and ANOTHER one of my friends is pregnant, bringing the total up to everyone I have ever met in my entire life except for me.

Hello Kat!!! I know, thanks for talking sense into me-I know I can't really go around being annoyed with people for being optimistic and hopeful, why shouldn't they be? Just envious it didn't work out for me I guess (was my first pregnancy too-sucky eh??)

It doesn't cross your mind though does it? I had a private early scan at 8 weeks. I went on to miscarry 2 weeks later. First pregnancy. In the meantime we had told our good friends and our parents as I had seen a baby on the scan and seen a heartbeat. Naivety and optimism and innocence of first pregnancy - miscarriage is a word you have heard but of course it won't happen to you...

Anyway I think people should stop posting scan pics on facebook. Facebook should say no to pictures of internal organs please!

yuno I've got the same thing - had a MC in June, quite a few people at work knew about it and I swear they all stare at my stomach all the time as they are expecting me to tell them I'm pg any minute now. If only. I'm just bloody bloated people, ok!!!!

Also v. sad tonight as ex colleague posted pics of her 9 week scan on FB - FFS just made me think that's what my scan should have looked like but instead wasn't meant to be :( I would be bricking it that I was tempting fate if I was her, but apparently that thought hasn't crossed her mind. Don't get me wrong, I don't wish it on her, just irritates me that people just assume that MC is something that happens to other people.....

No worries, thats what this site is for :)

That and secretly slagging off those that preggers quickly and/or by accident , although I am sort of pleased for them too.

Twosjackrussells Same here. I was born in the 70's too and my mum told me after two missed periods and throwing up morning noon and night, she realised she was probably pregnant. It must be so weird not to have the option of testing and knowing.

Thanks for kind words too Feel better now that we're finally being seen at FC. At least the ball is rolling in terms of thorough investigations and possible treatment, if necessary.

Ah Knackered,

there isnt much I can say to help, hopefully things will work okay for you.

I love my mum and realise that she is just trying to help, but she had me and my brother in the seventies when they didnt have all these tests etc, so she just had to figure out that she was pregnant after she missed three periods!!!

TwoJeackRussells Yep have been to GP. Don't think it will be very long before I join the assisted conception board.

Have had first investigations done. Day 21 progesterone was fine. LH/FSH was fine. Have had all the swabs done and manual pelvic examination by GP.

DH's sperm count all good.

First appointment with Fertility Clinic on Wednesday Had peritonitis and a pelvic abscess as a child due to perforated appendix. Most likely outcome is tubal infertility, but waiting for HSG / lap & dye to see whether the infection did actually leave adhesions that are causing complications. Maybe, just maybe I've been very unlucky and there's nothing wrong, but somehow I doubt it....

My mum says exactly the same as yours too. It's so irritating. I always want to say I am trying to relax, but it's really hard when people keep telling you to relax.

Yep and accidents.... Couldn't agree more.

Knackered,

sorry about AF, have you been to the gp? 16 months is more than enough time to be trying without any success.

TTC is like being the only single at a smug married party. There you are waiting for mr right to come round the corner and everyone else is telling you how you just have to stop looking and he'll come along!! Well, thats how I feel anyway, my Mum trys to help by telling me just to relax and it'll happen, I would love to, but I've waited long enough to try and now this delay is killing, where is Baby H? Late, thats where!!!!

And dont get me started on people and their "accidents".....

Dropping in again after Christmas.

So started to spot on Xmas Eve. At said time friends phoned my DH to tell them they were 10 weeks pregnant. She was still on pill in July and not planning to come off it till September or October. So up duff straight away. Now I do feel bad for feeling jealoous, but then started to cry and DH and I had a row on Xmas Eve as he said I was being unreasonable. Oh FFS! Maybe I should post this on AIBU and get flamed there? We've been trying for 16 sodding months now. "WHY NOT ME?" I screamed. MN should really have a very selfish bitch emoticon. I'd use it with pride.

Kat ROFL at man's cock as profile pic. Might suggest this to hubby if we ever actually manage to get up the duff.

kitty GI tract on Facebook.

sweetsherry Really sorry. What an arse.

Agree with Yuno I knew I wasn't pg as AF stared over Xmas. Got as pissed as a fart the day my parents went home and sobbed hopelessly into wine bottle. The hangover the next day was definitely worth it.

Oh sherry. I think that might be worse to feel everyone silently wondering. At least I can deny it and move on.

Sorry about the bfn.

Yuno - I feel your pain, really I do.

I'm on Clomid so abstained from booze right through Christmas. I could feel the silent eyes burning into me, but I did it anyway.

BFN anyway though so don't know why I ff-ing bothered.

CD1 today.

SIL has just gone into labour.

A quick morning moan:

EVERYTHING I DO at the moment is taken as a sign that I'm pregnant and lept on gleefully by my lovely friends who want nothing but the best for me. I am not pregnant. It is excruciating.

Yuno hasn't had a drink? Must be preggo!

Yuno a bit tired? Preggers!!

Yuno fancies a chocolate biscuit? CRAVINGS!

Not coming on the night out? WHY? Are you Pg??!

No. No I am not.

I have just thought that it takes two to make a baby.
Therefore all these women posting their pregnant uterus as their profile pic should get their man to put his cock as profile pic.
This would put a swift end to the fb scan nightmare.

kat you made me laugh with the effing facebook scan photo c&ap - how many 'friends' have done that in the past week?!

im tempted to fake some serious gastrointestinal symptoms in order to get a camera up and take home photo for my profile.

oh and how many time must one endure 'you're time will come' and 'it will happen when the time is right'...

im sorry but it felt right with my first pregnancy until that nuchal fold scan, and well, admittedly last month's early miscarriage never quite felt like it would be a sticker but for goodness sake, do the idiots not realise that the time being right incredibly quickly for some versus months, years and never down the line for others, doesn't always feel like it has a silver lining?!

I don't see why people are so keen to put an image of their internal organs on facebook anyway. Preggers or not, I would not put my uterus as my profile picture! I do not need to look at someone elses uterus any more than I want to see a picture of their liver or their bowel!

Girls, I love this thread. It makes me feel better that so many other people feel the same as me (although obviously I wish that none of us were in this particular camp....)

kat - from friend and "bump"???? I know I'm supposed to try and share in their excitement, but even if I'd not had the MC, I still don't think I would have been insensitive enough to send something that cringeworthy. Also, on the scan topic, I'd never been interested in other people's scans (and now they just upset the hell out of me) - I really can't believe anyone except for the excited parents and maybe the grandparents are even slightly interested in the scan pictures, so why do people feel the need to share???? Yes it's exciting for them, but it's at best dull and at worst massively upsetting for everyone else so why don't they just keep it to themselves?? I think the monster might have taken over...... sorry about that, good to rant here rather than in RL though!!

Xmas card from friends "and bump"! Just what I needed to cheer me up. Is a really nice friend who deserves everything good and has been brilliant to me. But yeah, obviously wish it was me. 5 months post miscarriage and still no luck. 2011 will be our year, let's all keep our fingers crossed. It is hard to hear other peoples good news but that doesn't mean we don't wish them well of course. When our turn comes we will want the world and his dog to cheer us on!!

Hello everyone! Can I join your thread please? I'm in need! There were 3 weddings of friends this summer, including mine, and amongst others both newly marrieds have just announced how happy and excited they are to become parents! I am happy for them (honestly) but if someone else asks me if i'm pregnant and waiting to announce it/going to announce it soon/waiting for a 12 week scan I am going to punch them in the face!

Ffs yet another friend has announced shes got a BFP for her 4th child. Am now off to hide behind a large rock with an even larger block of dairy milk :(

Why are the world & his wife so able to fall pregnant except me?

Ps thanks for this thread - I can say everything here that i cant in RL

Not only is everyone I know pregnant, but so is my younger sister who is flaunting her six-month bump at every opportunity. I swear she does it just to get a rise out of me. She wonders why it upsets me. Meh.

OOOOh Ill join, like minded people on here. If I see another FB announcement with 'Iam Pregnant yoopie' on it or day to day detail on how baby is doing I am going to go insane. Really, some people are so insensitive, who wants to hear that you feel really really sick today, or baby is kicking, etc everytime you log into FB, adds a further kick in the teeth. It was easier without all this FB lark. Why do people have to bloody fall pg with number 3,4,5 when you cannot have number 2 yet! Oh the irrational thoughts that go through our minds. We have a beautiful dd 3.9 years, but would love a brother or sister for her. Tis not happening anytime soon, went to the GP, so will go for blood tests mid cycle.

Same story here, friends getting pregnant all round and I'm the only one of us who all got married around the same time who hasn't had any children yet... it really does make you feel like some cursed person, doesn't it? I keep wondering, why us??

Background is I came off the pill in April '09 and we half-heartedly TTC-ed for a while but no charting or anything. I only started worrying about a year ago as my periods went totally haywire and I started getting 55 day and 43 day cycles, possibly not even ovulating at all, so went to the GP and was finally referred to the fertility clinic in May '10 but then a month later, I got my BFP and was over the moon about that. Then in August, I had an MMC just a few days before my 12 week scan and that was honestly the most horrendous experience I've ever had. It almost put me off TTC ever again

But here I am, back on mumsnet, back cycle-watching, hoping I might be luckier this time...

It is so hard when it seems easy for others. As someone said further up in the thread, though, you do have to tell yourself that you never know what problems people have behind the scenes. I've never told anyone about my MMC, for example, so if I got pregnant tomorrow and it went well, nobody would ever know what we went through last August. That's the way it is with pregnancy, people talk endlessly about the good side and the good news but no-one likes to talk about the dark side - which just fuels the paranoia of us TTC-ers! I'm trying to stay optimistic and look ahead to maybe a diagnosis and some help of some sort in the New Year when I see the fertility clinic again. It's not where I thought I would be a year ago but I've learnt a lot in the meantime. Mumsnet has been so great in finding support and knowing that I'm not the only one so let's drink to that [clinks glasses]

so i woke up this morning with a mega hangover (the nazi wine police AKA husband was out and i had my friend over). literally the first thing i saw today was a facebook 'number 3's on the way/scan photo combo'...which obviously makes me happy for them that all is well, but sad for myself. i was just getting over the whole sadness shite when i bumped into said preggar in the supermarket. i was at least quite glad not to be traipsing round sainsbury's feeling like shit on a stick.

I'm so sorry you're in a bad way, fledtoscotland. You did well to even let your friends start on the scan conversation - you did your best and you deserve a good sob. Let's hope 2011 is a lot better for everyone on here.

Just listening to one friend giving every detail of her 12wk scan has left me in pieces again. DH trying to be positive by buying me new boots but DHL screwed that up (see my thread in chat) so in tears again.

Just hope 2011 is a more positive year all round