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Anyone else TTC after a stillbirth?

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loopyloops · 05/10/2010 10:05

Hi all
I lost DTD1 15 months ago, still breastfeeding DTD2 and considering TTC, but terrified.
Is anyone else considering trying again after a stillbirth? I think I could do with some support if so.
Thanks :)

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loopyloops · 06/10/2010 11:02

So sorry party.

We've arranged to see the consultant on Thursday to talk about risks and how they would manage a pregnancy. I'm absolutely terrified, I hope they will be accommodating to the fact that I'll be paranoid as hell! Have you found them to be?

Good luck with the pregnancy, I hope the scan happens quickly and that everything's ok. :)

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partyorganiser · 06/10/2010 10:32

Hi Loopy,

Our DS wasn't a stillbirth but died aged 13 days in June. We are lucky to have our DD as she has helped pull us through so far. Found out I was pg last week (prob about 7 weeks now). We weren't really trying (but not using contraception either) - it's always taken a while in the past. I'm pleased I think but terrified that something will go wrong. I don't feel I can get excited/feel happy yet - and maybe not at all until a (healthy) baby is in my arms. GP has said she'll try to organise a viability scan for me next week which would be helpful.

I suppose I did feel desperate for a baby but wasn't sure if I was ready. If we'd thought about it more then I'm not sure if I'd be pg now. Sorry if that doesn't make sense.

I guess the most important thing is that you are both in agreement. DH is very happy but also nervous.

xxx

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loopyloops · 06/10/2010 09:15

Hi all, thanks for responding.

I'm sorry to hear your stories. BreakDancing I hope you're ok, remembering how I was 3 months after I want to give you a hug, hope you're looking after yourself.

Have a nice day everyone, keep in touch. I'll be back on Thursday after my appointment. :)

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IzziesMummy · 05/10/2010 22:49

I (accidentally - oops!) became pregnant 5months after my DD was stillborn at 36+3wks in June 2009. It was a big shock and, to be honest, not at all welcome at the time.

My pregnancy was horrible. Looking back on it now, I can see that I was practically in denial and couldn't let myself bond with the baby.

However, the midwives and consultant were all great at looking after us and keeping a very close eye on us. And I'm sure you'll also be looked after really well.

My gorgeous DS is now 13months old and I now count my blessings for my "accident" as I don't honestly know whether we'd ever have been brave enough to make the decision to TTC.

Well done you for being brave enough to make that decision. I wish you every luck.

UmBongo · 05/10/2010 20:56

Sorry to hear that Loopy, I am not in your situation, still TTC dc2 after 2yrs + 1 mmc. But if it helps, my mum, in the 60's had 1 mc, 1 stillbirth and THEN went on to have the three of us. Women are very much stronger than they look! (and very often stronger than they feel!)

BreakDancingBadger · 05/10/2010 20:39

Hi Loopyloops,

So sorry to hear about the loss of your DD.

I lost my DD almost 3 months ago. She was stillborn at 31 weeks. We are TTC now and im nervous, terrified,excited, happy, sad... basically all over the place.

Good luck xx