Ugh my bloody mother!

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Hi Loopy, Your mother's response is totally unforgivable. Is she resentful of helping you with your dd? If that is the case, consider help from other avenues rather than your mother. Maybe she is exhausted herself... Her response signals that the responsibility to look after your offspring is hers not yours...or have I read that wrong? Also, is your mother healthy, or does she have health worries of her own on top of spending time with you guys? Think of all these factors. Spare her feelings. Rely and confide in others, eg friends and family. Only tell her when your pregnancy is at least 3 months down the line. Old people are outspoken( sorry: don't know how old your mum is!),and sometimes even feel that your affections may be divided between them and your babies. I have an insight into old peoples mentality as both mine and dhs parents are in close contact with us, so we are keenly aware of their fears, emotions, etc. We try to make our own decisions without treading on their toes or upsetting them. Sometimes it does mean unfortunately that they are not involved in the planning stages of whatever we are about to embark on, until the plan is fully fledged...generally I
Talking about holiday plans here. I hope my advice has been helpful to you. I do not mean to cause offence to either you or your mother, but just hope that you can approach this tactfully, so you all end up with what you want without causing any resentment. Good luck xxx

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God God, she reminds me of my mother

Ignore her, don't mention it again until you have a scan and then say what tootles said.

When I misguidedly told mine we were TTC she said incredulously, "But how on earth will you cope? It's not easy you know."

Good luck!

Your mother is an inconsiderate woman. Your OP reads that it is all about her, how your actions affect her, how she can't go through it all again.

I hope everything goes well for you.

Agree with Tootles, wait until you are more pregnant and have had a scan before telling her again, unfortunately it doesn't sound like she would be much emotional support to you anyway at this satge.

Congratulations and all the best with the pregnancy!

I would ignore her and not discuss it with her until you find out you're definitely pregnant and over the 12 week mark. At that point I would say 'Mum, I am pregnant and we want you to be happy for us, if you can't be then please keep your thoughts to yourself'.

Good luck, I hope you are and it goes well.