Feck off with your babydust - The hut of gl/doom, home of inadequate reproduction

Hmm my Dh has suggested 'not trying for a while' cos we both need counselling to deal with ongoing issues. Not sure he's suddenly too keen since I refused to go back on the pill and said not making babies would either be through abstinence it condoms...ha ha!
Generally day 21 results are ideally above 30 but over 16 indicates ovulation took place. I think I'll see what the results are in 4 weeks time before u harass Gp again.

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bious you could just not try this month...
don't shoot me down in flames it would save you a month's clomid if you know he isn't going to be around at the crucial point

sorry bex I have no idea what the levels are meant to be as have not been tested yet, won't be till 18th feb. if you do find out let me know and likewise i'll question them when i get tested. can you call the gp back to discuss some more?

Evening ladies!
Bisous my DH wouldn't go that far either! Good luck, hope things work out time wise.
Ladies can I get some advice? I've had my 2nd round of 21 day progesterone checked- my results were 15 and 20, should I be concerned that they are low? My GP was a bit vague and just said it was "fine".....I'm not too happy! What do you think?

Lol a nice idea but thinking about it there is no way DH would agree!! Just hoping my ovulation works with DH travel dates!!

thanks bisous, there is so little you can control that i think it feels good to be doing something, anything!
I hope the clomid works for you soon. Have you bought yourself a thermal bag and a turkey baster yet

Hi Ninja, it's a good feeling when you feel like you are doing 'something'. i do the 21 day blood test every month (for the past 5 months), for me they test the hormone levels to check that i am ovulating. Initially i wasn't so i was put on Clomid. But i am halfway through the maximum number of cycles and even tho' i am ovulating, still no BFP!

Good luck hun, hope it gets some answers and solutions for you!

no idea on that I'm afraid Bisous, maybe google might help with optimum length of time it can be kept and how?
well, I went to the docs ths morning and I'm now booked in for 21 day blood test in feb in a couple of weeks, dp has a pot to fill and rush to the path lab at the hosp and I was told that when the results are in (and obviously depending on what they are) we are fairly likely to be referred to the assisted conception clinic at the local hospital! The doctor was really lovely and has said he will check with one of the other gp's there (whose name I now have) who is their resident fertility expert if I need to be tested for anything else. I am glad I went and I feel like I am actually taking up what little control I have of the situation.
How is everyone else this sunny monday? Hope you all had a nice weekend?
ps if anyone know anythign about what to be tested for in 21 day blood test then do let me know......

Hello ladies, finally got on here to check the news after a busy weekend... Hope you had a good one!

Right, i need some advice, may be a bit of a wierd one ... DH is going away on business around the crucial time... As i am on Clomid, i dont want to waste a cycle (i only have two more cycles left on Clomid after this month!), initially i was thinking we'll just have to SWI a lot before and a lot after the trip with the hope we catch it, but what if i ovulate in the middle... Anyway i wondered how easy or not it is to get DH to prepare me some before he leaves that i can use if i get the smiley face on the ovulation test. Anyone know/have experience?

Thank you!
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I meant to write "both" rather than "hither" but hither sounds pretty cool as an alternative! (sometimes wrong predicative text is amusing).

Hi sadly have hither remained too sickly. I was being self indulgent esp considering we agreed not to try this month because we are so ill! (Shakes some sense into self). Next month?!
Glad the undies helped Mrs h!

ninja it's rubbish, isn't it. I hope the retail therapy helped a bit.

lissie that is so annoying, hope you can get a new appointment soon.

bex, I hope you made up for it in the morning - poorly or not!! :)

Thank you for all the advice for helping mrhende stay in the mood! Went shopping for some lovely undies yesterday...success!! (thank goodness, they cost an arm and a leg and are extremely uncomfortable!)

That is rubbish. Hope you can rearrange soon.
I am also pissed off. I have realised I am ovulating and finally feel well enough for SWI. DH has just fallen asleep on my shoulder having necked 6 bottles of beer and gone to bed. So now I am left at 9pm with his "I'm still feeling a bit poorly" ringing in my ears sat on the sofa watching crap tv. He will be snoring by the time I get to bed.

catching up in a second, Im pissed off.had to cancel consultant because ds is still ill. turns out though, he's not as ill as we thought.

fuck it.

ooh a gin, lovely. cheers everyone!
this will be the 9th month it hasn't happened. i have a ds who is 3.4 and is desperate for a sibling. his two best friends both have 3 month old siblings and sil is about to pop one out in a few weeks. I'm feeling less sad than i was. showofhands has just writen me a few lovely posts and i've made myself a plan. maybe i should by some leather gloves and a cigar so i can say ' i love when a plan comes together' like hannibal in the A Team if it ever actually happens?

Think i'm going to take ds shopping as its my day off and we both deserve something new. will check back later, thanks for the welcome!

Of course Bisous. I shall look for some fun recipes in my Hollywood Cocktails book....Snacks sound fab!

Hugs Ninja. Its the same over here, feel for you hun! My AF arrived on Wed 2 days late (just to give me a bit of hope ) Bexamundo could i have one too? I'll get some nibbles!

Big hugs Ninja, you're very welcome. How long have you been TTC? Now I know it's only 11am but sod it .

hello, can i join your hut of gloom? I'm sat here fighting back tears as its another month with a bfn. just waiting for af to start now. poor ds doesn't understand why i'm so upset and dp is at work so i can't talk to him.

We got into a similar position. I also find it impossible to have SWI every day/ every other day because he starts to complain that he's sore. (NO idea how to resolve that one).
We try to make "naked" time as often as possible or I too wander round in sexy undies. Try having time in bed (oops wrote "bad" initially) without assuming it will lead to SWI - just carve out time for the two of you to talk, have physical contact. What we've found is by doing that we're more likely to DTD but there's less pressure because we agree to do it frequently. I also find there's more lead in his pencil when he takes vitamin E regularly, not sure why!! but hey if it works (even if it's placebo effect) it's a cheap solution to the problem!

Oh goodness mrsHende thats tough. I have no experience so advice from me isn't gonna be much use, but what i can say is that i don't tell DH when its the 'right time' as i know it would put pressure on him to perform.

Girls, I'm so sorry you have the added pressure of your DCs also asking for a baby brother or sister. It's so sweet that that's what they want too but then so heartbreaking when you're trying your hardest. lissie, bisous, broccoli, I feel for you guys, it sounds so hard. :(

I'm getting so frustrated and need to vent here. I'm looking back at the last year that we've been ttc and beginning to think that we have the same problem every month. My DH is feeling the pressure and is not able to perform on the vital days.

He's been to the doc and it's nothing physical, she says it's in his head. He was keen to know everything that's going on with me cycle-wise but I thought that was what was causing the problem so last month and this I've been keeping OPK results etc to myself.

However, still no joy.

He's firing on all cylinders when we've not been doing it for a week or so because of AF and raring to go. But it's like he over-does it and after a couple of nights (last night!!!!) when we're actually getting nearer the key days he just can't deliver the vital goods!!

Can you lovely ladies help?

hey girls.

that's it isn't it? it's just not having what you wanted so badly and had planned your life around. dd also asks for a sibling every night, and it is heart wrenching. i don't want her to ever think she isn't enough, but it isn't only me that wants another baby, it is for her too. she is loved and well rounded and well balanced and perfectly happy and will probably get a HUGE shock if she ever does get a sibling! but i wanted and had dreamed about and had planned for 5 or 6 as well i worry that dd misses out and we have her friends over tea very regularly.
my hcg finally fell low enough to be discharged. i have had a normal(ish) period, i think i ovulated and now i am TERRIFIED i am pregnant again, i feel exactly the same as i did 1 week post conception last time; i have sore boobs and am feeling sick in a pregnancy sickness kind of a way and my period, if everything has indeed returned to normal, isn't due til next week....
it could of course just be the cyclical hormonal shift getting back to normal post mc. not sure what to think to be honest

{hugs} lissielou i am in exactly the same boat! My DS asks me daily for a brother or sister and i too feel like I'm letting him down. I never wanted a tribe of kids, but i did want 2. I do know how you feel