Feck off with your babydust - The hut of gl/doom, home of inadequate reproduction

Hi Pooch sorry for your losses. I was on aspirin on this pregnancy, but clearly it didn't help :(

I am also having accupuncture, and have got a really healthy diet, don't smoke etc. I'm doing everything I possibly can and it's still not happening.

I guess an option might be IVF, but I am waiting to be tested before considering that.

lissie Brrrrrrrrrrrrrrilliant news keeping everything crossed (though thats making movement difficult) for you.
Hairy reading your PG history brought a lump to my throat, have had equally depressing MC history, we've managed one successful reproduction, DH not bothered at all about having 2nd but will have SWI reluctantly/grudgingly which makes the whole thing that much more stressful. Plus can't talk to him about how as each month goes by without BFP it makes me feel like shit as don't want him to know how much I'm obsessed by it as that might put him off from trying again.
My MC consultant said to take aspirin if I get BFP - same reason - reduces blood clotting.
Mindie am having acupunc - 2nd session yesterday - doesn't get you PG obviously! But do find the whole thing v positive so will let you know if next month is successful.
Finally ALL my friends have at least 2 sproglets - I am grateful for managing 1 but I get incredibly envious of them specially the one's who haven't had any MC's and can just sail through pg's getting excited and enjoying them.
Settling down for rugby too then out to get hammered with a friend to drown my sorrows!

MC June 2010 (suspected ectopic, methotrexate)

MMC November 2010 (8 weeks - discovered at 10 weeks - ERPC completely failed -fetus was still there and whole, medical management completely failed, second ERPC worked)

MMC diagnosed yesterday at about 7 weeks (was on aspirin) - have second dose of medical management tomorrow.

Am going to now be tested, but I'm forty fucking three in April, wasted my child bearing years with the wrong man and am seriously fucked off with the whole damn thing.

Just feel so fucking sad.

Wishing you all the best lissie - can't imagine how hard this is for you but sounds like your doing right. Everything crossed!

No, I haven't been cloned ha ha...i've had a HyCoSy which showed normal but nothing else apart from that. DH had sperm test last year and he's "above average" (you can just imagine the head swelling that went on when he found that out!)
Yeah everyone says he's taking the pressure off me but it doesn't feel that way.

Am also going to be starting acupuncture next week - anyone know whether it might work

And IUI is next - if anyone has any experience of that I would love to hear it

asprin helps with clotting disorders, IF i get to 6w (not likely, i tend to mc at around 5w) i will start heparin injections too.

Meant to reduce risk of clotting- as I understand it even they don't fully understand how it works. Also minimal downside (if you don't have an ulcer). The other thing that jury is out on is one of hormones ( progesterone)- they think low levels may be behind mc (although cant be sure if you get low levels as mc or vice versa). They are doing a study at my hospital an asked If I want to be in a blind trial to take some if I get pregnant again. Tbh given next pregnancy if it ever happens will likely be my last I am not keen to risk it.

Lol- I assume not .

Lissie really hope all goes ok- my consultant swears by aspirin.

What does the aspirin do if you don't mind me asking?

I'm assuming Mindie hasn't been cloned either?

thank you, tbh i think he suspects already. had it confirmed by my gp yesterday and was refused ABs but am taking 1 paracetamol a day to keep my temp down and taking asprin and high dose FA i am drinking lots and eating a lot too.

That should say someways not somerset. Although possibly drinking cider may help... Curse the iphone

Fingers and toes crossed for you lissie.

Welcome mindie- whilst in Somerset it nice your eh is not stressed (I have 2 dsc and a dd so my dh also more relaxed re having another) it does add to your isolation. Have they done any other checks when they put you on cloned?

Hairy- saw your other poat. With any luck should be quick- I think u was all done 16 hours after second dose (although that was 22 weeks).

Rugby later but am lying in bed and would quite like to stay here . Forgot my acupuncture appt this morning which is irritatiing. I do massively recommend it so bit hacked off.

oh lissie it must be very stressful for you. I wish I knew what to suggest. All you can do is make sure you eat and drink healthily and have plenty of rest and lots of vitamins. At what point do you think you'll have to tell DH? Or will he guess? I've got everything crossed for you. Keep us posted and you know you have a safe freak out space here when you need to let off a bit.

mindi, welcome to the hut, sorry you are here. ninja, am 4+5 and bricking it. i dont want to hurt dh again. he will be thrilled and knows i am late, but a cant tell him.

thanks for the welcome ninja - am a big fan of morning drinking, since I haven't had one for nine months! no wonder i'm a bit mental...

hairy have found other thread, big love and hugs to you and yours. xxx

lissie do you know many weeks you are? I have read about your history and we are all here to hold your hand so to speak. How do you think DH will take it? Please try to be calm if thats at all possible. Maybe contact your gp/ consultant and see if they can give any advice? Good luck m'dear x

hairy whats happened? you sound so sad, you know you can vent here.

mindiefez hello, glad you found us. everyone here is very nice, and yes, a pre-lunch snifter would be lovely thanks!

Hello all,

Serious Newbie here, have never done this before but feeling the need to talk to people who know what this is all about!

Been TTC for 3 years (just turned 30) with hubbie not very helpful - announced on wedding anniversary he doesn't care if we don't have kids....thanks hub.

Am on 10th month of Clomid so have been advised can only take for 2 more months and then IUI. My last 21 day test showed 130?! Apparently this is good but nothing ever happens.

This is just sooooo depressing and I don't have any friends who are dealing with this as they are all super fertile and popping out babes left, right and centre and apparently they are all experts with my problem even though they haven't got a clue what I'm talking about.

Sorry lots of ranting for a Newbie but feels good to get it all out at last! seems a shame there are so many of us with similar problems and have issues with NHS/doctors/idiots in the health service. Good luck to all posting on this thread

Now about I get a round in? [Wine]

Hairy- what is up? Also which book are you talking about(have a fair few but must admit I haven't read them
All).

hairy, whats happened?

Fucking hell. Why is this happening to us :(

When should I give up? How am I going to cope with medical management and what if it doesn't work again. :( :( :(

morning all, hope you are well. sorry that some of you are having a crap time but glad you are finding tcoyf helpful. i have some news. am pregnant. got a bfp on tuesday. i feel sick and terrified. havent told dh, am waiting for it all to go horribly wrong.

Morning ladies how's it going? I'm glad people are enjoying the book, I've found it so enlightening! I am hoping to have some nookie tonight not so much swi its a bit early! That's if Dh is willing to despite his cold!

evening ladies! its friday night and i'm sat on the sofa in my slobbing trousers (i've had a big fat curry). I think i shall pretend to be wearing my party frock, nursing a large gin cocktail. if i can maintain the energy, dp will be getting shagged tonight. If i can manage tonight and sunday i'll at least feel i've given it my best shot this month! one day i'll remember what spontaneous sex was like.

Just checking back in (rose in hand)- pooch sorry you are having such a rough time. Suspect that will be next week.