Over Here Viroids! Just Shagging with Intent Thread!

Hope you're feeling better Katyrah

I might have got the price down to nearer £200, which is still a lot but a saving of £100 which is great

Hey Ladies!!

Sorry about my depressing ranting the other day! I had my period yesteday (sorry i dont know the acroynm for that!) so I was probably just emotional!

Babylann sounds like me and my DH! We both go through reservations about it, I hope it all passes for you!

Im happy with JSing now its faaaaar to complicated trying to plan when im ovulating ... I have wine and work to do :)

Babylann I can't really afford the repairs either and I have to admit I do have my head in the sand sometimes and just hope it won't happen

Got2Dance services and MOTs are the worst. Mine's due in April, along with the tax, so that'll be another handful forked out probably.

Nickel I didn't realise they lasted that long so yes it's a good investment really. After a few months I won't feel the sting as much I'm sure, especially not if I've got other things on my mind.... Liking the name change by the way

We don't even have a car, they're so expensive. And I hadn't even factored in potential repairs (which would I'm sure be very frequent occurences in the price of car we could afford) to our "Can we afford a car yet?" budget meeting last week.

Thanks Nickel - I'm feeling more myself now. A sick day is prob what I need and day 1 is always the hardest. My aunt was really sweet - she said what I'm going through is probably the hardest thing I ever will. So was full of sympathy. She said it's unlikely I'd feel quite this crap again. And bear in mind that my mum (my aunts sister) has terminal cancer, so she isn't being flippant when she says this is one of the hardest things!!

Rotten news on the car Josie - glad your DH is helping out and you'll still be able to get your wallpaper! Cars are just so expensive. One of ours is in the garage today having its service - a bit scared what the bill is going to be.

Got2Dance - i'm sorry you're having such a hard time of it all at the moment.
It's good to get it all out, though, so please don't let anyone feel that your emotions are unjustified, cos that might make it worse in the long run.

Josie sorry aboput your clutch - my little corsa had constant clutch problems and had the cable replaced several times - then it kept knackered completely and they decided that the gearbox needed replacing - £600!

Had to get rid of the car.
If you can find a little independent garage, it might be cheaper.
And think of it as a long-term thing - once your clutch is replaced, that's it for at least 10 years.

babylann - hope your DH is okay now - just jitters, i'm sure.

Pants. It found nothing when I searched for the bits I need but can definitely shop around, even if we save a little bit it's worth it. DH said he'll put half the money in so it's not too bad and we might still be able to get the wallpaper I wanted and some odds and sods. It'll be all right on the night

In other news, I feel sick and my boobs are aching (couldn't possibly be anything to do with the fact that I have been wearing push up bras for over a week )

Manshape reckons it sounds about right if they are buying their parts from somewhere like Eurocar parts - actually - get on their website yourself, put your car reg in and the bits you need, and they will tell you how much it is. Then go on ebay and have a look at clutch kits - we needed a new clutch on our car not so long back and managed to get a brand new one for just £60 - much less than what the garage wanted us to pay for one.

Someone at work knows someone with a spare parts business so she's asking him for prices. The clutch is going to fall out. I need a new clutch kit and hydraulic bracket. They're charging £120 labour

Josie - what exactly is wrong? Manshape is handy with a car and if you let me know, he'll tell you the going rate and what it needs to be fixed. Often if you buy what you need and garage fit it, it works out cheaper.

Second opinion said the same

That's all my decorating money, xmas money and more all gone We're saving up so we can cover all the bills during my maternity leave and we're behind on that to start with, now we'll be even more behind. If I'm not pg this cycle I may have to stop for a few months till we get back on track

Babylann glad you've got things sorted and hope you can get back into the swing of things pretty quick

Hi ladies! It's taken me ages to catch up here - the viroids are a chatty bunch!

G2D and babylann - hugs to you both. Hope you are feeling more chipper.

Josie - feckin rip-off garages! I hope you can get a better quote. DP and I never have money just now either, and we keep getting told that we shouldn't be TTC when we are so skint. So annoying. My parents were hardly the Rockefellers when DB and I were little!

Waves to all!

Oh Josie :( that's so expensive... Maybe try a different garage?

Good morning. Thanks all! We had a bit of an in-depth discussion about it, lots of "well, I do want a baby, that's not what I'm saying..."s and "I'm always going to have reservations about it!" Eventually he concluded that he was very much on-board for having another baby and leaving the condoms in the drawer, and that he just momentarily panicked and didn't know whether we were doing the right thing.

Feels like it's put such a downer on it all though. I obviously have my own reservations about pregnancy and childbirth and all the complications that come with it, but while he was feeling strong, so was I. Now I know he's on edge about it, it's rubbing off on me a bit and I've started catching myself wondering whether we should just leave it.

Maybe I just need to take DD swimming again today. That always makes me broody. That said, in a moment of madness yesterday evening I booked me and DP in for a dry-slope skiing lesson next week!

Oh my god, the garage have quoted me £295. I don't have that

Oh Babylann I'm sorry to hear you're having a tough time. It is such a huge change for your OH to get his head round. I hope you're able to talk about things more and get the outcome you want. Men have a tendency of getting cold feet!! Aahh...give him the shag socks maybe?!

ERTD here in full flow now. And I've come down with DH's cold, so not going to work today. Curled up on the sofa with the laptop, duvet, a box of Kleenix and a pack of Strepsils!

Sorry you're having a hard time Babylann, I hope you can get through to your DH and explain how much it means to you. Hopefully he's just got cold feet and will come round soon

Awww Babylann I know exactly what you're going through ... OH did just that after my MC. He suddenly got worried about finances and 'time' - because we're both approaching 40 and have our own children who are getting more independent (aged 10-17) he got the jitters about losing the freedom we have. Initially he had to talk me around to having a child together - and it seems right to me as we were very close at school, but lost contact for over 20 years and both married and had our daughters, before finding each other again. It just feels right for is to have a child together.

As I said, he got scared after the MC and wanted us to use condoms too. Of course, it seemed easier for them to get detached from the idea ... but for me, it was harder, as my heart was set on it, I'd fallen pregnant so had that hormonal thing going on, only to lose it very early ... so much harder to just switch off.

Thankfully he is back on board, not quite as excited, but says that's due to fear and assures me he'd be very excited when I get pregnant. Hopefully, given time your DP will come back round to it. (Hugs)

I'm pretty pissed off.

After our last little JS sesh, a few hours ago, DP suddenly freaked out and announced he's worried about me having another baby. A culmination of PND and SPD concerns, amongst financial and "where would another DC fit in with our routine right now" worries. :(

He wants to start using condoms again :( :( has changed his mind and thinks we need more time to figure out whether it's what we want.

I know it sounds silly, but actually joining this thread made me even more excited about having another baby and made me start really enjoying this casual approach to TTC.

Lizzy what a fantastic philosophy! I'll remember that thanks

I jst had a lush shower in the dark with jst candles, now sittin in bed readin. I'm bloody knackered and will b asleep before long

Goodnight viroids

They say trying to concieve/having children and money are the two most stressful things we go through as human beings. Just congratulate yourself for keeping going, and think about all the things that are going right. For example, I bet it was lovely seeing your husband with a baby, G2D, so hold on, and know it'll happen when you least expect it. As for the money Josie I'm just the same whenever my parents do anything, they seem to have more money than sense, when I have a great long shopping list but nothing to pay for it all with. I know the feeling with the car, it only starts when noone except me is looking (I'm totally serious), and I have to say please. Even then, I am always surprised when I get to my destination without the RAC man (who thinks I'm my mum!) having to help me on my way. The garage just makes me shake with fear at the final bill.

Just remember - Everything will be alright in the end. If its not alright, then its not the end.

Aw Got2Dance, sorry you've had a bad day and did yesterday. Hope you're feeling better now. Little things like bloody supernanny on tv seem t be making me cry at the moment - keep having to look away from DH so he doesnt notice

Thanks for all your lovely comments, just needed to get that off my chest I think. We were a bit naughty today and took the car to asda cos we had no food in and I wanted to do some cooking, and made it there and back in one piece luckily. Think the clutch is going. It judders really badly and struggles to pull off on the bite, but is better once you're past the bite. Hoping to get it in garage tomorrow.It's partly my fault we have no money as obviously we have the horse, but most times I'm ok with being constantly skint and others being able to afford stuff, it just gets to me sometimes. And you're right Truff, they have been there done that, it just sometimes feels like we'll never be able to afford a holiday, or new car etc

Babylann hope you get your money back!

I know I'm one for crazy symptom spotting, but I have been feeling just a teeny tiny bit sick at points today, and have been having funny crampy twinges. Trying so so hard not to get my hopes up but I really really can't stop, and DH is getting excited so we'll both be devestated if ERTD arrives again I have caught myself talking or thinking as if I have been confirmed pg aready! It's really gonna be a blow if I'm not but I can't stop myself

Hi all,

Josie sorry to hear you're struggling. It is galling when others (even parents) seem to have the money we need so much and make silly comments about things being "worth the extra". I bet you'd have swopped the anti-bac surfaces for a new bookcase or a working car!! You could even have given them a bottle of Flash as well!!

Well, I went well and truly to pieces with the arrival of ERTD. Made a total fool of myself. Yesterday at the baby shower I snapped at my mum when she made a comment about when I have a baby. Then disappeared upstairs for about half an hour as I sobbed. Gathered myself and enjoyed the rest of it.

Today was worse though - completely fell apart at church. Sobbed and balled and felt compeltely powerless to pull myself together and stop. Lost all make up (read - smeared face with mascara) and was red nosed and red eyed from crying. NOt a good look. Felt so stupid, as I so did not want to do that - esp not in front of the whole congregation! Disappeared as soon as I could after the service. DH was lovely and I think realised how had I'm finding this and actually it is causing me pain with the disappointment.

Wally. I'm just fed up with it all really. Must keep the faith.

Sorry to have ranted so much the last few days. Does seem to be getting to me somewhat. Am almost tempted to have a month off clomid as well. Will see.

Had my sister in law and her two littlies over for lunch. Whilst I played the "hot cold" game with my 5 yo neice, DH held the 11week old - he looked so adorable! I really want to be able to give him his own.

Hope everyone is having a good and relaxing Sunday. Recovering, by the sounds of things!!