a local pub with a few friends - exactly what I needed. Mamap I think it's my stomach that wakes me, though don't know why so early yesterday, 33 is hardly a big occasion!

I've discovered the only thing I can drink is ribena, all day all night Hmm

Dachs it's so worrying but everyone's different, I didn't puke until dead on 8 weeks and then it's been every day since, 4 times yesterday. Am sure you'll be hurling in no time. You saw a heartbeat that's such a good sign , try to remember that
Love I hope this is an uneventful Weds, and Friday comes quickly to give you a nice reassuring scan. The wait truly us awful x
Nix wow @ 15+2 Envy and good news on the healthy cravings. So, that isn't crispy salad with iced bun then?!
Pink yay for the scan! Yeah, the wait between 12 and 20 is bit looong. I'm hoping to have a private one later just for a nice pic as it'll be better quality 3D etc. But for some reason worry I'll be tempting fate - only me, noone else!
Knitter I'm the same with magpies Blush step away from the test, they only seem to cause trouble when the pg progresses
Lemon thinking of you for Thursday I hope today goes quickly

Is it wrong I'm already looking forward to going to bed tonight?!

nickstermum · 16/02/2011 06:33

WEll said MP, love the dart board idea...

I went a little public yest....Shock
with a person anyway :)
Off to HQ in a bit so will see if anyone notices chunky monkey!

So fecking tired...5 times DS had me up int he night... even though i was asleep by 9pm im still shagged- gah! roll on end of virus.

Mamapower · 15/02/2011 21:37

oh dear digi (((hugs))). She's your mum hon, I'm sure it was well intentioned based on the fact she is worried sick for her daughter and doesn't want to see you suffer any more heart ache and in her head thinks 'no stress and worry equals bean will stick'.
Everyone does have an opinion but at the end of the day it's none of their business, I just tend to avoid conflict by smiling sweetly or agreeing and thinking to myself F**k you, i'll do what I want how I want... it's the path of least hassle...or you could get their pictures and starting pinning them to dart boards and developing a really good aim Grin Grin Grin chin up xx

digitalgirl · 15/02/2011 20:55

Oh ffs! Clearly I am hormonal but you'd think my own mother would feckin stop trying to pick a fight with me. Just tried to tell her about the scan we had yesterday and before I could even finish my sentence she starts going on about how I shouldn't think about it too much as all my worrying is 'bad for the baby'. I'm so fucking sick of people telling me not to worry. Everyone's got a fucking opinion on how I'm supposed to think and feel about this pregnancy as though those things are under my control and if I dare let any negative thoughts contaminate my mind that it'll be my fault if it goes wrong.

All i said was, I had a scan yesterday and it was too early to see a heartbeat so I'm going back next week for another one.

Angry
lovemysleep · 15/02/2011 19:28

oh, Facebook - am not this stupid really, must be the hormones Grin....

PM me too!!!! If you want to that is Smile. Am FB junkie, although suspect MN is taking over Wink

And big hugs for you loonies....would love to chat more, but have DD tramping around upstairs when the little bugger should be in bed.

DachshundsWantPuppies · 15/02/2011 19:28

lemon sweetie I know what you mean about not feeling pg - FX for your scan. :) I'm sure it'll be fine

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lemonsherbet · 15/02/2011 19:24

Good evening all. Am fine just counting down the days till my scan. I kept putting it off because I wanted to be sure will see a heartbeat. Getting to the stage now when I lost the last one. So anxiety levels are getting high. Scan will be on Thursday afternoon. Would feel better if I felt pregnant.Keep telling myself it will be OK.

Mamapower · 15/02/2011 18:11

Emoo big squeeze, fx for your scan on Fri

knitter I believe in that one too, which is a real pain in the arse because in November one took up resident opposite my office! You know when you see a solitary magpie you can override that by saluting him, makes you look a bit daft but...

Dachs you daft bugger, I asked about bookface the other day and no-one responded so I assumed you all had really bad profile pic's Grin I'll pm you in a sec

Grin at nix eating healthy food when the rest of us are using it as an excuse to stuff our face's with crap!! I'm ok chicadee, so wiped out by 7pm most nights and up to my eyes in legal paperwork for the business blah blah.

pink great news on the scan... you got a sticky one there Smile

Digi so glad the acupuncture was a success. I was planning to go as have used it for other area's of health improvement and wellbeing but with moving to a new area their seemed little point in starting... perhaps when we are moved and settled I'll try and get a rec for a good one.

wombat other than counting down days until your scan, how's it going?

pmsl at sleepy (love) worrying about following through... we're all checking for red, you're checking for brown... class Grin Grin

Hi Daisy anything but bouncy, perky and little fluffy bunny rabbits in here, pull up a beanbag Smile

Owl glad us crazy lot keep you amused Grin Grin

wakari hope the booking in apt went well and you've got a scan booked.

Hairy thinking of you lots if you're lurking Smile

Have you been spoilt today orange ?

Lemon and HK you two ok?

I think that's everyone, sorry if I missed someone!

Dinner time... my tummy is a rumbling Grin

PS was it one of you here asking about the business?? If it was, it's progressing, everyday brings a delightful new legal document for me to enjoy!! Still aiming for end of March fx!

wakarimasen · 15/02/2011 17:47

knitter you are just like me looking for omens all over the place. I was the same with the pink balloon although if this preg is Ok and I have a girl I'll be totally spooked out! I think the human subconscious decides on whether to look for a positive or negative sign and that's what we focus on - there were probably 2 other magpies that you didn't see Smile

digital I was thinking about acupuncture before my BFP but done know if I should still try and go even though I am preg now?

Just back from the doctors. It was just a random GP so just said my piece and he re-tested me. I swear time stood still while we were waiting on the result and I thought - christ what if it was a mistake Wink. I also chuckled when he asked how many tests I had done! I had only done 1 this time!

He told me to make an appt with the MW and it's next Friday (25th). I have booked my private scan for Sat 26th when I should be 6+3. I may change the MW appt to after the scan though Confused

owlbooty · 15/02/2011 16:39

You're all batty

Digi that sounds like a lovely relaxing thing to do. I've had acupuncture before & found it very good. I think the TLC thing is so important. I had a few massages (neck and shoulders) which were really welcome.

Pink Yay for the good scan! They're 120 quid where I live and it was 180 quid for the nuchal one so I am now skint and cannot afford any more - boo.

Knitter apparently in China magpies are a good luck bird :)

digitalgirl · 15/02/2011 16:27

Hugs to those trying to hold it together on a low-no symptoms day. I really feel for you.

My symptoms are so subtle on the 'good days' that I swear if I wasn't looking for them I wouldn't notice them at all. I can have a busy day and suddenly wonder where the hell have all my symptoms gone.

I went to acupuncture today and my acpuncturist asked me what sort of symptoms I'd been feeling, to which I blathered on about tingling and 'just knowing' and not being crampy enough. I've never had sore boobs and not really ever had much ms (about a week of it while pg with DS, but was on holiday so it could have been the travel and unfamiliar surroundings). He reassured me that symptoms are completely beyond our control. I'm fit & healthy, all the rmc tests have come back normal, chances are the last pg was genetically determined from the outset and nothing would have changed the outcome.

And then he put a bunch of needles in me to relax me. And offered weekly sessions, instead of the usual fortnightly ones, bearing in mind my history. I felt very clear-headed afterwards...and contrary to my last sessions in pregnancy, still felt very much pregnant afterwards. Which has got to be a good thing.

Can any of you worriers get to an acupuncturist who specialises in fertility? It may help to have something to go to in between scans. Feels productive, yet is v relaxing at the same time. I know massages and reflexology aren't really recommended in the first trimester, but quite a few IVF clinics prescribe acupuncture in the first trimester as although its not known why, it has been shown to improve success rates. (I personally think its part of the TLC thing).

Wombat33 · 15/02/2011 15:06

Pink yey for a good scan!! I'm also trying to hold out for two weeks for the next one (now 13 days and counting!) not sure my nerve will hold though Blush

Knitter I'm the same as you with magpies and pregnancy even though I'd like to think I'm normally relatively sane. Big big hugs. Magpies mean nothing (other than that they are the current focus of your worries) xxx

Dachs hurrah for recaptured zen Smile

DachshundsWantPuppies · 15/02/2011 14:46

i couldn't possibly laugh, but I do think you're being just as silly as me Grin

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KnitterNotTwitter · 15/02/2011 14:35

Can I make a small confession that will make me seem really mad... Feel free to laugh at me....

About when I conceived i.e. well before I knew I was pregnant I saw two magpies closely followed by 3 different magpies. Instantly I thought ooooh - I bet I'll get pregnant this month and I bet it's a girl (because obviously magpies know these things)...

Then today I saw a single magpie..... for sorrow

Obviously I've put that together with my change in symptoms and convinced myself that a MC is round the corner...

Agggg.

I'm sure I'll be all symptomy tomorrow but for the moment I may make full use of the padded walls in the freak out room....

DachshundsWantPuppies · 15/02/2011 14:27

pink Glad everything's fine Grin

You could always have a scan every week between 12 and 20 weeks Wink

me also keen to be bookface friends if anyone wants to - echo what pink says about pm-ing e-mail address

have stopped eating thistles and being Eeyorish for now - I think it's just the weather and grumpy DH getting to me. am trying to recapture zen and assume everything will be ok. You guys are fab. Thanks :)

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DachshundsWantPuppies · 15/02/2011 14:23

knitter hugs back. But if you do decide to do the test remember that it's not always accurate and it might therefore not give you the answer you want. I know I freaked out when mine didn't go up at the rate I expected it to, but over the same time my bloods more than doubled.

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PinkFondantFancy · 15/02/2011 14:20

Happy birthday orange hope you're having a good day.

Hugs to all the stressed people-it's hard keeping the faith eh?

I had another scan today and everything's fine. They say I don't need to go back for 2 weeks now-just need to decide whether I'm going to be brave and go a fortnight without any proof things are ok..... I think I should try and wean myself off weekly scans otherwise the gap between 12 weeks and 20 weeks is going to break me!!!

I'm keen to be people's bookface friends! PM me your email address and I'll find you.

Can't decide what I want for lunch...... Everything I think of males me feel Bleugh but I'm starving!!!

KnitterNotTwitter · 15/02/2011 14:19

Having a less confident day today - randomly libido returned yesterday and I don't remember that from previous pregnancies. I'm considering doing my spare digital test in the hope that i'm now up out of the 1-2 weeks pregnant category which would be nice to see...

Hugs to you all especially dachs and daisy and moo who seem to need it most today..

nickstermum · 15/02/2011 14:00

Doh...love.....facebook Grin

lovemysleep · 15/02/2011 12:37

what is bookface?

DachshundsWantPuppies · 15/02/2011 12:12

nix i am indeed on bookface but I've got no mumsnet buddies nobody loves me...

i know it's silly to think that it's all gone horribly wrong, but surely I should have some symptoms by now? I know I'm being ridiculous but I jsut don't feel pregnant, and that is really bothering me. I think it might just be because I don't really know what's going on with potential pup2 and I'd like to know either way so I feel a bit in limbo at the moment, coupled with crazy time at work so worried about the effect of stress and tiredness on the pups.

(Also feeling a bit low 'cos DH and I had a massive row last night so feeling a bit gloomy anyway)

Sorry to be an Eeyore - will try to cheer up and stop being me me me

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nickstermum · 15/02/2011 11:47

If any of you ladies are on bookface, happy for mamap to 'out' me! Unlike some i am pretty obvious Grin

Happy Birthday O hope you have a great day xx

The diffed threads do my head in too.. blase...? Gah.... planning nurseries at 5 weeks pg... good for them.. and that was me once too... sadly not any more! Agree they dont understand terrified.... or knicker checking Hmm

Am sure the symptomless few are not really symptomless and its well disguised Grin

dachs I have to keep being stern with myself that i saw bambino on fri with no issue..... otherwise my mind plays tricks on me... So... Grin you have a heartbeat hon...there has been nothing to say you shouldnt still have a heartbeat xxxxxxx

moo (((hugs))) am sure you will be fine xxx

pink you will get to 9 weeks hon xxxx its a totally different pg and you are under the consultant doing lots of proactive things :) and you have a 'beating bean'

Wombat, glad the bleeding has eased off, or has it? Hope so. And you mamap you have been quiet are you ok?

Well 15+2 how did that happen? Was sick again this morning... and just want more crispy salad YUM!

Wombat33 · 15/02/2011 10:27

Oh Dachs and Emoo big hugs for you both. I've got everything crossed for your beans. I'm also having an OMG where have my symptoms gone day but keep tryingto tell myself that this has happened before and all been fine. Hope that's the case for all of us!

Wakari good to hear the spotting's stopped. I'm hoping that mine seems to have virtually stopped too (for now!).

Daisy it's a pleasure to mental with you if you know what I mean - so no worries on that score but welcome to the thread!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY ORANGE!!! Hope you have a lovely day xxx

Waves to everyone else around this morning xxx

lovemysleep · 15/02/2011 10:25

wakari £25 for a scan??? Bloody hell, that is soooooo cheap, I'd be there weekly too!

Emoo hope you are ok and the cramping isn't getting worse. Am really rooting for you and hoping that it's all completely normal.

wakari good news about the spotting. The pink balloon thing is lovely too.

Happy birthday Orange - have a fabulous day. Glad to hear the ms is getting a bit better.

owl Gaviscon liquid was my best friend when heavily pg with DD - just used to glug it straight out of the bottle. Vile stuff but does the trick.

Digi8 and Daisy* I know what you mean about the ante-natal threads. I find myself inwardly cringing at how blase they can be - but I guess for a lot of people they can be, as they've never experienced mc, or never will.I don't mean that nastily - they are understandably excited, but I just find myself wanting to warn them to be very wary of the first 3 months.

Lazy day yesterday for me as didn't want to be too far from the loo - not with my dodgy bowels! Better today, but am a bit windy and nervous about following through!!!!!! I know that's WAY too much info ladies, but that's the kind of gal I am Wink. Woke at 5.20am, and all these different scenarios keep going through my head for my scan on Friday - I am going to be a bloody mess beforehand. I'm also terrified of Wednesdays as all of my mc's started on a Wednesday - isn't that weird?
Am ok though - taking one day at a time.

Have also discovered the joys of Yorkshire tea decaff - lovely! Clipper organic tasted like it had chlorine in it.

Have a good day xx

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