Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 9)

Sorry wellieboots missed your post - sorry for your loss and I hope you're doing ok. Bleeding/spotting can go on for a while, it really varies. I think you're supposed to see a gp if it's really heavy (soaking through more than one pad an hour) or smelly, or accompanied by fever or excessive pain (can be sign of infection). However if you have any concerns then do contact your gp or epu.

Gosh I'm so sorry to see so many people joining us especially at Christmas but welcome to the thread ochaye and hadrian - I'm sorry for your losses and hope you don't have to be here too long x

hadrian I took three weeks off after my mc and then had a weeks holiday. I would have been no use to anyone before then. However I know some people function better when busy so it's down to what's best for you, but don't let anyone make you feel guilty either way.

For those of you trying to work out the back stories, I had a mmc picked up at my 16 week appointment in July this year. I already have a ds aged 7 and dd aged 4 after two completely boring and uncomplicated pregnancies, so it came as a bit of a shock. And jigglebum we kept it secret until after a really good 13 week scan and it still went wrong so all the waiting and secrecy made b*gger all difference and I wouldn't even bother next time! Sorry your mum's not being much support to you right now - I do think sometimes people struggle to deal with it, especially if they haven't Bern through it themselves.

Sorry wellieboots - crossed posted - sorry for your loss. I was told 2 weeks is average but can go on for weeks. If you are worried why not try and phone EPU to check for advice

my house is suspiciously tidy too! Even sorted DS toys to make way for all the new stuff.

DS ill today - poor lamb. Moping about on sofa with high temp and CBeebies on hence lots of time on MN, albeit one handed as wants lots of cuddling!

Not sure my mum would be much better even if not ill! Rang up the day after it happened to see if they could come and help with DS the next day as in laws had to go back home and DH ideally needed to work - she was too ill to come , fair enough, but my dad could not come either as he was looking after her apparently! (They are both retired and less than an hour and a half away) So not that impressed really.

wellies,sorry for your loss, my MC was exactly as you describe, excep mine came away on its own. Bleeding can take forever...there are no real guidelines and we have realised on here that everyone is different. I think i bled for 21 days on and off. If its light brown i would think its tailing off to the end....?

Try not to panic x

hello everyone,
Do you mind if I crash your thread and ask a bit of a TMI question?!

So sorry for all your losses, and thanks for any info you can give due to having been through all of this before.

My story briefly is that at my 12 wk scan three weeks ago it was discovered that I had a blighted ovum and would need to either wait to mc or have intervention. Decided on ERPC as had had no sign at all up to then that anything was wrong so how long it might all take was a bit how long is a piece of string? Had ERPC on 13 Dec (so now a couple of days over the 2 week mark) and I still have some (quite light) light brown bleed. It stopped the other day and I thought that was it, but it's started again. The leaflet I got from the epu definitely said bleeding would be up to somewhere between 10 days to 2 weeks. Now that it's gone over the 2 wks, is that just one of those things, or should I be worried, going to docs, ringing epu, or something? I don't want to panic if there's nothing to panic about, and I certainly don't want to go back to epu if I can help it, so thought I would ask here first.

thanks and waves to you all x

Oh jigglebum - I'm so sorry your Mum doesn't get it. Hopefully she's just not feeling 100% and will come round when she's better.

hadrian - my house is the tidiest it's EVER been. Considering we've just had Christmas, that's some achievement .

Hi to you too jigglebum and so sorry for your loss. Think your Mum wins the prize for most inappropriate response...

Yes maybe I will take some extra time off although I am moping round the house a bit today so perhaps it would be good to be busy again. Running out of things to distract me although I now have a very tidy knicker drawer...

Have to go the hospital at 4pm for my follow-up scan and to find out whether I need an ERPC. I'm a bit nervous about it - maybe that's why I feel particularly low today.

Hello to ochaye and so sorry for your loss. Sounds like you're coping really well - good luck back at work.

I can't figure out all the back stories on this thread so hopefully I will puzzle out what's going on with everyone as I go along!

Also forgot to say - so pleased to see the BFPs - all the more special on a thread like this I think.

Hi - thanks for all the lovely words - nearly made me cry again! So sorry to hear about your recent losses ochaye and hadrian.

A couple of friends in RL know too but haven't een them since. Other than that my parents and in laws know (and of course DH). My mum has had flu so no real time to sympathise - apart from to tell me I shouldn't have gone sledging (told her that was NOT the cause) and that she thinks people tell others thet are pregnant too early these days! She is my mum FFS I thought she would appreciate knowing. So not that impressed by her support and in laws don't really know what to say but have been great at helping with DS.

Physically feeling not too bad now, though still bleeding a bit. I had very heavy blood loss at the time (was horrendous and hospitalised overnight because of it) but does mean I am likely to finish mc naturally too. I actually feel in a better place emotionally than I thought I might too. Christmas and DS have helped me not to dwell on it.

Hadrian I would get a sick note too, if you are still feeling fragile. I saw the GP the day after I came out of hospital (as I self discharged as wanted to get home) and along with being brilliantly supportive (he saw me for about 40 mins) he offered me a sick note. However, dont think you can geT one as a SAHM!

Hi there StNix - yes 'tis me . I saw you were pretty active on here which also drew me to the thread. It's always nice to have someone familiar around.

I'm so sorry you're having to wait so long for your scan. You could never have predicted the crazy opening hours over Christmas! It sounds like everything's looking positive though. I'll be looking for your news tomorrow!

Ochaye you are formerly northeastmummy...no? waves from the diffed thread, this is where i have lived for the last 5 months x hope you are doing ok xx

Hadrian also sorry for your loss esp at christmas, not good at any time though :( hope you are doing ok, welcome!

Owls shitting oneself!!! Felt sick yest, today nada!! Brown goo has gone hoorah....!!!

Hi owlbooty. I understand why people don't tell friends in RL, but I prefer to speak about things. And I only tell the people I know will be a support to me. I've done it every time I've been pregnant. It really works for me but I know everyone has their own way of dealing with things.

What's your story? I've tried to read back through the thread but it's quite hard to remember everything.

Hadrian - I would second what owlbooty syas. I'm back at work today and feels really strange. Having had a secret from them all and now to not have it anymore ... it feels a bit empty. If you need more time you should definitely take it.

Welcome both of you and so sorry you've both had such a shitty Christmas :(

Hadrian if you don't feel up to it (physically or mentally) then you could get your GP to write a sick note for a week or so, it can be really draining going straight back to the daily grind, you've got to give yourself as much time as you need to recover.

Ochaye this is indeed a lovely thread. V.good to hear you have support in RL too - it makes such a big difference doesn't it?

Hi there

Hello everyone, hope you't mind me joining in but this seems like a good conversation to be part of. I had a MC on Christmas Eve so am still in a pretty low place but I feel like I need a bit of hope and cheer as well as the sadness of the MC thread.

Obviously we're a long way off TTC again and the thought of it is totally terrifying at the moment - but this was my first pregnancy so I'm damned if I'm going to give up yet.

Any advice on how to get through the next few days? I don't feel too bad when I'm safe and warm in my own home with DH to look after me but am dreading the thought of going back to reality (i.e. work) in January...

Nix throwing up post tooth brush is absolutely a symptom...I used to get that with DS, was a nightmare - throw up in morning, brush teeth to get rid of taste, throw up from toothbrushing, want to brush again but scared of throwing up...it's a horrible circle.

I read the buses every so often - I like them for the all the chatty innocence. It makes me feel like the big bad wolf even contemplating going in and saying 'yeah, got pregnant, miscarried, got pregnant again, miscarried that one too, it happens...but it probably won't for you'.

Sorry, this is all a bit bleak.

Hello jigglebum so sorry for your loss, at 11 weeks you must have just about been feeling that you were nearly out of the woods. That's so hard. Especially if you don't have anyone in RL to talk about it with except for DH. Is there noone you can confide in? I know it's not usual to tell people that you're TTC but I've found having just one person in RL know what is going on is helpful and doesn't feel embarrassing at all. Plus MC is so common you often find out that people you'd never guessed have experienced it too.

I think I might take my tinsel off...

jiggle welcome.

nix everything crossed that your scan goes well...

of all the bfps recently but am pleased for you all really!

in dachs world I'm starting another IVF cycle today. FX this one goes better than the last one. Not sure I can face doing the list as I'm on my iphone but if anyone does update it I'm on day 3 of my new cycle...

PeeeVeee !! How did I only just spot your post? I have so many things crossed for you that typing is proving v. difficult May 7 be lucky for you!

Jiggle welcome to the thread - you will find lots of support here & please feel free to rant/moan/vent as much as you need to - we've all done it. When you're feeling a little better and perhaps ready to TTC again you might find people flinging fish at you but it's only meant affectionately :)

All those who would have been on the Dec/Jan/Feb 11 AN thread - me too. Don't look at them. I can say this having stupidly looked at the Jan thread back in the Summer and spent a good hour snottering and wailing afterwards. Tis not good for the soul.

Nix I'm sending you good vibes for Thursday's scan, hope it goes well, chuck.

Bee that is totally a symptom.

The other reason I haven't left the thread yet (apart from sheer terror) is that I'd hate to miss the bfps as they arrive

Hello jiggle I'm so sorry for your loss . MC can be horribly traumatic, and I don't think people can fully understand that unless they've been there. Give yourself plenty of time and space to grieve and get over it a little. I hope you're getting lots of RL support and feeling ok physically. This is a great thread to be on, so feel free to lurk or post as much or as little as you want and you will find lots of support x

orange pink and nix I've taken the precaution of not watching any pg or baby related tv ever since the week after the mmc when I accidentally flicked onto special care baby unit program and just cried and cried and cried. It's not to be recommended!

Hope you're all ok this morning - nix not long till that scan now.

I thought I'd offended everyone, rather than going to bed late and getting up early

I never thought of watching teen mom to balance of 16 and pregnant

Right, time for Guitar Hero

hi jiggle love your name! So sorry for your loss. Go gentle on yourself, it is very traumatic, and might continue to be for a while yet. These ladies are great and between them know the answers to basically everything (mc related or not!) how are you doing physically?

nix 16 and pregnant is ok as long ad combined with a dose of teen mom afterwards!! Its like seeing the yin and yang or something. Somehow melts away and actually end up feeling sorry for them as i wouldn't swap places if i was offered the choice iyswim

orange why are you doing paranoid faces??? You shouldn't be stressing yourself out in your condition!!!

Hope you're all doing ok today. Thinking of you pretty hope you're managing to stay relatively chilled? Any sign of consultant yet? Xx