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TTC after MC, ERPC anyone want to join me??

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nurse47 · 16/11/2010 10:23

Hi ive been posting on the miscarrage forum but now feel ready to start all over again!
My story, Had my first MMC in nov 2007, followed by an erpc (worst moment of my life) this was my first pregnancy and i felt robbed. Waited for two periods and got pg with my little DD in feb 2008, i had a great pg and birth but was on constant knicker alert. We decided when she was two we would like another baby to add to the familiy, we decided to try in sept this year and got pg first time! (very shocked) I was so hoping this would be my time to have a stress free pg and actually enjoy the experience! How wrong i was, i started to spot at six weeks had a scan which showed a sac but no baby, i then enjoured the worst two week of my life by having scan and blood tests. I was told on the 8th on nov the pregnany was not going to continue and i had a blighted ovum, and on the 9th i had a erpc. I have recovered well and stopped bleeding the day after the procedure. I went to see my doc last week who told me i could start ttc asap as long as i feel up to it?? anyone else ttc straight away, last time i was told to wait and i did but this time i have read that there is no lit to say wait apart from to date the pg?? Im hoping there are some people who can share there experiences and someone who wants to join me!

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Star82 · 16/11/2010 22:45

Hi, can i join? (waves at nurse)!!! :)

I am married with 2 children and 28 years old. I have just had my first MMC at 9 weeks and had an ERPC on Sunday, so still feeling a little fragile but recovering well i think so far. Both mentally and physically.
I have to say though, i don't think i'll ever see pregnancy the same as i did before, because the fear of this happening again or even worse, happening again at a later stage in the pregnancy is always going to be follwing me around now.

Is it worth getting a few cheap pregnancy tests to make sure hcg is out the system before 'not trying to prevent a pregnancy', :)

rachk32 · 16/11/2010 21:44

hi sparkly and nurse, id like to join please.
I had my first mmc on the 22nd of septemeber at 8 weeks but didnt get picked up till 13 weeks, it was my first baby so im total devastated, 8 weeks on, i have a small cry daily at the moment, but its getting easier day by day.
I got my first af on the 27th of oct, it latest 4 days and was pretty normal, then spotted a week later for 2 days, strange......
Palnning to ttc again the first week in dec, as have had to have my mmc vaccine, so need a clear month b4 trying again.
Like sparkly im bambuzzalled but fertility friend, charting blar blar... Wish i dod know more, ekkkkkk
brough a dig thermometer and some ov testing strips so going to give it ago, have nothing to loose i say!!!
Just a note, sorry for all of your losses, does it get any easier??? X

broughthimroundtotheidea · 16/11/2010 20:37

Good luck nurse jumping straight back on the horse so to speak ;) xxxx

Wombat33 · 16/11/2010 19:09

Sorry to bamboozle you Sparkly. We're not all charting on the Fertility Friend website (what they refer to as FF) over on the TTC after MC thread but we are all [increasingly] obsessive about TTC Blush. If you fancy de-lurking at any point you can always ask questions if you don't understand the shorthand. Sorry to hear about your loss and good luck! I'm hoping [and SWI-ing!] for a bean by Christmas, but trying not to get too fixated. (Baah! who am I kinding, I'm totally terrified there's something wrong/it'll never happen/etc, etc but i'm trying to stay rational about it...) Grin

Sparklywine · 16/11/2010 16:46

Nurse, hello, I'll join you! I think we've been on a similar journey and bumped into each other before. My story, I am 36 and recently decided with DH to try for a baby, thinking we may regret it if not (in a thought-out way, not I fancy a new handbag way) I fell pregnant that first month and was over the moon, however found out at the 12 week scan that I had a blighted ovum, and there was no actual baby. Really cruel, I'm still not sure whether I'd have felt even worse to have seen a little life or not, but the scan screen of an empty sac, where one expected a wriggly baby, will stay with me forever and is the one thing that can bring on the tears and wibbly top lip. I thought I'd try to miscarry naturally, being a closet hippy, but nothing happened so I had an erpc on 15th October, which was fine. My niece was born that week too so it was all very bizarre, but I am through the worst and feeling a lot more positive. My periods sort of came back this weekend, I say this because there's not much blood, but plenty of cramps. I don't feel ill though so think this must be par for the course, but I can be prone to the odd melodramatic spiral and think 'gargh, it's an infection/I am infertile/something is wrong!

Just glad to get them back, that is if it is a period and not something wrong! Grin I hadn't intentionally waited until my first period to TTC again, I'd have loved to get pregnant again straight away, and had a weirdy ritual of doing a friday morning pregnancy test, after I'd initially had a BFN, hoping to see some good news. I really looked forward to it all week, and as I was quite matter of fact about the outcome, and they were Tesco own, didn't see the harm in it, plus it meant I didn't feel guilty about getting a bit tipsy with X Factor Wink Anyway, what waffle, basically wanted to say hi and I'm with you on the next step of the journey! I don't get all the charting stuff so even though I lurk on Wombat's thread and admire everyone on there, I'm a bit lost to be honest!

Wombat33 · 16/11/2010 10:31

Nurse so sorry to hear about your erpc. There's a fab (but fast moving - these ladies chatter!) support thread for those of us ttc after mc here. You'd be very welcome to come and join us.

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