First post - Likelihood to conceive at 18?

kazine, I ended up in a psych hospital after having my DD. I suffered very mild depression before she was conceived but having her sent me over the edge.

Please think very carefully about what you are doing. At least put it off for 6 months so you've had time to really think. I'm concerned that from your post it seems you've just come up with this idea in the past couple of days

You are immature and selfish and you need to grow up! This is not based on your age btw.

As Jezza would say "think of the child"

You've got the stroppy teen thing off-pat.

BOF- thought the same but didn't want to say just in case it's true.

If it's not a wind up, good luck to you. You'll need it.

Arrrgh.

Look. The fact that you want to give up on a chance of getting education and stay dependant on your boyfriend is one thing.

Thinking that having a baby will cure your depression is another. I'm sorry but it's totally deluded.

Pregnancy and taking care of a baby is likely to make your depression worse. Not as in there's a small chance. It's very likely.

You are in love with the idea of having a sweet little creature that will love you unconditionally. Reality is so very much different. It's very tough taking care of a child, and much tougher if you're depressed, without any perspectives and dependant on someone else for money.

Kazine, I was on citalopram when I got pregnant with dd. I was told to come off it and took a different one through my pregnancy can't remember what it was called though

I know quite a few people who have been told to get off citalopram once they've found out they were pregnant.

Most of them were switched to sertraline, which is in the same class (an SSRI) but is supposed to be safer.

You can also breast feed on sertraline.

Apologies. misunderstood the other thread you are on. Still TTC it seems.

I think Kazine is now indeed 'up the duff'!

How extraordinarily exciting, there must be a rollercoaster of emotions rollercoasting somewhere.

Is your partner off to get his 'full time job' now you appear to have conceived?

Kazine, are you taking medication for your depression? If you are there are some that you can't take when you are pregnant, you really need to discuss this with your GP.

In answer to your question, you are more likely to conceive now then you ever will be again, I would imagine. Women are at their most fertile in their early twenties.

What does your partner think about this? beyond it being a 'lifeline' for you? Is he willing to work to support you and his chikd? Does he feel as excited about the idea of fatherhood and that level of responsibility?

I think it is worth pointing out to you (and I am sure you are mature enough to take this) that being a young mother can be very hard, as presumably you won't have much education, financial security or life experience, and that your age, together with your mental health issues, may make things extra tough - for you and your baby.

Do think this through and take good care of yourself. there are plenty of people you can talk this through with confidentially if you don't want to discuss with your doctor or nurse, including your local Connexions Advisor.

Good uck

I can see u have ready made a decision to ttc as you're on the august bus with me but I urge you to go see your gp first as certain antidepressants such as ssri's like citalopram ect have been proven to not be safe in pregnancy and can have a real detrimental affect on the fetus. Being ready to become a mother means being ready to place a baby's needs before your own so please check that medically you are ok to ttc if on any medication. I do wish you the best of luck as it is clear you have already made a decision. make the most of support of friends and family as the odds of developing pnd are def higher in your case with age and past depression.

You bring a baby into the world when it's right for the baby, not for you Kazine. Age has nothing to do with it, you are doing this for selfish reasons, and when you become a parent you have to become 100% selfless.

Every poster on this thread is trying to help you, with good, geniune and honest advice, but it's worth nothing if you won't take your head out of the sand and LISTEN!

So many typos in that last bit.

Get better, be free of depression without ADs

Falling pregnant won't.

Honestly if you have depression don't ttc. Especially if your depression has any kind of anxiety attached.

Motherhood starts with the positive test. The guilt that you're not doing it right, the fear you've harmed your baby, the worry about whether it will be healthy or not. My anxiety was mild, it's got a thousand times worse and I'm only half way through this pregnancy. My DH is practically forcing me to eat fir the baby because my depression means I don't want to, I constantly beat myself up about the effect my stress levels are having, I can't take the medication which helps because I don't know what it will do.

And I count myself lucky because before I conceive I was pretty much back to normal. If I'd been depressed or anxious then I cannot i magine what state I'd be in now.

Please, for you, et better. Be free if depressed without ADs for a year so you know you can do it. If you give yourself that target it might help pull you out and keep you out of depression, but just ferrying pregnant awont

Kazine - why do you feel a baby will make everything better? What is it having having one that you think will make everything all right for you?

Good post MissBeehiving. Great name too.