TTC after a Miscarriage - Let This Be Our Lucky Thread!!!

Morning Everyone, Ha ha Hellkat i beat you to it today. Wake wakey sleepy head.

Diddle Ahh bless you. I have got my hopes up too as well for this month. We bd,d non stop, we must have caught. We are all expert cacthers here so dont fret honey we will be ready if we have to be xxxx Where are you in your cycle now??
(cos we cant have bloody tickers i have to keep asking)

Welcome Wills and yes we can all test tomorrow although if mine should be pos i will post the picture on the board just so you can all check it for me. God im so nervous. Boobs are sore and heavy this morning but dont feel sick.

Forgot to telll you girls i got that dress and it is beautifull and i felt beautifull in it. Although there is no room for growth, the previous bride had no boobs and im a 34d so quite well endowned for my small frame. If i was pregnant then i may have to get some one to let the waist out a little, is that possible???? im sure it is, its wether there is time though?? Oh well ill worry about that tomorrow if i have too.

Arnt you proud of me girlies for holding out???

Hc do you normally get sore boobs a week before af due and as for cramps well thats very common in early pg isnt it. Well i hope so cos i have those too.

Coathanger-I forgive you petal of course! I don't think it's going to be my month as having horried AF pains tonight so feel that the evil one is on her way so you won't be left alone just yet ((xx))

Wills-don't know how you can hold off testing any longer-what willpower! Is that how you picked your name? Good luck for Tuesday ((xx))

CHOCOLATEPEANUT-don't give up yet. ((xx))

Diddle-you were very brave holding it together at the party ((xx))

Good night all and hugs to everyone.

((xx))

Oh Wils how awful for you

Welcome oldfool from another old fool.Your dh will come round and if he doesnt get him drunk and seduce him!

Thanks for words of comfort ladies.Been v v emotional today and dd was being typical 22 month old and I was really angry with her and shouted at her.Feel bad now.

Got v sore boobs too but TRYING not to read into it and had another bfn with ebay test but it was last one so thats it now, wont be buying other unless AF late.

At least one of us has to be pg this month.......

Diddle, have just read a bit more. How was the party. A school mum has just had her baby and although I never sat down and calculated due dates basically her baby was due around the same time that ours was. (that pregnancy was totally unplanned but would have been welcome). Did anyone comment? Shortly after my first mc I went on a hen night and completely forgot that a) I'd told the hen and that b) forgotton to tell her that I wasn't anymore. It was awful. I turned up and they'd made a sign for the "pregnant one" etc

Could I join the testers on Tuesday? Am now 7 days late and have loads of symptons but have been so desperate for a baby that I wondering if i could produce a phantom pregnancy. I shall feel soooo foolish if its negative. I have sore boobs, am very tearful, feel like someone's drained every drop of energy out of my body, strong sense of smell (went to a farm yesterday and wanted to heave every time we went near the pigs). DH has banned me from testing until I'm 3 months because he feels that way I wont panic or be stressed out. BUt it doesn't really work that way.

Anyway I ramble hope I haven't bored anyone.

Coathanger and oldfool Its taken me 2 years to persaude dh to try for another. We have two girls and they are his world so I really don't understand why the reluctance. There's not really a lot of room for compromise is there. How do you meet halfway on another child . Eventually I explained that if we didn't try for another then it would be a pain that I would carry around forever and that this pain would probably turn to anger. I asked him how great was his desire not to have another child as it was putting a big enough strain on our relationship that it might well break it. I'm still not sure he understands how I can love him yet leave him because of a child we don't have. I've tried to explain the passionate need inside me and bless him he is trying to understand this. As I've said, he's come round and we're trying for our third. He's just petrified that I will not be satisfied with 3 and will want more and..... maybe I wont, but if I have to go through too many mcs for getting to 3 children I'm not sure I'll have the courage. We never put a timeline on things I just picked moments and talked him through how I felt. Good luck to you both

Oh god!! HC I'm so sorry hun! I didn't mean to forget you will be testing soon. Please, please forgive me... My memory is the worst you have ever come across, really it is terrible...err, what was I talking about, whats terrible...Hmm????

Seriously though, I've got everything crossed for you too, really tight, infact its really beginning to hurt now [face grimacing in extreme pain emoticon!]

Welcome home Diddle. I didn't realise this trip involved such a horrible situation But I hope it wasn't too bad and that you managed to have a good time.

Ooooo, I think I'm gonna burst coz I'm so excited for you all. I really really hope you all get BFPs as soon as poss....

...Then again, you'll all leave me on my own, you'll all be up the duff, and I'll still be trying to convince my husband of the benefits of having another baby, let alone TTC!! Boo-hoo!! Don' t leave me [WAIL], don't leave me here all by myself [WAIL again]...

( only kidding!)

OF - just want to give u big cuddles and wish u all the luck in the world honey ((((hugs)))

All thise go for you too CP - EVERYTHING CROSSED!!!

Oh Maddy, Maddy, Maddy..

Lets see now, feeling faint, nausea, smells making you queasy. Hmmm, what could that mean? I wonder

FINGERS CROSSED!!! TOES CROSSED!!! LEGS CROSSED!!! EYES CROSSED!!!

Hi Oldfool!

I'm sorry to see you on this thread, meaning nobody should have to post on this thread, if you see what I mean.

I have similar issues with my DH. I fell PG unexpectedly and it took him a long time to come to terms with it. Just as he was getting used to the idea, I MCed. We had a new future to look forward to, making plans, deciding to extend into the loft to make room (already have 3 DSs), buying a new car etc. After the MC, it took me a long time to pluck up the courage to tell him I want to try again. But when I did he told me he didn't want another - No Way! We had a terrible couple of weeks, hardly speaking and avoiding each other. Then we had a good long chat about it and we actually saw the only solution was to separate. We felt that whoever got their way, somebody would feel let down and resentful. Neither of us wanted this to happened as we love each other so much, so after even more talking we decided to wait 6 months. We will dicuss it again then, although I don't think things will go my way. But it buys me some time and, who knows, he might see my point of view.

So, here I am, posting here even thought I'm not TTC. But I still post because the girls on here are fab and give you so much support through a difficult time. We ahve all suffered at least one loss, and know what this feels like. So, even though you may not be TTC, you are so so welcome.

Any anyway, you'll probably be TTC before me!!

Welcome oldfool-and less of the old. Hope you sort things out with DH ((xx))

maddyd-DD's nappy makes me heave most of the time-lol ((xx))

xxxx

Welcome Oldfool!
Feel free to join us here. Even if you're not actively trying yet, it's a wonderful support network for letting go, talking about anything and everything. Also, it's good to know we've all had mc's, be it one or many, so we know exactly what it's like.
xxx

I don't know whether this is the right thread to add this to. I had a missed m/c last month. In the hospital after we'd found out that the sac was empty DH and me had a chat and decided we would try again, even tho it wasn't planned. Then he decided it wasn't a good idea. Then we had a big row and he said of course we would and he was just being silly. Then yesterday he said he'd had another think and he didn't want any more. No discussion, just a no. His arguments make sense- not enough money, not enough room, too old, pushing our luck and should be thankful for the kids we've got- but they don't help.

I had 11 weeks of what-will-be plans in my head. I'd sorted out how we'd manage re work and money and school and everything else. My future view included another child, and that was all taken away. The thought of never ever having another child is just too painful. I'm 42 so it's not as if we've got the luxury of waiting for a while to see what happens.

I found myself in tears in the middle of the supermarket yesterday. They were playing a song that often makes me cry but only in the background. DH says it was tears for my dad who died many years ago, and my grandparents who died more recently, but it didn't feel like it. I woke up in the night seriously thinking of having another child and leaving DH. How stupid is that? I feel actually unhinged.

We bought a new puppy on Friday. I wondered why DH had caved in after saying no to it last week but something he said yesterday made me realise it's a sop to take my mind off having a baby. How does he think there is any comparison? (puppy is sweet though if very piddly)

Will inhaling my sons nappy and then puking count do you think

My sense of smell is very good anyway. Im constantly smelling things and moaning when other people cant. The smell of perfume made me nauseous this morning, which is common for me when pg. If i go off the smell of my DH to be then thats confirmed it. I couldnt stand him near me in any of my pregnancies for the first 12 weeks.

Im trying not to read anything into all theese signs but i cant help it. Just off to smell some stuff to see if it makes me heave

maddyd-I've got Tuesday off and DD will be at her Grandmas so I will be waiting with bated breath . Has your sense of smell increased as that is usually a sure sign? I'm really excited for you hun ((xx))

xx

I'm meant to wear glasses for reading, but they help with computer too, as they magnifiy the screen. I never take them out - don't think Ive ever worn them in public! But my eyes are getting gradually worse so must have them checked (takes me half an hour to read 1 page of a book coz the words just blur into one another!)

OOOOOooooooooo!!!! Maddy

Humphrey im due on Fri and thought id do the predictor test on Tue as its what ive always used before. xxxx Im getting my hopes up now, its hard not too when a glass of water turns my stomach

Pmsl Ch.
You sound like me! I'm meant to use my specs for shopping, watching tv, using comp etc but won't go out in them lol. 9/10 times when I'm out, I'm squinting 'cos I can't see anything in the distance. All just a blur.
I'm just about to to tackle whole house. Should'nt take too long as I do it once a week. Got my roast ready to put on to. Got to be something in the air.
Maddy- god it really sounds like you are. Ohhhh it's exciting!

Morning ladies

HellKat-so soz about AF-BITCH! ((xx))

maddyd-we are due on same day next Saturday-is that right? I did a test yesterday and yes, I know it is too early but there was not even an evap line I am testing again tomorrow then 3 days later on Thursday and if still BFN then it's clearly not going to be. You seem to have all the right symptoms so here's hoping for a +ive result hun ((xx))

CHOCOLATEPEANUT-you must be due AF around about the same time as me and maddyd-early BFN's are horrid aren't they? Wishing you lots of luck too ((xx))

Hugs to everyone else ((xx))

Turned DD's cot bed into a bed last night and she only fell out of bed once-hurrah but did get up at 7.30am this morning (not so good). It is also her first morning at nursery tomorrow but I'm sure she will be fine.

Time for a morning drink and a bisc so catch you all later.

xx

ARRRRGGGGHHHH! Just put glasses on coz I'm having trouble reading PC screen (too lazy to put them on normally!) and DS3 must have had them coz they are all cock-eyed and are sitting scewiff on my face!

" My bottom end is fine" LOL!!!

Well, I would still wait til Tuesday maddy, if thats when AF would be due (but its not coz you are )

No duvet nd choc for me. trying to lose some weight. Put on half a stone since MC and I must stop it now before half a stone becomes 1 stone and that becomes 5 stone1!!

Already done shed loads this morning (again!) Don't know whats got into me! Already done washing and hung it out, hoovered, made a shepherds pie (!), washed up, cleaned kitchen - flippin' heck, what has happened to me??!!

Tuesday Coathanger But ive been heaving all morning. Its not funny anymore these are serious pg symptoms. Ive had them exactly like this but not so early xxxxxx And all those months that ive imagined symptoms too, well this is totally different. Im not ill, i dont have a bug as not been actually physically sick and my bottom end is fine too.