The August Bus

And should have said - wombat sorry to hear about your MC - it was definitely a bit tactless to say the least of the midwife. And like the idea of a date - been so long since have been on one (have been with dh for 14 yrs) have difficulty remembering what you do apart from bar/film/dinner? Guess you will be going for more than first base though

Am definitely on the August bus as AF has arrived this morning. Although I knew was being irrational, I have been spotting phantom pg symptoms due to AF being 1 whole day late (had actually convinced myself was feeling sick with a metallic taste in mouth) despite the rational part of me knowing that we missed the right time for SWI last month and that 1 day doesn't really mean anything. Must go get more wee sticks.

Anyway, enough of the wingeing detail. Big glass of wine for me tonight and think will have my steak very rare . And still have spooks to watch on iplayer from Monday...

Morning ladies! I have every confidence this month will be our month!! Getdown I know what you mean about the GP's attitude. I guess because it's so common and they see it all the time it becomes more mundane for them, whereas for us it is earth-shattering. When I was sent for my second scan to confirm the MC at the EPU there was an 18 month old in the waitng room who took a shine to me and kept trying to get me to play with her. She was adorable but that just meant I was in total floods of tears by the time I was called in by the midwife. when I tried to explain through my sobs that what had set me off was the baby in the waiting room her response was: "Well this is a maternity unit. There will be babies around." Unsurprisingly, that didn't really help me much...

Still onwards and upwards. I'm trying to keep a positive outlook here. I fell first month of trying in August so had sort of assumed that I would fall again as quickly after the MC. AF arriving yesterday has really put me back to square one and I keep getting very teary again, but my DH has declared that we're going on a 'date' tonight, so I'm looking forward to that :O

Positive thought for the day is that it's now CD2 of cycle 2, so that means I'm one day closer to AF b**ring off and one day closer to SWI again :o

So sorry to hear about your MC GetDownYouWillFall.

I guess none of us go in to this thinking about MC. That's the problem with most GP's, they deal in facts and not feelings.

Fingers crossed for you this month.

I'm TTC#1 and we haven't told anyone. It's driving me crazy because I want to talk about it all the time!

thanks ddas I think because everything was so straightforward when I had DD that I kind of assumed it would be the same, and it was fine to tell people Ah well.

Thanks re. your kind words. I wish the GP had reassured me with saying kind things like that. In fact he didn't say anything kind, was just very "factual" about the whole thing, which kind of made it worse.

If he'd said "it's very common, it wasn't your fault, you will get pregnant again, you will be ok", I think I'd have felt better.

Instead he just said "there's nothing we can do, just let nature take its course, if you start to feel ill or the pain gets worse go to A&E" That was it

Hope this is our month ladies!!!

GetDownYouWillFall sorry to hear about your MC- fingers crossed this month is the lucky one for lots of us and that the beans stay put :)!!

MC is unfortunately suprisingly common and guess that's why they recommend you don't tell anyone till after your 12 wk scan-easier said than done though-not sure if i'd be able to keep it secret for that long lol!!!

Evening all, can I join too, I've been posting already but best make it formal....

WhywaitTTC#1, Cycle3, Due 22nd Nov(ish)
MorayRose TTC#1
spirita ttc #1, cycle 1, ucl 28-30 days
321 TTC#?
Bexxaa TTC#3 - CD4 - Cycle 1 - UCL 31-33 days
passthechocs TTC#3 CD19 cycle 3 UCL 28-30
Buttonmoon78 TTC#4 CD10 - cycle 2 - UCL 35 days
100years TTC#1 CD4 - cycle 2 - AveCL 34days
ddas -TTC#1-CD4-Cycle 1-UCL28/29-AF due 21/11
Jilko- TTC#2-Cycle 1- UCL35
Gobolino - TTC#1 - Cycle 1 - UCL32/3
Broodywantcoilout- TTC#3- UCL2
QOTCW- TTC#1- Cycle 2- UCL27
kat2504 TTC#1 Cycle 3 UCL 26-28 CD2, af due 29/11
sillybillymummy ttc#3 cycle 7 UCL 29 CD2
Wombat33 TTC#1 Cycle 2 (post MC) UCL31 CD1
Lindy100 ttc#3, cycle 1 ucl 28-30 CD?
GetDownYouWillFall TTC#2 cycle 2 (post MC) UCL 27 - 45 days AF due 25/11
BabsH TTC#1-CD2-Cycle 5-UCL30-AF due 27/11

Sorry to hear about everyone's problems, hopefully this month will be the right one :)

getdown, I have two friends, both with 13 month olds, who have MC recently, each with their second. Both were shocked as no problems last time.

I have not worried about telling anyone (except work) that we are about to start ttc, as it was so easy the last time - I realise this might be a mistake, as it is so easy to assume everything will be ok when it isn't.

Sorry to hear about your MCs.

I suppose I stupidly thought that because I am 30 that I was immune, but actually it can happen at any age. I think I will definitely be more cautious about who I tell next time - I'd told a few friends when I first found out, and "un-telling" them was really hard

getdown I don't think its naive - I haven't gone into either of my last pregnancies or TTC this time expecting to MC. Obviously I am aware that the odds, especially in the first few weeks, aren't always great (and getting worse now am older), but its something I put out of my mind. Have never dared even read one of the MC related threads - slightly irrational I know!

thanks queenofthecapitalwasteland sorry it happened to you too, it really sucks

It is surprisingly common though. It's just the not knowing why that I find so hard.

Sorry to here about your mc getdownyouwillfall i always thought 'not me' and when it did it turns out that so many people around me knew, experienced and understood what was going on and gave so much support. I hope that you've got a great backing team lifting you up right now.

lindy100 that sounds like my unltimate nightmare...well, except the one with the spiders..

thanks guys, it's nice to be welcomed

The MC was an awful shock, I naively thought it wouldn't happen to me.

Hopefully this month will be happier.....

You can rely on me to ask the embarrassing stuff!

Ironically, am about to start teaching Year 10s Sex education for the first time - I'm pretty unembarrassable but dread being asked something about sex I don't know.

Apparently it's popular here to ask teachers what rimming is. Lukcily I know that one...

thanks for that lindy100, was a bit embarrassed to ask myself . I'm CD16 with fingers crossed.

Hello to everyone joining - sorry to hear about falls from the july bus.

getdown - particularly sorry to hear that you lost your BFP. Hope this month proves to be a 'sticky' one.

lindy - I do typos all the time so don't worry!

Am waiting for AF to arrive so can get on with TTC this month - due today so feeling rather cranky.

Oh, erm, CD is therefore 6...

Thanks.

Hi all,

I sadly took a tumble off the July Bus having lost the BFP at 5 weeks. A few bumps and bruises but on the mend! Can I hop on with you guys? I've added myself at the bottom. Let's hope August is our month!

WhywaitTTC#1, Cycle3, Due 22nd Nov(ish)
MorayRose TTC#1
spirita ttc #1, cycle 1, ucl 28-30 days
321 TTC#?
Bexxaa TTC#3 - CD4 - Cycle 1 - UCL 31-33 days
passthechocs TTC#3 CD19 cycle 3 UCL 28-30
Buttonmoon78 TTC#4 CD10 - cycle 2 - UCL 35 days
100years TTC#1 CD4 - cycle 2 - AveCL 34days
ddas -TTC#1-CD4-Cycle 1-UCL28/29-AF due 21/11
Jilko- TTC#2-Cycle 1- UCL35
Gobolino - TTC#1 - Cycle 1 - UCL32/3
Broodywantcoilout- TTC#3- UCL2
QOTCW- TTC#1- Cycle 2- UCL27
kat2504 TTC#1 Cycle 3 UCL 26-28 CD2, af due 29/11
sillybillymummy ttc#3 cycle 7 UCL 29 CD2
Wombat33 TTC#1 Cycle 2 (post MC) UCL31 CD1
Lindy100 ttc#3, cycle 1 ucl 28-30 CD?
GetDownYouWillFall TTC#2 cycle 2 (post MC) UCL 27 - 45 days AF due 25/11

Hi all, Can I join?? I've just fallen off the July bus :(

I've updated the stats list as best I can and added the other newcomers. Lindy CD is cycle day, so the first day of proper bleeding (not spotting) is CD1.

WhywaitTTC#1, Cycle3, Due 22nd Nov(ish)
MorayRose TTC#1
spirita ttc #1, cycle 1, ucl 28-30 days
321 TTC#?
Bexxaa TTC#3 - CD4 - Cycle 1 - UCL 31-33 days
passthechocs TTC#3 CD19 cycle 3 UCL 28-30
Buttonmoon78 TTC#4 CD10 - cycle 2 - UCL 35 days
100years TTC#1 CD4 - cycle 2 - AveCL 34days
ddas -TTC#1-CD4-Cycle 1-UCL28/29-AF due 21/11
Jilko- TTC#2-Cycle 1- UCL35
Gobolino - TTC#1 - Cycle 1 - UCL32/3
Broodywantcoilout- TTC#3- UCL2
QOTCW- TTC#1- Cycle 2- UCL27
kat2504 TTC#1 Cycle 3 UCL 26-28 CD2, af due 29/11
sillybillymummy ttc#3 cycle 7 UCL 29 CD2
Wombat33 TTC#1 Cycle 2 (post MC) UCL31 CD1
Lindy100 ttc#3, cycle 1 ucl 28-30 CD?

passthechocs

Hi, can I join too, please?

ttc#3, cycle 1 ucl 28-30 not sure what CD is

Am currently waiting for AF.

I already have an August baby, 15 months, conceived on pretty much the first try, so have high hopes this time. Also I'm a teacher so August/Sept would fit perfectly with my plans!

I had no idea about timings with DD, so we were lucky; this time I intend to work out when would be the best days to conceive and go for it as much as possible, like passhte chocs said, as I really want to get it first time!

I think DH is going to feel a bit used though - since DD was born we haven't BD as much as before. Oh well

At school currently so no time to read all posts right now, but love being part of this kind of community.

Still sulking, but can i hop on?

sillybillymummy ttc#3 cycle 7 UCL 29 CD1

Would agree with BabsH as well - lots of SWI required.

When we were TTC DC#1 I went to see the Dr to get advice on anything we should/shouldn't do. She all but laughed me out of the room - said 16 yr olds get pregnant all the time, just go home, have lots of SWI and take folic. Was a bit and tbo!

The only decent advise she gave me was, to put it politely (and she was very frank) to 'front load' - ie have SWI in the days leading up to ovulation as well as during AND after to make sure there are loads of swimmers in there. Working out ovulation is the tricky bit... I reckon I need to SWI regularly from 1 wk after AF has finished, not stopping until 1 wk before AF is due, to make sure I catch it. Worked quickly with DS1 and DS2 - seems to be a little longer this time around.

kat2504 do you have any gin tonic as well?

ddas I've found whenever I've got pregnant, it's always been when I'm not planning/ trying for it. You sond like you've got everything covered but I'd agree with BabsH, just have lots of fun with your OH.