TTC after a miscarriage - Ready to try again, we can do it this time!!!

day 22 of 26 day cycle so i guess theres still hope but i really shouldn't kid myself.

Im fine Diddle, alot better than before. Im lucky i lost it so early this time. Physically its just like a af, emotionally a bit harder but im alot stronger than before. xxx

slinkash???????

Mumswish, you have to talk to him and be open and honest and really decide where you both want to go from here. If hes stalling there has to be a good reason why.

Mumswish - now first of all i will say you asked for our opinions and I am going to try and give you that as honestly as poss. I think you need to ask your DP if he actually wants children. It sounds to me like he might be "stringing" you along a little bit. I might be completely wrong, and i hope i am, but you really must ask him this question and ask him to be 100% honest with you. I have a feeling the holiday and weddignplans might just be a scapegoat.

I really do hope I'm wrong mums, i know how much you want a baby, just like the rest of us do on this thread. But you don't want to end up on your own with a baby.

I hope i haven't been too harsh, but needed to be honest with you

Slink- So sorry hun!!! Here's to next month x

well have to go uni now - will be back later for a cry

Mums- Forgive me for being blunt but that's the way i am. Sounds to me as if your dp is making excuses and maybe does'nt want a another child. After my 4th mc, my dp was desperate for another.
As everyone keeps saying, you need to talk to him. Maybe if you talked to him aout it instead of on here (or showed him these messages) it might help?

blumin bl**dy flipin bum sharks

BFN

oh well better luck next month

Good luck Slinks!!

hi everyone i am just about to test - please let there be 2 lines please keep em crossed for me

ok. I'll start from the beggining and then you can make your own minds up, Cos I am completely confused by him to be honest.

I had a mc last year. I straight away wanted another child and I told him that. We sat down about it and everything. He said that he wasnt ready yet as there was still stuff as a couple he wanted to do. Which I agreed to. We decided to wait a year and do stuff together first. DP decided that he wanted us to get married first and go on holiday together (fine by me)

For xmas Mum & Dad said they'd give us £500 towards a holiday together. I asked him to chose a date (Summer) he then lost his job beggining of the year and had to get a new one. So the date got moved to around Aug/Sept. Ive had my comp money from a crash beg of last year since and asked when we were going on holiday and he's said its too late in the season now we'll have to go next year around June. (Which should be fine to try for baby nowish) When I told him ok he said actually more like Aug/Sept again. (no baby yet then)

Married - There is nothing I can do. He says he wants it the old-fashioned way so he'll ask my dad first and then ask me. I cant do anything to speed that along anyway.

This is just the most recent of a long list of reasons not to have a kid. I could respect that if he didnt keep telling me how he wished we could have kids now as he feels like he's lived his life and wants kids before he's too old to enjoy them (he's 30) He tells me he wants kids before he's 32 which means another 2 years.

My point is that its a lot of what he wants and nothing of what I want even though he knows not having kids upsets me. Esp with so many friends and work colleaugues having them.

Sorry this is so long. I just wanted to see what you lot thought about it, am I being over the top? Please be honest.

I know I'm young but I dont feel it, I feel like probably alot of you girls feel. I've wanted my own kids since I was 16. I knew I wouldnt have them until I found someone I loved tho and he's the one I want them with.

Poor Mumswish, its a difficult situayon but one that cant be resolved without you really having a heart to heart. I dont think men get that urge and longing for a baby like we do. My heart lurched last night when dp asked me if i was sure i wanted to try again. Take care xxxxx

Diddle how are you holding out????

Ch- i agree. Mums, you are young, you have plenty of time. Just enjoy eachother for a little while, then you can embark on mohterhood with full gusto!

Right, back from school but still on the run as i'm taking DS3 to soft play this morning!

Mumswish - you must sit down and talk to your DP. I am having a similar problem with my DH. He doesn't really want anymore children but I am desperate. We have come to an arrangment that we will wait 6 months (now just under 5 and counting!) and think about it again. Perhaps you could wait for a while. You are young and you do have time on your side. And maybe this is your DPs way of saying he wants to get things out of his system before settling down to the very big responsiblity of raising children. Men are strange and never really grow up themselves so don't be too hard on him.

Your time will come to have a child. And I don't mean to sound patronising when I say you do have plenty of time, but you do. I hope things work out for you Mums, but you must talk this one out. Don't bottle up how you feel, tell him.

Phew, sorry that was a bit of an essay!

Really must go and take little one to play!
See ya's later!

I know we wont get romantic hols with beans but we can have them while I'm pg. My parents have said they'd look after while we go on hol (even if its just for a wk) We can afford to go on hols now. But thats not even good enough for him because its all closed (end of season) ARGH!! I feel like just hitting him a few times to see if there is any sense in there. He was even talking last night of putting it off for another year!! he knows how much this means to me I've waited with him for a year since the mc when I really really wanted another baby and now he's asking me to wait longer again. I just dont know. Hes giving me so many mixed signals and when I try and talk to him about it he just makes jokes and doesnt take it seriously. I feel like just walking away from it all and surely thats not good.

Morning all!

Just a quickie again coz I'm in the middle of the "getting the kids ready for school" routine!

Babybloos - hun, don't worry about how it all comes across. I bet we all read everything in a different tone anyway. For the record, I think you sound very nice! And don't talk to me about Superanny! Think she should be strung up!!! By her toenails!! XXX

HC - Glad you got some joy from the Doctor. I really hope DD starts to feel better soon XXX

Wannababy - love the name! I think your right about a new year. I'm hoping 2006 will be my year too and DH will see my side of our argument! I really hope you get the babby that you really deserve XXX

MORNIG everyone else!! Hope you are all fine and dandy today!
XXX

Morning mums.
At the end of the day, it's your body. If you want a baby, you have one. I can sort of see his point about a holiday though. once the little rugrats come along, bang goes romantic hols lol.

Morning all. Hope everyone is good.

Morning WB. Glad to hear from you.

I'm not feeling too good today. Getting really peed off with my DP at the moment. He's told me now that he wants me to keep going with my pill so that we can have a holiday in the summer. I'm really depressed and upset. Esp seeing as I was so happy about being able to get started. I spose its my own fault for asking him what he wanted to do. I should have just gone on what he first said and waited. If he had that big a problem I'm sure he would have said on his own terms, he found a way out and took it. I know I'm not making much sense but I really dont know what to say or do. I'm really sorry, just had to tell someone.

Morning all.
Great to see you WB!!! Love the name.
Not sure if I'll bother testing tbh. I'm leaving it to see whether or not I come on. I'm due next Friday and have my smear Thursday so if I am going to come on, should be bang on time (always do after those), if I'm late then I'll test a few days later.