Over Here Viroids! Just Shagging with Intent Thread!

Josie sorry to hear about your situation... Sounds like us. Every time we have money left over and think, "finally - we can do X and Y!", suddenly something breaks or needs replacing. Or, in this month's case, DP paid the same £300 bill twice by accident and then the company says they've sent the money back but it's two weeks later and we still haven't got it. Overdraft fees building up by the day.. And DP says he's too busy to call the company when he's at work (long queue times during lunch hour too apparently) but that's the only time they're open and they won't talk to me as he's the account holder. Money drives me crazy.

Josie sorry you are feeling like this, hope you can try to not let the green-eyed monster drag you under! It can be hard seeing other people having an easier time of it than you but I'm guessing as these are your in laws, they are a whole generation older so they will have been through the tougher times before. We struggled financially a couple of years ago for various reasons and it was really stressful at the time. My Dad said that when we'd got over it we would look back and talk of it like 'remember that time we were really broke, that was hard work' but we'd get through it and do that together. He was so right, things do usually work out. (((hugs)))

Also, sorry for any offence with the charting comments last night. I thought we all knew that some of us aren't truly 'JSing' anymore and the general chat on here is unrelated, was trying to be helpful! Point taken though so I shall keep any proper TTC chat to other thread

Ah Josie, That's shit. What's wrong with the car?

@ your drunken ramblings last night

Still no ERTD. Spotting very very occasionally. Fuck knows whats going on.

PS - I like cats, crumpets and shag capes, but I'm not convinced by the super socks!

I'm still here! Haven't been around for a while, cos I was getting too obsessed last month. I've got things much more in perspective now, and I will only be allowing myself onto this thread as a happy medium. I have just sat and read through the last couple of days, and I can't stop laughing! I don't know where I am in my cycle, and I hope to be able to keep it that way.

You lot make me laugh, I can't stay away Welcome to the newbies!

:( Josie

Welcome to the newbie?s (waves)

I need a rant viroids as ever! We have very little money and I have been agonising over what to spend my xmas money on. I have kept it, and now that we have 2 months free council tax we?re using that to do some very basic decorating - bookcase and about 4 rolls of wallpaper to do 2 walls (1 bedroom, 1 living room), but now the damn car has knackered, so the money is going to have to go on that instead. I?m really . If it doesn?t cost too much (yeah right) we?ll have the rest of the money for some little things for the house, but not enough to do everything we want, even if I add my xmas money to it we won?t be able to do everything. It just really boils my blood when I?ve been struggling to get out of my overdraft in my personal account for over a year and nearly managed it this month (by £40, woohoo ) yet here?s DH?s parents rubbing it in our faces about how they?re getting a new car, new kitchen (for about £5000, the surfaces are antibacterial and the flooring is £22 per square metre but they thought it was worth the extra, blah fecking blah) and now they?re going on holiday to florida, yet again, for 2 weeks. Why can?t anything go the way I want it to go!!!!!!! All I wanted was to buy a damn bookcase and revitalise a couple of rooms with new wallpaper and beside tables etc. ARGH!!!! And now I?m crying because we have no milk and I can?t have a cuppa and I can?t go out to get one because the car is knackered!!!!!

That is all?.

I got some ramekins for Christmas from my dear aunty... I feel like they have been tainted somehow by this thread! :(

Hahahaha ramekins......go nelly

I shall endeavour to piss in a pot...should the time come.

Shall see you all tomorrow.....If I is welcome back that is

Cross post gizzy - in our eyes, that approach makes you A Legend!

Oh yeah and Come On Andy!! :)

Don't worry babylann it'll get better. But I hated the "unveiling of the condom" moment too, and ditching them really fired up our sex life; once we'd get over the shock .

Just back from a friends house . Had a lovely evening, their 4mo was on great form. But comedy story I couldn't wait to tell the viroids! Pudding was a lovely chocolate ganache. The recipe recommended serving in espresso cups, which they didn't have. So out of the cupboard appeared .... 4 Gu ramekins . I had to totally bite my Tongue. And also, whilst eating I had to distract myself from the thought that maybe these had been pee'd in before [ hmm].

Must sleep. Chat tomorrow.

Wonky eyes......that's bad aint it
I swear once I get the BFP I shall stop the vino
Alarm is set for tom am as I have to watch the upside down tennis. Go Murray.

Tried the scientific warm feet argument on the hubster....he might just leave them on next time!

I am the shittest TTCer....my method = get pished and bouncy cuddle occasionally.....its bound to work one day

Go Shag socks

You know when people complain about condoms "killing the mood" - those 2 minutes before sex where the wrapper is taken off and it's slowly rolled on etc, with the occasional "ooh careful, you forgot to hold the top down...it's full of air now!" or "Oh god, it's inside out... I can't put it on ", and sometimes a "Wait, I think I just saw a hole! [frantic]"

Well, right now we're having the complete opposite dilemma - he keeps FORGETTING we aren't using condoms anymore. He reaches over to his drawer and I have to say, "What are you doing?" And he looks puzzled and says, "Oh yeah, [ahem] you don't want me to use a condom..." And then I say, "Well, I thought we both agreed!" And then he quickly nods and says, "Yeah, sorry, I forgot..."

The same stupid conversation the first time we have sex after I've had a period. Now THAT'S a mood killer! And then, because the idea has been refreshed in my mind, I find myself thinking: "hmm, actually, this is a big decision - shouldn't I think about it first?" even though I know I've made up my mind already!

I don't see how his brain forgets after just one short week, but hey. This JSing is not as casual as I thought it would be

I don't do all the temp/ogv/keeping track thing, because i don't want to obsess overit- that's why i joined the viroids in the first place - people who were trying, but didn't spend al their time saying "ooh, how much did your temp go up by?" every day - It's nice that we all keep up to date with each other's progress and can chat about ttc, but we don't talk about nothing else iyswim.

P.S lots of people doubt that others get pregnant quite as easily as they sometimes suggest, but knowing that my SiL got pg with DC1 within 2 months of trying, DC2 without even starting to 'actively try' and DC3 in the first month, I certainly believe that it is just easy for some people. This isn't right or wrong, just different and I certainly wouldn't wish this TTC pain in the arse on anyone!

I use the Fertility Friend website (and phone app) to record my temperature and other factors each month. The way I see it, if I know I am ovulating regularly, have a decent length luteal phase and we are shagging at the right times my GP will be more inclined to take me seriously when I present to discuss our fertility. So far, this has proved to be the case!

I also think that if the data shows that I am not ovulating regularly, my luteal phase is not of a desirable length or there are any other issues (like with my very long and irregular cycles when we first tarted TTC) then again, this is determined before speaking to the GP.

I like to have a mixture of being well informed about the goings on in my own body and also continuing to enjoy JSing outside of TTC as well. It certainly is a mindbender!

I've always written everything down but there really is no pattern thanks for the tip of the charters anonymous!! Ahh if only this would all just happen the simple way,all my friends seem to falling pregnant saying 'I just forgot my pill for one day!!' bah.

If you decide to start charting, the 'charters anonymous' thread in conception is a great place to get support, opinions and advice when starting out. They are a lovely bunch on that thread.

In the meantime, wine is definitely the answer to almost every problem whether TTC related or otherwise

Thanks Truffkin it just gets so hard!stupid periods all over the place winds me up and I don't want to bore DH with the details and my over thinking!

Hmm maybe some wine will cheer me up,I hate being so down about all this!might make the DH take me out!

(((hugs))) Got2Dance that is truly shit timing. Hope you can envisage your baby shower this afternoon so you know it will happen one day.

LOL Gizzy at 'have you been drinking?' I should imagine I would get a similar response! My DH likes to try and read over my shoulder when I am MNing, which I try to avoid. Luckily he is happily enjoying a game of Fifa on the PS3 at the moment so is leaving me in peace. As I have been out twice today to fetch milk for cereal and also to get lunch stuff (for today and tomorrow) he should be feeling very spoiled by me

Katy don't tell any of the other viroids but I chart my cycles so I can pinpoint ovulation as I had several months of very erratic and long cycles when I stopped using hormonal contraception after over 10 years! I now have a fairly settled cycle and can predict ovulation quite accurately, which on the plus side helps me feel more in control but on the negative side, means every month of babyfail is harder because I know we've done everything right! I suppose you can't win in this game really. Hope you find something that works for you (and coming here to moan with likeminded viroids really does help )

I am off to dye my hair now, I've gone for this scary shade so wish me luck! I am already a deep red colour at the moment so am hoping it's a little less bright but enough to really look red as a lot of deep colours just melt into my dark brown hair. DH is delighted as he has been nagging me to go either bright red or some sort of violet colour for ages (so really, this is my shag cape!)

sorry you're feeling moody Katy

havea biscuit.

"have you been drinking?"

it does anyway - think about it - your blood is concentrating on JSing and not on keeping feet warm...

Hey again! Wow you ladies can chat I can't keep up since I last looked!

I'm struggling with the whole JSing thing,I really am trying to JS and not over analyse everything but it's been like 14 months gahhhh! Help meee I so want to be all chilled out and everything but now I'm trying to plan when I ovulate -which is difficult with all my medical stuff anyway -

Eugh sorry for being so depressing just in one of them
Moods I guess

Awwwwww G2D.....you have a good sulk...it does help. And you never know it might turn out to not be AF

Glad we cheered you up though

Just been interviewing hubby....went a bit like this:-

Me- So, tell me, what are your thoughts on shag socks?
OH- eh, WTF are shag socks
Me- Well some lovely ladies on the interweb have been explaining to me how its scientifically proven that the wearing of shag socks during the bouncy cuddles increases fertility and creates super sperms
OH- Have you been drinking??

Sulk. Sulk and super sulk.

A pink wipe this morning. Nothing more but knows it heralds the beginning of the end.

So fed up and emotional and grumpy and tired and humph.

Worst thing is having to take the clomid again and have a week of hot flushes to keep me awake at night.

Although the thought of shag socks made me smile. As did interviewing Gizzy's husband. And the hiring out of children for tea making duties. And Nelly sulking at dee not liking her crumpets.

So all in all, you lot have cheered me up, so thanks.

Although I'm still upset with my body.

Oh, and it's my Dear sister's baby shower in half an hour....will have to muster a good face and ooh and aah over all the cute little baby clothes and discussion between the other mums about their adorable DCs. sigh.