Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 8)

I have to say i do think about getting fit also but have decided i like food too much so will stay FAT!

babes whoop for the purple bangs! very swish...

hairy i thought it was ladies over 35 got pushed for tests for 2 recurrent MC on nhs? failing that go into the docs surgery, sob & snotter muchly... hope it helps.

Glad you are doing okish :( still hideous though x good for you loooking at evaluating :) i found that having a focus helped me deal with MC much quicker! Mine was a decorating project (that i still havent completed.... oh and of course TTC!

Izz great news on the acu... when i feel brave enough i am going to go into town to the chinese lady who does needles and gives herbs.... (may abstain from herbs tbh!)and the ov too IZ x

mummy get packing

Yes YMOTB POAS POAS POAS POAS POAS POAS!!!!!

This whole process is a bit of a jolt to the system and seems to go through all of the stages of grief you always hear about ... Denial, anger, etc etc. - which I suppose makes sense but bloody annoying that I only ever work out where I am at after emerging from a stage!! Big hugs Nix - it is so frustrating when the harder you try for something the more it alludes you - I think wiggles dh imposed break sounds great - any chance of shipping dh off for a bit! Izzy your acupuncturist sounds fab - having positive people around helps so much. I like hairy have been doing a lot of re-evaluating lately and have gone back to training (even though it takes an hour to get to my PT) she is such a positive supportive person and that combined with refinding a body under all the preg fat I had put in is doing me' the world of good. I am also rejigging my career. All a bit scary but nice to have other things to obsess on! I might add a haircut to the list YRMOTB - always wanted to have a bob but generally chicken out at the last minute. When are you peeiiiiinnnnngggg.
Have a great flight MummyA. waves to all

Hi MummyAbroad - not yet, as I'm just experiencing my second MC now, but I will hop over there at some point, definately.

Thanks for that info x

Wise decision hairy , and fx your gp will refer. My dsis recently managed to get an NHS referral for recurrent mc testing after 2 mc's so you might be lucky. She had looked into paying though and I think it was going to be £600-700. So not cheap but got to be worth the money if only for peace of mind and at least then if you do have to make any tough decisions you're making them with all the facts to hand.

YRMOTB hope your ds is ok. very re the new hair - get a pic posted on fb!!

Thanks Izzy I was lucky to have some basic tests at GPs in Feb - day 4 and day 21 tests. I then paid to have a hycosy after my last MC, and they had a look at my womb and ovaries and they said that all looked fine, except for a blocked tube.

I'm on the waiting list to have a laparoscopy re: the tube.

When I visited hospital this week, they said they don't do any tests until a woman has had three Miscarriages. So I will go and beg my GP after I've resolved this one, otherwise use some of my savings (I was saving for when I'd be on mat leave) to have private multiple miscarriage tests done.

i'm sorry all, this is going to be a short one, am in doctors surgery waiting for an appt for ds, so will run if i get called! My sisters coming today, so probs won't be about much. Also can't really scroll back, so apologies for not namechecking. I will be back!

I have new hair! A purple asymmetrical bob, and am feeling quite swish! No sign of af yet.. Will be back when i can, love to all. Am loving the shiiiiny fred. X

Sorry x-posts hairy good luck with the re-evaluating, I think it definitely helps to do...I feel so that you're having to make these decisions though...Hope you don't mind me asking but have you been offered any tests? x

hairy hope you're doing ok? x

(((hugs))) to nicks too, sounds like you're having a bumpy ride at the minute. We will get through this, hang on in there sweets

well I have been for acupuncture, and I love, love, love my acupuncturist! She is just so positive and I came out feeling to much calmer and more upbeat about everything. She has looked at my charts and think I actually ov earlier than ff thinks I do, but my lh levels go up slowly instead of quickly so it doesn't pick it up straight away. Which does make sense when you see my chart. And which also means my luteal phase is at least 10 days at last - woohoo!! Maybe I do stand a chance after all...

nickster thanks for moving me, it was definately the right thing to do! We went out for a walk around the local pond/beauty spot just now, it was nice to get out.

I've decided to use this time (I think I'll be off work a while) to improve my health and fitness and try and re-focus on my life - I'm a total workaholic and I know there is more to life.

I think I will need to do some re-evaluating about things - and about whether or not I can go through this again.

hairy hope you are doing ok hon? thinking of you! I moved you from Grads to WTTC as i thought it might be too painful to see yourself there. hope you dont mind xx

Hi just marking my place. I am deffo WTTC at present - thanks for putting me on the list :)

:) Mummy And thanks for the much-needed mackerel slappage! It was hailing 10 minutes ago here and now there's clear blue sky! Pack every single item of clothing you have, regardless of season!

Nicks Hurray for thermometer! I took the whole of last month off (didn't have much choice in matter as DH was in bliddy Far East) but I think it did me the world of good. I feel much more relaxed about the whole thing now. I had a massive clear out at home and occupied myself with other little jobs that needed doing for ages etc. I almost went as far as forgetting about ttc when the right time came round again. Obviously it's easy for me to say this and I most likely wouldn't have felt the same if he'd been around but a break can sometimes be a good thing.

FWIW, I also get pmt-like symptoms at ov time, feel really irritable and annoyed with dh for no apparent reason but then get all amorous and chilled out just before af. Convinced nature is conspiring against me!! Think dd also has a little plot going on as she has refused to sleep the whole night in her cot for 2 consecutive months the night before ovulation now

Loving the pant snot stories and glitzy suspenders ladies! Sounds v promising pink When are you going to test? Another vote for soya lattes too, yum!

sunchild Boo and double boo for AF.
Hiding I received my free prescription charge card thingy about a month after mc. And my 12 week appt letter (like I needed another 'date' to make things worse) It sucks.
inbetweener I think age gap is absolutely fine too. Plus, the older siblings will be able to help out - much easier than having toddler plus newborn!

Ok, so would it be inappropriate to spoil this lovely new thread with some large wet fish? I tested this morning at 6dpo. Yes, that's six, the one that comes after five and just before seven. I haven't even given it a week ffs!

Still, it's an improvement than last month when I tested whilst I was on my period (just to make sure). It kind of satisfies the poas urge and gets the disppointment out of the way early doors iyswim.

It's also sooo ridiculous that it makes me vow not to do it again for another couple of daysweek. If anyone needs anymore ideas on how to frivolously waste cash and (almost literally) piss it up a wall, then check out my website www.wigglesmoneywastingideas.com

Agree about the closure, finally getting the bfn was like drawing a line under the physical MC iyswim. Also, I can't remember whether you had expectant management or an Erpc but I did expectant and the hospital told me to keep testing for the bfn so that I could know that everything had cleared naturally and I didn't need an erpc. In a way, the relief of it being over outweighed the horrible feeling of POAS without the excited hope of a BFP.

hiding have you had a scan etc? My symptoms disappeared overnight with the MC and once everything had gone that was it!

FX for pink

My heads a bit scrambled at the min, and i dont know why.. thinking at the min i need to take a break from this and take some time out... its all making me a bit crazy! (adding to the frustration and stressiness) dont know, perhaps i just need a holiday. !! The frustration knows no bounds and makes the feeling of uselessness even worse... its cos its out of my control and i am said control freak

on a plus, today i found the said lost thermometre hiding in my briefcase....FFS! and also my new one arrived with a big pack of pg tests (ordered bloody opks) So back to temping CD17 start of fertile time for me and hopefully some action maybe that will cheer me up

why do i always get psycho around the start of fertile time?!?!?! always have !! supposed to be all nice and flirty not angry.. instead of seducing DH with some suzzy's and saucy nicks i am constantly apologising for being a witch, and grovelling for some action!! oh dear, give me lessons!

Hugs to Hiding, Sunchild, and also for Inbetweener.

Hiding I also didn't like to get a false BFP so I think after the initial test when I was blleeding, I left it a couple of week and then did a digital test as I figured there was no chance then if seeing a faint line - it was either positive or not. Looking back, I'm glad I got that sense of 'closure' (sounds a bit trite, but I can't think of a better word to describe it). How long has it been for you now?

hiding it took me' ages to poas as well post mc. When I finally did it was a relief to get the BFN. I have put away the second test for when I get a bfp to kind of make up for it ((hmm not too sure of my logic but hey I am also wearing sparkling flashing suspenders!!!))) - I am kidding myself I can hang out long enough each cycle until either af arrives or it is a def bfp!

I also felt like I was pg for most of the WTF cycle. Sorry af got you sunchild ... August babies are just scrummy! If I am upduffed next cycle it will mean 3 bdays in our household one after the other in a matter of days! >

Thanks for the hugs!

Sorry you are also feeling rubbish sunchild. We can knock back the wine together and curse our lousy luck

I confess I have not poas since I had my mc confirmed as I couldn't cope with the idea of getting a line that wasn't real...if you see what I mean.

Maybe I should do one and then at least I could be sure in future. I really need to get some backbone!

(((hugs))) to hiding and sunchild , sorry you're having a crap day.

sunchild - come and join me at the bottom, and at least we can keep each other company

just a quickie as due for acupuncture now, will post more later xx