Feck off with your babydust - The hut of gl/doom, home of inadequate reproduction

Well my GP has referred me to the fertility clinic. He doesn't want to attempt the blood tests himself as he said their standard procedure for which days to do them could lead to confusion with my cycle. He sat and looked at my diary and came to this conclusion. He's actually a pretty good GP, has a reputation for wanting his patients to get the relevant specialist advice sooner, rather than 'waste' months on GP investigations. (he did say 'i'm not an expert in this, you deserve to be dealt with by people who know what they are doing')

I have come home and cried. This feels like such a huge step to be taking. I feel like i've entered the realm of being a statistic I am so angry with my body for not just damn well doing what it is designed to do.

good luck queenrollo, hope it goes ok for you, let us know how you get on.

bex I don't chart as I really can't be arsed and i do have opk sticks but haven't used them in months, need to start using them again i think. Have decided to have a month of chucking everything at it, just for my own amusement (started a thread for tips yesterday) and dp has agreed to give up alcohol and caffeine after this weekend! I was gobsmacked! I think this month I shall try swi from day 6 to day 18, every other day and every day if I reults on the wee sticks. I think some months I don't do it enough!

i'm off to my GP at 9.10 to get the ball rolling on my blood tests. Of course i've had 33 day cycles for 5 months and then last month it was 30 so until AF arrives (any time from Saturday) i won't know what my cycle days are, so hop ei can get a ast minute appt to have the bloods done.

Ninja are you charting or using opk? Is it possible it's a random anovulatory cycle? (My Gp said most women have a couple if year). At least you can get pissed and enjoy the weekend!
I'm glad that both queenrollo and ellangirl are trying to stay positive, at least things are moving forward.
I'm at the start of the tww, feeling quite cynical tonight. Not sure if the timing hit ovulation or even if I did ovulate! FF said cd 10 but it did that last cycle, strung me along, got 17 temps above the coverline then it said "ooh not sure you ovulated this month!". So I'm using it but not trusting it! If there's no clear sign of ovulation this cycle I'm wagging back to the GP. Dh also has his appt (finally) at start if June so hopefully things will move forward with us too.

thats good news ellangirl, and whilst somewhat intrusive is most certainly a step forwards for you.
glad you are feeling positive too queenrollo

Well af got me this morning but I am most confused as I'm not due till 16th/ 17th! And it deffo seems to be af and not implantation bleed as is heavy. Not getting pg but having a regular cycle I can just about cope with but suddenly out of nowhere having a cycle change had done my head in! Anyone got any thoughts as to why this may have happened? I have had 27/ 28 day cycles ever since I can remember. Thats put my positive mood for the month out completely. Ah well, at least I can get pissed at the wedding this weekend.

hope it goes well for you ellangirl

well i feel somewhat cheered by a chat with my herbalist/friend yesterday. it's now been 17 months since I came off the pill, so over a year since we started TTC but as my herbalist/friend pointed out i've only been having a regular cycle for six months of that. I was so erratic before that and really not sure I ovulated at any point. She says that I should consider the proper TTC to have begun six months ago.

I have an appt with my GP on thurs am to see about next steps for me, and AF is due on Fri/sat. This is the first month that I haven't gone crazy torturing myself with the thoughts of am I/aren't I? Kind of resigned to AF putting in an appearance.......

Hey all! Long time no speak. Sorry there's no good news for any of you- boo hiss! DH and I will be starting ICSI in the summer all being well, so there. Consultant confirmed DS is a medical miracle, she has no idea how it was possible. I have to have a raft of tests, but hey, who needs dignity- bring on those swabs!

*any not Amy!

Would you like some of mine? I really need to get my bmi under 30 (probably around 31 atm). Just about to weigh self after holiday.
There's some simple (dietetic) ways to gain weight like switching to full cream milk, adding cream to soups. You could try 'build up' soups too from Amy pharmacy, taste like soup but with extra calories and vitamins.

the thing is I know exactly what the GP will say to me when I go. He'll tell me to put some weight on, because my BMI is very low. I bought some scales last week and i only weigh 6 and half stone . I have always been very small, and eternally struggled to put weight on. I was half a stone heavier when i fell for DS, and after he was born eventually settled at 8 stone. I was happy at 8 and felt healthier than I had for years, but i lost that extra weight through the stress diet and now even though i'm the happiest i've been for a very long time I just can't seem to get my weight up again.
I do feel that this is possibly having an impact on my fertility - so i've been addressing my diet again this week and seeing how i can cram more calories into my daily intake, but this does make eating a bit of a chore.....

Sorry to hear you're stressing queen, but ninja may well be right. It could be that you're halfway to finding out things are normal and you just need more time!
I'm charting and luring Dh into bed at regular intervals this cycle, giving it all we've got!

ah you're right of course ninja it could just be 'one of those things'.......

I suppose that getting myself checked out will answer those questions for me, and there will either be a problem that we can address, or a problem we can't address or no problem at all, and we'll have to see where we go from there.

I've been reasonably relaxed about it all, just keeping an eye on my cycle, but i think i'll get the BBT back out and make a proper attempt at charting for a couple of cycles. can't hurt can it?

There may be nothing wrong with either of you! Me and DP have been trying over a year and are both normal, ds was concieved first moonth of trying, this time nothing... who knows why it is like it is? If you saw that 'inside the human body' program last night I'm amazed anyone gets pregnant at all!

glad to hear he is ok, and don't be so down on yourself. am off out now so will try to check in over the weekend, chin up love and have a virtual gin on me x

well - DH has just phoned and got a bit tearful at the good news that he is 'normal'......so i'm but also because that means it's probably me......so now I have to arrange appt with GP to get blood tests and whatever else is necessary.

um......if i didn't have to drive i would pour myself a big whisky now.

i don't work, but i have friend here doing some building work so we've been chatting and later I have to go and collect DS from his dad's, and once here's here I'll be too busy to think about it!

DH just asked me for the GP number, he's going to try and get a phone consult with the GP to discuss results. I'm generally the sort of person who doesn't worry about things like this, more of a 'deal with it when it happens' sort of person. But this is proving to be my downfall. I'd go mad if i couldn't come here and offload.

does he get a lunch break? or even a long loo break where he can make the call? I really hope its good news for you both.
Are you working today? If not try to get yourself out for some fresh air and a walk, might help with how you feel just getting some space. Let us know how you get on.

cycle point for smear is because they get a better sample when your cervix is soft, so need to take it at your fertile time. As they request no sex 48 hours before the smear this somewhat reduces SWI chances at the right time

Just phoned surgery and DH's results are back. he's in meetings all day so probably won't be able to phone himself and not sure if GP will discuss it over the phone or whether he'll need to go for an appt. If the latter then it will be end of next week before we find out as DH working. I feel a bit sick. Had a rough day yesterday and feeling emotionally fragile.

yes, I really hope this month will be the one. I've got a date for my appointment at the clinic in Roehampton, not till July 14th so would like a bfp before then so I don't have to go!
Fingers crossed for this month!
bex you sound like you are doing quite well at the swi too this month, how's the holiday been?

Am off to enjoy some sunshine at friends house today, her ds has some new garden toys (am guessing its a climbing frame) so ds and 2 other friends are going there for the afternoon. Should be nice.

What is everyone else up to?

Cycle point for smear is so that af doesn't interfere with results.
I'm impressed with swi ninja, certainly think you've had a good chance of hitting spot timing wise!
We've been away with my family but still managed a couple of nights. Full speed ahead over weekend (FF reckons Monday will be ovulation day). Dh still determined this will be the month (nice when fertile time is over weekend!).

ah smear tests, very glad I don't need one for a while. I didn't realise you needed to be at a certain point in your cycle to have one though?

Well, i'm not doing to badly on the swi this month. Have mangaed it on days 9, 11, 14, and tonight will be day 17. Its not quite a regular as I would like but hey ho, its the best we could manage what with being away with dp's entire family and sharing a room with ds for 3 nights! Hopefully it puts me in with some chance?

How is everyone? I'm glad to be home and life back to normal. Am feeling in good form so far this month although have had very little in the way of ewcm and that was on day 8! AF not due till the 16th so haven't had time to drive myself mad yet!

bex i phoned the surgery to book an appt for smear to be told I can't because i'm not between day 11 - 17 of my cycle, so will have to wait until next month.Never mind that I am 'ripe' now, no consideration for my personal cycle, just their rules No news on DH results, receptionist didn't want to tell me if they were back (data protection - fair enough) so we were sneaky and i asked if i needed to make him an appt this week and she said there was no letter on his file. Asssuming it's taking a while to come through because of all the Bank Holidays.

Don't need contraception my body is doing a marvalous job by itself!

oh yep I have been on my friends hen night this weekend and drank copious amount of cocktails and wine (not together though) . Curse will come next week and waiting for it.

Oh.the joy of the smear! Mine mist be due soon
Currently enjoying home brew cider. Dh is determined this month will be 'the month' so is trying to ravish regularly. No complaints here!
What happened with Dh's test results queenrollo?

bex you just reminded me I have some homemade damson brandy somewhere.

so I got my smear reminder last week so shall be making an appt to have that done. joy. I will not put it off like i did last time. It was due just as I found out i was PG with DS and then i just never got round to it. Had a scare with a breast lump a couple of years back and the nurse told me off about my smear at the time so this time i'm just going to get it over and done with.
Will also be checking if DH's results are back and booking him an appt if so.