TTC after MC, ERPC anyone want to join me??

Happy Christmas to all the lovely ladies here - enjoy and make lots and lots of merriment! x

hi all. just popping in to say hi and happy christmas. have read all posts but a bit tipsy with bubbly and so won't be able to comment. Have made some beautiful mince pies and jamies gravy so feeling v domestic goddess but still have presenys to wrap and bed to maks, catching up on corrie while my sparkly silver nails dry. Happy christmas all x

Hi ladies, just wanted to pop in and wish everyone a lovely Christmas!
I have just finished my trifle, old school with hideous retro sponge fingers and no alcohol at boring breastfeeding sister's request. It looks the business but is cascading over the side of the bowl so transportation might be an issue Perhaps I should scoff the lot level it off a bit.
Painted toenails a festive red, and about to embark on a seasonal cat litter change. Falalalalaaaaah......Am I sap for being upset at not seeing my cats until Boxing Day? It seems wrong to leave them on Christmas Day, will they ever forgive me? I'm a bit worried the catflap will freeze over, but otherwise confident they will survive as I have waited for DH to leave the house to bump the heating up......
No shag this morning, ladies. One thing's for sure, this child will not be conceived in an act of raw and spontaneous passion No sign of EWCM so I opted for a lie-in, lazy cow that I am! I think Boxing Day might be the day, I'm back then so will keep you posted.
Hope everyone remains in festive spirits! xx

Hi all, just popping in to say Merry Christmas...

Am working today so not really in the festive mood yet, will start around 6 hopefully when I pour a big drink and start eating everything in sight! Am currently keeping very very quiet in the hope that everyone will forget I'm actually working so I won't get asked to do anything - lazy or what!

Exciting for those of you getting ready for EWCM and pre-seed! I'm still a few weeks away from that I think (thanks to stupid retained products knocking the clock back by two and a half weeks) but bought a BBT thermometer yesterday with the last of my Xmas shopping in a bid to try and take control a bit, and hopefully speed along a BFP with some well timed SWI when the time eventually comes!

Hugs to MrsB and hope you're feeling a bit more positive, good luck with the journey to France yellow, wombat am seriously jealous of your pizza and Moet, sounds amazing, could just do with that myself right now.

Morning wombat Yes I did! It actually wasn't that bad, I reckon it is often busier on a normal Sunday but people seemed to be quite bad tempered

I've also been carrying round a M & S voucher for some time so splashed out on some posh food for last night....yum yum

I managed to get my packing done and looks like the airport is all clear so should be in France this evening. Not sure if I'll be able to get online over there and if I do typing is so frustrating cos their keyboards have all the letters in the 'wrong' place

Well my AF has def finished now so I am on the lookout for EWCM and have put DP on notice! I'm not taking the pre-seed with me as I think that is something that should only take place at home.

how are all the Xmas preparations coming along ladies? Are you all peeling spuds and preparing sprouts?

Sorry you are having a hard time MrsB, especially when you're not 100% physically. Setting goals is a good idea to help you feel as if you're taking control.

Hope the rest of you lovely ladies are doing ok and enjoying the run-up to tomorrow.

yellow - did you survive Oxford Street?!

Hey ladies, im back to the land of the living, well im back at work at least, even if it is just for the day...
your posts have proper cheered me up today, micepies, shagging... what are we like!!! (WINK)

Been feeling rather sorry for myself, last night and the first part of today.
i think id built up this month as "THE MONTH" to get that BFP was devastating!! i think i cried buckets yesterday...(SAD)

im trying to think abit more positive today, and set myself some clear goals, if im not pg by my previous due date, I need to go pay my doctor a visit... so that gives me a whole three months!! no pressure or anything!!

waves to all. xx

Ha ha ha wombat I particularly like no. 1

I'll see if I can think of any others...

Oooh - I like your thinking yellow. What other rules can we make up?

1. no-one in RL is allowed to announce they are PG until we are

2. we will not get totally obsessed with EWCM, POAS, 2ww, AFs, SWI and any other acronyms related to TTC (yeah right)

3. we will develop an uncanny ability to eat and drink as much soft cheese, pate, sushi and alcohol as we choose and not put on any weight

4. we will sing hearty praises to the founders of MN for providing such a valuable support network

Other suggestions very welcome ladies!

Oooh winter that sounds fun, pizza, mince pies and champagne for lunch. You're giving me idea on what to follow up the breakfast with!

And don't attempt to work......nobody should have to work between 23rd and erm........let's say 4th jan! A new rule.......

Ooops - clearly too much Moet for me! - meant to do a not a [frgin]

Ah yellow - all the rules go out the window over Christmas. If you want mince/mice pies with custard for breakfast, you go for it! [frgin] Great to hear you are feeling better today - you must be if you're planning to tackle Oxford Street

We have just broken the rules here at work with Pizza Hut delivery and mince pies washed down with some Moet and Chandon for lunch in the boardroom!

Morning all

Thank you for all the kind words yesterday, am feeling much brighter today and my arm/hand etc aren't really hurting anymore. I laid on the sofa and cried whilst watching Dirty Dancing (!) and that seemed to let out some of the tension. They did get the blood in the end but by that time I was in a different dept than where I should have been so just hope the blood got sent to the right dept within the 2 hour window to be tested. Thanks winter for the tips for next time.....well hopefully won't have to do it again any time soon!

manamana tee hee, how do you get hold of all the mice you need??! I am very impressed with the home baking....you can send the spares my way, they don't need to be perfect! I know what you mean about time feeling a bit distorted ie being a short time and feeling like another lifetime at the same time. It has been nearly 6 weeks for me now and I am quite calm but I still think I will have high expectations this month (especially with my sneaky pre-seed application!) and when I get af it will be a crash down to earth. But I think I just have to try to focus on other things in my life and not get obsessed.....easier said than done though.

MrsB33 how's the lurgy progressing, are you feeling any better?

winter am jealous re the panto, I love them too but couldn't force persuade anyone to come with me....and I love mulled wine.

Am braving it to Oxford street today and then the supermarket, I wonder if I'll make it back in one piece. But I also have to get mince pies now after talking about them so much on here......yum. Mince pies with custard......maybe not for breakfast though!

Oh and waves to brought, mrsb, dolly and anyone I may have missed - sorry!

Welcome to the thread wellieboots and sorry that you have found yourself on here. It's all very overwhelming to start with and I think it's possible to go through every emotion on the spectrum and wondering if life will ever get back to normal again. I guess that feeling must have been intensified being snowed in. As the others say, we are very supportive of each other here and sharing has really helped me with the recovery. Thinking of you x

manamana - glad to hear that the bleeding has stopped and that you are getting back into the swing of things slowly - do give yourself and your body some time - easy to say, but harder to do, I know

sparkly - do you know you have a real gift for writing? Your posts always seem spot-on. I'm wondering if you do something with it for a career.... Am totally with you re: the barbed retorts and comebacks in my head, but always afterwards - grr.... Good luck with the sneaky shagging!

Aw yellow - that must have been really frustrating and difficult for you - did they get the blood in the end or do you have to go back? they often struggle with me to get a vein and the nurse last time said it's good to be warm and well hydrated - hope that helps. Sending virtual hug and lots of mincepies (or a manamana micepie!) with copious amounts of brandy butter.

strawberry - I just went along myself to the psychologist, no referral (but have had to pay of course - boo....). Like you say, it's good to talk to someone without feeling as if you're burdening them and those swirling thoughts that are going round and round? It's amazing how much clarity you get when you actually say them out loud to a really good listener who asks you the right questions to help put them into some sort of order. I would highly recommend it, be it a therapist, counsellor or psychologist.

Nurse - good to hear from you and hope you enjoyed your xmas night and your 4 days off.

kitkey - last but by no means least, I'm over the moon for you re: AF! Which makes me a nutter too if I am so thrilled over someone else's periods who I've never even met in RL!

Went to "Aladdin" last night - I love pantos - great excuse to be a kid again and laugh at all the stupid jokes. There was even a stall selling mulled wine which has made me feel even more festive than before!

As for all you ladies being asked for your ID, I think I'm going to hotfoot it back to the UK just to see if I am looking all of my 37 years..... First stop Asda as there have been 2 of you who have been asked there, then Tesco and failing that, who can recommend a good plastic surgeon?!

ha ha micepies... made me smile :-)

Hi everyone.
Yellow, sounds like you had a horrible day, evil supermarket woman.
Wellie, nice to see you've found this thread but obviously not good you're here in the same way none of us would want to be.
Am still a bit cloud headed so not great long post from me. 2 weeks today since ERPC, it feels a lot longer in that it feels like it was ages ago that I was pregnant but seems v short in terms of getting my head round it.
Hope you're all enjoying early xmas dinners, we've just been planning our xmas stuff as i am braving the supermarket in the morning with small boys in tow! I have switched off from work completely and am attempting to be perfect housewife... although I am now on my 3rd set of micepies, each slightly better that before but still not the finished article!
I have stopped bleeding so we've started ttc in that we're not using anything not to. Had a couple of old blood bleeds after each time which I found really heart-wrenching but I think all has gone now. I just really want to be pregnant again but am scared about how I'm going to feel when inevitably it doesn't happen this month and AF appears, or no AF just a BFN and f*cked up cycle.... Am taking hope from those of you who seem much further on mentally and physically so thanks for your posts. Sorry mine isn't v positive. Am trying to be positive in RL so this is my outlet. Thanks.

ahhh yellow wat a bitch!! These people defo come at times to test us, i had a man the week after my mmc do something simular, all i wanted to do was cry, i had no scarastic comment or witty wip to fly back at him, which was defo not like me at all, lol

i just think karma will come back and bite them in the ass when they least expect it!!!

Enjoy your early xmas with hubby tonight you deserve it.

Welcome wellie, sorry youve found yourself here. As you can see were a supportive bunch on here, even though we do suffer from a foul mouth every so often. Feel free to rant, rave and cry,shout,laugh whenever you like, there will always be one of us here to support you through it.... X

p.s sorry for my spelling, no spell check on my phone. X

Aw, yellow, big hugs!! Have you had really brilliant arguments/comebacks in your head since? I do that, most cathartic. What a bitch. Someone nearly ran me down at a zebra crossing yesterday, and I actually waved thanks in a non-sarcastic manner after I'd crossed! What a sap. He really got it in the neck in my imaginery word though Be a bit teary and have a whimper, and then crack open the old Cabernet and get nice and fuzzy.

wellieboots, hello. Your post made me wibbly, I found out about my blighted ovum at my 12 week scan too . For quite a few weeks I really re-lived the emptiness of the monitor picture, where my little bean should have been wriggling away. It still feels like a bit of a dream/nightmare really, like it didn't happen and I'd made it up, like I was just playing at being an adult and making a baby. I revisit those feelings a lot less now (over 2 months in), they're curled up in a box which I only occasionally open and they make my heart thud to the ground every time, BUT......you move on, and the fear is outwayed by something more powerful which is leading me, as we type today, to wonder how I'm going to fit in a sneaky shag whilst staying with relatives over Christmas, to maximise my chances! Good show to you ladies hoping to syringe in the old pre-seed surruptitiously by the way, to be a fly on that bathroom wall! Anyway, welcome, remove your snowy shoes and settle down with us for some wine and nibbles x

Thank you strawberry that's just what I needed.....still feeling a bit teary. But DP and I are having our own little Xmas tonight so that is something to cheer me up. I've got stuck into the chocolate already and may also take your advice on the alcohol, purely for medicinal purposes. Red wine has iron in it doesn't it?

Awww yellow, sending you big hugs. You did well not to faint at all, I always think needles in the arm is awful at the best of times without all the extra hassle you've had. And the witch at the supermarket too, you should have bellowed at her and embarrassed her for being so horrible (easier said in retrospect than actually done at the time though, I know)! Make sure you're accompanied on the sofa by something alcoholic for recovery - I know it isn't even 4pm yet, but it is Christmas - and preferably a large box of chocs or big slice of cake. Take care of yourself xx

Afternoon all

Before I start I just want to say that I'm looking for a lot bit of sympathy. I went to the hospital today for my blood tests and they couldn't get a vein. Took 3 nurses 5 different attempts (including in my hand) to get any blood. It really hurt and I almost fainted twice. And feeling v wobbly and sorry for myself now....and I have noone in real life to tell cos nobody knows about the tests (except DP who is at work) So I'm relying on you guys to give me all the sympathy you've got.......Also I was in the supermarket just now and by the entrance there was a spare trolly that seemed all alone so went to use it and this woman totally had a go at me telling me it was her trolly. She hadn't put anything in it yet or anything......she was so agressive I nearly burst into tears. Wanted to say 'don't you know what a difficult morning I have had....'

Ok now I've got that out of the way a big welcome to wellie sorry you've had to find yourself here but glad you've found it helpful.

strawberry I had been seeing a counsellor for a while for other matters but also found it incredibily helpful to talk through all miscarriage/pregnancy related stuff. Sometimes it was things I talked to my friends about after but it was great to have her as an initial sounding board to help me to but my thoughts in order.

Right going to go back to swooning on the sofa!

Nice to meet you wellie but so sorry to hear your story. Finding out at the 12 week scan must have been so tough. Hope you're recovering well after your erpc. I haven't been here long but I'm glad I found this lovely safe place to chat and vent. I hope it'll give you some comfort to be here, and to be looking ahead towards the next stage to help you get over this one. Lots of hugs xx

Hi dolly,
I'm new here too - been lurking for a week or so! I had my EPRC on Monday 13th, having been diagnosed at 12 wk scan with a blighted ovum (or anembryonic pregnancy as they seem to call it now). Total shock as I had absolutely no sign anything was wrong and was looking forward to taking my wee picture home and showing everyone before Christmas.
Like I say I have been lurking for a wee while, when I was at home recovering from EPRC and snowed in so not able to do anything other than think about it! These ladies seem absolutely lovely and supportive, and although I am not sure how long we will wait before ttc again, I will be hanging out here for a while because it feels safe! I came back to work on Monday, a week after the EPRC, but the doc would have happily given me at least another week so I guess it really depends on how you are feeling both physically and mentally. Due to being snowed in, I also felt that I needed to get to work in order to be doing something and seeing people and feeling a bit more "normal" but whether that's a good idea really depends on your job - take care of yourself and ask anything you need to, rant as much as you like, whatever helps, take care xxx