Good things come to those who wait...and wait...and wait!!! All aboard, we're IIT!

I agree with you on the point that when you disagree like this is feels like both you're being selfish and the other person is! I don't know what the way round it is apart from trying to accept that you have different feelings.

How would you feel if the consultant told you to go back on the meds? (Surely he can only suggest it, he can't tell you?!)

We find out about application at the end of March. I was thinking today actually that maybe TTC has to wait until then for me - it'll potentially have such a massive bearing on the next few years whether we get this money or not. If we don't then the future is ridiculously uncertain. If we do, then I've got a nice flexible guaranteed - and part-time - role, which I could imagine doing and coping with kids at the same time. Aggh.

Glad you got your BT sorted Bebe, they are awful aren't they!?

Your dilemma is a bit of a complicated one isn't it? My thoughts were that if he comes with you to the consultant, then maybe that will make it more your shared problem to solve, rather than yours individually. At least now the whole issue is out in the open even if it's painful to discuss and you're not in agreement yet. He's always known you were coming off your meds, hasn't he? It's his joint responsibility that you're now having to decide what to do, with the not-very-nice option of backtracking, in part because he didn't discuss his feelings with you fully enough and early enough!

If he comes with you to the consultant you'll have to decide on a joint 'line' on the issue in advance, which might be a good chance to come to some sort of agreement about where you currently stand? ('we're talking about the possibility of TTC again, though we're not decided at the moment', maybe?) You never know, having to think it all through with your POV in mind might help change his perspective?

No movement on the whole 'waiting' issue in this household - just found out that another of our friends is pg, bringing it up to 4 currently from last year's wedding bonanza. It's impossible not to be broody in those circumstances!! DP is taking an interest in their pregnancies though - he saw one of the pg friends the other day and came home and reported back on her morning sickness, mat leave etc with no prompting from me, which I think gets some points!

I am shattered today - working all the hours juggling 3 different 'jobs' at the mo, one of which is writing an enormous application which will secure the financial security of our company, or not. It feels like a huge responsibility as if we don't get it the results are pretty dire, without wanting to go into too much detail. Wish I was still on holiday - January is crap!

Oh dear nannyl, at least you are having times when you feel ok and can eat- maybe today will be better :)
How are you finding being at work? Can you manage to get through the day or do you have to keep rushing to the loo? Do you only feel sick when food is around or do other things set you off?

think i was over optimistic at saying i felt better....
just experianced the looking at food making me vomit managed a yogurt and a little plain spaghetti later...

Hello all

WW so sorry to hear about AF... must be very frustrating. sounds like DH is wonderful

Astro thats a lovely comment

I have been feeling quite a bit better today. Still was sick this morning, but after that i managed a small pear for breakfast, AND i enjoyed the small bowl of soup i had at lunch unlike uesturday when it was such an effort to eat.

The children at school have been making pineapple upside down cake so i have also eaten a bit if pineapple, and a few warm cake crumbs.
Im still not right but its nice to not feel like im gonna throw up all day... who knows, i might even manage to eat some tea tonight which will make a change if i can.

Otherwise all my bras are no uncomfortable . i switched to my non-underwired sports bra today but even that seems to be digging in... think bra shopping is in order but didnt realise it would be necessary so soon

Hey,

Sorry I've been MIA for a while. Had my sister down this weekend and we went out and had a few massive arguments with OH. We've sorted things now though. But it was touch and go for a few days!

WW - sorry for the AF situation. I can't imagine how you must be feeling. I think some self indulgence is called for!

I think I'll stick with the 'waiting to TTC' thread so that i can whinge about not being able to try for a baby yet and also because i can barely keep up with this one! .

However, I'm so pleased to have been part of this forum towards the end and discovered the pregnancies we've had on here! It's amazing stuff. Thank you to all of you who have supported me and given me advice. xxx

Oh Whywait please don't feel like that! I wish I could say something to make you feel better

I think we have a much higher than average hit rate of 1st time PG achievers on this thread so don't let this affect you. Totally fertile couples often take up to a year of trying and you are nowhere near this yet. (I know you know all this and it doesn't really help when you are so disappointed but try to keep it in mind)

It sounds like you have a wonderful DH too x

Love the idea of the two threads- good ideas for names 100years. What about something along the lines of...

we started off waiting and are now WAIIT ing?
(We Are In It Together)

You sound much brighter 100years, I hope you are feeling a bit better. I laughed at your knowing statement about the waiting continuing after you are PG! Roll on 2nd trimester and glowing rather than puking!

That is horrendous Bebe- can you complain? Talk to someone higher up and explain that your OH works from home so next week is not acceptable? it probably would not make any difference though, how annoying! I have read about people on MN using the herbal Nytol and finding it effective- not sure what's in it and if it would be suitable but something like that might help stop the pattern of broken sleep for you?

Whywait- thanks for the advice re temping- I think I got a thermal shift yesterday so am hoping that there was an egg around when there where some....ahem...little guys around. Wait and see time. When will you test this month WW? Did you say it was this weekend?

Oh Flipping heck Bebe that's just crap isn't it. I think sometimes companies do take the piss out of people. RE the sweets, I will have a look for them, but I've got some sweet rosy apple boiled sweet things that seem to be quite nice too, which I can get form the local newspaper shop.

Squirrel, not eaten cheese since 1994, I don't miss it, and didn't bother me when I stopped as it made me so poorly.

flutter6y, welcome to the thread, it's a lovely little support group for people. We are thinking of branching out into 2 different threads so you aren't surrounded by people who are actively trying or who are upduffed.

What shall we call the new IIT thread for the ones who are all mixed in? I'm quite happy to start one.

Like the BESH and PESH threads I think we should have ourselves known as the IITs or what about calling ourselves the WIITs as in Were In It Together. Then just doing the new thread as "The new thread for WIITs" Then we can branch out on the name for the follow up threads.
Or, which I kind of like a bit more, sung in a "if you're happy and you know it clap your hands" way, Using something like "If you're a WIIT and you know it post in here"

A few of us didn't know for a while either! It stands for In It Together, which refers to the fact that our waiting to try to conceive thread has now been going on for so long half of us are pregnant!

I'm planning on starting a new waiting thread, so if waiting endlessly for the right time to have that much wanted baby is your bag, you could join that.

hello

sorry to butt in here. (i'm from west yorks too so sure you'll forgive me) but its been bugging me for ages, whilst i lurk wondering which thread to join, but what does IIT (in thread title) stand for?

100years cheese is one of my favourite things, I'd be sad if I couldn't eat it!

Amanda a waiting thread is good - that's what I meant, in a roundabout way :) I don't think I'd have joined this thread when I was waiting!

bebe how annoying about BT, that's awful service :(

I finally plucked up the courage to watch OBEM, and it wasn't as scary as I thought it would be. Might make DH watch it now to give him an idea of what to expect. I haven't thought that far ahead yet, but the waterbirth looks like a good option.

I want to be on this thread too of course. Some of us have now joined pregnancy or ttc threads as well as this one and it seems to work.

Oh Squirrel of course I want to hear all your updates! That's not the reason at all. It's just nice to have a place on MN for waiters and there must be newbies who wouldn't want to join this thread at this stage.

I don't eat pizza, can't eat cheese, so that's never been something I have ever done to cheer myself up. But I have on occasions had other takeaways

Thanks 100years :) When I'm feeling fed up I can almost always put it down to PMT, but obviously that's not the case today! But, I just ordered pizza, and feel better already!

squirrel There are loads of people at work who are pg, and are always glad when they reach the definite bump stage, so they know people aren't wondering!

Yeah I will speak to the docs if I don't feel better in a few days, and will keep an eye on my fluids.

Sorry you are feeling fed up. I think sometimes you get times you cannot put your finger on what it is.

jbells I was hoping the fat stage didn't last too much longer!

strawberrypie and whywait I love Glee too :) Couldn't watch last night though as DH was away and he likes to watch too.

Sorry about AF arriving js :( May isn't too far away now.

bebe sorry to hear you're feeling down :( It's completely understandable though what with everything that's been going on.

Amanda two new threads sounds like a good idea. I guess this one doesn't attract the newbies, and I'm sure you don't always want to read about our pg updates when you're still waiting.

100years and nannyl sorry to hear you're feeling bad. I wouldn't want to go through the first trimester again and am feeling more normal now I'm in the second. If you can't keep anything down though, it is worth seeing the doctor as dehydration is not good when pg.

I am doing okay - feeling really fed up today for some reason (although I can't come up with any logical reason for feeling down) so I'm hoping it's just some hormonal thing that'll pass. Got to go and find something for dinner and I'm not sure what's in the cupboards. At times like this I'm always tempted to order pizza!

nanny while I'm over the moon at being pg, I'm also feeling really bad, and I also would 'smile' that we are going through it together I know it's not something to smile about, I'm not sure anything makes sense. I've managed to keep much more down today, but I still feel fecking awful, and I'm still not eating as much as normal. I've lost 8lbs in 10 days! I've cried loads. The midwife has been over, she is lovely. Said if it gets no better they may admit me for 24 hours to give me iv rehydration, but I'm OK at the moment. She said that I looked grey. Yep, that's how I feel. Explained all the future appointments. It was lovely and now I have a green book!