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boba82 · 23/11/2010 14:08

Ladies from Vol4 - welcome to our new home.

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chocciechip · 22/02/2011 17:10

boba Good luck for tomorrow. I've found with my scans that the relief afterwards is so huge I almost need to go to bed and sleep. It's an indication of how much stress we carry even without really registering it fully. It is very scary and I'll be thinking of you and kitty and hoping everything turns out well for both of you.

stormbird I'm not offended at all, far from it. But I've only just logged in today so have only just seen the direction this has gone and I am a little taken aback. I certainly didn't write with a sense of anger or animosity towards anyone here. Last night I was totally freaking out; today I've had a chance to try and get things fixed a bit.

kc From my perspective, I want to assure you I am not upset at all ... but I am sensing real anger from you and I don't know what I said? DH and I are aware of how loyal people are to the NHS (we are fairly loyal as well, actually - but not blindly loyal). We were asked by Which? magazine to be interviewed for an article they were running about issues in the NHS that they'd identified accross the UK and DH declined because he didn't want his name publically associated with negative comments about the NHS because he feared a backlash from people who knew him. I think that speaks volumes about the feelings around this, and it is not necessarily positive in my view.

keziah, kc I am thinking that you've assumed that this is a 'go NHS' vs 'go private' thing for me. It isn't. And nor is it a 'private' vs 'NHS' discussion about which service is better. I think it is entirely possible to be loyal to the NHS but also open about its failings at the same time. It isn't black and white, or one position or the other, for me. The bottom line is we've had worrying experiences at both of the two hospitals in our city - in-patient/surgery related worries - mostly around aftercare and basic nursing and hygiene, not the doctors, consultants or equipment etc. This means its hard to see where else I can go when we've exhausted our two NHS options. We won't go private for surgery or hospital for all the reasons you outlined kc. And frankly, we aren't 'private' kind of people either from our ethical/political point of view either, so 'going private' isn't even really a factor in my mind. We were scratching around for a third option, if there was one.

keziah I am really hoping you are right. I've now had a frank chat with my midwife about this. As well as DH, I also told her about what happened with the anaethetist when I had my ERPC and what the consultants told my MIL when FIL was in hospital. It turns out the second hospital isn't an option anyway, so I'm relieved I won't be shunted there. She seemed unsurprised by what I told her. She has advised me to go to a third hospital, one I would never have even thought of but it means a bit of driving for us to get there, which is fine. She has also asked that I don't tell anyone in either hospital that she gave me that advice: apparently she gets flack from the smaller hospital for swelling their numbers, and flack from the bigger hospital (the one I'm wary of) for implying to her patients that the service is better elsewhere! But she bluntly said it was. I'm still hoping surgery won't be necessary but if it is, I feel a little better about someone 'on the inside of the system' validating my experience and recommending somewhere else. She also told me I'll get a meeting with a consultant before delivery time and I've decided to lay my cards on the table and tell him/her exactly what happened in all three experiences - mine, DH and FIL - and ask how I can be sure it won't happen to me and baby as well, and what DH needs to do if he sees things starting to go wrong. I don't really know what else I can do beyond that.

I am getting ahead of myself though - there's still a chance this pg could fail in which case there'll be no such thing as delivery or caesarian.

kc I hope you won't leave over this discussion. Nothing I said is intended to be a slight against you or your DH, and I'm very sorry if you feel that it is. From your point of view and your DH's, I can totally understand and sympathise with how frustrating it must be for people doing their level best within the system to hear this sort of thing. But I would ask, is it really surprising or unreasonable for patients like me to feel scared or apprehensive given the experiences (this is not based on an opinion) that I've had?

Anyway, I'm writing this with Gaddaffi's speech ranting away in the background. It kind of puts 'troubles' in perspective.

boba82 · 22/02/2011 15:17

I third that. I think sometimes when you're reading things instead of hearing them spoken you can take them the wrong way, let's all stay friends!

choccie glad chocciebean is well. Sorry your fibroid is also thriving although I agree with what keziah said that hopefully it will re-assure you should there be any bleeding.

SBC I think you will really enjoy reflexology, it is really relaxing.

storm all being well tomorrow I will join your new thread but will still be on this one too, it's too like home now Smile

kitty good luck for tomorrow. I'm bricking it!

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Loup23 · 22/02/2011 14:20

I agree storm it's just a difference in opinion and doesn't seem offensive, we all have different experiences which should help us all offer advice....

Good luck to all the graduates, pop back and say hi from time to time and let us know how you are getting on, hopefully some more of us will join you soon... Envy

StormBird · 22/02/2011 12:48

KC Why are you leaving??? - surely everyone is entitled to their opinions - even you!! Just draw a line under this conversation. You have been a great hub of knowledge on this thread......don't go. It would be such a shame and pretty sure its a silly reason to leave. (no offence intended)

IMO I think this has got a little out of hand - but why it has, I have no idea! Not one persons post was offensive in anyway, they simply show different peaoples points of view.

It would definately be a shame to lose you KC and I'm pretty sure no offence has been caused by anyone or to anyone! Has it?

Keziah & Choccie can you back me up? or have I completely interpreted everything wrong????

Anyway KC if you are adament you are leaving us, I wish you all the very best.

XX

KnackeredCow · 21/02/2011 23:39

Sorry ladies, probably time for me to depart this thread. I am a little too passionate about some things....

Good luck to you all. Take care. x

KnackeredCow · 21/02/2011 23:38

Sorry, I am really sensitive about this. I've seen my DH work his arse off in his hospital training to pick up the pieces from crap private care. I am biased, I know.

The NHS pays out when private care goes wrong.

An example. Private hip replacement. There is a 50 - 60% risk of deep vein thrombosis (without prophylaxis, but there is still a risk with prophylaxis) following this op (clot in the deep veins of the leg). Clot thrombolises (breaks off and travels to the lung). Can be fatal. Patient subsequently rushed in to A&E (if they survivive it) and has NHS treatment. Also left with co-morbidities, if they live (venous ulcers massively impact on quality of life - skin necrosis etc). Who picks up the cost?

Keziahhopes · 21/02/2011 23:29

Choccie - my groundedness is purely due to the amount of time I have had to spend in the city nhs hospital in last 2 years!! Pleurisy, pneumonia, asthma, car accident, other physical infections etc... I must say the food is an issue for me (but am prepared to provide my own - have to have a strict coeliac diet and there is not one thing on breakfast menu I can have, but plenty on the rest of the day - although one ENT ward they were great and gave me fresh fruit for breakfast on short stay ward I got a cup of tea!!)

Choccie - you absolutely have the right to choose where you give birth. A friend had one child in local city's hospital, had a bad experience as needed an emergency caesarian (and I think romanticised a short pain free natural labour) so despite having her own room and good care insisted on going to further away city's hospital for dd2. Sadly she again needed a casearean, and in fact was in that hospital for quite a while on bed rest before birth - only difference being less visitors for dd2's due to distance. She did not have the experiences you have had = I would not go anywhere that was that bad, although I too would now submit a complaint. Some people sadly do let the side down, they need to be named and re-trained/supervised or replaced whether cleaning, housekeeping or nursing. But, honestly Choccie there are some great hospitals out there!! I had 5 days in a ward this year (septic tonsillitis) and got my own room, it was cleaned twice a day, a great housekeeper who sorted out my special diet, more fresh drinks than I knew what to do with, regular checks by nurses, dr's called every time a cannula needed replacing etc.... And they made my bed for me every day, offered me things to wash with as I went in as an emergency so had nothing etc. You may have a great experience!! You get to visit the maternity wards when you a certain way through pregnancy so why not see where you can go (you may find maternity units different to other parts of the hospital), why not contact your local NCT group and ask to talk to people who went to the local hospital and what they experienced?? Oh, and I always have cleaning stuff too - but that is because I am immuno compromised!! When I get on a plane the first thing dh does is antibac the seat, the table, the belts - everything - even if people waiting to sit down!! Blush - you sound really anxious, so why not contact people who can give you advice in your local area to help reduce your stress? (sorry, gone on now, oops!)

KnackeredCow · 21/02/2011 23:16

Choccie I am sorry to hear that you had such a bad experience with the NHS.

I appreciate your concern.

I ope that you put in an official complaint. Systems failures can only be corrected by such.

I didn't mean to offend you, but please do remember that private hospitals in the UK do not have the facilities that an NHS hospital has such as HDU (High Dependency Unit), ICU (Intensive Care Unit) and SCBU (Special Care Baby Unit). If you (unfotunately) require these facilities in a private hospital, the NHS picks up the pieces.

Sorry, we're here to support, not to argue. You've had an awful experience. I am sorry to hear of your experiences.

My best friend had a post-partum hemorrhage two weeks ago. The NHS saved her life. My DH devotes his life to the NHS. They are not all shit.

chocciechip · 21/02/2011 23:14

sbc Don't worry, we're not going anywhere. We'll be here to kick, cajole, encourage and support all of your butts into the next thread and welcome you there with open arms. I hope you'll all visit us too! Smile

keziah You sound a lot more grounded than me! As well as treats in my bag, I'll be having hospital quality cleaning stuff with me! I've already warned DH his first job is to disinfect my room and every inch of space around me. Grin (And trust me, he will!)

chocciechip · 21/02/2011 22:54

kc I must clarify my comment. I'm not an NHS basher so should qualify that the treatment I've had on the NHS through my MCs has been amazing for the most part, and the EPU has been a life-saver. It's being an in-patient - for 4-5 days keziah?! aaaargh - is a different story altogether. I do feel strongly that people need to tell the truth because when the NHS get it wrong its devastating.

DH was in hospital a year or so ago after a broken leg while playing football. He went in in the best of health. He couldn't eat a thing while in there even though he's not a fussy eater (we just watched the Dispatches programme, his food came from Wales from the same company sent up to Scotland as well). I brought him food from home.

He was left in his sweaty football kit for days; no one washed or helped him get clean and when I tried to help him the nurses flipped out because I wanted to borrow a mirror so he could shave. No one changed his sheets until we asked them to do it.

He had to remind them about his pain medication twice - left in agony; they left his line in his hand to get infected and only took it out when he asked, again more than once. He had no sleep at all with the noise from the nurses talking at their station. They took their time bringing him something to pee in even though he couldn't go to the loo himself - I found him once in such a state of despair because he thought he was going to pee his bed. And they'd leave this tub of urine next to his bed for hours afterwards - even through visiting hours.

Worse was, when he got home he had acquired a chest infection that sounded as if an animal was purring in his chest - scared the living daylights out of me and I'd lie awake at night in case he suffocated on phlem. His fevers were so high I had to change his bedding and clothes every night because they would be dripping with sweat. And DH went in fit and healthy in the middle of playing a football game. DH comments now that they did their level best to try and kill him. They certainly broke his spirit. We had worse experiences with his 80 year old father the same year, but you get my drift. And that year, the brand new hospital performed very badly on hygiene standards.

I agree with you that NHS bashing is not good - but I also think people need to be frank about acknowledging when things are very wrong.

I shouldn't have been so general with my comments ... I am genuinely properly seriously scared to go in there - with reason - and don't know what I can do to make sure I'll be OK. It was beyond our control with Dh and we're not the 'non-assertive' types. We were just totally powerless.

... at the moment I'm just hoping it doesn't come to that and already looking into maybe travelling further for a different hospital. (I think we have a right to choose where we go). Sorry, bit of a rant but I'm having sleepless nights thinking about it. Very worried.

SlightlyBabyCrazed · 21/02/2011 21:15

Please graduates, don't leave us altogether - you give us hope!

Keziahhopes · 21/02/2011 20:06

KC - meant to add, that sounds very exciting shopping Grin. And dh and I took Jan off ttc, and it really helped us both!

Oh Storm, what a great thread you have made - really hope more of us join you there very soon! Save us some spaces pleasexx

Keziahhopes · 21/02/2011 19:59

KC - I agree totally about the NHS being the place to be! I have had some great help, support with physical problems (ok, not with fertility but that has been the exception!) and the NHS obs/gynae I saw who would manage any hopeful pregnancy was great!

Choccie - I love your name of "chocciebean" wow! Glad the heartbeat is ok. Whilst the news of fibroid was a shock, it is great that:

  • you were told straight away
  • will be more closely monitored and know that now because you will probably get more scans on the nhs, will know that you are getting great care and any concerns you have will be dealt with
  • you will not be in much longer than with a vaginal birth, as my new mum friends with c-section were in 4-5 nights, with vaginal birth 2 nights!!

Choccie - perhaps knowing why there is bleeding etc will reassure you? I have been told I will have to have detailed scans at 20 weeks for checking for issues, close consultant led monitoring etc and possible time in hospital to treat any infections that I get (with regular vaginal swabs, yuk!!) as I can't fight many infections well. Dh and I have decided to approach any potential pregnancy as a time where I can't necessarily do what I normally do, stop work earlier than I would ideally need to do and pack a hospital bag with nice books and treats for lots of enforced rest with drips in me! I think if I go into it fearing the worst then I can cope. If that makes sense.

Tily protein shakes for me for ivf to hopefully grow some eggs, as I am coeliac, can't even have oats, other food allergies, and no meat meaning I will struggle to get to 65g of protein a day.

SBC - the reflexology has already done great things for you Smile and the medicaiton for prolactin sounds really promising!! Lots of pma for you! (pos mental attitude!) xx

StormBird · 21/02/2011 19:58

Choccie I hope you don't mind but I thought we should strike while the iron is hot, so have created a Graduates Thread here

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1155831-The-CBFM-Graduates-Vol-1

Hope to see many more of you joining us soon.

XXX

StormBird · 21/02/2011 19:46

Evening All,

Choccie so pleased to hear your scan went well...well apart from the fibroid but at least they have identified it and given you the heads up and are willing to keep a very close eye on you. I'm sure all will be fine just try not to worry yourself too much about it (easier said than done I know)!!

I totally agree with setting up a CBFM Graduates thread. I do feel kind of self conscious posting on here sometimes - only as I wouldn't want to upset anyone. I remember how tough TTC is......trust me!

KC I totally agree with your outlook on the NHS - I've been in private hospitals for different reasons and also worked in them but have never had better care than when I've been in an NHS Hospital. I'm with Epsom and St Helier at the moment and they have been utterly fantastic!

Tilly you are not crazy at all....the best way I can describe TTC is as an absolute mind F**k - sorry for the language! How you are feeling and thinking at the mo I can bet has crossed each and every persons mind on this thread at one point or another and if it hasn't already it will!!! So you are making perfect sense. The problem is no one knows the answers Sad . Good luck with your journey and the Smoothies Wink

XXXX

KnackeredCow · 21/02/2011 18:55

Choccie Thanks for that info. That's really useful. I think it may simply be irritation with me. I did have an HSG this month, so perhaps the catheter irritated the cervix when it was passed. Scan didn't show any fibroids fortunately, so no concerns there.

So pleased to hear that chocciebean is doing well. Choccie Please try not to worry too much about being in an NHS hospital. There is some excellent care available from extremely committed staff. I worked in Medical Sales and Marketing for years, and I've spent a lot of time in both NHS and private hospitals. NHS hospitals might not look as nice round the edges, the food may well be crap and you might not get a private room, nor your choice of menu, but when the shit hits the fan, I know where I would rather be (with the NHS). Private hospitals do not run on the number of qualified staff that NHS hospitals do. Remember that most Consultants working in the private sector do it in addition to NHS work (if they are any good). The NHS gives the opportunity to medics to become involved in research as the teaching hospitals are affiliated to universities, and those that want to progress there careers (not just for money) are very loyal to it. I know of a few excellent surgeons who will not do private work because they are completely committed to the NHS.

I don't mean to cause anybody any offence, but the NHS gets a real bashing and the care is often better than in the private sector in this country. When I worked for my previous employer, the private sector always seemed to buy cheaper lower quality products, the NHS always paid more for the evidence-based products. At the end of the day, private hospitals are there to make a profit, and if cutting costs elsewhere allows them to do that, they will.

Please try not to worry about going into an NHS hospital for a C-Section if that's where you will need to be.

Loup23 · 21/02/2011 17:54

sorry to hear AF got you SBC really hope this month is your month. Let us know how reflexology goes - i may give it a go too if dreaded AF arrives this month...

chocciechip · 21/02/2011 17:52

tilly Make sure you add a handful of oats to the smoothie because fruit is lots of sugar; there's somthing about if protien is combined you digest it more slowly and therefore less fat (I think).

kc I've had 3 BFPs in my life and NONE of them happened before 15DPO no matter how sensitive the test. Also, I often had spotting just before my cycle started and I was scanned to see if the bleeding was coming from a fibroid I have. It wasn't and my lining seemed fine in spite of the spotting. The consultant told me that mid-cycle bleeding sometimes comes from the intersection between the cervix and uterous because the 'join' is fragile. Just irritation basically. It might be that with you too. But if I were you and the bleeding persists accross other cycles, I'd ask for a scan to check for fibroids etc. Congrats on the job, by the way.

storm, kitty boba We should maybe consider a CBFM graduates thread? I really miss the slow pace of this thread and feel like it moves slowly enough to properly get to know people. Would be nice to keep close tabs on PGs as they progress and still pop back here as well to keep in touch with friends. I know that it's unfair in a TTC forum to talk Pgs all the time (god knows I left enough of them for that reason), but I have so many questions for you all all the time. Thinking of you boba and kitty on Wednesday. Can't believe you're 12 weeks already boba!

keziah Hope things are going well with you. Your parcel will be posted tomorrow. Sorry I haven't done it yet but we had a hectic week last week and it totally slipped my mind. I also was told to drink protein shakes - mostly because I am veggie and was very 'under the weather'. I bought the vanilla flavour. Ugh, it tasted revolting. I managed to add a few scoops to my smoothies for a few days then gave it up and still have a mahoosive tub sitting in the kitchen.

clock I missed your news. Congratulations!

amuminwaiting I would guess (!) you haven't ovulated yet. Unfortunately the CBFM is only geared up to manage one attempt a month, which for most people is probably fine. But what sometimes happen is your body gears up to ovulate but doesn't actually do it, and tries again later. Stress, illness etc can throw things off course. Charting helps in occasions like this. Do you POAS at the same time every day?

As for me, we had another scan last week and I'm really pleased to say chocciebean still has a beating heart which makes me about 9+2. The downside though, is that I was held back to speak to a consultant because my *&^%$£ fibroid appears to be growing as fast as the bean, so is now three times the size of the bean (because it was obviously bigger at the outset). I've been told it feeds off PG hormones and I've been warned I might experience pain and bleeding in PG, and that I will need to be monitored more closely after 20 weeks. Freaks me out - I don;t know how big it might end up! Fibroids like mine can apparently be terrible for mum and baby at delivery time, so I have to get my head around the possibility of having to have a ceasarian and being spooked by pain and bleeding down the line through the PG. DH is 'we'll do what we need to when we get there' - and of course we will - but the prospect of being in an NHS hospital for longer than necessary scares the hell out of me - and SURGERY. Oh man!! So I've been very pre-occupied and dreaming about it for nights now. Wish the worrying could come to an end.

SlightlyBabyCrazed · 21/02/2011 17:49

Good day all

Back to day one for me, so updating stats:
In School

Twowoulddo TTC#2, Cycle #6, CBFM cycle 1?, Aged 31, UCL 31, CD90
Rosieposey TTC#5, Cycle #12, CBFM Cycle 6, age 38, UCL 29-35, CD82
Missyraines TTC#1, Cycle #14, CBFM Cycle 9, age 33, UCL 32, CD71
CrazyAlien TTC#1, Cycle #6 CBFM Cycle 2 age 28 UCL 31-35??! CD64
Arabella36 TTC#2, Cycle #1, CBFM Cycle 4, Age34, UCL29, CD59
Roastie TTC#1, Cycle #23, CBFM Cycle 2, age 32, UCL 29, CD50
Fr00tbat TTC#1, Cycle 7, CBFM Cycle 3, age 32, UCL 30-38 (av 34), CD48
Ses TTC#2, cycle #6, CBFM cycle 8, age 37, UCL 28-30, CD35
TinaO99 TTC#2, Cycle#2, CBFM Cycle 2, age 42, UCL 28, CD42
wantbaby TTC#1, Cycle #12, CBFM cycle 6, age 38, UCL 28, CD33
Tilly TTC#1, 3years, CBFM cycle 9, age 36, UCL 28-34, CD36
SlightlyBabyCrazed, TTC#1, Cycle #25, CBFM cycle 3, age 35, UCL 28-31, CD1
ZebedeetheZebra TTC#2, Cycle#8, CBFM Cycle#8 age 44, CD30
Keziah TTC#1, Cycle #30, CBFM Cycle 18, age 35, ucl 28-31, CD29
Loup23 TTC#1, Cycle #6, CBFM Cycle 2, age 31, UCL 33-38, CD26
KnackeredCow TTC#1, Cycle #17, CBFM Cycle 6, age 32, UCL 28-30, CD26
Littlefan TTC#1, Cycle 12, CBFM cycle 5 , age 32, UCL 32-38, CD11

Graduates

Emmylou30 BFP 22/10/10
MissLolita BFP 30/10/20
Notnearly BFP 6/11/10
StormBird BFP 10/11/10
AnytimeNow BFP 20/11/10
IloveKittyElise BFP 30/12/10
Boba BFP 07/01/11
Chocciechip BFP 11/01/11
Clockspotter BFP ??/02/11

Have booked myself in to start a proper course of reflexology to see what I can achieve before starting IUI. My cycle was stretched by 4 days and I ovulated 2 days after the last session so gotta be worth a go!
Also start taking my cabergoline tabs today to reduce prolactin - could be my month.... Grin

tillydream · 21/02/2011 15:54

Hello all

I have everything crossed for all going for scans. Big hugs. I know exactly what you mean.

Keziah how are you doing? Do you mind me asking why they prescribed protein shakes? Spots will go, I quite liked having them, showed that the hormones were doing their job! I can't egg share hun, at 37, time is not on my side.

Well cd1 for me today! Feeling slightly more sane having had more sleep now! Didn't expect anthing different as managed it only twice Blushthis month and no peak on cbfm!! Anyway, at least its here and we can begin again! Am keeping a stress diary now, not sure what I should be writing in it but have identified stress factors (work) (money) now beginning to think what to do about it all. So, here we go again!

Am I the only crazy one who thinks that yes, if we do downsize and begin to enjoy life properly again it might just happen!! How do you get "rid" of that feeling so you do those sorts of things for the right reasons and not because it might make what you want to happen, happen!! Am I making any sense?? Also bought loads of fresh fruit and am beginning on Choccie chips smoothie fest tomorrow!!

love and luck to all.

Tilly xxx

KnackeredCow · 21/02/2011 13:34

Hi Loup I POAS first thing this morning. I'm 13 dpo. Apparantly HPTs should be about 97% accurate at this point.... I used a sensitive 20 iU/ml test too. No pregnancy type symptoms either, except sore boobs, but I get those when I am pre-menstrual anyway. The things I share with you ladies Blush

Storm Thanks for the words of encouragement. That's really kind.

Is your baby going to be first grandchild for your parents? They must be really excited. Smile

StormBird · 21/02/2011 13:23

Hi Ladies,

Sorry about AF KC but I also agree with Loup - there's still a glimmer of hope. Will be keeping my fingers crossed. In the meantime I can totally understand your decision to take a month off, I really hope it does you and your DP the world of good hun. Goood luck and hopefully you can come back as a gradutate Smile

Kitty Thank you - yes i have bought some baby stuff, we've got bottles a steraliser, nappies, sleep suits, babygrows and a blanket so far. I Have stopped there though as my mum and sister have been going mad buying stuff by all accounts so when I go to see them at the weekend I can get a taster of what they've got - will probably not need to buy another thing the way they spend money Hmm

We are going back up north to see my parents for the weekend and and mum & dad has been talking about visiting MotherCare World and this that and the other - Dad has also said he'd buy the pushchair woop woop. So will probably end up with one of them this weekend too!!!!

Anyway thats enough about me.......will keep lurking and hoping for you all.

XXX

Loup23 · 21/02/2011 11:45

Congrats on the job KC great to have something else to think about for a while.

When did you POAS and get a BFN? From what i've read (ALOT) implantation can be so different from woman to woman. I've been on and off bleeding since 2dpo - 6dpo and only on 8dpo now but still hoping..... I hope AF stays away.

Even though i've only been trying properly two months i also feel like taking a month off as agree with you, the sex life becomes all about biology! Maybe it will happen when you least expect it, anyway hope a BFP comes your way soon x

KnackeredCow · 21/02/2011 09:39

Hi Ladies

Just catching up on the thread.

Welcome to MiniH! Smile

Thank you everyone for your congratulations on the new job. I shall be shopping for a car and some new work clothes this week!

Boba and Kitty All the best for Wednesday. I will be thinking of you both.

Storm Good luck for your scan too.

Keziah Not long for you at all now. I am really excited for you. Sorry to hear about the spots though, but I am sure they will be worth it in the end. How about using them as an excuse to treat yourself to a nice bottle of foundation?

Hello to everyone else that I haven't mentioned by name.

Well, it looks like my mid-luteal phase bleeding is just irregular bleeding. I started to bleed 7dpo and have been bleeding on and off very lightly ever since. I am now 13dpo. I have never had any bleeding / spotting that early in my cycle ever before and so I was sort of hoping that it might be an implantation bleed. Finally caved in this morning and POAS. BFN Sad So just waiting for AF to arrive in full.

DH doesn't think I should be too worried as it is an exception rather than the rule, and I have been under stress looking for a new job and feeling really low.

Having a new job to start is a good thing. At least it's softened the blow of another BFN this month.

So DH and I have decided to take next month off of TTC. I am staying on the stats, but we just need to give ourselves a break. I know we should really go for it as I had the HSG done, but I just don't think I can. Sad It will be the second time we've chosen to take a month off TTC (last time was May 2010). I feel I am letting myself down in some bizarre way, but our sex life is quite frankly crap at the moment; it's all about making babies and I think we need to concentrate on our relationship properly. I also feel a real need to be in control of my life again, even if only for a brief period. Does that sound odd?

Well here are today's stats:

In School

Twowoulddo TTC#2, Cycle #6, CBFM cycle 1?, Aged 31, UCL 31, CD90
Rosieposey TTC#5, Cycle #12, CBFM Cycle 6, age 38, UCL 29-35, CD82
Missyraines TTC#1, Cycle #14, CBFM Cycle 9, age 33, UCL 32, CD71
CrazyAlien TTC#1, Cycle #6 CBFM Cycle 2 age 28 UCL 31-35??! CD64
Arabella36 TTC#2, Cycle #1, CBFM Cycle 4, Age34, UCL29, CD59
Roastie TTC#1, Cycle #23, CBFM Cycle 2, age 32, UCL 29, CD50
Fr00tbat TTC#1, Cycle 7, CBFM Cycle 3, age 32, UCL 30-38 (av 34), CD48
Ses TTC#2, cycle #6, CBFM cycle 8, age 37, UCL 28-30, CD35
TinaO99 TTC#2, Cycle#2, CBFM Cycle 2, age 42, UCL 28, CD42
wantbaby TTC#1, Cycle #12, CBFM cycle 6, age 38, UCL 28, CD33
Tilly TTC#1, 3years, CBFM cycle 9, age 36, UCL 28-34, CD36
SlightlyBabyCrazed, TTC#1, Cycle #24, CBFM cycle 2, age 35, UCL 28, CD31
ZebedeetheZebra TTC#2, Cycle#8, CBFM Cycle#8 age 44, CD30
Keziah TTC#1, Cycle #30, CBFM Cycle 18, age 35, ucl 28-31, CD29
Loup23 TTC#1, Cycle #6, CBFM Cycle 2, age 31, UCL 33-38, CD26
KnackeredCow TTC#1, Cycle #17, CBFM Cycle 6, age 32, UCL 28-30, CD26
Littlefan TTC#1, Cycle 12, CBFM cycle 5 , age 32, UCL 32-38, CD11

Graduates

Emmylou30 BFP 22/10/10
MissLolita BFP 30/10/20
Notnearly BFP 6/11/10
StormBird BFP 10/11/10
AnytimeNow BFP 20/11/10
IloveKittyElise BFP 30/12/10
Boba BFP 07/01/11
Chocciechip BFP 11/01/11
Clockspotter BFP ??/02/11

Loup23 · 20/02/2011 19:17

ooo thanks kitty just needed someone to say it was ok, Im having a glass of white on 7dpo, going to try and hold out to test until wednesday.....