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Trying to concieve, not sure people wil be supportive

27 replies

staceym11 · 07/09/2005 11:26

As most of you prob know, im 18 with a 10mth old dd and devoted dh, but we still live at my mum and dads coz we just don't have the means to get a mortgage and as my dad keeps telling me rent is wasted money!!!! my parents are both happy to have us for as long as we want "chloe can get married while still living here if you want" as a direct quote, but as im planning to start uni to study midwifery either next sept (06) or the one after id prefer to have a second baby now, and put the uni off for a bit rather than do the uni and have to put the baby off for 4/5 years!!

I recently had a convo with my dad when i tought i could have been pg (but turns out i wasnt) and he said that if i did have another baby it wouldnt bother them as two dont make that much more mess/noise/stress than one. but does anyone out there think me and dh would be extremely irresposible if we had another baby before finding a house of our own????? please help!

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Tessiebear · 07/09/2005 11:38

I think your parents may find the living arrangements harder to deal with if there was another child.
We lived with my mum and dad for a year when it was just DS1 and it was brilliant - if we ever stay with 2 DS's it is really hard work.
I personally would advise you to wait until you had your own place and not rock the boat.

vickitiredmum · 07/09/2005 11:38

Its always been my opinion that with some things if you always try to "plan it" there will never be a right time so you may as well just bite the bullet and go for it.

That said, at your age (trying not to sound patronising ) its so much easier to study and learn things and i do feel it would be better to get on with it as young as possible. I know people can and do learn at any age, my dad went back to college at 49, and in fact is doing a teaching degree now he is 63, but he would tell you - its easier the younger you are.

As long as you and your DH are happy and your parents are happy then do what you like. I would discuss it with your parents first though just out of courtesy if they are helping you out so much by having you all live there.