Clearblue Fertility Monitor Support Group Buddies Vol 5!!

Hi ladies

Hope everyone is having a good day. Im feeling a lot more positive. Following my bad luck earlier this year I guess I thought it made me immune and that I thought that i deserved to fall pregnant again and that it would work out well; as a result i reacted quite badly to an early loss. today i have pulled myself together and am a bit more prepared to take the rough with the smooth....

thought you might all be amused to hear one of the gems of advice i had from a 'close' friend....'why dont you wait a year or two before you start trying again'...

well where do i start? do i focus on my age (nearly 35) and the fact that ideally i would prefer to have several children (and have already had one with chromosome problems), or maybe the fact that having lost 2 babies in less than 4 months im just rather keen to start a family and have a little joy replace the sadness....

oh well....some people just dont get it do they?!

zebedee, KC I don't know what some people are on... I have been asked other intrusive questions about my personal life (i.e. when are we getting married) but clearly am not eligible for the pregnancy questions yet. Not looking forward to those.
Some people are just tossers, no rhyme nor reason to it. And no, gross insensitivity is never normal.

good luck stormbird, fingers crossed for you.

AF got me today, but on the plus side I've had my first 28 day cycle in about 5 years, thanks (I think) to acupuncture. It's been 23-25 for ages. So that's a step in the right direction.

Zebedee Am so on your behalf. How bloody insensitive.

I got asked by somebody recently about plans to start a family "you've been married a year now, and after all your redundancy must make it perfect timing now that you're at home".

I replied with "do you think I haven't thought of that? It appears that we may be infertile." That shut them up quite rapidly.

Anyway, just wanted to say that I really feel for you.

Welcome Fr00tbat and Kat to the thread.

Fr00tbat so sorry that AF got you. Make sure you enjoy that glass bottle of wine tonight

This journey TTC is emotionally draining and really tough.

Keziah Thanks for kind words. How are you doing, hun? Have you heard any more from the clinic as yet?

Storm I have everything crossed for you. I can really appreciate why you are so worried, but it does sound liike you are receiving excellent antenatal care from your MW and that you have a very supportive DH.

Well am snowed in today. DH can't get to work - second day he's not been able to. Wish I was ovulating as that would have been a real bonus

Updating the list with my stats:

In School
EmmaC29 TTC#1, Cycle #11, CBFM Cycle 1, age 29, UCL 26-29, CD55
Starlet22 TTC#1, Cycle #15, CBFM cycle 9, age 34, ucl 25, CD47
wantbaby TTC#1, Cycle #11, CBFM cycle 6, age 38, UCL 30, CD43
Boba82 TTC#1 Cycle #18, CBFM cycle 5, age 28, UCL 30 (FX), CD42
Littlefan TTC#1, Cycle 9, CBFM cycle 2 , age 31, UCL 32-38, CD40
AnytimeNOW TTC#3, Cycle #6, CBFM Cycle 5, age 38, UCL 28, CD38
Michelle2222 TTC#2, CBFM Cycle 1, age 27, UCL?, CD35
Birdietimesthree TTC#1, Cycle #3, CBFM Cycle 2, age 36, UCL 24-25, CD28
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC#3 Cycle #4, CBFM Cycle 4, age 34, UCL 26-30 CD28
Ses TTC#2, cycle #5, CBFM cycle #7, age 37, UCL 28-30, CD25
Missyraines TTC#1, Cycle #13, CBFM Cycle 8, age 33, UCL 32, CD20
CrazyAlien TTCno.1 cycle 5 CBFM Cycle 2 age 28 UCL 31-35??! CD13
Lychees TTC#2, Cycle #14, CBFM cycle 10, Aged 36, UCL 30-35, CD11
Twowoulddo TTC#2, Cycle #6, CBFM cycle 1?, Aged 31, UCL 31, CD10
Keziah TTC#1, Cycle #28, CBFM Cycle 16, age 35, ucl 28-31, CD8
ZebedeetheZebra TTC#2, age 43, UCL TMI!, CD6
PinkCustard TTC#2, Cycle #12, CBFM Cycle 7, age 34, UCL 30-32, CD5
KnackeredCow TTC#1, Cycle #15, CBFM Cycle 4, age 31, UCL 28, CD4
IloveKittyElise TTC#1, Cycle 2, CBFM Cycle 2, age 34, UCL 28, CD2
Fr00tbat TTC #1, Cycle 6, CBFM Cycle 2, age 32, UCL 30-38 (av 34), CD 1

The Dog Ate My Homework
Headbanger TTC#1, Cycle #9, CBFM Cycle 2, age 30, UCL ?, CD?

Playing Truant
FlyingCat TTC#1, Cycle #26, CBFM cycle 2, age 30, UCL 28-29, CD151
Rach879 TTC#1 Cycle #7, CBFM cycle 1, age 30, UCL 30-34, CD118
Jenni4 TTC#2, Cycle #5, CBFM Cycle 2, age 36, UCL 26, CD98

Graduates
HairyTriangle BFP
Emmylou30 BFP 22/10/10
MissLolita BFP 30/10/20
Notnearly BFP 6/11/10
StormBird BFP 10/11/10

I don't know what it is with some people but 2 women who I don't particularly know very well have, in the last week, asked me if I'm pregnant again yet!! Since when did this become an acceptable question to go around asking? Its immensely personal IMO.

Next time someone does that, if they are not a close friend I shall say: "Yes I was last week, this week I'm not because I've just had a miscarriage, is that enough information for you and are you happy now that you know everything?"

Silly bloody cows - I felt like screaming at them both. Is this normal?

Sorry for taking liberties - I have updated the list, and bumped self to bottom - she got me! Putting bottle in fridge for tonight - baby dust xxxx

In School
EmmaC29 TTC#1, Cycle #11, CBFM Cycle 1, age 29, UCL 26-29, CD55
Starlet22 TTC#1, Cycle #15, CBFM cycle 9, age 34, ucl 25, CD47
wantbaby TTC#1, Cycle #11, CBFM cycle 6, age 38, UCL 30, CD43
Boba82 TTC#1 Cycle #18, CBFM cycle 5, age 28, UCL 30 (FX), CD42
Littlefan TTC#1, Cycle 9, CBFM cycle 2 , age 31, UCL 32-38, CD40
AnytimeNOW TTC#3, Cycle #6, CBFM Cycle 5, age 38, UCL 28, CD38
Michelle2222 TTC#2, CBFM Cycle 1, age 27, UCL?, CD35
Birdietimesthree TTC#1, Cycle #3, CBFM Cycle 2, age 36, UCL 24-25, CD28
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC#3 Cycle #4, CBFM Cycle 4, age 34, UCL 26-30 CD28
Ses TTC#2, cycle #5, CBFM cycle #7, age 37, UCL 28-30, CD25
Missyraines TTC#1, Cycle #13, CBFM Cycle 8, age 33, UCL 32, CD20
CrazyAlien TTCno.1 cycle 5 CBFM Cycle 2 age 28 UCL 31-35??! CD13
Lychees TTC#2, Cycle #14, CBFM cycle 10, Aged 36, UCL 30-35, CD11
Twowoulddo TTC#2, Cycle #6, CBFM cycle 1?, Aged 31, UCL 31, CD10
Keziah TTC#1, Cycle #28, CBFM Cycle 16, age 35, ucl 28-31, CD8
ZebedeetheZebra CD6
PinkCustard TTC#2, Cycle #12, CBFM Cycle 7, age 34, UCL 30-32, CD5
KnackeredCow TTC#1, Cycle #15, CBFM Cycle 4, age 31, UCL 28, CD4
IloveKittyElise TTC#1, Cycle 2, CBFM Cycle 2, age 34, UCL 28, CD2
Fr00tbat TTC #1, Cycle 6, CBFM Cycle 2, age 32, UCL 30-38 (av 34), CD 1

The Dog Ate My Homework
Headbanger TTC#1, Cycle #9, CBFM Cycle 2, age 30, UCL ?, CD?

Playing Truant
FlyingCat TTC#1, Cycle #26, CBFM cycle 2, age 30, UCL 28-29, CD151
Rach879 TTC#1 Cycle #7, CBFM cycle 1, age 30, UCL 30-34, CD118
Jenni4 TTC#2, Cycle #5, CBFM Cycle 2, age 36, UCL 26, CD98

Graduates
HairyTriangle BFP
Emmylou30 BFP 22/10/10
MissLolita BFP 30/10/20
Notnearly BFP 6/11/10
StormBird BFP 10/11/10

Thanks Storm i have posted on there...didnt realise there was a a whole thread dedicated to that it comes as a huge breath of fresh air and i suddenly feel less alone.

Sorry everyone if my posts are a bit depressing to read im struggling a bit with the ups and downs of this journey.

welcome kat i know what you mean about the highs and peak days you do just get sick of doing it the whole time dont you!

Hi there just un-lurking myself, have been reading your thread for a bit and would like to join you
I'm ttc after a miscarriage (2nd August)and am just nearing the end of my first go with the CBFM. BFN this month but at least it has got to know me. Hopefully this next time I wont get highs all the way from cd9 to cd16 as it was hard to manage it on the peak days by the time they came around!

Try again

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_tests_choices/996394-Support-thread-for-women-who-are-pregnant-or-TTC-after

Oh it didn't work. Pants.

oh oh oh this might be it??

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_tests_choices/996394-Support-thread-for-women-who-are-pregnant-or-TTC-after

Fingers crossed it works x

Liz as well as this thread why don't you come and join us on the TTC or Pregnant After a Termination for Abnormalities 2, thread (bit of a mouthful wasn't it).

I'd paste a link but haven't got a scooby how to. Sorry.

Just sounds like you could do with chatting to some ladies who have been in a similar boat. Forgive me if I am being presumtuous!!

Its over in the Antenatal Tests and Choices category.

They are truly lovely and I found them very helpful.

I hope you are ok.

XXX

Hi girls I have added myself back in zebedee i couldnt remember your stats so I have just put your day x

By the way my name is Liz, Kitty's the name of my first loss

In School
EmmaC29 TTC#1, Cycle #11, CBFM Cycle 1, age 29, UCL 26-29, CD54
Starlet22 TTC#1, Cycle #15, CBFM cycle 9, age 34, ucl 25, CD46
wantbaby TTC#1, Cycle #11, CBFM cycle 6, age 38, UCL 30, CD41
Boba82 TTC#1 Cycle #18, CBFM cycle 5, age 28, UCL 30 (FX), CD41
Littlefan TTC#1, Cycle 9, CBFM cycle 2 , age 31, UCL 32-38, CD39
AnytimeNOW TTC#3, Cycle #6, CBFM Cycle 5, age 38, UCL 28, CD37
Michelle2222 TTC#2, CBFM Cycle 1, age 27, UCL?, CD34
Fr00tbat TTC #1, Cycle 6, CBFM Cycle 1, age 32, UCL 30-38 (av 34), CD 31
Birdietimesthree TTC#1, Cycle #3, CBFM Cycle 2, age 36, UCL 24-25, CD27
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC#3 Cycle #4, CBFM Cycle 4, age 34, UCL 26-30 CD27
Ses TTC#2, cycle #5, CBFM cycle #7, age 37, UCL 28-30, CD24
Missyraines TTC#1, Cycle #13, CBFM Cycle 8, age 33, UCL 32, CD19
CrazyAlien TTCno.1 cycle 5 CBFM Cycle 2 age 28 UCL 31-35??! CD12
Lychees TTC#2, Cycle #14, CBFM cycle 10, Aged 36, UCL 30-35, CD10
Twowoulddo TTC#2, Cycle #6, CBFM cycle 1?, Aged 31, UCL 31, CD9
Keziah TTC#1, Cycle #28, CBFM Cycle 16, age 35, ucl 28-31, CD7
ZebedeetheZebra CD5
PinkCustard TTC#2, Cycle #12, CBFM Cycle 7, age 34, UCL 30-32, CD4
KnackeredCow TTC#1, Cycle #15, CBFM Cycle 4, age 31, UCL 28, CD3
IloveKittyElise TTC#1, Cycle 2, CBFM Cycle 2, age 34, UCL 28, CD1

The Dog Ate My Homework
Headbanger TTC#1, Cycle #9, CBFM Cycle 2, age 30, UCL ?, CD?

Playing Truant
FlyingCat TTC#1, Cycle #26, CBFM cycle 2, age 30, UCL 28-29, CD150
Rach879 TTC#1 Cycle #7, CBFM cycle 1, age 30, UCL 30-34, CD117
Jenni4 TTC#2, Cycle #5, CBFM Cycle 2, age 36, UCL 26, CD97

Graduates
HairyTriangle BFP
Emmylou30 BFP 22/10/10
MissLolita BFP 30/10/20
Notnearly BFP 6/11/10
StormBird BFP 10/11/10

Hi All,

Sorry to here your news Kitty. Sending positive thoughts and vibes your way for a quick recovery.

Sorry to anyone who AF got this time. KC I Hope you feel a bit more upbeat soon.

(Kind of) QUICK UPDATE FROM ME:
Well, I had my first Scan today and saw & heard the heartbeat so all is well there. My little bean measured around 7+3 which is a bit less than expected cos my dates put me at 7+6 - bit the Midwife reassured me that its not unusual, so am holdng on to that bit of hope. I do hope she's right cos I worry bout everything!! Anyone else had this before?

MW asked to see me again at 10wks to do another scan and re-measure and then again at 12wks. She said that they will only be able to tell if the baby is perfectly formed at 12wks. Thats fair enough and I know its all positive at te mo but I still have that aching bit of doubt about having another baby with Annencephaly. It terrifies me.

I was an absolute wreck in the waiting room and although DP was trying to be all ok about everything you could see the fear in his eye, MW even commented about how scared we both looked. I grabbed DP's hand at one point and it was wringing wet. Bless him.

Hope you are all ok. xxxx

In School
EmmaC29 TTC#1, Cycle #11, CBFM Cycle 1, age 29, UCL 26-29, CD54
Starlet22 TTC#1, Cycle #15, CBFM cycle 9, age 34, ucl 25, CD46
wantbaby TTC#1, Cycle #11, CBFM cycle 6, age 38, UCL 30, CD41
Boba82 TTC#1 Cycle #18, CBFM cycle 5, age 28, UCL 30 (FX), CD41
Littlefan TTC#1, Cycle 9, CBFM cycle 2 , age 31, UCL 32-38, CD39
AnytimeNOW TTC#3, Cycle #6, CBFM Cycle 5, age 38, UCL 28, CD37
Michelle2222 TTC#2, CBFM Cycle 1, age 27, UCL?, CD34
Fr00tbat TTC #1, Cycle 6, CBFM Cycle 1, age 32, UCL 30-38 (av 34), CD 31
Birdietimesthree TTC#1, Cycle #3, CBFM Cycle 2, age 36, UCL 24-25, CD27
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC#3 Cycle #4, CBFM Cycle 4, age 34, UCL 26-30 CD27
Ses TTC#2, cycle #5, CBFM cycle #7, age 37, UCL 28-30, CD24
Missyraines TTC#1, Cycle #13, CBFM Cycle 8, age 33, UCL 32, CD19
CrazyAlien TTCno.1 cycle 5 CBFM Cycle 2 age 28 UCL 31-35??! CD12
Lychees TTC#2, Cycle #14, CBFM cycle 10, Aged 36, UCL 30-35, CD10
Twowoulddo TTC#2, Cycle #6, CBFM cycle 1?, Aged 31, UCL 31, CD9
Keziah TTC#1, Cycle #28, CBFM Cycle 16, age 35, ucl 28-31, CD7
PinkCustard TTC#2, Cycle #12, CBFM Cycle 7, age 34, UCL 30-32, CD4
KnackeredCow TTC#1, Cycle #15, CBFM Cycle 4, age 31, UCL 28, CD3

The Dog Ate My Homework
Headbanger TTC#1, Cycle #9, CBFM Cycle 2, age 30, UCL ?, CD?

Playing Truant
FlyingCat TTC#1, Cycle #26, CBFM cycle 2, age 30, UCL 28-29, CD150
Rach879 TTC#1 Cycle #7, CBFM cycle 1, age 30, UCL 30-34, CD117
Jenni4 TTC#2, Cycle #5, CBFM Cycle 2, age 36, UCL 26, CD97

Graduates
HairyTriangle BFP
Emmylou30 BFP 22/10/10
MissLolita BFP 30/10/20
Notnearly BFP 6/11/10
StormBird BFP 10/11/10

Hi Froot - just added you. Hope you get that bfp next time! x

Can I join up....

Fr00tbat TTC #1, Cycle 6, CBFM Cycle 1, age 32, UCL 30-38 (av 34), CD 31

Thought was going swimmingly this month - peaks CD19/20, spotting CD 27 with horrid bitter taste in mouth from 1DPO and really painful bs from 7 DPO, now cramping and spotting, feels like AF on way, don't usually spot this long though..............
BFN 7DPO (overly optomistic I think - but wanted a drinkie!!)10DPO and 11 DPO - couldnt face again this am.
Miserable...................

KC - sorry you a bit low, I think it is sadly part of the journey of ttc (well it is mine!). Especially when testing and life means ttc doesn't really happen - but new month ahead for us now x

Thanks everyone for your support and you're right Kitty about it being better to lose it now than later after finding out there are problems.

Well I've stopped bleeding so I've set the monitor today to be day 5. I've heard you can be super fertile for a few months so I'll just keep going.

What's the oldest anyone on here has given birth? I'm 44 in January so need to consider when to give up completely.

What's a sticker??

Sorry Kitty and Zebedee about your news. Sending best wishes.

And sorry AF got some of you .

And yes, Kitty, hoping for some stickies this cycle.

I'm off to see my consultant next week to have a proper chat about our last lot of results [SA, AMH and HSG]. Was told by email everything was normal but would like to discuss in more depth, have some other questions answered, perhaps get some more tests booked and to talk about possible treatment options.

ladies thankyou all for sharing my shortlived (but very cautious and with good reason it seems!) joy, and for your kindness following my latest mishap, i shall reset myself to day 1 tomorrow and hope for a 3rd 2010 pregnancy!

zebedee i don't know anything about your history of pregnancies etc but I really want you to take comfort in this: many terminations are thought to happen due to chromosomal abnormalities in the foetus. back in the summer I had a trisomy baby (she had a chromosomal problem). i found this out at the 12 week scan. i elected to have a termination as it was unlikely to be viable/have any quality of life. it took 3 or 4 months to start ovulating again in fact i conceived again my first cycle of trying. i have now lost this baby at 4 or 5 weeks. it is likely that this early loss could have been a similar thing; however, i would MUCH rather naturally lose a very early pregnancy, than to carry it to 12 weeks and have to make that choice. emotionally it has been easier, and physically it wont take anywhere near as long for my body to get back to normal. im not saying i dont feel for your loss, its hideously awful at any stage particularly if it's your first pregnancy, but please just take comfort in knowing that you CAN get pregnant, it could happen again quickly, and that an unviable life most probably ended for good reason....but all the same, enormous hugs and i hope you have better luck next time around

Loads of love.

And everyone else please lets have some stickers in december!!! xxx

Sorry Kitty and Zebedee.
Zebedee I think I would use it as normal, especially as you say you are 43 - after all I can't imagine it doing any harm! Hope it helps.

Thanks Boba for hugs x

Welcome Zebedee but so sorry to hear your sad news.

Kitty I am so so sorry to hear that you've started to bleed.

Thinking of both of you at the moment. x