Am I being silly for not wanting to take the morning after pill?

"Why should we be using condoms when we are in a relationship?"

Why not?

It's a perfectly reasonable, (if sometimes slightly inconvenient) non-hormonal form of contraception. Am sure many millions of couples choose to use it, and not just in places with no alternatives.

I do get the feeling that you intend to leave this potential pregnancy to chance though, whatever anyone here says.

I think you need to discuss it more with him and tell him you don't feel happy to take it.

The overall consensus to your question appears to be: yes, you are being silly by not taking the MAP.
Good luck with your decision. No one wants to insult you here, I am sure. You wanted mnetters to offer you their honest advice, and you got it. Whether you choose to take that on board or not is ultimately your choice.
I appreciate where you are coming from. However the overall concern is that this partner of yours may not have the same desires as yourself, in relation to any future children you may or may not decide to have. Certainly at the current time your motives are different: he is absolutely sure of not wanting children now; whereas you are broody. Hope you can arrive at a decision that makes you both happy. Good luck and all the best. X

Good luck xxx

No it wouldn't. It only shows positive on the days leading up to ovulation. But, where you are in your cycle should give you some indication.

It's also pretty rare that an egg, if it SO happens to be on its way down at that very moment has been hit straight off by recently delivered sperm. Most people who are TTC are trying to have sex in the days leading up to ovulation rather than the day of or after ovulation, so the sperm are already there waiting for the egg when it is released.

Have a look at this link, maybe it will give you more perspective about the (un)likelihood of instantaneous fertilization.

knol.google.com/k/10-things-you-need-to-know-about-ovulation#

You see, the trust issue will have been planted by all of this even if it wasn't there before. I've seen it happen time and again. He will now think twice every time he sleeps with you, and tbh you really should be using condoms so regardless go to the clinic today and stock up. Maybe someone there can explain to you that the morning after pill isn't in fact an abortifacient.
What will happen is this. YOu will not take the pill, you will spend the next 2 weeks secretly excited, he will be crapping himself. If it's positive, the same will apply. If it's negative, he will be relieved, but you will be disappointed and for sure will have a few more 'accidents' until you get what you want. Without wishing to be harsh, I think you need to have more respect for yourself. If a baby isn't right for you now, wait. You are very young, there is plenty of time to settle down. I understand the broody feeling. Give it a year or 2. It will pass, and if it doesn't, hopefully you will be in a better position then anyway.

Completely Agree with boo boo and hkittens! I think this is more about your relationship than you think or are letting on. Time to think straight now, before youmake life choices incompatible with either one or both of you. You already have a child who needs you. Think carefully xxx

There's your answer then. You want a baby.

This is only an issue if you just so happen to be ovulating today though.

You are procrastinating. And while the decision ultimately lies with you, this will cause trust issues in a relationship where you clearly both (already) want different things.
I've had a baby with a man who was all for it for the first few months of pregnancy. He then changed his tune when the reality hit him and it crushed me.

I agree with everyone who says that deep down you want a baby. But this is not the way to go about it, and no, your egg does not get fertilised 15 minutes after ejaculation.
I would take it and then talk to your partner in depth about your wishing for a baby. From what I have seen on ohter threads you seem to have quite a low self esteem (apologies if this is not the case, but a thread about two brothers rings a bell. Was that you?) and I have seen too many of my friends have babies in attempts to remedy this. It never works. The best boost to your self esteem will be a baby with a person who truly wants one, and who you have been together with long enough to feel secure in the decision.

I meant speak to your dp not do! Sorry. Hate iPhone!

I personally feel that you need to have this conversation with your do. It is a decision to be taken jointly. You are right to seek advice here. However, if does take two- he may be sympathetic to your viewpoint once you express it to him. We none of us are mind readers. Trust him and start to vocalise with him a bit more. Who knows, his response may take you by surprise! Good luck x

It sounds to me like you are desperately trying to find a reason not to take it! Are you even at the right time of your cycle to be ovulating? As there are only about 3 days a month that you are likely to conceive this may not even be a valid concern anyway. Two of those possible days are the days when the sperm is on it's way up to wait for the egg to even be released so really there is only one day in the whole month where the actual instance of fertilization can occur, and very rarely, I suspect within minutes or even hours of your partner ejaculating. Also, implantation doesn't take place for over a week after fertilization anyway.

Forgive me for saying this, but I think you are being a bit irrational and also unfair on your partner with whom you have already agreed to wait and has expressly asked you to take the morning after pill. It's nothing like having an abortion and he hasn't asked you to do that. He has asked you to avoid getting to that situation. Declining to do that is tantamount to not taking the pill without his agreement/knowledge when you have both agreed to wait.

I took the MAP this month at my DH's request. I had similar feelings to you, as I've been desperately wanting to start a family for a long time but DH doesn't want to. I couldn't even speak to the pharmacist, I had to write it down. But I think it was the right decision. It might sound trivial compared with what some others are going through but you have my sympathies.

Basically you want a baby and procrastinating like this just adds weight to your argument implantation = abortion.

Just admit you want a baby.

Nappyaddict - that is ridiculous and simply not true. Eggs are NOT fertilised in 15 minutes from ejaculation. Not unless your man's swimmers are jet-propelled!